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Oh Claire I'm so sorry to hear that, what an &#+!?!-# how could he do that to you while pregnant and with a young baby. I can never understand affairs, especially long ones like that. Do you have good support around you? And don't apologise for telling us, puts my recent issues with friends into perspective. If you need to talk to us about anything we're all here for you. What will you do about living arrangements? I'm so sorry hun, massive hugs and try stay strong xxxx
 
Oh my gosh claire I am so sorry :hugs: I don't even know what to say, you must be crushed :( How are you holding up? You sound so much stronger than I could ever imagine anyone being at this point. Like dreamer said, do you have good support? I just cant believe he would do that to you now. I mean, I understand that things happen, but couldn't he have figured this out before you got pregnant??(not that you would give lo up for anything, but you think he would have thought about the future and had a discussion with you before ttc) And what kind of floozy has an affair with a guy who has a baby on the way??? I just don't understand and I am soo so sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure you've got strong and weak moments and that it will be a roller coaster for quite a while, but give yourself time to mourn and keep your head up high. We're all hear to listen when you need us :hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
I'm so sorry Claire .. Wat a prick. James did this to me too a couple of years ago for 4 months, I was devastated. Don't know how we worked it out but we did. Although I still have trust issues and that's hard to deal with.

I don't know why they do it? Must be a grass is greener thing in their heads! Obviously most realise it's not.

3years later and 4 babies I'm still not sure if we will make it??

Relationships are hard anyway without that crap. I'm sure everyone is saying to you that you will be fine without him, you know wat you WILL! I kind of wish I was stronger back then and broke it off for good but I'm a total walk over!! And I wouldn't have had my 4 beautiful angels!

Keep strong xxxx
 
So sorry to hear of this Claire.. we are all here for you if you need to vent ever.. what a twat.. hugs

Things are good here.. Bryce is 7.5 months old.. :)

Congrats Babies.. :)
 
Ah Claire your so strong... Keep your chin up! It's his loss. Xx
 
How's things Claire? Dreamer?

Conor no longer constipated after giving him the movicol! He pooped 9 times today!!!! Poor mite has a red bum!!!

Oh and did I say he is pulling to stand!! Clever boys legs will prob be bow shaped soon! He is soooo strong, he's only 8.5 months and don't think it will be too long till he is walking!
 
Ahh fab trixie clever boy! Erin still doesn't like to take her weight on her legs much so think she be a while before walking. Things are ok, I'm still feeling peeved at my friends and don't feel right towards them now. Feel like everything is always going to be judged. Still want to write a letter after mulling it over for a few days so I think I'm going to do that. I haven't spoke to my oh about it because I think it will make him feel awful, and that's hard as I normally talk to him about everything.

How are you doing Claire? You really do sound strong, and its definitely his loss on both you and not being able to spend so much time with darcey

Hope everyone else is ok xx
 
You DO sound strong Claire. I hope you are taking good care of yourself. It WILL be his loss in time to come. He will have to live with the guilt and he will realize very soon, if he hasn't already, how stupid this other girl is. A lot changes when the secret is found out and things usually turn bad fairly quickly. He'll get what he deserves as in the future you can sleep with yourself at night knowing you never did anything wrong where he will have guilt forever, but gosh it's so painful in the beginning :( Whenever you get really down, look at the big picture and see yourself in the future- feeling good and being in a relationship where you have no suspicions. Hope you are feeling as ok as possible :hugs: Keep us updated.

Trixie sorry you had to go through it in the past too :hugs: Glad you worked things out. That takes a ton of strength too, and you have every reason to have trust issues. I remember telling dh when we first got serious "don't ever lie to me because I will never trust again" He did lie to me and I still haven't forgotten...and it was 3 years ago. I don't think I'll ever forget or ever let it go. He doesn't get it because he came clean and it really had nothing to do with me like cheating or anything, but a lie is a lie. How can you trust when someone has lied? I wish I could let it go, but sometimes I feel it is better if i don't. It keeps me on my toes. I will say though that I was not very nice in a past relationship(my first one) when I was younger and I will never forgive myself for that. At least now I know that no matter what happens I am doing everything right in my current relationship (and have ever since my first one) and it's a good feeling to know that no matter what happens I have been a good person and that is all I can control. Sorry I went off on my own tangent there! Anyway, I'm glad you and oh worked things out and I hope he puts a ring on your finger soon!!!!!!! That is great that conor is starting to pull himself up! I'm not sure if giada is quite there yet. She will stand for a little bit but then she lets her legs go so I have to keep my hands under her arms to catch her.

Dreamer how are you doing? Have you written a note to your friends? It sounds like you aren't feeling settled with things without saying anything to them. I hope they react well if you say something! Either way it sounds like you will feel better getting it off your chest!

Poor Giada still has diarrhea :( If it is from teething, how long can it last? I have a hard time thinking she got sick since we are never really out with her- but now that she is crawling she is licking the floor quite often :wacko: She has slept well the past two nights, but tonight she woke about an hour after she went to bed. She fell back asleep after I picked her up, but this is how she acted with her last teeth. I havne't felt anything yet though and it's been 4 days that she has diarrhea. Hope it ends soon!

How is everyone else?
 
Oh god diarrhoea sucks!! Mind you anything is better than being constipated! Conor had that chest and cold and now his 5 th tooth has cut and the 6 th is on his way!!! Must be the teething they all react to it in some way! Conor eats off the floor !!! Nightmare I can't keep him clean!!!

Mind you the sleeping is getting better we maybe get one bad nite a week ,, I won't count my chickens yet though!!

Hope everyone is well??
Thinking of you Claire.. Hope your ok??
Dreamer did you write a letter?
Tobaira how are your girls?
Lady hope jack is well??
Babies? Lilmisscheer? Baby?

Hispirits seems to be doing well too!
 
Things are well here.. we decided to wtt for now.. my body is acting a bit weird.. I have been using my cbfm to see how things have been falling.. used it for the last 6 months.. this last month, which is 7 i didnt get a peak.. after getting one every cycle.. just highs, and now so far this month 8 i havent gotten a high yet.. im on cd14.. usually ovualted cd18-19... so not getting whats going on.. even when i first started i got a peak month 1 before my son..

But besides that were all well.. same old.. nothing new for now.. its getting colder out and im not looking forward to it.. burr i will miss summer..
 
I know trixie, giada is SO dirty by the end of the day. I try to keep the floor clean but it's hard in the kitchen as water drops and then we step on it and the floor gets dirty and then she crawls in. She is driving me crazy!! She won't stay still, she is all over the place when changing her (just great when she has diarrhea) and when she eats she constantly grabs the spoon and gets food all over herself and everything. I feel like she doesn't relax for a minute! Her diarrhea is a little better today. She didnt have a poopy diaper this morning and she went about 5-6 times today which is an improvement. Unfotunately she went in her swing so I had to take it all apart to wash it. Never a dull moment!

Lilrojo- I didn't get any highs the month I got pregnant. You may have had an odd cycle last month and now the machine is thrown off. We are still melting here in the heat (I know, we can't complain here in california, but for us it's hot!!) we are so looking forward to fall weather!!

Hope everyone is doing ok!
 
liljojo so good to hear from you.....stranje may be right the cbfm could just be thrown of by your previous cycle. i mite actually start using mine again next month....as a form of contraception!!!!!!!

i started xmas shopping today....i got conor so far.....

his stocking green with a big snowman on it!
a book for learning some basic word...a touch and feel one..
a wodden pull along train soooo cute out of m&s!
and a bee car....considering he is obsessed with the bee movie!
and toys for the bath...
thinking of getting a trike or sit on car thingy.....any suggestions???
 
Maybe a play table dont know what they have where you are.. guess i dont know where you are lol.. but one you can stand at to play.. my daughter loved hers.. and im thinking bryce will like the same sort.. or something with a mirror he look at himself.. noisy toys they all seem to love but not so much us.. :)

Thanks Trixie and Stanje.. not sure whats up.. hope so.. so far this month i havent had a hight either though cd 15 today.. normal o day is cd18 so we will see.. maybe it will go straight to peak.. wait it out..
 
hugs claire.. so sorry your having to go through this..
 
I'm in Ireland lol!! Never thought of a table... Mind you he is pulling himself up on the furniture today at this rate he will be walking by next week!!!

Glad your ok Claire we are all thinking of you .... Keep strong and rem wat he did to you. You will get through it. I always worry that James will do it again to me and the fact that he isn't interested in marrying me yet scares me but I love him and that's that!! He is good to me and proved that he loves me after wat he did.. In fact he spent a long time making it up to me. But even now I still have niggley doubts!
But you know wat I don't think we can fully trust a man, they have an inbred wandering eye.... But James knows that if he did it again that would be it... Over ! I guess back then I believed in giving a second chance but if he had done it for 14 months I'd be out for blood!
 
I have written a letter but its ended to being 2 a4 pages long. I'm still undecided whether to give it to then or not. Is it looking over defensive by writing such a big letter trying to explain it all, will they see it as over the top and trying too hard to justify things. I overthink things way too much.

My pc won't allow me to access bnb, the pages just don't load so I'm reading everything on my phone but it takes an age to type much.

Had some fab news today, received a letter from work saying they agree to a change in my t&c and I'm allowed to do 4 days a week from my mat leave end date. Great but kind of scary too, its a permanent change and a permanent salary reduction. I'd worked hard to get to a good salary now its a fifth less eek. But so worth it to be at home with Erin for an extra day.

Claire can I ask what's the picture of them, kissing or something? I can't believe hes tried to turn it around on you and she's making out your nuts. Argh makes me so annoyed for you.

Trix that's very organised on Xmas pressies. I've not bought anything for Erin yet, but have started buying 1 or 2 bits with each shop I do for an 'xmas box' I've got in the attic (so we don't eat anything yet lol). We had her next photo shoot today and got some gorgeous ones in her Xmas dress and in her winter hats hehe. Can't wait to see them all in about a week!

Hope your cycles settle out soon lilrojo like the girls said its probably a bit thrown out. Have you looked at the sticks?
 
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