Cancelling my wedding!!

[Blob]

Am i off my rocker?? I really am too stressed and dont want to get married anymore at all, its making me miserable. I just dont want to do it anymore

But i've payed nearly £2000 already I wont get a penny back either

BUT i do want to marry my OH i just dont want to do what we're doing..i was going to Turkey with 50 people...but now i want to go to maldieves or something with only my parents, OHs parents, Tabs and siblings...

Am i going crazy

 

[Joyzerelly]

Nope, I think it's a shame that your wedding day is supposed to be your best ever day but you just end up spending an awful lot of money and being very stressed to throw a lot of other people a party! Surely it would make more sense that other people organised the party for you? I personally would definitely prefer a quiet affair, with just the essential people present, and maybe having a party on another day to celebrate.
On the other hand, are you sure your grand day isn't what you really want? It sounds like it's all just getting on top of you.. is your fiance doing his bit? Can you ask your friends and family members to help you out? Go for a massage, pamper yourself and have a good think.

Good luck luvvie x

 

[Blob]

Ha ha yea right i get a *sigh* if i speak about it I really want to just go to a registry office blah!! I used to want a massive wedding but then i had Tabs...

 

[Pops]

Not at all

We made it crystal clear from the day we started planning that the second that anyone made it stressful for us, we were getting on a plane and going to Vegas to do it just the two of us. Thankfully they took the hint and we have been left to it!!

If they hadn't though, we would have done as we said. We know exactly how we want our day and we aren't willing to let it develop into something that is going to stress us out so I totally understand your feelings

Its your day and you have to do what you and your OH want......you dont want to look back and regret anything.

xxx

 

[coccyx]

If you are getting stressed I would just go off with OH and a few close friends! Should be a special day for you and OH not A day full of worry. Just because you spend a lot of money/have lots of guests does not make it more special

 

[africaqueen]

I unerstand your stress cos i have felt very stressed tryin to organise a wedding on such a tight budget, but we have managed it thank god! lol. Now i just cnt wait.

Give yourself chance to mull things over an then decide. x

 

[Blob]

Thanks everyone

I think i just want to get married i'm fed up organising things around everyone else..i've decided i either want to get married in the highlands and come home and have a party here... or go somewhere with 9 other people...but my mum is being difficult in that she said she wont go cos my dad will be there etc etc.. and that she doesnt mind not going ... GAH!!!

x x x x x

 

[maybethistime]

really do what you want to do, we did the sit down meal etc and 2 be honest part of me regrets it I really enjoyed my day but some people only turned up 2 eat, I wish we spent more on our selves and thats my only regret just dont lose sight that it urs and your OH day and enjoy it

 

[Artemis]

Hun

I will tell you a little story. I have been with my OH since I was 18 years old. At the age of 21 I got engaged. The first storm we entered was my age and the fact OH was 8 years older than me ?!?!? Then relatives made demands on venues, colours but when the subject of coin arose all we got was nope don't want to pay. We were also trying to save for a house at the time. Things then went so badly wrong for us as a couple and with family members we cancelled our wedding at home and went abroad to get married. The family members who cared came with us and the day was beautiful but the stress leading up to that point was ridiculous which is why we changed our minds. Also, I was struggling with the idea of being centre of attention. The thought of it terrifies me.
At the end of the day you know in your heart when its right and when its wrong - you really have to go with that. Good luck

 

[Blob]

Thanks everyone its just so hard to cancel on a wedding esp when you've put quite alot of money into it and its not far away.. if possible i'd want to go asap its just so hard to make a decision. I just cant make up my mind now

 

[subaru555]

I'm in the same boat as you - my mum won't go because my Dad & step mum are going - so I said fine!

You have to be brutal and straight to the point, after all, it's your day.

Remember you can't actually get married on the Maldives (we wanted to aswell) you can only renew your vows - you would still need to go to a registry office to do it agian legally.

We wanted exactly the same as you but like you said it's just so much hassle. Why not have the wedding you truely want so you can look back on it and think thank goodness I did that.

Ok so you will lose 2k BUT it won't be the wedding you would have wanted and I'd lose 2 grand just to make sure it was right.

Hope this helps.

 

[Blob]

Yea it does honnestly..i've finally admitted deveat Yea i know i needed to do it again..but i've found a place in the highlands that i can go to thats really small for 11 people for 2 nights and its beautiful and yes i lose lots of money Not even my own which makes it worse... Eeeeek!! Soooo maybe getting married in Feb or March next year...

Though it all depends on whether anyone has booked anything else i will have to go through with it

 

[subaru555]

Well the sooner you can notify people the better! Get your skates on or shall I say - get phoning!

Where in the highlands? I'm from Scotland you see

It sounds lovely and also the good thing about it being for a smaller amount of people is that you can have more of the things that you do want and it will be more personal

xx