Thank you ladies! I have to take a moment to testify to the goodness of God. My grandmother gave birth to 24 children!!! Despite my grandmother's super fertility, all her daughters have fertility issues. All my aunt's kids are only children and no one was able to conceive past the age of 26.
God blessed me to conceive and have my daughter at the age of 30. At 31, I'm the first person since my grandmother to conceive more than once. Given my family's medical history and what my doctors assumed due to my weight/past thyroid issues, this is truly a miracle! I am so grateful to God!![]()
Does anyone in this forum happen to live in Houston, Texas ? (or in nearby suburbs)
My family & I will be moving there permanently from Brisbane, Australia this week.
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Welcome to the USA when you get here safely! I don't live in Texas, I live in Alabama, so I don't know much about Texas. I work for a trucking company that has a lot of trucks in Texas though.
When you figure out what city you are moving to, be in Houston or a suburb, a lot of the Chambers of Commerce have New Resident Packets that have a lot of the pertinent information that would help you out. They may also have Visitor Information stuff at these places too. The states that my husband and I have traveled to and through also have Welcome Centers stocked full of information on tourist-y stuff and different information on cultural things, if you get into that. Of course, this same stuff can usually be found online too.
You will probably run in a lot of friendly people. The southern US has a reputation of having some pretty friendly people. Since you are coming here from Australia, you will probably even run into some people who want to hear you talk if you have a strong Australian accent!![]()
I hope you and your family arrive here safely and hope you find the United States a wonderful place to live. I wouldn't want to live anywhere else...especially outside the South!You will have to come on here and let us know that you arrived safely and tell us what your first impressions are! Praying for a safe arrival for you!!
Thank you for posting that video, Superwoman, and congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm praying that you have a healthy and happy 9 months ahead of you.
I woke up in a very bad place today, feeling that all my hope is gone. I feel so alone and even excluded in every aspect of my life right now, even on these boards. I'm between jobs and currently seeking but that's not what's got me down. What's got me down is that, at ever turn that I've tried to seek comfort from others in my life concerning my fertility issues, I've been met with a lack of understanding or worse; brushing it off like it's nothing. The most painful experience in this is with my family and church. When I had my miscarriage I told my mother and she said "Aw honey I'm sorry. How's the weather where you live?" she too struggled with infertility, but she never experience a miscarriage and so she can't understand how I feel. My MIL was more understanding, and she is the coordinator for our church's prayer chain so my husband and I had put a request in to be added, with details that we're trying to start a family and "having unexpected difficulty" but she's forgotten about us... three times now.
I've spoken with my pastor and told him everything, about how I was sterilized almost 3 years ago and how much I regret that and pray to God with every breath that he'll heal me, and the miracle that was our only conception, only to end tragically... he was sympathetic but cautioned me against telling others in our church family about it, because they might not understand or might judge me because of my past mistakes.
But now I just feel so alone. More and more families in our church are having children, and I feel my heart break every time I see them scampering about during worship or see their mothers holding them close. This cycle in particular has been so painful for me physically and emotionally and I just want it to end, this road is too hard, the trials insurmountable. I feel like my husband and God have to drag me down this path of TTC only to be met with failure after failure, that every attempt we make to find a way to reverse the sterilization that *may* be ineffective, every hopeful month that I *may* become miraculously pregnant again, is dashed against the rocks.
I can't take it anymore. I can't be alone anymore. But I have nowhere to go...
I am trying to be very very calm right now...but I am having a serious panic attack. Ian just called me from work to tell me that after next week his boss has no work for him and so he will be out of a job. I have no idea what the hell we are going to do at all. We live in a severely depressed area and jobs are not plentiful at all. Never in a million years would I have thought this was ever going to happen. He has a great job but they just have no work right now. I'm really scared...
Praying for a safe and easy (as possible) move. There's a user named MamaTex who lives there.
All over the country, students of all ages are gathering supplies and heading back to class. How appropriate that you have a homework assignment in todays Daily Double Portion!
Here it is: Grab a can of hairspray, air freshener, perfume, or any other aerosol and spray a quick blast into the air. Pay close attention to the vapor as it hangs in the air and then vanishes. How long did that vapor last? 10 minutes? Not hardly. A few seconds? 1 or 2? Compare how long that vapor lasted in contrast to the length of time it will take you to read this entire Daily Double Portion. Compare the longevity of the vapor and the 24 hours that make up your day.
You may be wondering what a puff of hairspray or a blast of air freshener has to do with the seemingly never ending struggle you face with infertility. Hold on, friend! Youve just earned an A+!
In 2 Corinthians 4:17-18, the apostle Paul writes For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.
There are times when it seems your struggle with infertility will never end. You wonder if you will ever be a parent or if your unmet desire for a child will go with you to your grave. Since the loss of your baby, you fear that grief will be your life long companion. How can infertility or loss be considered light and momentary troubles?
Consider your struggle with infertility to be like the blast of hairspray you sprayed into the air. It was there for a moment, and then it was gone. When you contrasted the length of time it lingered to the 24 hours in a day, how did it compare? Infertility is a season in your life--a very important season--but a season nonetheless. A day will come when it will be part of your past and not a part of your every waking moment. What a wonderful day! God can work through these troubles to bring you closer and closer to Him. You can learn to trust Him through the babyless months as you seek His will for your life. Learning to trust God when you cannot decipher His plan is a treasure beyond description. What a beautiful example of fixing your eyes on things not seen.
But what if your heartache lies in the realm of loss? Losing a baby doesnt feel light or momentary at all. Friend, as painful as your loss is, realize that if you are a child of God, your separation from your child is temporary. In comparison to eternity, the time you are separated by death from your baby will be like that vapor. You sprayed the vapor in the air and in a moment it was gone. The time you are separated from your baby will be like that vapor in comparison to eternity. When you are reunited in Heaven--never to be separated again--your time together and the joy you have will far outweigh your hurt and separation you experience here. This is why Paul says we fix our eyes on what is unseen, on what is eternal. We fix our eyes, we fix our hearts on eternal life.
When you need to be reminded that infertility and grief will not last for an eternity, go blast a puff of hairspray or air freshener. Notice how briefly the vapor remains in the air compared to the rest of your day. Although it is difficult as you walk through these seasons, encourage yourself and do not lose heart. These troubles are achieving an eternal glory that far outweigh them all.