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Oliver's Mummy
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I really need a rant if thats ok ladies.
I am sick to death of people raining on my parade.
Oliver has always had good head control, but no..certain people assume we must be making it up when we say he can hold his head up and look around during tummy time..oh and you shouldn't be putting him on his belly, he'll suffocate on his playmat..cos we generally walk off and leave him unsupervised, as if!
We had to get video evidence of him rolling onto his back during tummy time, which was quite hard considering we never claimed he could do it every time.
We have done all of our Christmas shopping and bought him loads of activity toys..he will be 6 months actual at Christmas so we've bought him 6m+ toys..but noooo he won't be interested in them, you should put them away for his birthday 1. He's my first baby and if I wanna spoil him on his first Christmas then I will, 2. Maybe he won't know what to do with some of them but we can show him and play with him and he will know eventually, surely the more stimulation you give them the better.
Certain people have suggested/insisted that he will be ready for solids when he's 3 months old, he would only be around 5 weeks corrected then so from reading a lot on here and a lot of other preemie info i certainly won't be risking upsetting his stomach by doing that.
Finally this is the one I'm really kicking myself about..I've been nappy inspecting the last few days and was not happy with the colour/consistency of what he was producing. He was also really whingey..threatened to take him the docs on a few occasions but was told it's fine, it's a normal colour (he's my first so I didn't know any better) so against my better judgement thought I will keep on eye on him. Well after 2 incidents so bad he was lobbed in the bath mid feed I decided enough is enough, i was getting him checked out, lo and behold he has a stomach bug. He's fine and it's nothing serious but I feel so awful that I let other people judge instead of my instincts, I feel even worse that i possibly left my baby uncomfortable for 2 days. I won't be listening to anyone but myself in future.
I feel awful having a moan cos I know everyone putting in their two penny worth does love and care about him and wants him to do well but it just irks me and I just feel like when his being premature should be taken into account when it comes to his health and feeding it's disregarded. I believe this is due to the fact that he's put on weight like nobody's business (he's almost 10lbs now
) and feeds really well so looks more newborn as opposed to premature. Yet when he is doing well in spite of being premature with his development or when we try to encourage development it is wrong. Obviously if he wasn't developing as well I wouldn't be too concerned but since he is, isn't that a good thing!
Anyway rant over, thanks ladies.
Oh and on a final note..Yes he did smile...he does smile...I'm sure it's not wind... It's not wind...it wasn't flipping' wind!!
I am sick to death of people raining on my parade.
Oliver has always had good head control, but no..certain people assume we must be making it up when we say he can hold his head up and look around during tummy time..oh and you shouldn't be putting him on his belly, he'll suffocate on his playmat..cos we generally walk off and leave him unsupervised, as if!
We had to get video evidence of him rolling onto his back during tummy time, which was quite hard considering we never claimed he could do it every time.
We have done all of our Christmas shopping and bought him loads of activity toys..he will be 6 months actual at Christmas so we've bought him 6m+ toys..but noooo he won't be interested in them, you should put them away for his birthday 1. He's my first baby and if I wanna spoil him on his first Christmas then I will, 2. Maybe he won't know what to do with some of them but we can show him and play with him and he will know eventually, surely the more stimulation you give them the better.
Certain people have suggested/insisted that he will be ready for solids when he's 3 months old, he would only be around 5 weeks corrected then so from reading a lot on here and a lot of other preemie info i certainly won't be risking upsetting his stomach by doing that.
Finally this is the one I'm really kicking myself about..I've been nappy inspecting the last few days and was not happy with the colour/consistency of what he was producing. He was also really whingey..threatened to take him the docs on a few occasions but was told it's fine, it's a normal colour (he's my first so I didn't know any better) so against my better judgement thought I will keep on eye on him. Well after 2 incidents so bad he was lobbed in the bath mid feed I decided enough is enough, i was getting him checked out, lo and behold he has a stomach bug. He's fine and it's nothing serious but I feel so awful that I let other people judge instead of my instincts, I feel even worse that i possibly left my baby uncomfortable for 2 days. I won't be listening to anyone but myself in future.
I feel awful having a moan cos I know everyone putting in their two penny worth does love and care about him and wants him to do well but it just irks me and I just feel like when his being premature should be taken into account when it comes to his health and feeding it's disregarded. I believe this is due to the fact that he's put on weight like nobody's business (he's almost 10lbs now
) and feeds really well so looks more newborn as opposed to premature. Yet when he is doing well in spite of being premature with his development or when we try to encourage development it is wrong. Obviously if he wasn't developing as well I wouldn't be too concerned but since he is, isn't that a good thing!Anyway rant over, thanks ladies.
Oh and on a final note..Yes he did smile...he does smile...I'm sure it's not wind... It's not wind...it wasn't flipping' wind!!
