C-sections versus Natural Birth

[tasha41]

I'm obviously happy that Elyse is here and healthy... and that I am healthy today. I am just bitter that it took so long to recover from it, I feel like I wasted the first 3 months.

 

[cleckner04]

C section or vaginal birth....who cares!

As long as Mum is ok and baby arrives safely, thats all that matters xxx

I know what you mean, but for many women, hearing that can totally dismiss their birth trauma

I agree with marley. Obviously we care that it was a c-section and not vaginal, otherwise we wouldn't feel so badly. It's not as simple as saying who cares because some of us feel guilty or feel like less of a woman and it's not really something that can be explained unless you've been in that position.

 

[Eve]

I've been on both sides... well 3 sides lol.

My first was a natural delivery. I was 18, scared and delivered my son with no pain medication and had to have an episiotomy. I felt great afterwards minus the hemmoriods and stitches. I bounced back easily and did well.

My second I wasn't so lucky. I ended up after having high blood pressure, suffering from a complete placental abruption where I suffered from massive bleeding, uterine tetany, and I nearly died... and sadly, my son did I had an emergency c-section... I went by ambulance to the hospital, had nurses and doctors all around me, giving me a catheder while my OH was holding up an IV bag... my HB was over 160bpm and my blood pressure was very very low. Once in the OR I kept begging them to get the baby out, I didn't even care if I was given any relief for pain at that point, I'm sure the shock covered it. Once I was asleep they delivered my son and worked on him for over 20 minutes to get his heart beating again. I was given blood transfusions and sent to recovery. I then asked for hours while laying in so much pain I was sure I was going to die... how my son was doing and for hours I got the same response. "he is in critical condition and we're still working on him"... I seriously felt like I was repeatedly being ripped open and thousands of cigs were being put out on my tummy at once! Worst pain I've ever felt. I went down finally to see my son where he was laying in his incubator hooked to as many tubes as he could get it seemed, while having siezures I held him kissed him hugged him. he passed away 8 hours after his delivery

I then had to stay in their without my baby. The nurses wanted to move me off the mat floor, but I explained it gave me comfort hearing babies cry, knowing people were getting their happy endings. I couldn't move much for weeks... my incision opened up on one side, and even at 6 weeks PP I was still in pain! Driving home, every bump brought tears to my eyes... and the pain was made worse by not having my son to bring home with me...

My third was scheduled. She arrived the morning of December 30th 2009 at 9:22am screaming! The worst thing I felt that day was the OR needle (IV) put in before surgery. My daughter latched and fed within an hour of birth, I was able to move from bed to bed same day and up walking the next day with minimal discomfort. No infections and I felt pretty darn good! It didn't feel the best when Kayleigh latched on, as it brought on the cramps more, but it was a good thing. To me, my vaginal delivery was easiest by far But I know women who have went through so much delivering vaginally It all depends, like others have said on their individual circumstances. We are all women, all have went through bringing our children into the world and all have felt our own pain. I understand feeling less of a women, but we aren't... we did what was needed for our children to be delivered safely.



I miss my boy..

Kaleb William Edward
Born Feb 7th 2008 at 4:23pm- passed Feb 8th 2008 at 12:20am
Born at 37 weeks gestation weighing 5lbs9oz and 19.5 inches long.

 

[Eve]

My pictures show a face of true, real, raw pain, and also the face of an angel... It shouldn't matter how they arrive into this world, as long as they are able to stay xx

 

[Tiff]

That brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for the loss of your little man.

 

[Eve]

That brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry for the loss of your little man.

Thank you. Sorry about the tears... I had to stop writing... It brings it back and I end up feeling the same gut wrenching pain as I did that early morning... I suffered PTSD for months afterwards, and still to this day when AF arrives full force I begin to panic and sometimes have flash backs...

 

[amygwen]

I've only ever had a c-section but prior to having my son, I thought "I want a c-section it will be so much easier" HELL NO it's not! I haven't gone through having a vaginal birth so I can't vouch for that one, but the recovery on a c-section was the absolute worst thing I've ever gone through. I felt horrible since after I gave birth I couldn't hold my son first thing and I wasn't able to cuddle with him soon after because I was shaking so much and because I felt so nauseous. I really wish I could've gone through a vaginal birth because I felt like crap for 2 weeks PP, my sister who had a vaginal birth felt like crap too, but for other reasons.. who knows though! My opinion may completely change if I ever have a VBAC!

 

[amygwen]

I've been on both sides... well 3 sides lol.

My first was a natural delivery. I was 18, scared and delivered my son with no pain medication and had to have an episiotomy. I felt great afterwards minus the hemmoriods and stitches. I bounced back easily and did well.

My second I wasn't so lucky. I ended up after having high blood pressure, suffering from a complete placental abruption where I suffered from massive bleeding, uterine tetany, and I nearly died... and sadly, my son did I had an emergency c-section... I went by ambulance to the hospital, had nurses and doctors all around me, giving me a catheder while my OH was holding up an IV bag... my HB was over 160bpm and my blood pressure was very very low. Once in the OR I kept begging them to get the baby out, I didn't even care if I was given any relief for pain at that point, I'm sure the shock covered it. Once I was asleep they delivered my son and worked on him for over 20 minutes to get his heart beating again. I was given blood transfusions and sent to recovery. I then asked for hours while laying in so much pain I was sure I was going to die... how my son was doing and for hours I got the same response. "he is in critical condition and we're still working on him"... I seriously felt like I was repeatedly being ripped open and thousands of cigs were being put out on my tummy at once! Worst pain I've ever felt. I went down finally to see my son where he was laying in his incubator hooked to as many tubes as he could get it seemed, while having siezures I held him kissed him hugged him. he passed away 8 hours after his delivery

I then had to stay in their without my baby. The nurses wanted to move me off the mat floor, but I explained it gave me comfort hearing babies cry, knowing people were getting their happy endings. I couldn't move much for weeks... my incision opened up on one side, and even at 6 weeks PP I was still in pain! Driving home, every bump brought tears to my eyes... and the pain was made worse by not having my son to bring home with me...

My third was scheduled. She arrived the morning of December 30th 2009 at 9:22am screaming! The worst thing I felt that day was the OR needle (IV) put in before surgery. My daughter latched and fed within an hour of birth, I was able to move from bed to bed same day and up walking the next day with minimal discomfort. No infections and I felt pretty darn good! It didn't feel the best when Kayleigh latched on, as it brought on the cramps more, but it was a good thing. To me, my vaginal delivery was easiest by far But I know women who have went through so much delivering vaginally It all depends, like others have said on their individual circumstances. We are all women, all have went through bringing our children into the world and all have felt our own pain. I understand feeling less of a women, but we aren't... we did what was needed for our children to be delivered safely.



I miss my boy..

Kaleb William Edward
Born Feb 7th 2008 at 4:23pm- passed Feb 8th 2008 at 12:20am
Born at 37 weeks gestation weighing 5lbs9oz and 19.5 inches long.

Awww I'm so sorry for your loss. Kaleb is an absolutely gorgeous boy who is looking down on you right now smiling and missing you just as much as you miss him. Bless your heart

 

[Eve]

I've been on both sides... well 3 sides lol.

My first was a natural delivery. I was 18, scared and delivered my son with no pain medication and had to have an episiotomy. I felt great afterwards minus the hemmoriods and stitches. I bounced back easily and did well.

My second I wasn't so lucky. I ended up after having high blood pressure, suffering from a complete placental abruption where I suffered from massive bleeding, uterine tetany, and I nearly died... and sadly, my son did I had an emergency c-section... I went by ambulance to the hospital, had nurses and doctors all around me, giving me a catheder while my OH was holding up an IV bag... my HB was over 160bpm and my blood pressure was very very low. Once in the OR I kept begging them to get the baby out, I didn't even care if I was given any relief for pain at that point, I'm sure the shock covered it. Once I was asleep they delivered my son and worked on him for over 20 minutes to get his heart beating again. I was given blood transfusions and sent to recovery. I then asked for hours while laying in so much pain I was sure I was going to die... how my son was doing and for hours I got the same response. "he is in critical condition and we're still working on him"... I seriously felt like I was repeatedly being ripped open and thousands of cigs were being put out on my tummy at once! Worst pain I've ever felt. I went down finally to see my son where he was laying in his incubator hooked to as many tubes as he could get it seemed, while having siezures I held him kissed him hugged him. he passed away 8 hours after his delivery

I then had to stay in their without my baby. The nurses wanted to move me off the mat floor, but I explained it gave me comfort hearing babies cry, knowing people were getting their happy endings. I couldn't move much for weeks... my incision opened up on one side, and even at 6 weeks PP I was still in pain! Driving home, every bump brought tears to my eyes... and the pain was made worse by not having my son to bring home with me...

My third was scheduled. She arrived the morning of December 30th 2009 at 9:22am screaming! The worst thing I felt that day was the OR needle (IV) put in before surgery. My daughter latched and fed within an hour of birth, I was able to move from bed to bed same day and up walking the next day with minimal discomfort. No infections and I felt pretty darn good! It didn't feel the best when Kayleigh latched on, as it brought on the cramps more, but it was a good thing. To me, my vaginal delivery was easiest by far But I know women who have went through so much delivering vaginally It all depends, like others have said on their individual circumstances. We are all women, all have went through bringing our children into the world and all have felt our own pain. I understand feeling less of a women, but we aren't... we did what was needed for our children to be delivered safely.



I miss my boy..

Kaleb William Edward
Born Feb 7th 2008 at 4:23pm- passed Feb 8th 2008 at 12:20am
Born at 37 weeks gestation weighing 5lbs9oz and 19.5 inches long.

Awww I'm so sorry for your loss. Kaleb is an absolutely gorgeous boy who is looking down on you right now smiling and missing you just as much as you miss him. Bless your heart

Thank you hun! xx

 

[cleckner04]

Mum2J&K- I've said it before and I'll say it again.. Kaleb is beautiful.

 

[leeanne]

I've had 3 C-sections, the first being an emergency C-section and the other two were planned. The worst recovery was after the emergency C-section but I think it had to do with also going through induction and contractions, being stresses and my baby being stressed.

The reason I had C-sections was because when I was 30 I had a biopsy done to remove abnormal cells from my cervix, which caused scar tissue and it disables me from dialating.

Truthfully, I wasn't scared of the pain of labour, but of what OH, my mom and my MIL would see when I was delivering my child. I was scared of embarrassing myself while pushing my baby out. LOL

TBH, I never felt any less of a woman for having a C-section to deliver my babies because I feel that I went through an enormous amount even going through delivering via C-section.

 

[Eve]

Mum2J&K- I've said it before and I'll say it again.. Kaleb is beautiful.

Thanks hun!! xx You are such a sweetie, and a great Momma!

 

[ShanandBoc]

C section or vaginal birth....who cares!

As long as Mum is ok and baby arrives safely, thats all that matters xxx

I know what you mean, but for many women, hearing that can totally dismiss their birth trauma

Clearly I meant it as in women shouldnt feel like a let down if they couldnt give birth vaginally. Why even make that last comment if you realise thats what i was saying??/

Dont turn a positive comment into a negative one.

Feel like i can barely say anything on these forums anymore

 

[Eve]

C section or vaginal birth....who cares!

As long as Mum is ok and baby arrives safely, thats all that matters xxx

I know what you mean, but for many women, hearing that can totally dismiss their birth trauma

Clearly I meant it as in women shouldnt feel like a let down if they couldnt give birth vaginally. Why even make that last comment if you realise thats what i was saying??/

Dont turn a positive comment into a negative one.

Feel like i can barely say anything on these forums anymore

I don't think marley meant for her comment to be negative towards you... She was just giving a small explanation as to why some women do care if they had a section over a vaginal delivery. Again, I don't think it was any kind of dig/kick towards you

 

[cleckner04]

WSS^^^ It's just not something you can explain to someone unless they've been through it. If that makes any sense. It's VERY common to be upset when a birth doesn't go as planned. You can see it all over the postnatal and baby club sections. Even women that wanted an all natural or home birth are seriously upset because they didn't get exactly what they wanted. In the end it doesn't matter how Emma got here as long as she is healthy, but that doesn't make me any less disappointed that I didn't give birth like a woman's body is intended.

 

[PeanutBean]

A difficult birth can cause problems with the baby too, I don't mean medical ones particularly, but where there is maternal trauma there can be a loss of bonding opportunity in the first hours, or difficulty breastfeeding for example. I mean whilst the baby has arrived and is healthy there can still be a difficult emotional journey for mum and baby after a traumatic birth. And we women are just sooo good at beating ouselves up and reaping the guilt.

 

[Blue_bumpkin]

I've been on both sides... well 3 sides lol.

My first was a natural delivery. I was 18, scared and delivered my son with no pain medication and had to have an episiotomy. I felt great afterwards minus the hemmoriods and stitches. I bounced back easily and did well.

My second I wasn't so lucky. I ended up after having high blood pressure, suffering from a complete placental abruption where I suffered from massive bleeding, uterine tetany, and I nearly died... and sadly, my son did I had an emergency c-section... I went by ambulance to the hospital, had nurses and doctors all around me, giving me a catheder while my OH was holding up an IV bag... my HB was over 160bpm and my blood pressure was very very low. Once in the OR I kept begging them to get the baby out, I didn't even care if I was given any relief for pain at that point, I'm sure the shock covered it. Once I was asleep they delivered my son and worked on him for over 20 minutes to get his heart beating again. I was given blood transfusions and sent to recovery. I then asked for hours while laying in so much pain I was sure I was going to die... how my son was doing and for hours I got the same response. "he is in critical condition and we're still working on him"... I seriously felt like I was repeatedly being ripped open and thousands of cigs were being put out on my tummy at once! Worst pain I've ever felt. I went down finally to see my son where he was laying in his incubator hooked to as many tubes as he could get it seemed, while having siezures I held him kissed him hugged him. he passed away 8 hours after his delivery

I then had to stay in their without my baby. The nurses wanted to move me off the mat floor, but I explained it gave me comfort hearing babies cry, knowing people were getting their happy endings. I couldn't move much for weeks... my incision opened up on one side, and even at 6 weeks PP I was still in pain! Driving home, every bump brought tears to my eyes... and the pain was made worse by not having my son to bring home with me...

My third was scheduled. She arrived the morning of December 30th 2009 at 9:22am screaming! The worst thing I felt that day was the OR needle (IV) put in before surgery. My daughter latched and fed within an hour of birth, I was able to move from bed to bed same day and up walking the next day with minimal discomfort. No infections and I felt pretty darn good! It didn't feel the best when Kayleigh latched on, as it brought on the cramps more, but it was a good thing. To me, my vaginal delivery was easiest by far But I know women who have went through so much delivering vaginally It all depends, like others have said on their individual circumstances. We are all women, all have went through bringing our children into the world and all have felt our own pain. I understand feeling less of a women, but we aren't... we did what was needed for our children to be delivered safely.



I miss my boy..

Kaleb William Edward
Born Feb 7th 2008 at 4:23pm- passed Feb 8th 2008 at 12:20am
Born at 37 weeks gestation weighing 5lbs9oz and 19.5 inches long.

Thanks for sharing your story hun. Kaleb is absolutely stunning and totally perfect

Im so sorry for your loss xxx

 

[Eve]

I've been on both sides... well 3 sides lol.

My first was a natural delivery. I was 18, scared and delivered my son with no pain medication and had to have an episiotomy. I felt great afterwards minus the hemmoriods and stitches. I bounced back easily and did well.

My second I wasn't so lucky. I ended up after having high blood pressure, suffering from a complete placental abruption where I suffered from massive bleeding, uterine tetany, and I nearly died... and sadly, my son did I had an emergency c-section... I went by ambulance to the hospital, had nurses and doctors all around me, giving me a catheder while my OH was holding up an IV bag... my HB was over 160bpm and my blood pressure was very very low. Once in the OR I kept begging them to get the baby out, I didn't even care if I was given any relief for pain at that point, I'm sure the shock covered it. Once I was asleep they delivered my son and worked on him for over 20 minutes to get his heart beating again. I was given blood transfusions and sent to recovery. I then asked for hours while laying in so much pain I was sure I was going to die... how my son was doing and for hours I got the same response. "he is in critical condition and we're still working on him"... I seriously felt like I was repeatedly being ripped open and thousands of cigs were being put out on my tummy at once! Worst pain I've ever felt. I went down finally to see my son where he was laying in his incubator hooked to as many tubes as he could get it seemed, while having siezures I held him kissed him hugged him. he passed away 8 hours after his delivery

I then had to stay in their without my baby. The nurses wanted to move me off the mat floor, but I explained it gave me comfort hearing babies cry, knowing people were getting their happy endings. I couldn't move much for weeks... my incision opened up on one side, and even at 6 weeks PP I was still in pain! Driving home, every bump brought tears to my eyes... and the pain was made worse by not having my son to bring home with me...

My third was scheduled. She arrived the morning of December 30th 2009 at 9:22am screaming! The worst thing I felt that day was the OR needle (IV) put in before surgery. My daughter latched and fed within an hour of birth, I was able to move from bed to bed same day and up walking the next day with minimal discomfort. No infections and I felt pretty darn good! It didn't feel the best when Kayleigh latched on, as it brought on the cramps more, but it was a good thing. To me, my vaginal delivery was easiest by far But I know women who have went through so much delivering vaginally It all depends, like others have said on their individual circumstances. We are all women, all have went through bringing our children into the world and all have felt our own pain. I understand feeling less of a women, but we aren't... we did what was needed for our children to be delivered safely.



I miss my boy..

Kaleb William Edward
Born Feb 7th 2008 at 4:23pm- passed Feb 8th 2008 at 12:20am
Born at 37 weeks gestation weighing 5lbs9oz and 19.5 inches long.

Thanks for sharing your story hun. Kaleb is absolutely stunning and totally perfect

Im so sorry for your loss xxx

Thank you hun xx

 

[Eve]

WSS^^^ It's just not something you can explain to someone unless they've been through it. If that makes any sense. It's VERY common to be upset when a birth doesn't go as planned. You can see it all over the postnatal and baby club sections. Even women that wanted an all natural or home birth are seriously upset because they didn't get exactly what they wanted. In the end it doesn't matter how Emma got here as long as she is healthy, but that doesn't make me any less disappointed that I didn't give birth like a woman's body is intended.

Yup- I would have loved to deliver vaginally and naturally with Kayleigh, and if the doctor's (high risk) thought it would have been okay to go to term and labor naturally I would have tried. In the end, I'm very glad Kayleigh is here safe and sound, but I do feel as though I missed out on the whole birthing experience this time. Some people wouldn't understand though, as they haven't been there, which is okay too

 

[Laura2919]

I havent had a natural birth but have had a section. I was told a lot of horror stories about C sections and I chose to deliver naturally, Once I had had my section I wondered why I was told all them stories because it wasnt half as bad as I thought it was going to be.
I think they both have their problems and some find a section worse and some think it is better.