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Oh my god. Sounds like you made a copy which was very clever thinking, its nice to have some evidence especially when they are making such pathetic claims. And she's married too! Makes sense as to why she'd be trying to deny it then as well. Hate it when people try to mess with your head.
Never told anyone this ever, but a few years ago (maybe 6) I found texts and some indecent photos of another girl on my oh phone. I didn't know how to approach it and wanted to know my facts before bringing it up. I could log into his o2 online account so I could see how many texts were being sent and it was tons, like at least 30 a day. And i'd check his phone when I could, a lot of it was general chatter, some sexual and she pushed a few times to meet but he was making excuses so I guess he didnt want to meet which I suppose is something. He didn't physically cheat, but to me this was just as bad. When I confronted him, I knew there were 3 photos on there (id just seen) and he started looking at his phone and was like no there isn't what are you on about, completely messing with my head but I knew what I'd seen. At the time I wished I'd thought to get copies but I had printed off the o2 lists of texts and threw that at him. It was a very tough time, and took a lot of sorting out, and I made it very clear that if he ever did anything like that again, I would be gone, instantly over. He also spent a long time making it up to me, and had some counselling too, but again the trust on that is never what it was before something that breaks it. I do find myself every now and then having a little look his phone to make sure there's nothing there. Trust is a very fragile thing, and once its broken, even when its been glued back together its never exactly the same as before and both parties have to deal with that if they decide to make a go of things, and in my eyes if that trust is then broken again, its then shattered and no going back from that
Never told anyone this ever, but a few years ago (maybe 6) I found texts and some indecent photos of another girl on my oh phone. I didn't know how to approach it and wanted to know my facts before bringing it up. I could log into his o2 online account so I could see how many texts were being sent and it was tons, like at least 30 a day. And i'd check his phone when I could, a lot of it was general chatter, some sexual and she pushed a few times to meet but he was making excuses so I guess he didnt want to meet which I suppose is something. He didn't physically cheat, but to me this was just as bad. When I confronted him, I knew there were 3 photos on there (id just seen) and he started looking at his phone and was like no there isn't what are you on about, completely messing with my head but I knew what I'd seen. At the time I wished I'd thought to get copies but I had printed off the o2 lists of texts and threw that at him. It was a very tough time, and took a lot of sorting out, and I made it very clear that if he ever did anything like that again, I would be gone, instantly over. He also spent a long time making it up to me, and had some counselling too, but again the trust on that is never what it was before something that breaks it. I do find myself every now and then having a little look his phone to make sure there's nothing there. Trust is a very fragile thing, and once its broken, even when its been glued back together its never exactly the same as before and both parties have to deal with that if they decide to make a go of things, and in my eyes if that trust is then broken again, its then shattered and no going back from that
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Hey everyone! Sorry I haven't been on in a while. I always say I'm going to try to be better at posting more often, but never do!
Claire, I am so very sorry you are having to go through this. I feel like everyone has said what I would say already. But just know that we are all here for you. You seem like a very strong person, and I'm sure it will be hard to get used to being a single parent, but I'm sure it will be what's best for you and Darcey. Sending you virtual
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Dreamer, I too am sorry about the row you had with your friends. I feel similar to you in that when I have things I need to say to people, I often write letters. As I hate confrontation and always feel like I am not as good at getting my point across. And I know what you mean thinking about not giving it to them. Sometimes, once you get in on paper, it feels like you already told them and then you don't want to start more drama. (hope what I just said makes sense). But, only you can make that call. If you think it will help, I say give it to them.
Stranje, I hope Giada's diarrhea has gotten better. It's so sad when our babies don't feel good.
Trixie, good on you for getting some Christmas shopping done. I haven't even started!! I still need to get Jack a Halloween costume. Don't know yet what I want him to dress up as. Do any of you know what your LOs will be? And, way to go Conor on pulling up! Won't be long and you'll be spending your days chasing him around.
Lilrojo, I hope your cycles get sorted out soon. It sounds like you just had a weird one, and hopefully it will get back on track.
Babies, I hope you are feeling well, and your little girl is letting you get some sleep. As far as sleeping goes, Jack slept in a Nap Nanny for the first 6 weeks as he didn't like being swaddled at all! Not sure if you can get those in the UK, but here's a link to them. They are pretty pricey, but it was definitely worth the money to me!! https://www.napnanny.com/
And it says not to put it in the crib, but I did. And even now if he's having an unsettled night, I'll put him in it and he sleeps much better!!
I hope everyone else is doing well! And very glad Hispirits is doing well too. Has anyone invited her to come join our thread? And what about FutureMama? I really hope everything has been going well for her and her pregnancy!
Everything with us is going well. Jack has cut his top 2 teeth this week, so he's been a bit fussy, but not too bad, so can't really complain. We had his 8 month old photo shoot last Thursday. Can't wait to see them! I usually get the proofs pretty quick, but she was going out of town this weekend, so won't see them till Tuesday most likely. Jack is crawling around everywhere and can pull up on some things, but he still has to have his footing just right to do it. He is starting to look like a little boy and not a baby anymore! Makes me sad, and makes me want to have another! Ha! But I know my hubby is not quite ready for that just yet!
Hope you all have/had a great weekend!
Claire, I am so very sorry you are having to go through this. I feel like everyone has said what I would say already. But just know that we are all here for you. You seem like a very strong person, and I'm sure it will be hard to get used to being a single parent, but I'm sure it will be what's best for you and Darcey. Sending you virtual
.Dreamer, I too am sorry about the row you had with your friends. I feel similar to you in that when I have things I need to say to people, I often write letters. As I hate confrontation and always feel like I am not as good at getting my point across. And I know what you mean thinking about not giving it to them. Sometimes, once you get in on paper, it feels like you already told them and then you don't want to start more drama. (hope what I just said makes sense). But, only you can make that call. If you think it will help, I say give it to them.
Stranje, I hope Giada's diarrhea has gotten better. It's so sad when our babies don't feel good.
Trixie, good on you for getting some Christmas shopping done. I haven't even started!! I still need to get Jack a Halloween costume. Don't know yet what I want him to dress up as. Do any of you know what your LOs will be? And, way to go Conor on pulling up! Won't be long and you'll be spending your days chasing him around.
Lilrojo, I hope your cycles get sorted out soon. It sounds like you just had a weird one, and hopefully it will get back on track.
Babies, I hope you are feeling well, and your little girl is letting you get some sleep. As far as sleeping goes, Jack slept in a Nap Nanny for the first 6 weeks as he didn't like being swaddled at all! Not sure if you can get those in the UK, but here's a link to them. They are pretty pricey, but it was definitely worth the money to me!! https://www.napnanny.com/
And it says not to put it in the crib, but I did. And even now if he's having an unsettled night, I'll put him in it and he sleeps much better!!
I hope everyone else is doing well! And very glad Hispirits is doing well too. Has anyone invited her to come join our thread? And what about FutureMama? I really hope everything has been going well for her and her pregnancy!
Everything with us is going well. Jack has cut his top 2 teeth this week, so he's been a bit fussy, but not too bad, so can't really complain. We had his 8 month old photo shoot last Thursday. Can't wait to see them! I usually get the proofs pretty quick, but she was going out of town this weekend, so won't see them till Tuesday most likely. Jack is crawling around everywhere and can pull up on some things, but he still has to have his footing just right to do it. He is starting to look like a little boy and not a baby anymore! Makes me sad, and makes me want to have another! Ha! But I know my hubby is not quite ready for that just yet!
Hope you all have/had a great weekend!
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Claire I seriously can't believe he is trying to turn this on you even though you have a picture. I understand hidig things, but once your caught at least admit it!!! So she is married too??? They deserve each other and you deserve much better! How have you been feeling? I imagine it will pretty hard for quite a long while. HOpe you are hanging in there
Dreamer I would totally send the letter, but that is only because it woudl make me feel better to get it off my chest, no matter how they responded. How will you feel if they respond poorly? Will you still be happy you got to say your piece? Sorry you had to go through stuff with oh in past. I have been fortunate that so far I have not had to deal with that (that I know of) but I am still paranoid and checkign phones etc. I just think we all need ot be careful. It's not that I necessarily believe all guys have a wandering eye, but I think men AND women do bad things. I know I did in my first relationship- and it is totally uncharacteristic of my personality . Obvioulsy I learned my lesson, but what I learned even more is that you can't trust anyone, not even yourself. I know I won't cheat on dh, but there is still crossing the line...like befriending someone of the opposite sex and having an emotional relationship. I realized that you just can't put yourself in those situations because there may be a time when your relationship takes a terrible turn and you find comfort in your other opposite sex companion and they are there for you etc etc. And I do think it is good to be on guard always. I'm not saying to where you are obsessing about nothing, but to check up every once and a while and make sure your oh/dh is not doing something you don't approve of. Statistically women cheat as much as men, I think mostly when they are not getting the emotional support they need, so I truly feel the best thing I can do is be aware of what situations I am putting myself in (I used to have a lot of close male friends, now I don't unless they are gay) and I make sure dh isn't putting himself in any bad situations (like out drinking if I am not there, especially if we are fighting) Obviously you can't always prevent things but at least it makes me feel like I am doing something and have some control. Anyway, my whole point being that trust issues or not I would be acting the same way (checking phone etc) Although some people say they would rather not know, and that is fine to but not me! It would devastate me but I'd want to know for sure! GOod news about your work! Pay cuts are terrible but it will be well worth it!!
Ladyl so good to hear from you!!! You'll have to show us some photos!!
Trixie good for you for thinking of christmas!! I haven't started!
GIada is crawling all over and into everything. SHe somehow keeps finding and eating my mail. She still has diarrhea and her diaper rash is getting worse It was just inside her cheeks, but now it is red on the back of her bottom too
Nothing is working because she is still going 5 -6 times a day . I am goign to try coconut oil. Has anyone had a diarrhea problem like this? My mom still thinks it is teething because of the drool and she got it for a day last time she teethed. BUt can it last this long...over a week??
Hope everyone else is well!
Claire I seriously can't believe he is trying to turn this on you even though you have a picture. I understand hidig things, but once your caught at least admit it!!! So she is married too??? They deserve each other and you deserve much better! How have you been feeling? I imagine it will pretty hard for quite a long while. HOpe you are hanging in there
Dreamer I would totally send the letter, but that is only because it woudl make me feel better to get it off my chest, no matter how they responded. How will you feel if they respond poorly? Will you still be happy you got to say your piece? Sorry you had to go through stuff with oh in past. I have been fortunate that so far I have not had to deal with that (that I know of) but I am still paranoid and checkign phones etc. I just think we all need ot be careful. It's not that I necessarily believe all guys have a wandering eye, but I think men AND women do bad things. I know I did in my first relationship- and it is totally uncharacteristic of my personality . Obvioulsy I learned my lesson, but what I learned even more is that you can't trust anyone, not even yourself. I know I won't cheat on dh, but there is still crossing the line...like befriending someone of the opposite sex and having an emotional relationship. I realized that you just can't put yourself in those situations because there may be a time when your relationship takes a terrible turn and you find comfort in your other opposite sex companion and they are there for you etc etc. And I do think it is good to be on guard always. I'm not saying to where you are obsessing about nothing, but to check up every once and a while and make sure your oh/dh is not doing something you don't approve of. Statistically women cheat as much as men, I think mostly when they are not getting the emotional support they need, so I truly feel the best thing I can do is be aware of what situations I am putting myself in (I used to have a lot of close male friends, now I don't unless they are gay) and I make sure dh isn't putting himself in any bad situations (like out drinking if I am not there, especially if we are fighting) Obviously you can't always prevent things but at least it makes me feel like I am doing something and have some control. Anyway, my whole point being that trust issues or not I would be acting the same way (checking phone etc) Although some people say they would rather not know, and that is fine to but not me! It would devastate me but I'd want to know for sure! GOod news about your work! Pay cuts are terrible but it will be well worth it!!
Ladyl so good to hear from you!!! You'll have to show us some photos!!
Trixie good for you for thinking of christmas!! I haven't started!
GIada is crawling all over and into everything. SHe somehow keeps finding and eating my mail. She still has diarrhea and her diaper rash is getting worse It was just inside her cheeks, but now it is red on the back of her bottom too
Nothing is working because she is still going 5 -6 times a day . I am goign to try coconut oil. Has anyone had a diarrhea problem like this? My mom still thinks it is teething because of the drool and she got it for a day last time she teethed. BUt can it last this long...over a week?? Hope everyone else is well!
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Hi stranj I completely agree with what you say regarding being aware in relationships, on both sides.
On the letter I think that's why I'm hesitant to give the letters, as it could cause problems and part of me just can't he bothered with that. One of the girls works in the same place as my oh and has caused problems at times just because of the crossover of personal and worklife. We also used to have another friend who was part of our 'friendship group' but there was a falling out just before Erin was born between 2 of them, and now all of them still aren't talking to her. I see her separately still which again has caused issues. We've invited them all to a fireworks party we're holding and some of them are being very petty saying if she's coming we're not. So basically they can hold big grudges. Again I'm probably overthinking things as st the end of the day I'm just trying to explain and defend, its not particularly horrible towards them but guess my annoyance at what they've done comes across. And I think they just think they're 'helping' their friend.
Still debating it in my own mind lol.
How's everyone else?
With being breastfed Erins poops are/were very runny and she used to go three times every day so I've never really known if she's had diarrhea. When her tooth was cutting I did notice her nappies were more stinky and she did get a bit of nappy rash. I always used sudocrem and used to give lots of nappy off time which was messy with rolling and will be even worse with crawling, but id put a big waterproof sheet down. Poor little things, must be horrible, always feel sorry for them, I know when Erin had it bad she used to scream when I had to clean that area, must be so sore. Do you use cotton wool and water or wipes?
On the letter I think that's why I'm hesitant to give the letters, as it could cause problems and part of me just can't he bothered with that. One of the girls works in the same place as my oh and has caused problems at times just because of the crossover of personal and worklife. We also used to have another friend who was part of our 'friendship group' but there was a falling out just before Erin was born between 2 of them, and now all of them still aren't talking to her. I see her separately still which again has caused issues. We've invited them all to a fireworks party we're holding and some of them are being very petty saying if she's coming we're not. So basically they can hold big grudges. Again I'm probably overthinking things as st the end of the day I'm just trying to explain and defend, its not particularly horrible towards them but guess my annoyance at what they've done comes across. And I think they just think they're 'helping' their friend.
Still debating it in my own mind lol.
How's everyone else?
With being breastfed Erins poops are/were very runny and she used to go three times every day so I've never really known if she's had diarrhea. When her tooth was cutting I did notice her nappies were more stinky and she did get a bit of nappy rash. I always used sudocrem and used to give lots of nappy off time which was messy with rolling and will be even worse with crawling, but id put a big waterproof sheet down. Poor little things, must be horrible, always feel sorry for them, I know when Erin had it bad she used to scream when I had to clean that area, must be so sore. Do you use cotton wool and water or wipes?
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Dreamer yes i do look at the lines to give me an idea.. last month i think i know when i ovulated even though i never got a peak.. my lines were really close to the same.. this month i just got my high today cd 18 and the lines are no where near eachother.. lh line is barely there.. and i usually ovulate on cd 18 so i have no clue as to what is going on..
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Oh trixie, hope Conor hasn't had too rough of a night.
Stranje, if I were you, I might would call the pediatrician if her diarrhea doesn't get better soon. You don't want her to get dehydrated. Make sure she's getting plenty of fluids.
Also, forgot to mention that I got my Mirena IUD taken out last week. I was really starting to not like having a period (as crazy as that sounds!!). I always felt so bloated. And lilrojo, I will soon be joining you in breaking out the ol' CBFM!! We are not necessarily going to start ttc right away (though I secretly want to). But just want to keep up with my cycles and be sure I am ovulating. I didn't ovulate for nearly 2 yrs (which we weren't ttc at the time). And it took like 4 months when we were just starting ttc before I ever did ovulate. I think it was because I was working nights and it messed my cycles all up. So, all that to say, I guess we will be ntnp, hopefully, if I can talk the hubs into that. Hopefully full on ttc by the first of the year! I want my babes to be 2 yrs or less apart.
Stranje, if I were you, I might would call the pediatrician if her diarrhea doesn't get better soon. You don't want her to get dehydrated. Make sure she's getting plenty of fluids.
Also, forgot to mention that I got my Mirena IUD taken out last week. I was really starting to not like having a period (as crazy as that sounds!!). I always felt so bloated. And lilrojo, I will soon be joining you in breaking out the ol' CBFM!! We are not necessarily going to start ttc right away (though I secretly want to). But just want to keep up with my cycles and be sure I am ovulating. I didn't ovulate for nearly 2 yrs (which we weren't ttc at the time). And it took like 4 months when we were just starting ttc before I ever did ovulate. I think it was because I was working nights and it messed my cycles all up. So, all that to say, I guess we will be ntnp, hopefully, if I can talk the hubs into that. Hopefully full on ttc by the first of the year! I want my babes to be 2 yrs or less apart.
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Yay Lady... 
were ttc starting in Dec.. been using cbfm since i had bryce and had great results except these last 2 months.. things have gone wonky for some reason.. not sure yet.. might reset it after this month if i dont get a peak.. on cd19 and still only a high.. first high was yesterday which is norm. when i o so who knows...
Stanje i agree with taking her in if she doesnt get any better..
were ttc starting in Dec.. been using cbfm since i had bryce and had great results except these last 2 months.. things have gone wonky for some reason.. not sure yet.. might reset it after this month if i dont get a peak.. on cd19 and still only a high.. first high was yesterday which is norm. when i o so who knows...Stanje i agree with taking her in if she doesnt get any better..
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We also has a bad night trix, think Erins next tooth might be cutting, she has a cold again and hasn't been herself, we were up every hour last night. Hope you got some sleep.
Stranj how's giada?
Claire oh gosh that must have been so scary about darcey being so poorly. I'm so glad she's improved so quickly and full of smiles again.
I didn't send the letter and tonight was my turn to host, there's 6 of us who meet most weeks for a cuppa and cake so the 3 of them came over (the other 2 ladies are on holiday) and all was ok but I did feel tense whenever they mentioned my oh or the house hes renovating.
Stranj how's giada?
Claire oh gosh that must have been so scary about darcey being so poorly. I'm so glad she's improved so quickly and full of smiles again.
I didn't send the letter and tonight was my turn to host, there's 6 of us who meet most weeks for a cuppa and cake so the 3 of them came over (the other 2 ladies are on holiday) and all was ok but I did feel tense whenever they mentioned my oh or the house hes renovating.
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Oh my goodness Claire poor wee pet, hope she is better today?? That's an awful lot your having to deal with!!
Conor still screaming to poo?? And they are massive, he pooed 10 times yesterday after not going to 3 days... I had to give him a suppository to help him get the first one out and the poor pet bled and all....
Today he had 2 this evening and the first was massive and he screamed again. I'm giving him prune juice again so I'm hoping it will help?? But it must be he fact that he is eating anything and everything??i try to get so much fruit and veg in but he would literally eat a steak if I gave it to him! He is so funny eating oranges and prunes! Chomping away!
Conor still screaming to poo?? And they are massive, he pooed 10 times yesterday after not going to 3 days... I had to give him a suppository to help him get the first one out and the poor pet bled and all....
Today he had 2 this evening and the first was massive and he screamed again. I'm giving him prune juice again so I'm hoping it will help?? But it must be he fact that he is eating anything and everything??i try to get so much fruit and veg in but he would literally eat a steak if I gave it to him! He is so funny eating oranges and prunes! Chomping away!
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Sorry to hear CLaire... poor little girl.. happy to hear she is getting better..
Trixie sorry to hear about the bad poo.. poor guy.. def do prunes..
Dreamer sorry about teething.. i think were in it too.. poor babies..
Trixie sorry to hear about the bad poo.. poor guy.. def do prunes..
Dreamer sorry about teething.. i think were in it too.. poor babies..
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Yikes Claire!!! You poor thing - as if you didn't have enough to deal with right now. I am so glad she is better. Poor little baby. I swear though, these babies are so resilient!!! Hope she continues to improve and that you get some well needed rest.
Trix that is awful he is so constipated He is so ahead of giada in eating. She will chew on some stuff, like a piece of broccoli, but she really likes her food pureed still. Oh well. You may be doing all this already, but when I was constipated during pregnancy my friend, who is a dr, came to stay with me from argentina and she told me I had to cut stuff out of my diet. No cheese (cottage was ok), no rice, no bananas unless they are very very ripe (she said under ripe will constipate you and over ripe will help you go) Anyway, I cut that stuff out and it helped tremendously. Kiwi is also a natural laxative so I started eating one a day and had good improvement. Not sure what conor eats but just thought I'd mention what helped me!
Dreamer that is a hard decision. If you decide it is not worth starting anything, just remind yourself that their opinion doesn't matter. I have a couple people in my life that I am stuck with due to family ties, and sometimes they say mean things and I don't want to cause problems, so I just keep my mouth shut around them as much as possible, act like I don't care what they are saying, and try to remind myself that they are just jealous etc and not let it bother me (well that is what I try to do at least lol)
Lilrojo- sounds like ovulation got delayed this month. Are you stressed, or taking ibprofin or anything? Hopefully you are back to normal cycle next month!
So I switched Giada to soy yesterday evening and she only went once at 8:30 this morning and that was it for the day!!!! I had called the nurse last week and she had mentioned switching to soy but I didn't think it would make a difference until read online that dairy can make it hard for babies to heal if they have diarrhea because it is hard for them to process it if their intestines are inflamed. I hope she doesn't get constipated now though, and I am hoping her diaper rash gets better soon. I feel it started to look a little better today. I have her 9 month appt tomorrow, which is why I didn't take her in because when I talked to the nurse she said if she is fine in every other way and having wet diapers then she is fine, but I knew if it lasted more than a week I'd want to take her in and I have her appt tomorrow anyway . Something that made me think though- I have had her on regular dairy formula for about a month with no problems. She used to be on lactose free (both similac brand) So I had some ready to feed lactose free left over so on monday I thought I'd try that formula before going to soy to see if it helped. I gave her a couple bottles and then went to the store and bought a small can of lactose free. I opened it and started to scoop in into the bottle an I noticed a little black thing in there. It looked like an ant but was kinda curled a little instead of straight. I put in in a plastic bag and obvioulsy didn't feed her the formula and am going to call the company . I started wondering if maybe the formula has been contaminated. I doubt it but it is just so weird that giada would be sick. I hadn't fed her new food, and she doesn't go out so I don't see where she could have caught something. She has never been sick before this as she has no one to get sick from. That or I wonder if she has developed a dairy allergy? Probably not and she just caught something, but the black thing did gross me out and I am afraid to start her back on her regular formula.
Oh gosh I better go to bed. I don't know why I stay up so late. I just regret it the next day lol
Trix that is awful he is so constipated
He is so ahead of giada in eating. She will chew on some stuff, like a piece of broccoli, but she really likes her food pureed still. Oh well. You may be doing all this already, but when I was constipated during pregnancy my friend, who is a dr, came to stay with me from argentina and she told me I had to cut stuff out of my diet. No cheese (cottage was ok), no rice, no bananas unless they are very very ripe (she said under ripe will constipate you and over ripe will help you go) Anyway, I cut that stuff out and it helped tremendously. Kiwi is also a natural laxative so I started eating one a day and had good improvement. Not sure what conor eats but just thought I'd mention what helped me!Dreamer that is a hard decision. If you decide it is not worth starting anything, just remind yourself that their opinion doesn't matter. I have a couple people in my life that I am stuck with due to family ties, and sometimes they say mean things and I don't want to cause problems, so I just keep my mouth shut around them as much as possible, act like I don't care what they are saying, and try to remind myself that they are just jealous etc and not let it bother me (well that is what I try to do at least lol)
Lilrojo- sounds like ovulation got delayed this month. Are you stressed, or taking ibprofin or anything? Hopefully you are back to normal cycle next month!
So I switched Giada to soy yesterday evening and she only went once at 8:30 this morning and that was it for the day!!!! I had called the nurse last week and she had mentioned switching to soy but I didn't think it would make a difference until read online that dairy can make it hard for babies to heal if they have diarrhea because it is hard for them to process it if their intestines are inflamed. I hope she doesn't get constipated now though, and I am hoping her diaper rash gets better soon. I feel it started to look a little better today. I have her 9 month appt tomorrow, which is why I didn't take her in because when I talked to the nurse she said if she is fine in every other way and having wet diapers then she is fine, but I knew if it lasted more than a week I'd want to take her in and I have her appt tomorrow anyway . Something that made me think though- I have had her on regular dairy formula for about a month with no problems. She used to be on lactose free (both similac brand) So I had some ready to feed lactose free left over so on monday I thought I'd try that formula before going to soy to see if it helped. I gave her a couple bottles and then went to the store and bought a small can of lactose free. I opened it and started to scoop in into the bottle an I noticed a little black thing in there. It looked like an ant but was kinda curled a little instead of straight. I put in in a plastic bag and obvioulsy didn't feed her the formula and am going to call the company . I started wondering if maybe the formula has been contaminated. I doubt it but it is just so weird that giada would be sick. I hadn't fed her new food, and she doesn't go out so I don't see where she could have caught something. She has never been sick before this as she has no one to get sick from. That or I wonder if she has developed a dairy allergy? Probably not and she just caught something, but the black thing did gross me out and I am afraid to start her back on her regular formula.
Oh gosh I better go to bed. I don't know why I stay up so late. I just regret it the next day lol
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Ladies hello! I keep just not finding time to reply. So sorry.
Claire, what a rollercoaster you are on at the moment. I'm so sorry life is throwing all this at you. I really hope things start to get easier and I'm glad Darcey is on the mend.
Dreamer, life's not being kind to you either. Hope you start to feel better about stuff too.
Stranj - Amber has just 10 days of being unwell. She lost her appetite almost completely and then started with diarrhoea 3 days later. I was changing her 5-6 timmes a day. My days were filled with cleaning, washing and disinfecting. Thankfully her appetite has returned today and she has only had one pooey nappy. I hope Giada is on the mend. I think Amber's was a bug.
Hello to everyone else. I think I would like to TTC at the end of the year but there are lots of BUTS!! Need to sure I want another (although I think I do), I need to convince my DH and also I was put on anti-depressants for PND and GP wants me to be on them a year before reducing. That would mean June before I could TTC. If we do decide on number 2 I dont want to wait that long. Does anyone have any experience re: being on anti-depressants when TTC/pregnant?
I go back to work in November I know lots of you have been back for ages but I am dreading it. My team has changed massively while I have been off and everyone is really unhappy with the management and workload. Right now I would give anything to be a SAHM!
Right best go find Amber, she has been napping for ages! xx
Claire, what a rollercoaster you are on at the moment. I'm so sorry life is throwing all this at you. I really hope things start to get easier and I'm glad Darcey is on the mend.
Dreamer, life's not being kind to you either. Hope you start to feel better about stuff too.
Stranj - Amber has just 10 days of being unwell. She lost her appetite almost completely and then started with diarrhoea 3 days later. I was changing her 5-6 timmes a day. My days were filled with cleaning, washing and disinfecting. Thankfully her appetite has returned today and she has only had one pooey nappy. I hope Giada is on the mend. I think Amber's was a bug.
Hello to everyone else. I think I would like to TTC at the end of the year but there are lots of BUTS!! Need to sure I want another (although I think I do), I need to convince my DH and also I was put on anti-depressants for PND and GP wants me to be on them a year before reducing. That would mean June before I could TTC. If we do decide on number 2 I dont want to wait that long. Does anyone have any experience re: being on anti-depressants when TTC/pregnant?
I go back to work in November
I know lots of you have been back for ages but I am dreading it. My team has changed massively while I have been off and everyone is really unhappy with the management and workload. Right now I would give anything to be a SAHM!Right best go find Amber, she has been napping for ages! xx
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Hey ladies!
So sorry i haven't been around for a while,, i thought this thread hadnt been updated lately as haven't received any notifications!
Looks like i've missed loads!!
Will try and catch up when i can, not getting on here much now.
Callum is doing well, he's been on solids since 4 months as milk just isn't enough for him.
He has lunch and dinner every day, been using the jars of baby food and will hopefully be progressing to our food end of the month - he gagged loads last time i tried him.
He now weighs 20lbs 3ozs, our little chunky monkey!
How is everyone?
So sorry i haven't been around for a while,, i thought this thread hadnt been updated lately as haven't received any notifications!
Looks like i've missed loads!!
Will try and catch up when i can, not getting on here much now.
Callum is doing well, he's been on solids since 4 months as milk just isn't enough for him.
He has lunch and dinner every day, been using the jars of baby food and will hopefully be progressing to our food end of the month - he gagged loads last time i tried him.
He now weighs 20lbs 3ozs, our little chunky monkey!
How is everyone?
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Claire, so sorry to hear that Darcey was so sick. Glad to know she is doing much better though. Hope everything else is going ok for you!
Trixie, poor Conor! Sorry he's having such a rough time with his poo's. I hope he's doing much better now.
Dreamer, I hope Erin has been letting you sleep lately. Good to hear the party went ok and there wasn't a whole lot of tension there. I'm sure with time, things will feel less awkward between y'all.
Fizzio, good to hear from you! Glad to hear you and Amber are doing well. I've not got any experience with anti-depressants and pregnancy, but maybe you could research online with the prescription you take and see if it's safe to take whilst pregnant. I think there are some that are safer than others. Good luck with going back to work. I will say (since I've been back at work since May), that it does get easier with time, even though you will always miss being away.
Baby2310, good to hear from you as well. And good to hear Callum is growing like a weed! Jack also weighed 20 lbs at 6 months. He now weights 23 at 8 months and he is a chunk! But I think chubby babies are precious!!!
Not much to report here. Just gearing up for a busy weekend. Going to the Mississippi State football game Saturday (we go every home game, since we have season tix), but I am an Ole Miss fan....I know most of you prob don't know anything about the college teams in the south since I'm the only one here that is from the south US, but just thought I'd throw that out there, because I can never admit that I am a Mississippi State fan!! Haha! But my hubs is, so we go to all the games. And then maybe Sunday, we'll go to the pumpkin patch with Jack and let him pick out a pumpkin for Halloween. I may have already asked this, but do any of you know what you are going to dress your LOs up as for Halloween? I am having such a hard time finding Jack a costume I like that is cute, but not too girly!
Hope everyone else is well......
Oh, and check out my new avatar....it's one from our photo session we had last week. He looks like such a big boy!!
Trixie, poor Conor! Sorry he's having such a rough time with his poo's. I hope he's doing much better now.
Dreamer, I hope Erin has been letting you sleep lately. Good to hear the party went ok and there wasn't a whole lot of tension there. I'm sure with time, things will feel less awkward between y'all.
Fizzio, good to hear from you! Glad to hear you and Amber are doing well. I've not got any experience with anti-depressants and pregnancy, but maybe you could research online with the prescription you take and see if it's safe to take whilst pregnant. I think there are some that are safer than others. Good luck with going back to work. I will say (since I've been back at work since May), that it does get easier with time, even though you will always miss being away.
Baby2310, good to hear from you as well. And good to hear Callum is growing like a weed! Jack also weighed 20 lbs at 6 months. He now weights 23 at 8 months and he is a chunk! But I think chubby babies are precious!!!
Not much to report here. Just gearing up for a busy weekend. Going to the Mississippi State football game Saturday (we go every home game, since we have season tix), but I am an Ole Miss fan....I know most of you prob don't know anything about the college teams in the south since I'm the only one here that is from the south US, but just thought I'd throw that out there, because I can never admit that I am a Mississippi State fan!! Haha! But my hubs is, so we go to all the games. And then maybe Sunday, we'll go to the pumpkin patch with Jack and let him pick out a pumpkin for Halloween. I may have already asked this, but do any of you know what you are going to dress your LOs up as for Halloween? I am having such a hard time finding Jack a costume I like that is cute, but not too girly!
Hope everyone else is well......
Oh, and check out my new avatar....it's one from our photo session we had last week. He looks like such a big boy!!
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Hi Everyone!
Trixie, I PM'd hispirits but I hope I got the link right...I am horrible with these things lol! How is Conor? Have you found anything that helps with the constipation? Giada is screaming every time she went to the bathroom today and she went 3 times- not a lot, but a little and the first time a hard poop came out so I thought she was constipated. However the next two times it wasn't hard, but just very very thick and sticky. But why would that make her cry? She still has some diaper rash btu it is better and she never cried before with it? Any thoughts? Oh also, you had spd right? I don't know if I had it but I had really bad pain down my bikini line. Is yours totally better. Mine is mostly better, but it still hurts when I stretch that area and then it continues to hurt. Does it just take a while to go away?
LadyL- hope you have a great time at the game! Do you take Jack with you? Love the new pic!! He looks so grown up!!! It looks like he has s ton of hair! I think we are going ot dress Giada as an octopus. THanks for reminding me because I need to order the outfit right now! They had a cute lobster one online that looked kinda boyish. I can't remember the other ones as I was looking at the ones for girls. I agree a lot of them looked girlie. HOpe you find something good!
Fizzio I am not sure about hte anti depressants, and I agree with Lady that you could research it online. Another thing you could do if you wanted to is start now with natural treatments rather than waiting til you stop the medication - such as yoga, natural supplements that are safe when ttc (like the b vitamins) meditation etc. That way you will feel like you have control over the situation when you do stop taking it. Glad you are thinking of ttc! We are still wavering.
baby2310, so good to hear from you and Callum is so handsome! GLad you are well!
So an update on the black thing I found in the formula. I called the company and they were very nice. They apologized and are reimbursing me, SHe said not to use that can but that what it sounded like was burned formula. SHe said sometimes the formula gets scorched and they try to filter it out but sometimes it doesn't get filtered out. SHe checked and there were not other complaints about that batch. I switched giada to soy and he diarrhea stopped within 12 hours. I saw the dr and he said it could be anything and if she doesn't seem sick in any other way then I didn't really need to do anything as their bodies figure it out within about 2 weeks. He said it could be from anything, teething, change in hormones, little virus, food etc and it can just take their stomaches a while to adjust. He also said her rash did look a little yeasty, and I had already been putting an over the counter antifungal on it, but she still has it. It has improved but has not disappeared. Plus today she cried every time she pooped and I don't know why. Maybe the rash? But it never bothered her before and it was so much worse. I don't know, it's always something! She weighed just under 29 pounds yikes!!!! And she was 31 inches. She is a BIG baby!!! She stood up in her crib yesterday and tried to throw herself out. THank goodness I was right there!! So now we lowered it and it is ok.
HOpe everyone else is well!!
Trixie, I PM'd hispirits but I hope I got the link right...I am horrible with these things lol! How is Conor? Have you found anything that helps with the constipation? Giada is screaming every time she went to the bathroom today and she went 3 times- not a lot, but a little and the first time a hard poop came out so I thought she was constipated. However the next two times it wasn't hard, but just very very thick and sticky. But why would that make her cry? She still has some diaper rash btu it is better and she never cried before with it? Any thoughts? Oh also, you had spd right? I don't know if I had it but I had really bad pain down my bikini line. Is yours totally better. Mine is mostly better, but it still hurts when I stretch that area and then it continues to hurt. Does it just take a while to go away?
LadyL- hope you have a great time at the game! Do you take Jack with you? Love the new pic!! He looks so grown up!!! It looks like he has s ton of hair! I think we are going ot dress Giada as an octopus. THanks for reminding me because I need to order the outfit right now! They had a cute lobster one online that looked kinda boyish. I can't remember the other ones as I was looking at the ones for girls. I agree a lot of them looked girlie. HOpe you find something good!
Fizzio I am not sure about hte anti depressants, and I agree with Lady that you could research it online. Another thing you could do if you wanted to is start now with natural treatments rather than waiting til you stop the medication - such as yoga, natural supplements that are safe when ttc (like the b vitamins) meditation etc. That way you will feel like you have control over the situation when you do stop taking it. Glad you are thinking of ttc! We are still wavering.
baby2310, so good to hear from you and Callum is so handsome! GLad you are well!
So an update on the black thing I found in the formula. I called the company and they were very nice. They apologized and are reimbursing me, SHe said not to use that can but that what it sounded like was burned formula. SHe said sometimes the formula gets scorched and they try to filter it out but sometimes it doesn't get filtered out. SHe checked and there were not other complaints about that batch. I switched giada to soy and he diarrhea stopped within 12 hours. I saw the dr and he said it could be anything and if she doesn't seem sick in any other way then I didn't really need to do anything as their bodies figure it out within about 2 weeks. He said it could be from anything, teething, change in hormones, little virus, food etc and it can just take their stomaches a while to adjust. He also said her rash did look a little yeasty, and I had already been putting an over the counter antifungal on it, but she still has it. It has improved but has not disappeared. Plus today she cried every time she pooped and I don't know why. Maybe the rash? But it never bothered her before and it was so much worse. I don't know, it's always something! She weighed just under 29 pounds yikes!!!! And she was 31 inches. She is a BIG baby!!! She stood up in her crib yesterday and tried to throw herself out. THank goodness I was right there!! So now we lowered it and it is ok.
HOpe everyone else is well!!
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Hello all my old CBFM pals!
i can't believe it seems like only a while ago we we're talking about cbfm test sticks and bbt etc etc now its all baby food and teething, oh and poop!
I'm pleased i've found you all, i've joined a few threads in first trimester but didn't settle into any of them.
Its lovely all you guys have stuck together!
i can't believe it seems like only a while ago we we're talking about cbfm test sticks and bbt etc etc now its all baby food and teething, oh and poop!
I'm pleased i've found you all, i've joined a few threads in first trimester but didn't settle into any of them.
Its lovely all you guys have stuck together!
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