Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[BRK06]

Hey ladies, I know I've been away from this thread for awhile but I stop by every now and then to see how everyones doing. And sarah I. Just needed to say thank you for that last post. I reallly needed that today. Been having a really rough couple weeks.

Welcome back! Hang in there Sis... I don't know what you have going on, but praying for you just the same. We're all here for you!

 

[BRK06]

I'm still waiting for my body to finish miscarrying naturally. I've had a horrible headache all day and a burning backache so I'm hoping that means everything is getting started, though I'm terrified of it starting at work. I've been praying that God brings this to a close soon so I'm hopeful that it will!

I also just found out my cat probably has cancer and if he does will need to be put down. What a terrible month

You poor thing Praying that God gives you the strength to get through this part. I'm sorry to hear about your cat I'll say a prayer for him too

 

[BRK06]

What's everyone been up to? Seems like the thread has been very quiet lately, possibly you ladies are on vacation???

Praying and believing God is going to do good things in all of our lives during the remainder of this year. I know God will be blessing some with a BFPs and others with strength to make it through each month.

Thank you Lord for loving each one of us with an everlasting love and showing us your grace and mercy. I'm so grateful for your peace that has filled my heart and I ask that what you have done for me, you will also do for others. In your precious name I pray...AMEN!

AMEN!! Thank you Sis!

I've been pretty busy keeping my 2 yr old nephew during the daytime. He's a good boy, but keeps me on my toes! I was trying to read through earlier and he grabbed the phone, tossed it to the side and replaced it with a Lego truck saying, "Here Bim! Truck!" Silly boy...

 

[BRK06]

Hey

I am now in my 12 month (6 month of actively ttc, 6 month ntnp) and so last week visited Dr for first time. Currently mid cycle so have to wait 2 more weeks to begin fertility tests.

Feeling nervous about tests and results but looking forward to potential answers.

My friend has organised a group of women to pray over me tomorrow night. She contacted me to say she had a vision of this happening and felt led to make it happen. I haven't told my friends very much about our struggle to conceive as they are all busy with their babies and pregnancies. I am the only one left without children.

I decided that if this was a vision from God then I don't want to miss out - so off I go tomorrow. Time will tell!

Wow!! Please let us know how it went! I think it's sweet that your friend did that for you

 

[BRK06]

It's a little long, but it's Joyce Meyer, so it's good!



We all want good things to happen in our lives, but too often we want it now...not later. When it doesn't happen that way, we are tempted to ask, "When, God, when?" Most of us need to grow in the area of trusting God instead of focusing on the "when" question. If you're missing joy and peace, you're not trusting God. If your mind feels worn out all the time, you're not trusting God.

The tendency to want to know about everything that's going on can be detrimental to your Christian walk. Sometimes knowing everything can be uncomfortable and can even hurt you. I spent a large part of my life being impatient, frustrated and disappointed because there were things I didn't know. God had to teach me to leave things alone and quit feeling that I needed to know everything. I finally learned to trust the One who knows all things and accept that some questions may never be answered. We prove that we trust God when we refuse to worry.

God wants us to live by discernment—revelation knowledge, not head knowledge. It's difficult to exercise discernment if you're always trying to figure out everything. But when you're willing to say, "God, I can't figure this out, so I'm going to trust You to give me revelation that will set me free," then you can be comfortable in spite of not knowing. Trusting God often requires not knowing how God is going to accomplish what needs to be done and not knowing when He will do it. We often say God is never late, but generally He isn't early either. Why? Because He uses times of waiting to stretch our faith in Him and to bring about change and growth in our lives.

Wait With Patience

We spend a lot of time in our lives waiting because change is a process. Many people want change, but they don't want to go through the waiting process. But the truth is, waiting is a given—we are going to wait. The question is, are we going to wait the wrong or right way? If we wait the wrong way, we'll be miserable; but if we decide to wait God's way, we can become patient and enjoy the wait. It takes practice, but as we let God help us in each situation, we develop patience, which is one of the most important Christian virtues. Patience is a fruit of the Spirit (see Galatians 5:22). It's developed only under trial, so we must not run from difficult situations. But let endurance and steadfastness and patience have full play and do a thorough work, so that you may be [people] perfectly and fully developed [with no defects], lacking in nothing (James 1:4).

As we develop patience, the Bible says we finally feel completely satisfied—lacking nothing. Even our relationship with God involves progressive changes. My relationship with God is so much different now than it was in the early days of my Christian experience. It is not nearly as emotionally exciting...and yet it is better. Every change I've gone through has made me more mature, solid and well-grounded. We learn to trust God by going through many experiences that require trust. By seeing God's faithfulness over and over, we let go of trusting ourselves, and gradually we place our trust in Him. Looking at it like this, it is easy to see how timing plays an important part in learning to trust God. If He did everything we asked for immediately, we would never grow and develop. Timing and trust work side by side.

Accept God's Timing
God gives us hopes and dreams for certain things to happen in our lives, but He doesn't always allow us to see the exact timing of His plan. Although frustrating, not knowing the exact timing is often what keeps us in the program. There are times when we might give up if we knew how long it was going to take, but when we accept God's timing, we can learn to live in hope and enjoy our lives while God is working on our problems. We know that God's plan for our lives is good, and when we entrust ourselves to Him, we can experience total peace and happiness.

The book of Genesis tells the story of Joseph, who waited many years for the fulfillment of the dream God had given him. He was falsely accused and imprisoned before the time came for him to do what God had shown him he was to do. Exodus 13:17-18 tells us that God led the Israelites the longer, harder way on their journey to the Promised Land because He knew they were not yet ready to go in. There had to be time for their training, and they had to go through some very trying situations. They wasted a lot of time wondering about God's timing, but God never failed to take care of them and show them what He wanted them to do. The same is true in our lives. It was many years after I received my call from God in February of 1976 before I finally began to see major fulfillment of what God had called me to do. God's training period simply requires us to do what He tells us to do when He tells us to do it...without questioning or trying to figure everything out.

Learn to Rely on God
Proverbs 16:9 says, "A man's mind plans his way, but the Lord directs his steps and makes them sure." Proverbs 20:24 says, "Man's steps are ordered by the Lord. How then can a man understand his way?" When God directs our paths, He sometimes leads us in ways that don't make sense to us so we're not always going to understand everything. If we try to reason out everything, we will experience struggle, confusion and misery—but there is a better way. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, Lean on, trust in, and be confident in the Lord with all your heart and mind and do not rely on your own insight or understanding. In all your ways know, recognize, and acknowledge Him, and He will direct and make straight and plain your paths. This sounds so simple, yet too many people make the mistake of trying to figure everything out themselves. Most of us have spent our lives trying to take care of ourselves, but when we accept Christ as our Savior, we must learn to trust our lives to His care. When we do, we can say with the psalmist, ...I trusted in, relied on, and was confident in You, O Lord; I said, You are my God. My times are in Your hands...(Psalm 31:14-15).

First Peter 5:5 tells us that ...God sets Himself against the proud (the insolent, the overbearing, the disdainful, the presumptuous, the boastful)—[and He opposes, frustrates, and defeats them], but gives grace (favor, blessing) to the humble. Anyone who thinks they're a self-made man or woman has a rude awakening coming because Jesus said, ...apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing (John 15:5). Humility is a covering that draws the help of God into our lives to protect us. When we humble ourselves by saying, "God, I don't know what to do, but I'm trusting You," God gets in gear to help us. God won't allow us to succeed at anything unless we're leaning and relying on Him. But when we humble ourselves under the mighty hand of God, in due time, He will exalt us (see 1 Peter 5:6). "Due time" is God's time, when God knows we're ready, not when we think we're ready. The sooner we understand and accept that, the sooner God can work His plan in our lives.

From Seedtime to Harvest
Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us: To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven. This lets us know that we all don't live in the same season at the same time. You should never be jealous of someone who is enjoying harvest while you're still in the planting season. Remember, they had to go through a season of planting just as you are. Seeing the results they are enjoying should be an encouragement to you. Understand and trust that God is doing the very best for you in your present season. Seedtime represents learning the will of God. Each time I choose God's will instead of my own, I'm planting a good seed that will eventually bring a harvest in my life. If you want to be victorious, you cannot afford to get pulled into the world's system, doing what you feel like doing. James 1:21 tells us what we should do: ...get rid of all uncleanness and the rampant outgrowth of wickedness, and in a humble (gentle, modest) spirit receive and welcome the Word which implanted and rooted [in your hearts] contains the power to save your souls.

Your soul is your mind, your will and your emotions. When the Word gets rooted in there and begins to change your mind, it begins to heal your emotions and turn your will away from self-will and onto doing the will of God. Living out of one's own soul is equivalent to staying in the wilderness. When my flesh is finally crucified and I get out of my soul and into doing the will of God, that's when I enter the promised land. The promised land is knowing who you are in Christ, knowing how to fellowship with Him, enjoying His presence, and having peace, contentment and joy. Between seedtime and harvest comes a time of waiting. After a seed is planted, the heat, moisture and pressure of the ground finally cause the outer hull to crack open. Then roots shoot down, digging their way through the ground. It takes time for this to happen, and it takes place underground. Above the ground, you can't tell anything is happening. That's the way our lives are. After we plant seeds of obedience, we feel like nothing is happening, but all kinds of things are happening inside where we can't see. And like the seed that finally bursts through the ground with a beautiful green shoot, our seeds of obedience finally break forth into a beautiful manifestation of God in our lives.

When harvesttime comes, the desires of your heart begin to manifest—bondages fall off of you and you see your dreams come to pass. You see your kids changing and your family getting saved. Prosperity, favor, promotion, honor, and all kinds of good things come out in the open where they can be seen. In harvesttime, more than ever before, you hear from God, you enjoy His presence, and you're led by the Spirit. Blessings begin to chase you down the street, and joy and calm delight become your normal mood. Are you tired of waiting for harvesttime in your life? Are you frustrated, crying out, "When, God, when?" Then you need to understand that God's timing is often a mystery. He doesn't do things on our timetable. Yet His Word promises that He will not be late, not one single day. But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, do not despair, for these things will surely come to pass. Just be patient! They will not be overdue a single day! (Habakkuk 2:3 TLB).

God causes things to happen at exactly the right time! Your job is not to figure out when, but to make up your mind that you won't give up until you cross the finish line and are living in the radical, outrageous blessings of God! The more you trust Jesus and keep your eyes focused on Him, the more life you'll have. Trusting God brings life. Believing brings rest. So stop trying to figure everything out, and let God be God in your life.

 

[Godsjewel]

22...And He said to His disciples, "For this reason I say to you, do not worry about your life, as to what you will eat; nor for your body, as to what you will put on.
23 "For life is more than food, and the body more than clothing.
24 "Consider the ravens, for they neither sow nor reap; they have no storeroom nor barn, and yet God feeds them; how much more valuable you are than the birds!
25 "And which of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life's span?
26 "If then you cannot do even a very little thing, why do you worry about other matters?
27 "Consider the lilies, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; but I tell you, not even Solomon in all his glory clothed himself like one of these.
28 "But if God so clothes the grass in the field, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the furnace, how much more will He clothe you? You men of little faith!
29 "And do not seek what you will eat and what you will drink, and do not keep worrying.
30 "For all these things the nations of the world eagerly seek; but your Father knows that you need these things.
31 "But seek His kingdom, and these things will be added to you.
32 "Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has chosen gladly to give you the kingdom.

Luke 12:22-32

Are you a worrier? Do you worry what people think about you? Do you worry that you worry too much? Do you worry that you don’t worry enough? Worry can be a heavy burden to carry on your journey through infertility.

As infertile couples, there are many issues that we face that other people don’t even consider. For example, the dreaded baby shower! Other people get an invitation to a baby shower and the only complaint they have is that they don’t have time to run to the store to pick up a gift! The woman who struggles with infertility knows what’s inside the envelope as soon as she sees it in the mailbox. It weighs at least 1,000 pounds as she carries it inside! She has to sit down and cry for a few minutes before she garners enough strength to open it up and read it. What makes it worse is that the shower is for her sister. She forces herself to read the “happy” news, and writes the date and time down on her calendar, right next to the reminder that she has another appointment for blood work on the same day. As she wipes her eyes and blows her nose, she wonders how she’ll make it through another baby shower. Oh, she’ll go! It’ll kill her, but she’ll go. Why? She worries what people would think if she didn’t go to her little sister’s baby shower. She worries that her mom would get angry or that her sister would get her feelings hurt if she didn’t go. She worries that her family would think she didn’t love her new niece if she stays away. She worries that she’ll be viewed as selfish if she forces herself to go, but cries the whole time. She just worries.

She worries about her future too. She worries about where the money will come from for her next round of treatment. She worries that the medicine won’t work as well this time. She worries that the strain is going to be too much on her marriage. She worries that if she is never able to conceive, that she and her husband won’t be able to agree on whether or not to adopt. She worries that if they can’t agree on adoption, that they will never have children. She worries that she will die alone. She just worries.

Do you realize that the very same God who said to you “Do not kill,” and “Do not steal,” also says to you “Do not worry”? He says not to worry because not only does worry weigh you down and make you fearful, worry does nothing to help the situation. And which of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life’s span? How beautiful it is for God to tell you not to worry. He can do this because He is the One who can make right all the wrongs in your life. He has all power and authority in Heaven and in earth and He tells you not to worry. He even hold authority over infertility, and He tells you not to worry. Fertility-challenged sister, do not worry!

In Luke 12, some men approached Jesus and were asking Him to settle a dispute among family members regarding an inheritance. They were worried about their financial future. Along with teaching them that their worth didn’t lie in the possessions they owned, Jesus assured them that for a child under His keeping, worry had no place.

Wouldn’t you have loved to have been there? I’ll bet a raven flew overhead and Jesus must have pointed skyward and said “Look at those ravens, fellas. They’re not worried about what they’ll eat today. God feeds them. Don’t you know you’re worth so much more!” Maybe there were lilies growing wild in the fields where He was teaching that day when He said to His listeners “Hey guys! You’ve heard about Solomon. Even his finest robes couldn’t compare to these lilies. Wanna know why? Because God clothes them. He’ll take care of you too.”

He says the same to you today. “Don’t worry, daughter. I know the desires of your heart. You feel all alone in this struggle, but I’m right there with you. I’ll take care of you through it all.” You simply don’t have to worry. Whatever God’s plan is for you, He tells you not to worry because He is fully capable of taking care of you throughout the entirety of His plan. From start to finish, you are under His care, so you can find rest.

Does that mean everything will be easy sailing? Not necessarily. But we know that God has known every day of your life from beginning to end (Psalm 139:16), and He is fully capable of seeing you through good days and bad, happy times and sad. No matter what you face, whether it is pregnancy, miscarriage, adoption, joy, sorrow, or any combination thereof, God is able to see you through. And because He is able to see you through, He says to you, don’t worry.

 

[Shellvz]

Hey

I am now in my 12 month (6 month of actively ttc, 6 month ntnp) and so last week visited Dr for first time. Currently mid cycle so have to wait 2 more weeks to begin fertility tests.

Feeling nervous about tests and results but looking forward to potential answers.

My friend has organised a group of women to pray over me tomorrow night. She contacted me to say she had a vision of this happening and felt led to make it happen. I haven't told my friends very much about our struggle to conceive as they are all busy with their babies and pregnancies. I am the only one left without children.

I decided that if this was a vision from God then I don't want to miss out - so off I go tomorrow. Time will tell!

Wow!! Please let us know how it went! I think it's sweet that your friend did that for you

Went to my friends house last night at 8pm for prayer. There were 4 of us altogether. Got home at 11pm feeling a lot lighter, cleaner and better.

They gave me words of knowledge and Bible verses that God had given them for me then prayed for me. Dealt with some bad attitudes, wrong thinking and deep hurts that I was carrying.

Addressed fear, defeat, helplessness, anger, unforgiveness, shame and other like spirits which have been tormenting my thought life.

Ended with praying a blessing over me and my womb, speaking a child into being and protection from the plans of the devil.

It was good. I was surprised by how affected my thought life had been by negativity. I had given up hope. I was weary of believing and hoping and then being disappointed.

 

[Godsjewel]

Hey

I am now in my 12 month (6 month of actively ttc, 6 month ntnp) and so last week visited Dr for first time. Currently mid cycle so have to wait 2 more weeks to begin fertility tests.

Feeling nervous about tests and results but looking forward to potential answers.

My friend has organised a group of women to pray over me tomorrow night. She contacted me to say she had a vision of this happening and felt led to make it happen. I haven't told my friends very much about our struggle to conceive as they are all busy with their babies and pregnancies. I am the only one left without children.

I decided that if this was a vision from God then I don't want to miss out - so off I go tomorrow. Time will tell!

Wow!! Please let us know how it went! I think it's sweet that your friend did that for you

Went to my friends house last night at 8pm for prayer. There were 4 of us altogether. Got home at 11pm feeling a lot lighter, cleaner and better.

They gave me words of knowledge and Bible verses that God had given them for me then prayed for me. Dealt with some bad attitudes, wrong thinking and deep hurts that I was carrying.

Addressed fear, defeat, helplessness, anger, unforgiveness, shame and other like spirits which have been tormenting my thought life.

Ended with praying a blessing over me and my womb, speaking a child into being and protection from the plans of the devil.

It was good. I was surprised by how affected my thought life had been by negativity. I had given up hope. I was weary of believing and hoping and then being disappointed.

Thank you for sharing that with us. What an awesome blessing

 

[Godsjewel]

Today we are blessed to share another personal testimony from someone who has walked the difficult journey through infertility. Brittany Smith shares from her heart to yours to encourage you to never give up. Thank you, Brittany, for your willingness to reach out to others and share how God never, ever left you, even in your darkest days.

If you had asked me before May 2009 to give my testimony, I wouldn’t know what to talk about. I used to tell God that I never really “struggled” with anything. I couldn’t relate to those who did. Well, God changed all that. In May of 2009, my husband and I agreed it was time to have a baby. We made 3 years of marriage that June and had plenty of time being “us.” I was secretly hoping to get pregnant right away, while Justin was hoping it would take a few months. I always had it in the back of my head that it would be a struggle to get pregnant. Thank you God for forewarning my spirit.

After 70+ days of stopping my birth control pills, I had my first cycle. Another 80+ passed before my second. After over another 80 days without a cycle, I phoned my OB/GYN. I knew something was wrong and I wanted to figure it out sooner, rather than later. After a few tests, I was told I was “insulin resistant.” I was given meds to induce a cycle every month, but nothing to make me ovulate. Hey, isn’t the point of trying to get pregnant, that you have to ovulate first? I didn’t waste much time seeing a fertility specialist when I felt my OB/GYN was missing the point. After one ultrasound, I was diagnosed with PCOS. We started Clomid with my next cycle. I was so excited we had “figured it out” and I was hoping for twins! Well, 5 perfect Clomid cycles later (perfect in every way except never a positive pregnancy test), 3 of those being with IUI, we hadn’t had our answer. I was devastated! “Lord, how can this be?” I would ask. “I have never done anything wrong, I have always been a good kid, I have never strayed from you. Why do I deserve this?” We decided to give fertility treatments a rest. Our next option of injectibles cost a lot more and I couldn’t handle any more emotional stress. My thoughts were that if I gave God time to allow me to become pregnant without fertility treatments, He would get all the glory.

The next month, (Sept. 2010) my husband heard a word from God concerning the month of March. We both assumed that meant I would get pregnant that month. So, I didn’t worry the next few months when I had negative pregnancy tests. But when March, April, and May passed without a positive pregnancy test, I got angry with God. I felt he had let me down. I even cried out “God, I gave you plenty of time! This isn’t fair!” This is when I hit rock bottom. I was on the brink of clinical depression. My husband was such a strong support for me and He reminded me that God had not forgotten us. We decided and felt at peace about starting fertility treatments again, this time more aggressive. We were tired of waiting; we were ready for our baby!

We met with our fertility doctor in early June 2011. We discussed that after our 5 year anniversary trip later that month, we would start a round of injectibles. Of course, I brought 2 tests on our trip “just in case.” I was expecting my next period to fall on our anniversary, June 25th. Instead, I was late. Three days later, I took both tests and saw words I had NEVER seen before “PREGNANT.” I couldn’t believe it. When I did the math, according to my ovulation day, I was due MARCH 3rd 2012. This is the March my husband had heard about. God told us all along; however, we interpreted it wrong. When we were down to our last straw, when we told God we were through with waiting on Him, He showed up strong and mighty and proved to us that He is still in control. I am so grateful that I serve a God who loves me even when I question and doubt Him. His love for me is truly unconditional! This is the testimony He wanted for my life.

I was told many times by God, that my difficult road to pregnancy was not punishment for something I did. It was so that I can help others to get through their infertility journeys. He had to give me something to be able to relate to others. I learned a lot about myself, my husband, and my God since May 2009. If I could go back in time, I wouldn’t change a thing. Every day and step was ordained by God. Ladies, He doesn’t disappoint. We all have different stories and struggles, because God wants to use us all in a unique way. My prayer is that, through this trying time in your life, you all find a comfort and peace that only God can give.

 

[me222]

Beckysprayer and Mummywanttobe, I'm deeply sorry. I just prayed for us all. I'm brought to tears at the moment because it hurts that those on this thread who were pregnant have had miscarriages. I'm deeply sorry and my heart goes out to each of you. May we encourage each other and comfort each other with the comfort God gives us. And even those of us who have never had that BFP, my heart goes out to us too. This suffering isn't joyful, but may God help us be joyful in Him through this long season of ttc. Much love to you all.

 

[me222]

Hi again...
Was just wondering about the whole fertility testing? Anyone give me the rundown on what happens, how they felt, etc with doing fertility testing?
My husband and I are against the sperm testing if it involves pleasing himself in a room...we'd rather be given a condom to take a sample in. Sorry if tmi. I just need to know what others think of all this? Are drs willing to allow this? How long does fertility testing last?
This is almost our 19th month of ttc and we're thinking of tests. But, we don't want to take drugs or anything: just want tests to see if they can find out what's wrong and then we'll continue down the alternative natural path (naturopath, herbs, etc.).

 

[Shellvz]

Hi again...
Was just wondering about the whole fertility testing? Anyone give me the rundown on what happens, how they felt, etc with doing fertility testing?
My husband and I are against the sperm testing if it involves pleasing himself in a room...we'd rather be given a condom to take a sample in. Sorry if tmi. I just need to know what others think of all this? Are drs willing to allow this? How long does fertility testing last?
This is almost our 19th month of ttc and we're thinking of tests. But, we don't want to take drugs or anything: just want tests to see if they can find out what's wrong and then we'll continue down the alternative natural path (naturopath, herbs, etc.).

In Australia, we have the choice to bring sperm sample in with us or produce sample there. He could use condom and then put that specimen in jar and bring in with you.

 

[BRK06]

Hey

I am now in my 12 month (6 month of actively ttc, 6 month ntnp) and so last week visited Dr for first time. Currently mid cycle so have to wait 2 more weeks to begin fertility tests.

Feeling nervous about tests and results but looking forward to potential answers.

My friend has organised a group of women to pray over me tomorrow night. She contacted me to say she had a vision of this happening and felt led to make it happen. I haven't told my friends very much about our struggle to conceive as they are all busy with their babies and pregnancies. I am the only one left without children.

I decided that if this was a vision from God then I don't want to miss out - so off I go tomorrow. Time will tell!

Wow!! Please let us know how it went! I think it's sweet that your friend did that for you

Went to my friends house last night at 8pm for prayer. There were 4 of us altogether. Got home at 11pm feeling a lot lighter, cleaner and better.

They gave me words of knowledge and Bible verses that God had given them for me then prayed for me. Dealt with some bad attitudes, wrong thinking and deep hurts that I was carrying.

Addressed fear, defeat, helplessness, anger, unforgiveness, shame and other like spirits which have been tormenting my thought life.

Ended with praying a blessing over me and my womb, speaking a child into being and protection from the plans of the devil.

It was good. I was surprised by how affected my thought life had been by negativity. I had given up hope. I was weary of believing and hoping and then being disappointed.

What a blessing! It's amazing what God reveals to us when we release all that to him. I'm glad you shared that with us! Thank you

 

[BRK06]

Hi again...
Was just wondering about the whole fertility testing? Anyone give me the rundown on what happens, how they felt, etc with doing fertility testing?
My husband and I are against the sperm testing if it involves pleasing himself in a room...we'd rather be given a condom to take a sample in. Sorry if tmi. I just need to know what others think of all this? Are drs willing to allow this? How long does fertility testing last?
This is almost our 19th month of ttc and we're thinking of tests. But, we don't want to take drugs or anything: just want tests to see if they can find out what's wrong and then we'll continue down the alternative natural path (naturopath, herbs, etc.).

Most places I know allow you to use a collection condom as long as you get the sample to the lab within the 20-30 min time frame. I had mixed feelings about the testing...(We've done the sperm analysis, HSG, MRI, ultrasound, countless blood tests) I thought I was going to explode if they told me one more thing was wrong, but I'm glad we went through with it, because they found a couple things that could have been pretty serious if we had left them unchecked. It's all in what you feel comfortable with!

 

[PrincessBree]

Beckysprayer and Mummywanttobe, I'm deeply sorry. I just prayed for us all. I'm brought to tears at the moment because it hurts that those on this thread who were pregnant have had miscarriages. I'm deeply sorry and my heart goes out to each of you. May we encourage each other and comfort each other with the comfort God gives us. And even those of us who have never had that BFP, my heart goes out to us too. This suffering isn't joyful, but may God help us be joyful in Him through this long season of ttc. Much love to you all.

Hun thank you so much for posting this it's like Gods love was in every sentence and I really felt the comfort of God through reading this what a blessing you are to us I thank God for your life and pray with you that one day soon you will see that BFP that you are waiting for.Blessings to you xx

 

[me222]

Hi again...
Was just wondering about the whole fertility testing? Anyone give me the rundown on what happens, how they felt, etc with doing fertility testing?
My husband and I are against the sperm testing if it involves pleasing himself in a room...we'd rather be given a condom to take a sample in. Sorry if tmi. I just need to know what others think of all this? Are drs willing to allow this? How long does fertility testing last?
This is almost our 19th month of ttc and we're thinking of tests. But, we don't want to take drugs or anything: just want tests to see if they can find out what's wrong and then we'll continue down the alternative natural path (naturopath, herbs, etc.).

In Australia, we have the choice to bring sperm sample in with us or produce sample there. He could use condom and then put that specimen in jar and bring in with you.

That's a relief to know! Thank you, Shellvz. Does it have to be a specialised condom? How fresh does the sperm have to be? Like, do you be intimate and then go to the doctor's office/patholigist straight away?

 

[me222]

Hi again...
Was just wondering about the whole fertility testing? Anyone give me the rundown on what happens, how they felt, etc with doing fertility testing?
My husband and I are against the sperm testing if it involves pleasing himself in a room...we'd rather be given a condom to take a sample in. Sorry if tmi. I just need to know what others think of all this? Are drs willing to allow this? How long does fertility testing last?
This is almost our 19th month of ttc and we're thinking of tests. But, we don't want to take drugs or anything: just want tests to see if they can find out what's wrong and then we'll continue down the alternative natural path (naturopath, herbs, etc.).

Most places I know allow you to use a collection condom as long as you get the sample to the lab within the 20-30 min time frame. I had mixed feelings about the testing...(We've done the sperm analysis, HSG, MRI, ultrasound, countless blood tests) I thought I was going to explode if they told me one more thing was wrong, but I'm glad we went through with it, because they found a couple things that could have been pretty serious if we had left them unchecked. It's all in what you feel comfortable with!

Thanks Kim! eek! a 20-30 min time frame...talk about lack of privacy in that people know what you're doing..ugh. What do you mean by they found a couple of things that could have been pretty serious? How'd they treat those things? if that's okay to ask? Did you have a female dr examine you?

 

[me222]

Beckysprayer and Mummywanttobe, I'm deeply sorry. I just prayed for us all. I'm brought to tears at the moment because it hurts that those on this thread who were pregnant have had miscarriages. I'm deeply sorry and my heart goes out to each of you. May we encourage each other and comfort each other with the comfort God gives us. And even those of us who have never had that BFP, my heart goes out to us too. This suffering isn't joyful, but may God help us be joyful in Him through this long season of ttc. Much love to you all.

Hun thank you so much for posting this it's like Gods love was in every sentence and I really felt the comfort of God through reading this what a blessing you are to us I thank God for your life and pray with you that one day soon you will see that BFP that you are waiting for.Blessings to you xx

Thansk Bree. Hugs! How are you? How's everything going? Praying for you. I am deeply sorry again. Lots of love to you.
It's amazing how all of us can get attached to each other and really want to know how each other are going. I think it's the fellowship in Jesus that we all share on this thread that really binds us together as well as the suffering of ttc.

 

[BRK06]

Hi again...
Was just wondering about the whole fertility testing? Anyone give me the rundown on what happens, how they felt, etc with doing fertility testing?
My husband and I are against the sperm testing if it involves pleasing himself in a room...we'd rather be given a condom to take a sample in. Sorry if tmi. I just need to know what others think of all this? Are drs willing to allow this? How long does fertility testing last?
This is almost our 19th month of ttc and we're thinking of tests. But, we don't want to take drugs or anything: just want tests to see if they can find out what's wrong and then we'll continue down the alternative natural path (naturopath, herbs, etc.).

Most places I know allow you to use a collection condom as long as you get the sample to the lab within the 20-30 min time frame. I had mixed feelings about the testing...(We've done the sperm analysis, HSG, MRI, ultrasound, countless blood tests) I thought I was going to explode if they told me one more thing was wrong, but I'm glad we went through with it, because they found a couple things that could have been pretty serious if we had left them unchecked. It's all in what you feel comfortable with!

Thanks Kim! eek! a 20-30 min time frame...talk about lack of privacy in that people know what you're doing..ugh. What do you mean by they found a couple of things that could have been pretty serious? How'd they treat those things? if that's okay to ask? Did you have a female dr examine you?

Yeah, they don't make romance much of a possibility I know a few couples that lived too far from the lab that rented a hotel room close to it because they wanted to use a condom instead of a cup. They both took the day off and had a relaxing day, romantic dinner, etc.

Well, one of the "big" things they found was that I have cervical dysplasia, which is abnormal cells on the outside of the cervix. If it's bad enough, it can turn into cervical cancer. Mild dysplasia can usually go away on its own, but mine is still there, so I've had biopsies done and they're talking about doing a procedure which will remove all the abnormal cells.

In the beginning, I insisted on a female dr, but as time went on, and we kept moving, I had to see a couple of male drs. They've all been very professional though, and a female nurse or tech is ALWAYS present as well as my husband. I was worried about showing "the goods" to another man, but my husband worked in L&D/Postpartum for 5+ years, and when I asked him about looking at women's stuff all day, he said that it was just like looking at another body part. You see so many, you become desensitized... There isn't anything sexual about it. (Which is why, in this capacity, he doesn't mind the male drs.)

Sorry that was kind of long, I hope it helped a little. If there's anything else I can help with, feel free to ask or PM me anytime

 

[beckysprayer]

You ladies are all such a blessing!

O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in Him. - Psalm 34:8