Massive rant, I'm so annoyed at my friends. We'd offered to help prep some food for the wedding buffet tonight so went round to meet them this morning before the nct nearly new sale. When I arrived I could hear them talking about me using the beauty voucher they got me when Erin was born (i had my nails done yesterday for the wedding today). They said we were talking about you and I said I know I heard. Then they suddenly pounced on me saying we don't think your oh is doing enough. Going off on one about the fact I've only used my voucher now 1 year on (shes only 8 months) and how he doesn't look after her and I have to bring her everywhere even when she was poorly to an afternoon tea the other day. And that he is spending far too much time at the investment property him and his uncle have just bought and not doing anything to help me. I had finally asked 1 friend to watch Erin yesterday so I could get my nails done, (never left her with friends before) because my oh was working. He swapped shifts so I text my friend saying he can have her but she's welcome to still have Erin at mine and he'll go to the other property. She threw that in my face saying he just wanted to get to the house. I was so furious, I hate confrontation and get all shaky and can never say what I want but was like thanks for pouncing on me as I walk through the door, that I wish I hadn't bothered coming and that he's working his ass off with 2 jobs and doing this house up so that I can be off on maternity leave for a year with Erin. And I stormed outside to the car to get something.
What I wanted to say was its none of your business, its my life and if I was unhappy or struggling I'd sort it out myself thankyou. And how dare they be so judgemental of him as a dad basically. Until you have children you won't understand, but I actually don't like leaving her, yes I am overprotective and like everything done a certain way, I am breastfeeding and she won't take a bottle so that makes it difficult but i am also loving my time with her and will be back at work before I know it so I'm making the most of every minute with her. And I take her with me because I think you'd like to see her, and when shes poorly she only wants me so of course I brought her with me. And with getting my nails done yesterday, I thought my friend WANTED to look after Erin as she's been badgering me since she was born, so didn't want to just say my oh will have her now, thought we were being nice saying she could have hee when really I.wanted my oh to do it anyway (which he did as she text me saying ill let them have daddy one on one time)
Just so annoyed and feel bad for my oh being judged. Yes he doesn't have her much alone, but mostly down to me and the fact ahe's bfing but he watches her at home so I can get stuff done or pop out to the shops or whatever. He is also mega busy working and stuff which I'm so grateful for so I can be off work for 14 months and still have the same lifestyle and buy her lovely things, and so I could to Australia to see my family. It's not for everyone but I do everything.pretty much round the house, and am happy with that, I actually love housework and in my view I'm.not working so have time to do it. I don't expect him to come in from a 12 hour shift when he only has 2 hours before he'll go to bed, and expect him to watch Erin that whole time while I go out.
I need to speak to them but need to figure out how to say it all.
I wish I was looking forward to going back to work, the more I think about it the more I think nooooo want to stay off with my baby forever lol but if we want a bigger house and to replenish savings it has to be done. And I know what you mean about nappy changes getting difficult, after bath is the worse as she wont lie still to get dressed again either lol. 
