Can I join you girlies, please?

[TashaAndBump]

MrBum and I are going to have another baby, and I can't wait! However, it's not the right time right now.

I know all the things I want to in my life; it's just a matter of when, and in what order to do them in that I'm not sure about!

I want to have another baby - that's for sure! And I don't want to wait too long, either - I love being a mum, and I don't want Anna to miss out on having a brother or sister, and be an only child any longer than she has to.

At the same time, though, I want to be a neonatal nurse. This means I need to do a midwifery degree, which will take me three years to complete, and specialising into nursing from there.

I want both these things so much, but one of them will have to go on hold for the other; If I have another child, I will want to wait about a year to enjoy Anna and get ready first anyway, then I will want to spend a year with bubs before putting her in nursery to do my degree... That means I won't begin my degree for another 2 years at least, let alone my career (which will be another 4 years down the line after that)!

If I start my career first, it will mean waiting until Sept. 09 to start my degree, will be three years on from that when I get my degree. And then God knows how long before I get a job as a midwife, and I will want to be stable in my job at that point after working so hard, and waiting so long and to ensure I get some maternity pay and leave. That will make it 5 years before we even start *trying* for a baby - and that thought seems unbearable to be quite honest - Too long!! I have only just written down my thoughts and really thought about it like this, and am quite surprised about my reactions and feelings; The idea of not having another baby in 6 or 7 years is quite upsetting for me!

I can't see any way around it - one of these things is going to have to be put off for longer than I'd like Tbh I'd rather it be the career! ... but I think MrBum could quite happily go another 6 years or so before having another baby.

Either way, though, I do want, and will have another baby at some point, but for now have come to join all you girls in this waiting game

 

[Chris77]

Congratulations! Welcome to BnB!

 

[LeaArr]

You are more than welcome to join us.
Sounds like you have interesting plans. I wouldn't be able to be in health care myself. I have a lot of respect for people who are able to make a career out of it.

 

[Chris77]

I second that!

 

[Jewels]

Welcome to the WTT forum and congrats on your bundle of joy!

 

[TashaAndBump]

Congratulations! Welcome to BnB!

I'm already a member of bnb lol Just joining y'all in WTT

Thanks for the welcome!

 

[destiny27]

:wave:

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

I know all the things I want to in my life; it's just a matter of when, and in what order to do them in that I'm not sure about!

I want to have another baby - that's for sure! And I don't want to wait too long, either - I love being a mum, and I don't want Anna to miss out on having a brother or sister, and be an only child any longer than she has to.

At the same time, though, I want to be a neonatal nurse. This means I need to do a midwifery degree, which will take me three years to complete, and specialising into nursing from there.

I want both these things so much, but one of them will have to go on hold for the other;

I feel exactly the same. Although for me it's the first baby i'm wanting. I've just finished my 1st year of university and am so desperate for a baby but i also know that i should probably wait until after i finish my degree. And my OH also wants to wait until i finish my degree at least, if not until i've been working for a few years. But the waiting is so hard! I also considered changing to a midwifery degree but i realised i'm too squeamish...so don't think i could do the delivery bit.

P.s...your LO is gorgeous!

 

[TashaAndBump]

Thanks, Katy.

I can see how squeamishness could be a tad of a problem in midwifery - "You're doing really well, I can see the head comi... " (**passes out**)

How many years is your degree? I would recommend finishing it, because they are always changing courses, so things might be different if you take a break and then go back to finish - you may find you've missed (or forgotten!) things? Also, studying is always going to be more difficult if you have a child to look after... However it is your choice, and if you want a baby that badly and really can't wait - go for it! Who says you need to do career first, baby later?? They always used to do it the other way around... the only danger there is that you may just want to be a stay-at-home mum and not have the get-up-and-go to get back into education. Also, it will obviously be easier if you have completed your degree and have a good, steady income.

I know just how you feel, though - Doesn't it take a lot of rationalising, and self-control to keep telling yourself to wait~! I just want to complete my family, y'know? Must wait! lol

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Yeah, it takes a lot of control! More than i think i have sometimes but i keep seeming to find it from somewhere.

My degree is 3 years in total so have 2 years of basic studying left but then i'm thinking of doing a PGCE to go into teaching afterwards so that's another year. Although i suppose once the degree's complete i could go on to do the PGCE at a later date. I have a feeling that if i did stop part of the way through my degree i probably would rather be a stay at home mum than go back to uni. Not sure i have quite enough motivation to make myself go back.

And lol at the squeamishness remark....that's probably exactly what would happen which is a shame because i love babies and i can't think of anything better than being able to work with them.

 

[TashaAndBump]

You could go into neonatal or child nursing instead? All the babies... less of the blood and girl-bits lol

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

Yeah, but i think i'm too bad even to do that. Couldn't take blood samples or anything. If only i had the stomach to follow my heart.

 

[hunnibun]

You seem to have thought about it alot and have a sensible head on ur sholders so well done u!

 

[xarlenex]

Tasha im in the same situation as you..Except I wanna be a Hospital Play Specialist, and you cant even start the course till your 20, Im 19 in october. I would love to have another baby but I know its just not the right time. Good luck waiting!

 

[TashaAndBump]

xarlenex, I never knew you were 18 and I'd never have guessed you were younger than me! I'll be 20 in November

I have to admit, if I were in the situation where I couldn't start my course for a while... I'd probably start TTC sharpish, to get having both the kiddies 'out the way' so to speak (I know that sounds horrible, but I hope you'll know what I mean!).

I still don't know when to do things... almost sat down with DH today to discuss it, but chickened out!

 

[MimiUK]

Welcome!

i hope you manage to make the right decision for you and you family. x

 

[Dream.A.Dream]

I still don't know when to do things... almost sat down with DH today to discuss it, but chickened out!

Sometimes discussing with OH is best way forward. But then again mine generally just tells me what i don't want to hear. lol

 

[xarlenex]

I have to admit, if I were in the situation where I couldn't start my course for a while... I'd probably start TTC sharpish, to get having both the kiddies 'out the way' so to speak (I know that sounds horrible, but I hope you'll know what I mean!).

I still don't know when to do things... almost sat down with DH today to discuss it, but chickened out!

See if I where in my own house, then I would start sharp But im with my mum, and with her having a mental illness its so difficult in so many areas, which is a whole other story! For now, we are good for space, we are in a 5 apartment. Our house is just starting to be built, and to be honest, my mum would lose it (Quite literally..) if I had to have fall pregnant whilst im still here. She doesnt seem to understand that if I have my kids whilst im young, I get to grow up with them, then when they are old enough I still have life to live.

You may as well get him in a good mood and blurt it out! Most definately at a time were he cant say "oh er..I've got this to do" xx

 

[MimiUK]

I still don't know when to do things... almost sat down with DH today to discuss it, but chickened out!

this is me every day.... cause i dont want DP to think i am way to obsessed with babies obsessed. Honsetly I am not....... i promise...........

 

[elmaxie]

Sorry I am comin into this thread late!

Tasha how exciting for you....have met you around the girly sanctuary a bit.

I am a nurse..I wanted to do midwifery but I felt I might get lynched for telling women going through labour to breathe and not to push since I have never been through it myself...but go you!

So your wanting to do a 3 year degree....then work to get your mat pay. Have you been accepted on amidwifery course as you only have to work in NHS for 1 year to qualify for the full mat leave, and I think thats from week 25 of preg but am not sure but its something like that. So at most you would have just less than 4 years to wait, unless I havent got your plans right. Plus I thought they were screaming out for midwives(no pun intended!)

Anyhow...just wanted to say YAY!!!



Emma,xx