Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Godsjewel]

Sorry I haven't been around in a while. Last month was always going to be a bust with hubby on night shift. Now I'm working shifts as well and all over the place so not able to temp. No idea exactly when I o'd but some symptoms this week. AF should be due this sat or sun so will just have to see. Last cycle was 30 days though. FF is predicting AF week Wednesday but don't think that's right. It's including the 39 day cycle in the average but pretty sure that was an abberation.

Hi dear, welcome back

Praying that everything works out for you and hubby.

 

[Godsjewel]

Waiting for God’s plan is one of the hardest aspects of infertility. We want a baby, and we want a baby NOW! We grow tired of waiting month after month after year after year. It seems that everyone around us has a baby whenever they decide it’s time, yet we have turned more calendar pages than we care to remember and our wombs and our nurseries remain silent. We believe in God. We believe He has a magnificent plan for us. What is God waiting for?

Over and over again in Scripture we see phrases such as “in due time” or “when the fullness of time was come”. God orchestrates events in our lives and He knows not only how to bring these things to pass, but when? We get impatient. God says wait. We feel like giving up. God says His strength is perfect in our weakness. We don’t understand why God won’t bless us with a baby. Perhaps it’s just not time yet!

When a baby is born prematurely, there are catastrophic results. Many times the baby simply cannot survive, and hearts are broken. Other times the baby may survive but with physical and developmental battles that must be fought for a lifetime. At the very least, the baby struggles to achieve the development outside of the womb that should have occurred in the womb. I pray that if your heart carries the scars of a premature birth, that God grants you added strength and grace when days are hard. What a poignant example of what happens when a plan is unfolded prematurely.

What if God allowed plans to unfold before His perfect timing? What if God had allowed the waters of the Red Sea to stand on edge the day before Moses led the people of Israel to its shores? They would not have survived. What if God had allowed Elizabeth to conceive John the Baptist in her youth, when she no doubt had asked Him for a baby? He would not have been ready at the right time to proclaim the coming of the Messiah!

What about your life? What if God had allowed you to meet your husband a couple of years before you met him? I have joked with my husband that if I had met him in our teen years instead of in our late twenties, I would have been afraid of him, and he would have thought I was such a geek! God knew how to get us ready for each other, and He knew just the moment we needed to lock eyes for the first time. All the prayers I prayed wanting to meet my husband did not fall on deaf ears. God just knew it wasn’t time.

Have you ever wondered how God’s timing comes into play in your desire for a baby? Perhaps it’s not that God is telling you “no”, perhaps He is simply saying “not yet”. What if God grants life in your womb in the coming months? You can rest assured that there is a purpose and a plan for that child that God has divinely laid out for him or her. There will be other people whose lives need the impact that only your child can bring. There are works to be done that no one else could carry out. What if your child was conceived in your timing rather than in God’s perfect timing? Would these plans be carried out the way God designed? Would you even conceive the same child? There are so many variables in play! Why not let God carry you until your “due time” arrives?

There’s an old song that seems to be playing every time I turn around these days! “He’s an On-Time God!” Yes, He is! The lyrics say “He may not come when you want Him, but He’ll be there right on time!” Trust God’s plan for your life. Understand that just because you’re not hearing from Him when you want doesn’t mean He has turned deaf ears to your cry. It may mean that He is waiting until just the right events unfold, just the right time to show you your role in His plan.

 

[Mattsgirl]

Hey ladies, I know I've been away from this thread for awhile but I stop by every now and then to see how everyones doing. And sarah I. Just needed to say thank you for that last post. I reallly needed that today. Been having a really rough couple weeks.

 

[Godsjewel]

Hey ladies, I know I've been away from this thread for awhile but I stop by every now and then to see how everyones doing. And sarah I. Just needed to say thank you for that last post. I reallly needed that today. Been having a really rough couple weeks.

Wow, it has been awhile Definitely glad you are still stopping by when you can.

Yes, that was a message for me too. God has really been showing me lately that I need to "let go and let God". He wants me to give Him all of my attention and not worry about the things of life. He has a plan layed out for each of us and we just need to trust in Him and His timing.

 

[beckysprayer]

Hey ladies, I know I've been away from this thread for awhile but I stop by every now and then to see how everyones doing. And sarah I. Just needed to say thank you for that last post. I reallly needed that today. Been having a really rough couple weeks.

I'm sorry to hear you have had a bad couple of weeks, but I'm glad to see you around again. We are all praying for you!

 

[beckysprayer]

I'm still waiting for my body to finish miscarrying naturally. I've had a horrible headache all day and a burning backache so I'm hoping that means everything is getting started, though I'm terrified of it starting at work. I've been praying that God brings this to a close soon so I'm hopeful that it will!

I also just found out my cat probably has cancer and if he does will need to be put down. What a terrible month

 

[Godsjewel]

I'm still waiting for my body to finish miscarrying naturally. I've had a horrible headache all day and a burning backache so I'm hoping that means everything is getting started, though I'm terrified of it starting at work. I've been praying that God brings this to a close soon so I'm hopeful that it will!

I also just found out my cat probably has cancer and if he does will need to be put down. What a terrible month

I'm sorry sweetie. I pray that this ends soon and that your fur baby will be ok.

 

[MummyWant2be]

I'm still waiting for my body to finish miscarrying naturally. I've had a horrible headache all day and a burning backache so I'm hoping that means everything is getting started, though I'm terrified of it starting at work. I've been praying that God brings this to a close soon so I'm hopeful that it will!

I also just found out my cat probably has cancer and if he does will need to be put down. What a terrible month

praying that god comforts you in this trying time hun

 

[Godsjewel]

Be still and know that I am God.
Psalm 46:10

What’s been the biggest decision you’ve had to face in trying to have a baby? Has it been the decision to seek medical treatment or not? Telling people or keeping your struggle private? Have you had to consider whether you need to take a break this month from your attempts to conceive or just try one more time? Some decisions must be made quickly, other take time and contemplation. It can seem like your life is a constant barrage of questions demanding answers. You’ve searched for answers, yet you come up empty handed. Perhaps God is saying to you today “be still”.

The psalm that houses this verse is actually a song written for a choir director. Since was once a choir director, I love this! The song begins by proclaiming that God is our refuge, our strength and our help when trouble comes. The lyrics tell of earthquakes, mountains slipping into the sea, and of wars among the nations. The comfort comes in knowing that God is God and He chooses to be with us. In the midst of turmoil and confusion, we can lay down our worries and know that God is the one true and living God.

Infertility can cause such chaos in your heart. It seems you think of conception and nothing else. Sometimes you just get so tired of having to make all the right choices! Should I see this doctor or find another one? How much weight should I gain/lose? Instead of childbearing being a beautiful and intimate event in the natural course of a marital relationship, it becomes a series of decisions and schedules that must be kept, and it can feel tumultuous! God says “be still”.

Be still and know that God is God. Be still and rest in the knowledge that He loves you and has a magnificent plan. Let your heart be still and know that God knows your desire for a baby. Be still and know that He can heal your body of the diseases that hinder reproduction. Be still and know that the God of the universe chooses to be involved in your life, even through the struggle with infertility. You don’t have to panic even when life doesn’t pan out the way you dreamed it would because God is still God and He is with us as our stronghold.

Be still and know that I am God.

 

[Godsjewel]

What's everyone been up to? Seems like the thread has been very quiet lately, possibly you ladies are on vacation???

Praying and believing God is going to do good things in all of our lives during the remainder of this year. I know God will be blessing some with a BFPs and others with strength to make it through each month.

Thank you Lord for loving each one of us with an everlasting love and showing us your grace and mercy. I'm so grateful for your peace that has filled my heart and I ask that what you have done for me, you will also do for others. In your precious name I pray...AMEN!

 

[Shellvz]

Hey

I am now in my 12 month (6 month of actively ttc, 6 month ntnp) and so last week visited Dr for first time. Currently mid cycle so have to wait 2 more weeks to begin fertility tests.

Feeling nervous about tests and results but looking forward to potential answers.

My friend has organised a group of women to pray over me tomorrow night. She contacted me to say she had a vision of this happening and felt led to make it happen. I haven't told my friends very much about our struggle to conceive as they are all busy with their babies and pregnancies. I am the only one left without children.

I decided that if this was a vision from God then I don't want to miss out - so off I go tomorrow. Time will tell!

 

[Godsjewel]

Hey

I am now in my 12 month (6 month of actively ttc, 6 month ntnp) and so last week visited Dr for first time. Currently mid cycle so have to wait 2 more weeks to begin fertility tests.

Feeling nervous about tests and results but looking forward to potential answers.

My friend has organised a group of women to pray over me tomorrow night. She contacted me to say she had a vision of this happening and felt led to make it happen. I haven't told my friends very much about our struggle to conceive as they are all busy with their babies and pregnancies. I am the only one left without children.

I decided that if this was a vision from God then I don't want to miss out - so off I go tomorrow. Time will tell!

I'm glad your going and hopefully will get some answers, but no matter what the results are, remember we serve a mighty God who can do the impossible

That is so awesome, what a wonderful group of friends...that blesses my heart. Please come back and let us know how it goes.

 

[Godsjewel]

Waiting is one of the most difficult things to do, whether we're waiting for an airline flight, a phone call or an answered prayer. We become impatient and wonder why everyone else is holding us up and keeping us from getting what we want. It seems like the more we want something, the harder it is to wait - and we even get impatient with God!

But we have to remember that God's timing is different than our own. He sees things from a different perspective and sees the whole picture, not just what we want, but what is best for us in the grand plan for our lives. All is part of a divine order and will be done in its own right and proper time. Of course, when we are hoping, praying and waiting for something, it's easy to forget this. After all, waiting is "remaining inactive in one place while expecting something." And being inactive means feeling powerless and at the mercy of the world - nobody likes that feeling. But we must keep in mind God's greater plan and his perfect timing:

"We know that all things work together for good for those who love God, who are called according to His purpose."
Romans 8:28

"Trust in Him at all times, O people."
Psalm 62:8

What are YOU Waiting For?
What are you waiting for in your life? A new job, financial security, healing, a baby, a restored marriage? It seems that no matter where we are in our lives, we are waiting for something in the future. Our lives are never stagnant; if we are moving forward, there is always something to expect or wait for around the next bend in the road of our lives.

There are many stories of "waiting" in the Bible. In some stories, the waiting seemed to last forever, while others only waited a few intense moments. The key to waiting is not the length of time but how we handle the wait. The Bible teaches us that we should "wait on the Lord." We must look with confidence and expectation toward the future, trusting that God will fulfill our waiting in good and proper time.

There are three actions that will help you wait on the Lord patiently and with faith, knowing and believing that He will help:

1. Trust - If we doubt God's willingness to hear and answer our prayer, we may begin to feel bitter when we think God has heard our prayer but is silent. Scripture teaches us that God is unchangeable, which means He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow and we can always rely on Him to provide the best possible path for our lives! God said that He will never leave us or forsake us. If He seems silent now, it is because He has another plan, different timing or a way to answer our prayer that has not been revealed to us yet. We must trust in His plan.

2. Resist - We must resist the temptation to take matters into our own hands. Patience is powerful. Having patience is essential in many circumstances and the Holy Spirit is here to fill us with this patience when we feel we cannot wait another minute on God. The safest place we can rest is in God's Will. When we rest here, resisting temptation is easy.

3. Pray - How many times have you given a prayer request to God and felt He was deaf? During these times, you need to keep on praying, but pray the right way. God always answers our prayers, but it may not be the way we want Him or expect Him to. It may be a yes, a no or something better. When we don't immediately get the answer we want, we have a tendency to repeat the same prayer over and over until we either lose our voice or simply give up. After we have given our need to the Lord, we must turn our request into a "Thank you," and an attitude of expectancy, and say, "Not my will, but Yours, Lord." When we thank the Lord in advance for answering our prayers, it is an active display of our faith that demonstrates to God our confident expectation that His awesome power will provide for us.

This Prayer can help you as you wait on God's perfect timing:

Dear Heavenly Father,
I have been waiting for ________________ for so long now, and I come before You today to ask your help. I pray that You will increase my faith and patience so that I will put my whole trust in your perfect timing and plan for my life. I will put my complete trust in You with confidence and eager expectation of Your answer, whatever that answer may be and whenever that answer may come.

Thank you that you are always with me.

Thank you that You hear my prayers and will answer in Your time and in Your way. You, Lord, are without limits.

Thank You for Your unfailing word and that You always keep Your promises to me.

I believe with my heart, mind and soul Your plan for my life is the best one possible and I thank You for Your answer.

Being in Your will is the safest place I can ever reside.
In Jesus' name, Amen.

We affirm God's Perfect Timing . Trusting in God, to see His will and perfect order unfold in our lives.

 

[Godsjewel]

My story of infertility has caused me to change and grow in ways that I could have never imagined. My husband and I married young, and a few years later we decided to start a family. We had always wanted many children and we wanted them quickly. After a year with no pregnancy, we hesitantly did some fertility testing and our doctor thought we should try artificial insemination. We went in with full hope, yet each month left us a little more hopeless and angry.

Before we had even started our infertility journey my view of God was extremely negative and this just enforced that. To me, this proved that God; who could easily make a pregnancy happen, did not love me and could care less about how I was feeling. My heart was breaking, and we were encouraged to look into stronger treatments. At this time in my life, I was also seeking counseling and I had told my Christian counselor that I did not want to include God in my process of healing. I could figure things out without Him. Yet even when I had rejected God He did not reject me, and He allowed us to find this small church with many women who had been through infertility themselves. These women took me under their wing and loved on me in ways that I had never been loved. He used these women to reveal Himself to me, and to give me an experience with Him that I had longed for my entire life. God showed me through the many talks I had with these ladies as well as my counselor, that there was a place in His heart just for me that no one else could ever fill. As a broken woman, I longed for that kind of relationship and the thought that it could be true made me question my whole opinion of God. God showed me that when He had created my church, my counselor, and these amazing women who had been where I am, He had me in mind. Part of why He created them was just for me. He knew I would be going through infertility even before I was born, and He knew I would need these certain people in my life to love me and help me, in a time when I would not allow Him to. I had never thought about God creating someone with me in mind, with the purpose of reaching out to me. I felt overwhelmed with God’s love.

It was a few months after this that we did our first round of IVF, and I just knew that after God had finally got my attention He would give me my baby. It was as if I had passed a test, or reached a milestone that I wouldn’t have reached without infertility and now I just knew I was ready and had passed the test. But He didn’t. Our first round failed, and I was devastated. I couldn’t understand how a God who loved me could allow me to hurt like this. But this same God again surrounded me with people to walk with me through the pain. We did another round of IVF, and to our surprise I had a positive pregnancy test! We were ecstatic to say the least. But when we went in for the blood test it was again negative, and the doctor said our embryo stopped implanting. I couldn’t understand how we could be allowed to go through this. The pain felt unbearable and all I wanted was a child. I felt lost, hurt and hopeless. The emotions inside me didn’t know where to go, and I couldn’t seem to see anything else in my life except the pain. My heart felt like it was in a million pieces and being walked on by those around me who so easily got pregnant. A good friend of mine told me God is big enough to handle my emotions. I have held onto that. Even if I cannot talk to Him for a few weeks, of if I am so hurt that I scream the most awful things to Him, He loves me and He created me, and He can handle my feelings.

Over the past few months, God has given me a peace that I never thought possible while still not having my baby. I have been through things that I have never imagined I could get through. Feelings that I never thought I would have to process and decisions that I never thought my husband and I would have to make. I really believe if I can give myself all of the shots that go along with IVF, I can do anything! We are now in the process of adopting and I am so excited about it. I am amazed at how God has used me in situations, and at how I have grown while facing such challenging times and emotions. I have a confidence that I have never felt before, and I have a love for God that is incredible which still amazes me because I still do not have a child. It is so crazy to think that God can withhold my biggest dream and I have grown to love Him more for it. It doesn’t make sense, but we serve a God whose ways are not our ways. I always try to remind myself that even though so many people have children, I have a relationship with Christ that many people will never get to experience because it is only gained by going through such brokenness, and I believe infertility is one of the hardest things a person can go through because it is so constant. I have had to learn to trust God with my biggest dream, being a mother, and to completely give that dream to Him to fulfill. And I believe He will!

--Angela Mantzey

 

[Godsjewel]

I heard this song for the first time today and wanted to share the lyrics.

I'm waiting
I'm waiting on You, Lord
And I am hopeful
I'm waiting on You, Lord
Though it is painful
But patiently, I will wait

I will move ahead, bold and confident
Takeing every step in obedience
While I'm waiting
I will serve You
While I'm waiting
I will worship
While I'm waiting
I will not faint
I'll be running the race
Even while I wait

I'm waiting
I'm waiting on You, Lord
And I am peaceful
I'm waiting on You, Lord
Though it's not easy
But faithfully, I will wait
Yes, I will wait
I will serve You while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting
I will serve You while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting
I will serve you while I'm waiting
I will worship while I'm waiting on You, Lord

 

[rquanborough]

Ladies having a tough few days and really not enjoying the thought of doing 2 nights work now. Not really enjoying the new work and starting to prefer the day time shifts. Have no real idea when to test this time round or even if it's worth it. Been really trying not to symptom spot but feeling really crappy. Period could be due this weekend although ff says middle of next week on averages. Because of the working situation not been able to temp this cycle. Just feeling really down and out of sorts this evening and needing to let of steam with people who know that we are trying and won't share things with everyone they know

 

[Mattsgirl]

I'm still waiting for my body to finish miscarrying naturally. I've had a horrible headache all day and a burning backache so I'm hoping that means everything is getting started, though I'm terrified of it starting at work. I've been praying that God brings this to a close soon so I'm hopeful that it will!

I also just found out my cat probably has cancer and if he does will need to be put down. What a terrible month

I am so sorry for what you're going through his month. We had to put my cat down a couple years ago and that was terrible. So I can't imagine going through that while going through a miscarriage. You are definitely in my prayers. As is everyone on this thread.

 

[Godsjewel]

Ladies having a tough few days and really not enjoying the thought of doing 2 nights work now. Not really enjoying the new work and starting to prefer the day time shifts. Have no real idea when to test this time round or even if it's worth it. Been really trying not to symptom spot but feeling really crappy. Period could be due this weekend although ff says middle of next week on averages. Because of the working situation not been able to temp this cycle. Just feeling really down and out of sorts this evening and needing to let of steam with people who know that we are trying and won't share things with everyone they know

I'm sorry your having a tough time

What I have learned through this that even when you can't temp or chart and things are just not going as planned, to just have fun with your hubby and enjoy this time you have with one another. As long as your intimate often, the sperm can live from 2-5 days.

Praying that you start to feel better soon

 

[PrincessBree]

I've been stalking this thread which I stumbled on-this lady had experienced 14 years of infertility and 6 losses,3 of which were ectopic and 3 were miscarriages.And then one day her niece who already had a child rang to ask if she could legally adopt the baby she had just had because she wasn't coping and within a few weeks she had her baby and she has been his mommy since that day!check out her thread it's just a beautiful story and to me it says that God has a plan it might not be the plan that we have but He has one all the same to give us the desires of our heart.Sometimes I feel as though I want God to do things my way but I guess I'm learning that I can only really find peace in submitting to His will whatever that looks like.

This woman I guess she never imagined her story of pain would end off like that but it ended with such joy and a beautiful little boy.I guess today I just want to confess to the Lord that whatever path or plan He has for me I am open to it whatever the plan may be xx

Check out her thread
https://www.babyandbump.com/parenti...avier-gift-ive-been-waiting.html#post8716109]

 

[BRK06]

Sorry I haven't been around in a while. Last month was always going to be a bust with hubby on night shift. Now I'm working shifts as well and all over the place so not able to temp. No idea exactly when I o'd but some symptoms this week. AF should be due this sat or sun so will just have to see. Last cycle was 30 days though. FF is predicting AF week Wednesday but don't think that's right. It's including the 39 day cycle in the average but pretty sure that was an abberation.

It's ok! We're glad to hear from you whenever you can. I'm sorry to hear about you and hubby's crazy shifts... Hopefully it gets settled again soon! My AF is "scheduled" to appear this weekend too. Praying she gets the memo this month and stays home!!!

I'll be praying for God's healing touch on you... Feel better soon