Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[ProfWife]

No doubt - my father has heart issues, too. I know how scary it is. Praying for strength for all of you and wisdom for him.

 

[SuperwomanTTC]

Queen - I'm praying that you see 2 lines, a plus, or whatever means positive when The Lord leads you to test.

Kelley - I'm sorry you are still waiting. I'm praying for you. How long will you be in Ireland and Italy? Sounds like a wonderful trip in the making!

No Doubt - I'm praying for your family. May God bless your fil with a successful procedure and speedy recovery!


I have Psalm 56:3 on my heart to share from the God's Word translation...
Even when I am afraid, I still trust You.

When you know that The Lord is leading you, do not let the enemy talk you out of moving forward. Even if you are afraid, trust in God and go forth doing the Lord's will and work!

 

[Godsjewel]

Sarah- that is such exciting news! I feel like it's all happening so fast even though I know it's been such a long jouney. Can't wait to hear about the outcome!
I am here at 9 weeks since last period (I feel stupid saying 9 weeks pregnant) and still no miscarriage. I had a huge event for work on Friday and I was praying God would let me wait until after that to deal with all the physical symptoms. First thing on Saturday I woke up and told the Lord I was ready to let go and I willed my body to do what it is supposed to do so I can move on. Needless to say, it hasn't worked yet. When will I learn I have absolutely no control over anything?!
I distracted myself this weekend by researching for the trip we're taking this May to Ireland and Italy. Can't wait!

Hi sweetheart

I'm sorry this is taking awhile for you to go through this process, I pray that God continues to strengthen you day by day.

Wow, Ireland and Italy...you lucky girl! It's so funny, Taylor was telling me the other day that she wants to go to Ireland...lol! I would love to go to Europe someday, my old supervisor went there on her honeymoon and she said she had the best time.

 

[Godsjewel]

Kel, I'm so sorry you're still having to go through this. But I'm glad that you have a wonderful trip coming up to occupy yourself with. Sound like fun!

Queen and Pro, things look and sound positive for you both! Praying this is your bfp coming!

GJ, glad you are still feeling well with the meds and everything. Praying come test time...whenever that is, seeing how it's a secret...there is a beautiful bfp waiting for you!

AFM, my fil is still in the hospital waiting. They tried to do the surgery by going in through the groin and up to the heart, but it was too blocked so they had to cancel that option. Unfortunately they had to put on the table to see that, so he did have to be under for a little bit. After more review they found that one artery is 95% blocked and the other is 99% blocked. He is going to have to have open heart surgery, but they told him the artery that is 99% blocked they most likely won't be able to do anything with as it's basically just not even there anymore. The artery that's 95% blocked will have to have a stint put in. A panel of doctors are discussing today what the best option is to be taken and he will most likely have surgery tomorrow or Wednesday. They told him had he had that heart attack at home, he wouldn't have survived it. They also told him that he can't have another heart attack, cause he won't survive that one...period. I hope he really turns things around. He said he was going to change his diet, but when my mil was leaving the hospital he was telling her not to get rid of his sodas. Really!?!?!?! She said got rid of a bunch of stuff and replaced it with healthy things to eat and gave the soda to my bil. Please continue to keep him your prayers, and pray that he really does change his eating habits.

After reading this, all I could think about is how God can totally turn this situation around.

That's great that your MIL got rid of all the junk, he needs to know that you all love him and want him to have many more years here on earth and by changing his eating habits is the best way to do that. Plus he needs to change so he can be around for his grandchildren

I will continue to pray for him and your family.

 

[Godsjewel]

Did you ever see the amazing, yet gut-wrenching movie, The Passion of the Christ? If you did, I’m sure you won’t soon forget it. What an incredible way to make the story of Christ’s sacrifice for us come alive.

An interesting thing happened not too long after my family watched the movie. My sister and niece were watching a movie on television when my niece nonchalantly said “Look Mom. There’s Jesus.” My sister was totally confused. All she saw on the screen was some greasy-headed guy playing a murderer. My niece went on to explain that the dirty, sleazy murderer was actually Jim Caveziel, the actor who so beautifully played Jesus in The Passion of the Christ. The difference was the absence of the prosthetic nose, the colored contacts and the aramaic dialog. She just couldn’t see “Jesus” in him.

Do you realize you are under surveillance? Hopefully you’re not under investigation by the FBI or CIA, but you are being watched. People around you are watching. They are watching your life. What do they see?

Infertility is a struggle unlike no other. It affects every aspect of your life--your finances, your sex life, your marriage, your relationship with friends and family, your relationship with Jesus. There is no part of your life it does not touch. People around you watch to see how you handle a crisis. Some watch so they will know how to help. Some watch so they will know how to criticize. My question is this: Will they see Jesus in you?

Will they see unwavering reliance in God the Father? Will they see you telling others the way to Heaven? Will they see faith in storms?

If so, they’ll surely see Jesus in you.

But will they see gallons of tears and times of weeping? Will they see you pleading with God to make the hurt go away? Will they see you in agony?

If so, they’ll surely see Jesus in you in these times as well.

Don’t be afraid of tears and emotions. You are not failing God or showing a lack of faith if you hurt. Faith and feelings are two very different things, and Jesus was full of both.

Be aware that others will watch how you maintain your faith in God in the midst of this very difficult trial. You may never know it, but you may be the reason another infertile woman realizes she really can survive this time with her faith intact. This doesn’t mean that you never have moments of fear, times of frustration, or days when you simply refuse to go to another baby shower. However, when you somehow hold on to faith, even when you simply cannot see God’s hand in the design of this season of your life, God can--and will--use you and your struggle with infertility to reach others for the Kingdom of Heaven.

How will they see Jesus in you?

-Beth Forbus

 

[QueenKingfish]

Kelley - I am SO sorry you're still going through the waiting. You remain in my prayers! How exciting that you have a trip you can focus on!

No Doubt - Thanks for the update. What a blessing for your FIL to have such a supportive family going through all of this.


Had to have DH pray with me this morning before he left for work. I'm fairly sure AF is showing up - I spotted a bit. I know my mom spotted with me, but I'm trying not to hold onto hope, if I need to be moving on to the next cycle. I really am trying to rejoice today, but it's a trial. I forced myself to get out of bed and do some work and am REALLY trying to will myself into the bathroom to color my hair and shower.

I had a friend (who seems to get pregnant when her husband merely looks at her) once tell me, "Why be sad? You haven't lost anything." I wanted to yell at her that I've lost another month with our child, the feeling of excitement in seeing 2 pink lines, and the list goes on. I feel like the enemy puts that in my head every month to make me angry, and boy, does it work. The movie, "Facing the Giants" is ringing in my head again, where the wife is explaining the sting of infertility to her partner by asking, "How can I miss someone so much, who I've never met?"

In the name of Jesus Christ, I banish the spirits of fear, doubt and anger from myself and all of my sisters here, whether their needs have been spoken or not! You have no place here and you are not to return! Father, I pray you protect all of our hearts, send your spirit of comfort, love and fill the empty parts of our hearts, longing for our babies with YOU! We love you and praise you for everything you have blessed us with, especially the gift of community and sisterhood. We praise you, for you are SO worthy, God. In the name of your Precious Son, Amen.

 

[No Doubt]

^^amen!!

 

[kelkel82]

Thanks for all the support, ladies. Finally called my doctor's office yesterday and am hoping for a call back today.
We'll be gone for 2 weeks total, leaving on May 2nd. We go to Dublin for the first few days, then Rome, Florence and Venice. It's my dream trip! My husband planned it for my 30th (in Dec) as a surprise. I was ecstatic! We were set to leave in Jan but my husband got hurt playing basketball and required knee surgery right away. Our trip was canceled! We rebooked for May and I'm thrilled the weather will be better than if wethe had gonea in Jan. When we return we'll try another IUI.
Another tidbit I haven't shared yet... this weekend my husband has his 3rd interview for a job in southern Ca, where we're both from. If we gets it, he would move immediately after returning from Europe and I would stay for a while until my boss can hire my replacement. I've already started researching fertility docs in San Diego just in case.
So many changes on the horizon!

 

[Godsjewel]

I don't remember if I've told you ladies before, but my husband is very quiet when it comes to talking about ttc and potentially becoming pregnant. He doesn't say much because he feels that if he does, he will get my hopes up even more and doesn't want me to be hurt if the results are negative.

Yesterday morning I opened up my email at work and this is what he wrote me...

I am up working and listening to Andre Reiu.... The music is stunning! It is Beautiful and calming! It is humbling, honest and sweet. Its amazing that Music, Great Music can encompass all these amazing qualities. You feel its power and its romance, you experience the waves of emotion while having it draw out of you all of your experiences and wonderful memories.

You are this music to me. Just being with you everyday brings all these things out of me. I Love You with all my being and want nothing more than to make you happy. I pray that God allows our family to grow this year. I cant wait to take our future children to see and hear such amazing music. But also I cant wait to allow our home to show our children the amazing music that we make together as husband and wife. You truly bless me everyday. The joy you conjure up in my heart can only be explained my the amazing and beautiful music we heard this weekend....

Thank you for loving me that much!

Your humbled and happy Husband!

This is who we seen in concert this past Saturday (the embryos first concert..lol!) Such beautiful music!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GInf0lXsyKY

 

[Praying4bump]

Aww that is so sweet!!!

 

[No Doubt]

That is so sweet GJ! Such a romantic!

 

[uwa_amanda]

I don't remember if I've told you ladies before, but my husband is very quiet when it comes to talking about ttc and potentially becoming pregnant. He doesn't say much because he feels that if he does, he will get my hopes up even more and doesn't want me to be hurt if the results are negative.

Yesterday morning I opened up my email at work and this is what he wrote me...

I am up working and listening to Andre Reiu.... The music is stunning! It is Beautiful and calming! It is humbling, honest and sweet. Its amazing that Music, Great Music can encompass all these amazing qualities. You feel its power and its romance, you experience the waves of emotion while having it draw out of you all of your experiences and wonderful memories.

You are this music to me. Just being with you everyday brings all these things out of me. I Love You with all my being and want nothing more than to make you happy. I pray that God allows our family to grow this year. I cant wait to take our future children to see and hear such amazing music. But also I cant wait to allow our home to show our children the amazing music that we make together as husband and wife. You truly bless me everyday. The joy you conjure up in my heart can only be explained my the amazing and beautiful music we heard this weekend....

Thank you for loving me that much!

Your humbled and happy Husband!

This is who we seen in concert this past Saturday (the embryos first concert..lol!) Such beautiful music!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GInf0lXsyKY

Awww...Sarah you've got me all teary-eyed over here. That was so sweet!

 

[beckysprayer]

Can you girls pray for my little one? I went for a walk outside and lost my footing and fell on my hands and knees. My stomach and back never hit the ground, only a skinned knee and no bruising from the fall, so I'm sure my baby is okay but I am nervous anyway. So clumsy!

 

[No Doubt]

You got it beck! I'm sure your lo is fine, but I understand. Lord please cover that precious baby!

 

[Godsjewel]

Can you girls pray for my little one? I went for a walk outside and lost my footing and fell on my hands and knees. My stomach and back never hit the ground, only a skinned knee and no bruising from the fall, so I'm sure my baby is okay but I am nervous anyway. So clumsy!

Here is some info I found for you to ease your mind...

" I fell when pregnant, will that hurt the baby?

If you fall when you are pregnant, the amniotic sac which contains fluid will act as a protective barrier for your baby. To truly hurt your baby in a fall, you would have to have been severely injured in the fall yourself. "

"Your baby is pretty cushioned in there so your average spill shouldn't do anything except embarrass you (again, all preparation for having a child). Not until you get into the major wipeouts or if weird stuff (like spotting or cramping) should there be any cause for alarm."

"There are many more pregnant women who fall down and go on to deliver a full term baby than who suffer from a serious injury or miscarriage. The baby is very safe within the womb. The skin and muscles of the mother, along with the uterus and amniotic sac full of fluid all serve to act as a big “cushion” protecting the unborn baby from any possible harm that could occur from a pregnant woman falling. It would take a severe blow to the belly to cause the amniotic sac to break."

Hope this helps

 

[Godsjewel]

A few years ago, my mother had a small stroke. We thank God that there were no lasting effects, but for a time we were quite scared. The tiny clot causing the stroke was so small that the doctors could not even see it, but the temporary damage it caused was apparent to everyone. While the blood flow to her brain was blocked, her body ceased to function as it should. Her speech was garbled, her body was in great pain, and she was terribly confused. She would attempt to tell us what she needed, but her words sounded like they were spoken in a foreign language, and we simply could not communicate with her. Perhaps the most disturbing to us was that during her stroke, my mother did not know who her family members were. She did not know she loved us and she did not know that we loved her.

Have you noticed a time that it seems none of your prayers were being answered? You pray every day for a baby. You plead with God to place life in your womb, yet month after month passes with no positive pregnancy test. You’ve wondered if God has even heard your cries. Perhaps you’ve had a stroke in your prayer life.

Did you know that sin is to your prayer life what that blood clot was to my mother’s physical life? I am not saying that infertility is punishment for sin. There are several passages of Scripture that show infertile couples that God refers to as “blameless” or “upright”. However, if there is sin in your heart, God is simply not able to hear your cries for a baby. It’s not that He isn’t able to give you a baby. It’s not that He has stopped loving you. If there is sin in your heart, God cannot hear your cries. Can’t you see why God hates sin so much? Sin causes a separation between God and you, the child He loves so very much. Read the passage of Scripture found in Isaiah 59:1-2:

Behold, the LORD’s hand is not so short that it cannot save; Nor is His ear so dull that it cannot hear. But your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, and your sins have hidden His face from you so that He does not hear.

Just as my mother’s body was affected by the clot in her brain, your prayer life can be affected by sin in your heart. It doesn’t have to be huge, obvious sin. It may be a grudge you hold against someone that only God sees. Whatever the case may be, if there is sin there, your communication with the Father is affected. My mother couldn’t talk to us because of the clot restricting blood flow to her brain. We couldn’t tell what she was saying to us, and she couldn’t understand what we were trying to say to her. If sin is causing a separation between you and God, He cannot hear your cries for help and you won’t be able to communicate with Him. You may even find yourself wondering if you will still love and serve God, or even doubting the undeniable fact that He loves you.

No matter the condition of your heart, one thing remains. God loves you and desires an intimate relationship with you. Even if sin has caused your communication with your Father to be affected, realize that God is unwilling to leave things this way. Go with me to 2 Chronicles 7:14-15:

If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and will heal their land. Now my eyes will be open and my ears attentive to the prayers offered in this place. 2 Chronicles 7:14-15

God is faithful, even if we are unfaithful. He forgives sin and opens the lines of communication again. Seek God’s face today. Call on His Name. If there is sin in your heart, why not ask forgiveness and open the lines of communication with Him again today.

-Beth Forbus

 

[No Doubt]

I don't mean to be a debbie downer, I have another update on my fil. The group of surgeons finally had a chance to meet after running several more tests and all of the surgeons thought trying to do a double bypass was too risky. They said even if the bypass was a success, he'd have to another one in 6 years. So his cardiologist got pulled in and it was decided that he will have an angioplasty (not sure if I'm spelling that right) but basically they will go in through the groin...again...with balloons and stints in the two arteries that are blocked. He will have to take meds for a year and go to a special clinic, change his diet and stick to a strict regiment, and reduce his stress level. The good is that he doesn't have to have open heart surgery, and they said he could go back to work in a couple weeks, although I don't think he should, but they said if his work is too stressful, he'll have to find something else or not work. The bad side is that this surgery is very risky. They said only two doctors in hospital know how to do it and his cardiologist just happens to be one. That has to be the hand of God working. As always ladies I thank you for prayers!

 

[VGibs]

I don't remember if I've told you ladies before, but my husband is very quiet when it comes to talking about ttc and potentially becoming pregnant. He doesn't say much because he feels that if he does, he will get my hopes up even more and doesn't want me to be hurt if the results are negative.

Yesterday morning I opened up my email at work and this is what he wrote me...

I am up working and listening to Andre Reiu.... The music is stunning! It is Beautiful and calming! It is humbling, honest and sweet. Its amazing that Music, Great Music can encompass all these amazing qualities. You feel its power and its romance, you experience the waves of emotion while having it draw out of you all of your experiences and wonderful memories.

You are this music to me. Just being with you everyday brings all these things out of me. I Love You with all my being and want nothing more than to make you happy. I pray that God allows our family to grow this year. I cant wait to take our future children to see and hear such amazing music. But also I cant wait to allow our home to show our children the amazing music that we make together as husband and wife. You truly bless me everyday. The joy you conjure up in my heart can only be explained my the amazing and beautiful music we heard this weekend....

Thank you for loving me that much!

Your humbled and happy Husband!

This is who we seen in concert this past Saturday (the embryos first concert..lol!) Such beautiful music!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GInf0lXsyKY

This made me sob. My husband has been a nightmare lately. He quit smoking 3 months ago and since then has turned into another person. He is angry all the time. He hates doing anything with the family. He is always accusing me of being lazy and overreacting. He yells at the kids for no reason. A lot of the time I just want him to go away. I have been very sick for the past 2 days with a nasty stomach virus and he keeps telling me its all in my head. I had to call my dad to take me to the hospital because my husband did not believe it was as serious as it is. Now he is angry that I had to take the time off work and won't be paid for it. I'm so frustrated and fed up and finished. He refuses to see a councilor and won't talk to anyone. I spend my life walking on egg shells and crying in private. He is not the man I married.

 

[No Doubt]

I'm sorry gibs. Maybe smoking was his way of relieving the stress and now he needs to find a different outlet. Have you tried talking to him about picking up a hobby or a sport, or something will accomplish that? Is he stressed about something in particular? I'll be in prayer.

 

[ProfWife]

My dad had a short temper when he gave up smoking. It was the outlet thing. Smoking messes with the body so incredibly much. I will be praying that God reveals this to him and allows your marriage to grow stronger.


AFM, well, on Tuesday I thought I had a positive test...colored band, very faint. Yesterday it was negative and my temperature dropped .3 degrees this morning. So, I'm pretty sure that if I was pregnant it was a chemical and I should get AF as scheduled. I'm sad, but hopeful that this is a taste of things to come and that I will have two beautiful dark lines to talk about soon.