Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

EyeMom - I'm on the same page with regards to Sunday school classes (LifeGroup as we call them). We're one of three couples who aren't parents. One couple has been married for just over 3 years - hitting the baby phase. The other decided to be childless due to their disabilities. Then there's us. Six years this fall, trying for 10 months, no one in the group knows. Hubs isn't up for sharing with the masses yet. He doesn't want us to have to answer a lot of questions.

Overall, I've been hitting the same phase mentally and spiritually. I cannot allow this to suck the joy from my life. That joy is mine...God gave it to me. I can't let insensitive people, those who I view as not positive parents, etc. steal it from me. That's intentional distraction on the part of the devil to make me less effective. I simply cannot let that happen.
 
Yeah it is hard.

We call them ABFs/ adult Bible fellowship...but I just can't stop calling it Sunday school. :-)

Last time we were in there, I finally put "unspoken" on the prayer request sheet we pass around. Then for two weeks we were gone due to illness. Then yesterday we just didn't get around fast enough to make it to Sunday school. :-\ I am pretty much ready to talk about it, but I feel like I'll have to go about it delicately because there's another couple in our class who has been trying for years, driving 3 hours to see a specialist, etc.
 
Thanks Eyemom for posting that and being real with us.

Funny thing is, I was just having those sort of thoughts yesterday. My sis-in-law is going to be 37 in a couple of months and has a 2yr old and a 1yr old. Her style of parenting, or lack there of, at times concerns me. Her 2yr old has speech problems and has to attend therapy each week and the 1yr old has an eye problem where one of his eyes keeps leaking. The 2yr old runs around the house like a torpedo and the 1yr old is stuck to his mom like glue. I just found out yesterday that she is thinking about having another one and kind of got upset about it.

I'm still a work in progress and thank God for His grace and mercies that are new every morning.

Lord, help us all to focus on our own lives and the wonderful things you have blessed us with and not worry about what others have. Thank you for your love and kindness and for always having our best interest at heart. AMEN!
 
Yesterday towards the end of service a lady gave her testimony of how about 10 years ago her & her husband were told that they could not have children & on top of that her husband had to have back surgery she could not understand why all this was happening at the time. God gave her the scripture that God works all things for the good. And even though she never got her child of her own they eventually adopted a 13year old girl from Mexico & God had filled her void of wanting to be a mother in a different way than she expected. The girl from Mexico is now about 19 years old & she is such a blessing to have around. I see how God works things out even if it's not the way we want them to. Even though I have not been ttc very long I keep telling God how it's not in my heart to adopt I feel so selfish but I know a piece of me will always long for a baby of my own. We also prayed for a girl who is 3months pregnant who was having worries about the baby. I feel so selfish wishing I could be the one pregnant & envying her for having a 2yr old & another on the way. Also upset of how she told me 21 is too young to have a baby. All I could think of is how she doesn't understand & ask God why would you give someone who already has a child who didn't really want another yet another one when I've been praying crying out to you. So I had to ask for forgiveness for all the negative thinking & selfishness. It's so easy to get bitter during ttc but I'm choosing to get better :) be blessed ladies
 
Having a really down moment. About to get my husband's SA results. Doc said there was some improvement, but the nurse couldn't say how much. Apparently it was enough to pull us out of the IUI category.

Apparently the doc who ran my HSG mentioned the difficulty in getting the dye in as well as a small anomaly which he told ME he wouldn't be concerned with (a reproductive endrinologist who specializes in IVF). My doc (an ob/gyn who specializes in infertility) however, wants me to do the sonohysterogram in order to determine what it is next month.

I'm so upset. I went from elation that a specialist cleared me to now having to get MORE dye/fluid injected into me. I'm getting really sick of having intimacy be lost sine everyone is poking and prodding me. And I'm at school today, so I can't even have a tear-fest.
 
Having a really down moment. About to get my husband's SA results. Doc said there was some improvement, but the nurse couldn't say how much. Apparently it was enough to pull us out of the IUI category.

Apparently the doc who ran my HSG mentioned the difficulty in getting the dye in as well as a small anomaly which he told ME he wouldn't be concerned with (a reproductive endrinologist who specializes in IVF). My doc (an ob/gyn who specializes in infertility) however, wants me to do the sonohysterogram in order to determine what it is next month.

I'm so upset. I went from elation that a specialist cleared me to now having to get MORE dye/fluid injected into me. I'm getting really sick of having intimacy be lost sine everyone is poking and prodding me. And I'm at school today, so I can't even have a tear-fest.

I'm sorry sister :hugs:

I know exactly how you feel, I have had so many labs, ultrasounds, laparoscopies, HSGs, Sonohysterograms and the list goes on and on.

When things start to look like they are heading in the wrong direction, just trust that God has it all worked out. I can go on and on with my sad story and how life hasn't been fair to me for the past 6 years, but I have to make a daily decision to trust God and to see the positive things in life. We can sit and drive ourselves crazy thinking about what the Dr's report says, but God has the ultimate say in our circumstances.

I always fall back to this scripture.

And we know, ALL things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28

That verse didn't say only certain things work for the good, it says ALL things work together for good. We will never understand why we have the deep desire for a child, yet have such a hard time conceiving when it seems like everyone else around is pregnant, but I believe God has a special time for each of us and He is the one that sees the future and knows the perfect timing to bring us our little ones.

God loves you very much and wants nothing more than for you to cast your cares on Him and let Him carry the burdens you face while going through all this testing. This is all just pages being added to your testimony that one day you will be able to share with others what God has done for you.

I pray you are surrounded by His peace and that it constantly comforts you.
 
Picked up the info.

DH's SA showed his morphology is back in the 30s! There were more tail defects for some reason, though. As a result, his speed went down. Only 68% were listed as appropriately moving. He was in the 70s last time. Only 4% were rapid. :-/

So, we are doing some research to find out what, besides meds, can help him since he is trying to eat healthier. I've put the request to cut his fun cycling down to one ride a week rather than the 28 miles he did last week.


For my side, I'm going to call the doc who did my test last week to see if he agrees with my doc since he didn't seem concerned about the slight "mucosal abnormality" he saw. The same doc evaluated my husband's SA. He's the one I think we are going to switch to if we need the IUI. I may try to switch to that practice anyway at the year mark if we hit it.

Feeling MUCH better from where I was yesterday! Thanks for the encouragement, Sarah. You are truly a blessing.
 
Hey ladies...my Oma went home to be with Jesus yesterday. Please pray for my Mom as she is going to be greatly affected by this loss.
 
Virginia - I'm praying that you and your family are comforted by God's love and peace during this time!
 
Hey ladies...my Oma went home to be with Jesus yesterday. Please pray for my Mom as she is going to be greatly affected by this loss.

Praying for you and your family at this difficult time. I'm so sorry for your loss!
 
How is everyone doing? I notice no one has posted in a couple of days. Praying for all of you! :flower:
 
Colossians 3:23-24 “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for man.”
If your going to do anything in life, do it with ALL your heart, not an attempt, not half-hearted, not with words, but with your entire heart. As if you were doing it for God, and not for the people of this world.

Psalm 139:14 “I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
If you are going to be true to yourself, be the rawest, most genuine person there is. Never second guess your inner whisper & always go with your initial instinct, and not the fear that follows it. Love on yourself, be gentle, and give your self-critiquing time out. Heaven knows, we can be oh so hard on ourselves. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself. To be beautiful means to be yourself. Be who you are, you will set the standards for others for them to be themselves.

Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Always wanted to give something new a go? Do it. Scared of doing something new? Do it anyway. Tried something before and it didn’t work? Try it again. Too hard? Nothing is beyond reach.
Give yourself a chance to try something new, and while your at it, give it your all, don't let setbacks discourage you and don't let excuses ruin your dreams.
God knows your value; He sees your potential. You may not understand but hold your head up high, knowing that God is in control and he has a great plan and purpose for your life.

Matthew 5:16 “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”
“Jeremiah 29:13” You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with ALL your heart.”
If you want to continue exploring God. Discover God to the absolute core, learn all the spiritual gifts he has there waiting for you. Enable him to transform you, but most importantly, capture you completely. Don’t have a heart that lukewarm, but a heart that is on fire for God.

Life isn't meant to be admired, it's there to be explored. We too, ought to be explored.
A friend once told me. "God had the ability to place you in any timeline of life, but he chose this one. Think about it for a moment, he chose this era, this country, the man you would marry and the impact you would have on the people he chose to be around you. This life isn’t meant to be a case of groundhog day of keeping up with the Joneses, but a life of certainty, a life of meaning and a life of purpose.

Nothing is beyond reach. Nothing is too hard for my God. For OUR God. Don't stop searching till you have your prayers answered, and then some. Prayers are meant to be answered. Life is meant to be enjoyed & we are his children who will one day return home. But for now, we will continue worshipping him, following him and searching his very own heart. Remember ladies, we all will receive our babies in which are rightfully ours. Amen.

XXX
 
We're heading back to school for the year. So, I've been slammed. Technically I work 2 jobs for the next 2 weeks. Then my university class will be done, and I can focus on the 107 I'll have this year (or more, we have at least 12 students joining our school in the next few days).

I just got my cross hairs! My O date has been creeping up and up. FF put it on CD 12. That's very early for me. I'm not sure if this is a good thing or not. Thinking of taking some time off FertilAid to see if I may be overdoing it...there is such thing as too much of a good thing...
 
Hey ladies today I sprained my foot. It's pretty swollen & I'm in a lot of pain. I just want to ask for prayer for a quick recovery & some pain relief. Thanks really appreciate it. God bless :)
 
Oh Jett! I am so sorry. Are you able to rest it or will your job necessitate you to be on your feet? That hurts so much. Praying for pain relief and a quick recovery!
 

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