Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Godsjewel]

I'm out this month, but doing good

Came across this and thought it was kinda funny....


Let me give you some advice for the next time you talk to your BFF who is struggling with infertility.* Please enjoy the below as a fun, light-hearted (ok, maybe tongue-in-cheek!)*way of helping you understand what NOT to say!

The 10 Worst Things You Can Say to Your Infertile BFF
*
10.* Gee.* I just think about getting pregnant and BAM!* (Wow.* Thanks for the update on YOUR fertility.* Sorry…I thought we were talking about MY infertility.* My bad!)

9.* You’re so lucky.* You don’t know how hard it is to [fill in inappropriate comment like “change diapers,” “never sleep,” “buy clothes all the time,” here].* (You’re right.* I don’t know.* Thanks for that loving reminder.)

8.* Maybe you’re just not supposed to have kids… (Hello?* Was there a secret early morning “Qualifying Mom Exam” that I did not know about?* I hate it when I oversleep!)

7.* How is getting pregnant coming along?* (Hmm.* Kinda thought that I could only be one of two things:* pregnant, or not pregnant.** Since I haven’t mentioned it to you, dear BFF, assume the latter.* Were you worried that I might not know the basics of how to “get” pregnant?* Was that it?)

6. *So-and-so tried for 10 years to get pregnant.* Finally, when she gave up, it happened.* (That’s great for so-and-so.* What does her body have to do with mine, anyway?* Oh.* She has the secret sauce ingredient to “getting” pregnant, does she?* Hmm…she does have a lot of cute new purses.* I haven’t tried buying purses yet….maybe I should try that?* Any excuse to shop!)

5. *I know this person who took [fill in name of random vitamin here], and she got pregnant just like that!* (So, when I told you that I couldn’t even go to McDonald’s with you for, like, 5 years because we couldn’t afford anything but the reproductive specialists, drugs, tests, and treatments, you had this gem of an idea hanging around that whole time and didn’t share it?)

4.* I know exactly how you feel.* (Really?* Like the time when I really felt like I wanted a mocha with all of the fat, including extra whipped cream, but you got me a skinny latte?* Like that?)

3.* You know, I heard about this couple that adopted.* As soon as they got that baby home, they were pregnant!* (Statistically, I am pretty sure that happens in less than 1% of couples who adopt….but I was never that great at math.* Maybe it was 100%?)

2.* Everything will happen when it is supposed to happen.* (True.* But the waiting…it’s not easy.* Kinda like when you order some cool new thing from Amazon and forget to ship it 2 day.* It can be agonizing!)

1.* Just relax.* It will happen when you’re not trying.* (Yes.* I agree.* I lost 40 pounds when I relaxed and stopped trying.** The house magically started to clean itself when I stopped trying.* Dishes wash themselves now that I have stopped trying.** It’s pure bliss.* Thanks for the great advice!* Let’s do this again really soon!)
*
What SHOULD you say?**How about, “I have no idea what to say.”
What SHOULD you do?**Be a shoulder to cry on, an open ear to listen, and mouth that offers no opinion (how refreshing!), as we have too many of those coming at us already on this topic!

 

[xxx_faithful]

I'm out this month, but doing good

Came across this and thought it was kinda funny....


Let me give you some advice for the next time you talk to your BFF who is struggling with infertility.* Please enjoy the below as a fun, light-hearted (ok, maybe tongue-in-cheek!)*way of helping you understand what NOT to say!

The 10 Worst Things You Can Say to Your Infertile BFF
*
10.* Gee.* I just think about getting pregnant and BAM!* (Wow.* Thanks for the update on YOUR fertility.* Sorry…I thought we were talking about MY infertility.* My bad!)

9.* You’re so lucky.* You don’t know how hard it is to [fill in inappropriate comment like “change diapers,” “never sleep,” “buy clothes all the time,” here].* (You’re right.* I don’t know.* Thanks for that loving reminder.)

8.* Maybe you’re just not supposed to have kids… (Hello?* Was there a secret early morning “Qualifying Mom Exam” that I did not know about?* I hate it when I oversleep!)

7.* How is getting pregnant coming along?* (Hmm.* Kinda thought that I could only be one of two things:* pregnant, or not pregnant.** Since I haven’t mentioned it to you, dear BFF, assume the latter.* Were you worried that I might not know the basics of how to “get” pregnant?* Was that it?)

6. *So-and-so tried for 10 years to get pregnant.* Finally, when she gave up, it happened.* (That’s great for so-and-so.* What does her body have to do with mine, anyway?* Oh.* She has the secret sauce ingredient to “getting” pregnant, does she?* Hmm…she does have a lot of cute new purses.* I haven’t tried buying purses yet….maybe I should try that?* Any excuse to shop!)

5. *I know this person who took [fill in name of random vitamin here], and she got pregnant just like that!* (So, when I told you that I couldn’t even go to McDonald’s with you for, like, 5 years because we couldn’t afford anything but the reproductive specialists, drugs, tests, and treatments, you had this gem of an idea hanging around that whole time and didn’t share it?)

4.* I know exactly how you feel.* (Really?* Like the time when I really felt like I wanted a mocha with all of the fat, including extra whipped cream, but you got me a skinny latte?* Like that?)

3.* You know, I heard about this couple that adopted.* As soon as they got that baby home, they were pregnant!* (Statistically, I am pretty sure that happens in less than 1% of couples who adopt….but I was never that great at math.* Maybe it was 100%?)

2.* Everything will happen when it is supposed to happen.* (True.* But the waiting…it’s not easy.* Kinda like when you order some cool new thing from Amazon and forget to ship it 2 day.* It can be agonizing!)

1.* Just relax.* It will happen when you’re not trying.* (Yes.* I agree.* I lost 40 pounds when I relaxed and stopped trying.** The house magically started to clean itself when I stopped trying.* Dishes wash themselves now that I have stopped trying.** It’s pure bliss.* Thanks for the great advice!* Let’s do this again really soon!)
*
What SHOULD you say?**How about, “I have no idea what to say.”
What SHOULD you do?**Be a shoulder to cry on, an open ear to listen, and mouth that offers no opinion (how refreshing!), as we have too many of those coming at us already on this topic!

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAhahahahaha oh sarah this was too funny. I can relate to each and every comment! Aren't friends lovely when they try and help? This is a reminder for everyone that there's never a perfect thing to say, and if you dont know what to say, silence and a hug goes a LONG way!

 

[stevens2010]

Lol, I've had a few of those said to me! :wall:

The worst for me is being told not to stress "cos it can affect getting pregnant don't you know?" ARGH!! I'm not stressed!

 

[Just_married]

Most often it's 'relax'. That's weird since I've been described by most of my friends and family as the most laid back person they know. Just listen please, and hug and say 'I hope your time comes soon cos it must be hard to wait so long'.

Thanks for sharing jewel xxx

 

[beckysprayer]

Happy Monday to all my sweet Sisters!! I wanted to share this with you


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Have a blessed day!!

haha I love this! So much truth in it!

 

[beckysprayer]

So I am 4/5 days late with no sign of AF coming. I've never had a cycle this long and I'm dying to test, but we have guests visiting and staying at our house this week and I don't want to test while they are here (too weird!). I can hardly wait until Sunday or Monday to take a test after they leave and I hope I'm not disappointed. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but that's proving easier said than done. I've never had a cycle this long before and I know about when I Oed because of the positive OPK so I know when AF should have been here. AF always comes 13 or 14 days after the positive OPK and she's no where to be found. I'm on CD35 and my next longest cycle was 30 days and that was a few years ago, usually it's 26-28 days long. Ahhhh! I'm praying this is the month and if it isn't that AF comes along.

Cautiously getting excited...

 

[tulip11]

hi
my average cycle is 28-30 days...but today is CD43 no af...n got BFN on CD37-38 N 43 ...on CD23 I had v lil brownish spotting for few hours then there was nothing so I thought that cud be IB.on CD34 had whitish thick CM ..but today again on CD43 I am having lil brownish spotting...so could it be implantation bleeding again ?

 

[Shellvz]

hi
my average cycle is 28-30 days...but today is CD43 no af...n got BFN on CD37-38 N 43 ...on CD23 I had v lil brownish spotting for few hours then there was nothing so I thought that cud be IB.on CD34 had whitish thick CM ..but today again on CD43 I am having lil brownish spotting...so could it be implantation bleeding again ?

Have you had blood test at Dr?

 

[tulip11]

hi
my average cycle is 28-30 days...but today is CD43 no af...n got BFN on CD37-38 N 43 ...on CD23 I had v lil brownish spotting for few hours then there was nothing so I thought that cud be IB.on CD34 had whitish thick CM ..but today again on CD43 I am having lil brownish spotting...so could it be implantation bleeding again ?

Have you had blood test at Dr?

no sis today I had intention to take appointment but when I observed brown spotting so I left that n bcm disappointed

 

[Shellvz]

hi
my average cycle is 28-30 days...but today is CD43 no af...n got BFN on CD37-38 N 43 ...on CD23 I had v lil brownish spotting for few hours then there was nothing so I thought that cud be IB.on CD34 had whitish thick CM ..but today again on CD43 I am having lil brownish spotting...so could it be implantation bleeding again ?

Have you had blood test at Dr?

no sis today I had intention to take appointment but when I observed brown spotting so I left that n bcm disappointed

I would suggest getting a blood test to check HCG levels. You may be pregnant and the home tests are not picking it up yet. You may not be pregnant too so it would be good for the Dr to see what is going on.

It shouldn't be implantation bleeding again at CD 43...

Go to the Dr - then you will have some answers

 

[Godsjewel]

So I am 4/5 days late with no sign of AF coming. I've never had a cycle this long and I'm dying to test, but we have guests visiting and staying at our house this week and I don't want to test while they are here (too weird!). I can hardly wait until Sunday or Monday to take a test after they leave and I hope I'm not disappointed. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but that's proving easier said than done. I've never had a cycle this long before and I know about when I Oed because of the positive OPK so I know when AF should have been here. AF always comes 13 or 14 days after the positive OPK and she's no where to be found. I'm on CD35 and my next longest cycle was 30 days and that was a few years ago, usually it's 26-28 days long. Ahhhh! I'm praying this is the month and if it isn't that AF comes along.

Cautiously getting excited...

I'm praying for ya sis, I would love to hear good news from u soon

 

[Godsjewel]

Has anyone ever tried juicing? I've been through enough meds and want to try something natural. I just bought a juicer and a book called The Juicing Bible it has recipes for endometriosis, infertility and all sorts of other stuff. I thought why not, it will help me get in shape and possible help with fertility, that's a great combo. Plus hubby is going to do it with me, we are going to do a 10 day juicing fast for our spiritual and physical health. I am looking forward to seeing the benefits from it. We got inspired from my in-laws who told us to watch a documentary on Netflix called Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead. It's about a man who has this rare disease and figured that by juicing all natural stuff, that he may be able to heal the inside of his body. He was on the fast for 60 days and when he started he weighed about 320lbs I believe and was on around 13 medications. After the fast he lost around 90 lbs and is off all meds. You can look it up online and watch it there as well I believe. Just something else to help us along this journey.

 

[xxx_faithful]

Has anyone ever tried juicing? I've been through enough meds and want to try something natural. I just bought a juicer and a book called The Juicing Bible it has recipes for endometriosis, infertility and all sorts of other stuff. I thought why not, it will help me get in shape and possible help with fertility, that's a great combo. Plus hubby is going to do it with me, we are going to do a 10 day juicing fast for our spiritual and physical health. I am looking forward to seeing the benefits from it. We got inspired from my in-laws who told us to watch a documentary on Netflix called Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead. It's about a man who has this rare disease and figured that by juicing all natural stuff, that he may be able to heal the inside of his body. He was on the fast for 60 days and when he started he weighed about 320lbs I believe and was on around 13 medications. After the fast he lost around 90 lbs and is off all meds. You can look it up online and watch it there as well I believe. Just something else to help us along this journey.

Having studied Nutritional Medicine i must say juicing according to textbooks has remarkable results!! It improves vitality, clears the lymphatic system, removes toxins, loosens fat stores and restores balance emotionaly. I have NO DOUBT that you also could be medication free by juicing. I highly encourage it! keep in mind those superfoods for juicing! they are miracle wonders.

While we're talking about health and nutritious drinks, i happen to make a potent fertility drink every morning lol.

1 t maca powder
1 t chia seeds
1/2 cup frozen berries
1 frozen banana
1 scoop protein powder
1/2 lactose free milk
1/2 ice cubes

and then i either dehydrate fruit as snacks or cook receipes from my 'raw food' cookbook.

Love sharing different ways woman stay healthy! we could all do with a bit of sharing and swapping of what works for us all

Thanks for sharing Sar!!

 

[Godsjewel]

The crowd rose up together against them, and the chief magistrates tore their robes off them and proceeded to order them to be beaten with rods. When they had struck them with many blows, they threw them into prison, commanding the jailer to guard them securely; and he, having received such a command, threw them into the inner prison and fastened their feet in the stocks.

But about midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns of praise to God, and the prisoners were listening to them; and suddenly there came a great earthquake, so that the foundations of the prison house were shaken; and immediately all the doors were opened and everyone’s chains were unfastened. When the jailer awoke and saw the prison doors opened, he drew his sword and was about to kill himself, supposing that the prisoners had escaped. But Paul cried out with a loud voice, saying, “Do not harm yourself, for we are all here!” And he called for lights and rushed in, and trembling with fear he fell down before Paul and Silas, and after he brought them out, he said, “Sirs, what must I do to be saved?”

Paul and Silas definitely understood what it meant to suffer. In this account of their lives and ministry, we see them being beaten and thrown in prison because Paul cast out a spirit of divination from a young girl. They were on a missionary journey, doing the work God called them to do, yet they were beaten and wrongly imprisoned. They had carried the gospel all over the nations long before motor vehicles and air travel. Miles and miles on foot and donkey. Rickety ships and shipwrecks. All of this to wind up imprisoned for doing the work of God? Perhaps some of their greatest work was to be accomplished in the dark confines of a prison cell.

Envision the scene. Two men, badly beaten with chains around their feet. Blood splashed on the walls as they fell to the ground with a sickening thud. Fellow prisoners may have expected them to die before morning light. At first, the only sounds that could be heard was that of labored breathing and pitiful groaning. But then came the song!
Maybe Paul sang while Silas prayed. Even if they couldn’t carry a tune, their hymns of praise had to be beautiful music to the ears of God. Praising God through physical pain and mistreatment. Praying to the God who didn’t stop them from being thrown into a prison cell. What an unnatural reaction to their situation!

Infertility can feel so much like a prison, and can certainly feel like a wrongful imprisonment. You know you’d be a good mother. Why are you bound to childlessness? What is your reaction? Infertility takes many choices away from you. Choices of when to have children, how many children to have. You go from planning how far apart you want your four children to be born, to just begging God for one child. Just one baby! How do you choose to respond when you find yourself in infertility’s prison one more month?

Paul and Silas prayed. They sang songs of worship. Amazing! It would have made a lot more sense for them to be angry and lash out at their captors. They could have told all the other prisoners how they did nothing wrong. Instead they prayed and worshipped--and other people were listening. But about midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns of praise to God, and the prisoners were listening to them...

Can you imagine what the other prisoners must have thought? When Paul and Silas prayed and worshipped throughout this dark night, their lives became a testimony to the reality of God. If you will choose to worship God throughout the darkness of infertility, your life will scream out to the goodness of God, even in times when you hurt and don’t understand God’s plan. And believe me, friend, others are listening.

Praise and worship brought about an earthquake that literally destroyed the prison that help Paul and Silas captive. Prisoners were set free and a guard gave his heart to Jesus. Amazing things happened because of worship through struggles. Amazing things can happen in your life if you will worship God through your experience with infertility. Others will see and their lives will change. You may just find the prison of childlessness crumble as you lift your worship and prayer to God Almighty!

 

[Godsjewel]

Has anyone ever tried juicing? I've been through enough meds and want to try something natural. I just bought a juicer and a book called The Juicing Bible it has recipes for endometriosis, infertility and all sorts of other stuff. I thought why not, it will help me get in shape and possible help with fertility, that's a great combo. Plus hubby is going to do it with me, we are going to do a 10 day juicing fast for our spiritual and physical health. I am looking forward to seeing the benefits from it. We got inspired from my in-laws who told us to watch a documentary on Netflix called Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead. It's about a man who has this rare disease and figured that by juicing all natural stuff, that he may be able to heal the inside of his body. He was on the fast for 60 days and when he started he weighed about 320lbs I believe and was on around 13 medications. After the fast he lost around 90 lbs and is off all meds. You can look it up online and watch it there as well I believe. Just something else to help us along this journey.

Having studied Nutritional Medicine i must say juicing according to textbooks has remarkable results!! It improves vitality, clears the lymphatic system, removes toxins, loosens fat stores and restores balance emotionaly. I have NO DOUBT that you also could be medication free by juicing. I highly encourage it! keep in mind those superfoods for juicing! they are miracle wonders.

While we're talking about health and nutritious drinks, i happen to make a potent fertility drink every morning lol.

1 t maca powder
1 t chia seeds
1/2 cup frozen berries
1 frozen banana
1 scoop protein powder
1/2 lactose free milk
1/2 ice cubes

and then i either dehydrate fruit as snacks or cook receipes from my 'raw food' cookbook.

Love sharing different ways woman stay healthy! we could all do with a bit of sharing and swapping of what works for us all

Thanks for sharing Sar!!

Awesome! Thanks Bec

Here are a couple recipes for fertility I found.

3 hard pears (firm and ripe)
1 Cantaloupe
1 Sweet Potato

and

2 Apples
1 Beets
1/2 cm long Ginger Root
2 Carrots
2 Celery

 

[BRK06]

I've always liked the story of Paul and Silas! How is your juicing going so far, Sarah? I'm going to have to try the recipies you and Becky have posted!

Becky and Tulip- Any test results?? Still praying for good news!

I hope you're all having a good Thursday... Almost the weekend! My sister in law and my two nieces have been here visiting since Sunday and we're all having a great time! Anybody have anything interesting going on this weekend?

 

[xxx_faithful]

BRK06 - Your a sweety! thanks for checking up on me i feel so special teehee. At first i was a little scared to write on here today(you will soon know why) but since you girls have been like breath to me, encouraging me with your stories, verses, quotes, sympathy and love. It wouldn’t feel right not to share with you! And well infact, I need your prayers. Some days I didn’t think I could make it through, one of you girls said the right thing, shared a link or simply made me feel like I wasn’t alone. You all are infact the only people that know - yep even my hubby doesn't know as of yet.

Last night my Acupuncturist reminded me with a text to go and test so she could recommend some chinese herbs to prevent a further m/c. I was sitting down staring at the stick, when normally if it's 1 line i would get up impatiently and pretend i never tested at all to prevent myself from getting down. But something told me to sit and wait. So i waited. And waited. And eventually I got my BFP! I lifted my head to God and praised him once again, walking out to the kitchen chirpy as my husband was making us g/f homemade pizza.

It was this time last year I first became pregnant. I didn’t know how long it would take for me to be pregnant again after I miscarried, oh how I begged and begged for this day to come again, but to be honest I am terrified to say the least. I am going to wait it out for another few weeks to have my 12 week scan.
I will tell my husband the good news soon but not just yet. I thought I would share with you a poem I wrote recently.

I love you all and may we never stop asking God for our inner most desires of our heart.

X

 

[xxx_faithful]

This short story was inspired by a baby book I was given and began to write in, though felt saddened of the thought of rubbing away what I had previously written in days of full anticipation and excitement. It felt like I would be erasing the only memories I had, erasing her as if she was never here at all and didn't matter. When the truth is, she was just as much of a person as you and I. With her tiny heartbeat that once beated inside my tummy, she will be remembered always.

My Short Story

After miscarrying at 10.5wks, to what would have been my first, it was important that we tried again for a baby pretty much straight away. After hesitantly listening to my sisters advice, "You need to respect your body with what it has just gone through. Show it love, give it time to heal." From those words alone I knew I had to painfully refocus my attention back on myself, and begin along the path of self-healing. Little did I know I began the path of self-discovery.

I tried everything from colonics to detoxes, eliminating diets to exchanging my much loved high impact cardio classes to gentle swimming, steam rooms and meditation. For the next several months it was as if I had went into my own hand made, self-inflicted man cave and only came up for air when I felt it was completely necessary. I refrained from seeing certain friends, mums with toddlers, babies, anyone that was remotely close to trying for one! I washed all my vegies with vinegar, took supplements to decrease copper toxicity from water pipes, and even went as far as seeing a psychologist to a spiritualist. You name it, I had tried it.

I would reminisce over and over each month how far along I would be, the size my belly would of been, when it would of begun to kick. Being around people would continually remind me of what I just went through, and if they didn’t ask me how I felt, I would soon remind them. I felt like it took 5 whole months of crying out to God, asking God, and back to crying out to God at why I had to go through this. It was as if I felt I had gone through so much in my life already God couldn't possibly allow anything more to happen to me. He knew I was a genuinely good person, went out of my way to help those in need, and spent my entire life from a child devoted to him. But at the end of the day I’ve learnt, it wasn’t if I deserved it or not, it wasn’t if I had done something wrong in his eyes, it wasn’t down to his love for me. But what he wanted me to learn .. what he wanted to show me.

After the tantrums, the tears, and the self-indulged pity, one thing I know for sure was God never and I mean never left my side. Right after the first initial ache in my abdomen, he placed an immense, an indescribable blanket of love that covered my entire body from the top of my head to the tip of my purple coloured toes. Never in my life have I felt so much of his love through the deepest of pain. It was un-denying that he loved me.

I remember lying on my back on the shower floor with boiling shower water beaming down on my stomach, which was by then the only thing that numbed the pain of my cervix bone feeling like it was breaking. Lying there whilst water began to rise up around me, I was oblivious to realise what was clogging the drain was that which was leaving my body.

To this day I don't know if I can say I fully understand the reasons for his ways or his un-willingness to interfere and save my potential loss. But what a very wise friend once said to me is, "Sometimes you won't always know at the time the reason why things happen, but just accept that one day you will."

God has shaped me, tested me, taught me, tried me, convicted me. He has comforted me, protected me, cleansed me, purified me, cherished me.

I stand here again before my father with a blessing in my womb. I do not know what the days will bring me, nor have I learnt that I want to. But if there's any way I should stand, is it’s through the strength, courage and comfort of the one that knows me best.
Our father is the creator of love. May we never doubt his love through the tears. His love is intangible, unchangeable, everlasting.

xxx_faithful

 

[Scottky]

xxx_faithful- CONGRATULATIONS!! I will be praying for a healthy pregnancy for you.

I have been hanging over in the starting clomid thread, I started a 50 mg dose yesterday. Please pray for me, I had a job interview today and go for another one on Monday. I am hoping that one of these will end in a job offer, I would really like to move into a full time job. Thanks in advance for your prayers

 

[Godsjewel]

BRK06 - Your a sweety! thanks for checking up on me i feel so special teehee. At first i was a little scared to write on here today(you will soon know why) but since you girls have been like breath to me, encouraging me with your stories, verses, quotes, sympathy and love. It wouldn’t feel right not to share with you! And well infact, I need your prayers. Some days I didn’t think I could make it through, one of you girls said the right thing, shared a link or simply made me feel like I wasn’t alone. You all are infact the only people that know - yep even my hubby doesn't know as of yet.

Last night my Acupuncturist reminded me with a text to go and test so she could recommend some chinese herbs to prevent a further m/c. I was sitting down staring at the stick, when normally if it's 1 line i would get up impatiently and pretend i never tested at all to prevent myself from getting down. But something told me to sit and wait. So i waited. And waited. And eventually I got my BFP! I lifted my head to God and praised him once again, walking out to the kitchen chirpy as my husband was making us g/f homemade pizza.

It was this time last year I first became pregnant. I didn’t know how long it would take for me to be pregnant again after I miscarried, oh how I begged and begged for this day to come again, but to be honest I am terrified to say the least. I am going to wait it out for another few weeks to have my 12 week scan.
I will tell my husband the good news soon but not just yet. I thought I would share with you a poem I wrote recently.

I love you all and may we never stop asking God for our inner most desires of our heart.

X

Woohoo Bec!!!!

I'm so extremely excited for you

May the Lord touch your womb and your new journey. I am looking forward to being another BnB auntie

Thank you Lord for your goodness and faithfulness and blessing my sister with her hearts desire.