Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Godsjewel]

Shellvz - So glad you're ovulating. And we know God has the final say for your husband. I am believing God with you for your children.

me222 - So sorry about the mix up at the doctor's office. I totally understand how frustrating that can be. I pray that all goes well with you.

beckysprayer - I'm so happy things are going well and your body is getting back on track. Praise God!!!

Godsjewel - :wave: I pray all is going well with you.

Hi to anyone I missed.

AFM - I have another threatened miscarriage. I have made peace with it, and I am thankful that God has shown me early on instead of me going another 4 weeks believing things will be okay. So, it's still not our time but I know eventually it will be and God will give us our children.

oh sweetie...I wish I could go through the computer to give you a big hug. I'm very sorry and my heart hurts that you have to go through this. I'm in awe of your faith and positive attitude during this time in your life, you are a blessing to me and I know God is going to bless you for it.

I think back to the book of Job in the bible where the enemy is attacking everything in his life, his family, his livestock and health and at the end of it all, God returned unto him a double blessing for what he went through. I believe that is true for you and others who have angels...I believe God will pour out a double blessing for what you have been through.

And we know, ALL things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28

 

[beckysprayer]

Well, the good news is I am ovulating - which my charts agree with. My temps always rise and fall each cycle as they should despite being diagnosed recently with bilateral polystic ovaries.

All my blood counts were normal. Unfortunately, my husbands sperm analysis declared him sterile. We have been referred to a fertility specialist for further testing.

Regardless of his results, we are still believing God can and will give us children.

Praying for you and your husband! God is greater than any medical diagnosis.

Shellvz - So glad you're ovulating. And we know God has the final say for your husband. I am believing God with you for your children.

me222 - So sorry about the mix up at the doctor's office. I totally understand how frustrating that can be. I pray that all goes well with you.

beckysprayer - I'm so happy things are going well and your body is getting back on track. Praise God!!!

Godsjewel - :wave: I pray all is going well with you.

Hi to anyone I missed.

AFM - I have another threatened miscarriage. I have made peace with it, and I am thankful that God has shown me early on instead of me going another 4 weeks believing things will be okay. So, it's still not our time but I know eventually it will be and God will give us our children.

My heart breaks for you! Keeping you in my prayers

 

[Godsjewel]

Important Things

There was a study done that looked at the compliance rates for patients undergoing treatment for infertility. They found that fertility patients were as committed to their treatment plans or more so than any other patients, except cancer patients. The fertility patient understood the importance of compliance with treatment. The woman who so desperately wants to have a baby will do whatever it takes to conceive. If a report surfaces that says it is important for a woman’s fertility for her to eat lots of African yams, then the infertile woman will travel to whatever grocery store she can find that carries them and will eat them until her skin turns orange, just on the outside chance that it will help. She’ll lie on acupuncturists’ tables, try any variety of diets and exercise, assume whatever post-baby-dance position successful friends have suggested and rearrange any number of schedules to make sure her medications are taken at the exact moment the doctor prescribed--not one minute before, not one minute after. And for the love of God and everything holy, don’t even let her man even look toward a hot tub! She’ll body slam him right there on the side walk! It’s important to keep his body cool these days! She knows that all of these things are vitally important in her quest for a baby, and she must see to it that each and every suggestion is followed precisely.

In the midst of keeping up with all of these truly important things in your journey toward parenthood--and these are important things--have you forgotten the most important thing? Has your relationship with God withered? It’s easy to pull away from Him if it feels like He is the cause of the hurt that infertility has brought into your life. If your heart feels bruised, remind yourself that infertility is not His way of laughing at your pain, or some demented way of deriving pleasure from your sorrow. On the contrary, He works through this crisis in your life to bring you into closer relationship with Him so you can know Him more, so you can hear His voice more clearly, so you can see Him working in your life. Let’s take a moment and learn a quick lesson about what Jesus said were the two most important things in maintaining our relationship with God, no matter what crisis life brings.

1. Jesus very clearly taught us that the greatest commandment of all was to love God. To love Him wholeheartedly, with everything in us. With our whole heart, our soul and with our whole mind. (Matthew 22:37) He said this mattered more than the command to not commit adultery, to not lie or steal. It is even greater than the command to not murder someone!

2. He also showed us with His actions that prayer was to be a priority. In Mark 11:15-17 we see Jesus doing something that must have shocked His disciples. He entered a temple and saw moneychangers taking advantage of the people. They were cheating the people out of money by selling them less than perfect animals for sacrifices. In a rage, Jesus fashioned a whip out of ropes and went after them! I’m sure He let out quite a roar as He turned over their tables, threw their money everywhere, chased their animals away. It was quite chaotic!


When He had cleansed the temple of the people who brought the filth of unclean hearts to His Father’s house, Jesus said, “My house shall be called a house of prayer for all the nations...” (Mark 11:17) He showed with His actions how important prayer is. Our bodies are a temple of the Holy Spirit. (1 Corinthians 6:19) Prayer must be a priority in your temple. Don’t let the stress and the frustration of infertility cause you to let your prayer life weaken or die. If prayer has become a less frequent or less vibrant part of your relationship with God, you can refresh this part of your walk with Him today.

Don’t forget the important things. Follow the treatment plan laid out for you in cooperation with your medical team. Remember all the wonderful things about your spouse that attracted you to him in the first place. Remind yourself that infertility is a season in your life, and that it will not last forever. But most importantly, nourish your relationship with your heavenly Father. He loves you. He’s passionate about you, and He will bring you through this struggle in your life with blessings you never could have imagined.

-Beth Forbus

 

[dredpa04]

Hello Ladies. I am so glad I found this thread as I have been dealing with feelings of jealousy through this ttc #1 stage of my life. I am 26 years old. My husband and I have been ttc since January. After receiving the good bill of women's health my gyno told me in December that she guessed I would be pregnant in no time! Even though I know that GOD is the ultimate decision maker in this I got so excited and took her words to heart. I ran right to CVS and bought an ovulation kit and prenatals. The O kit kind of freaked out my hubby so I didn't use it after the first month. I have been tracking naturally ever since. As each month passes I continue to feel despair. Some months are better than others.
Currently, DH is having some male problems that are keeping us out of the bedroom except for once or twice a month. This in itself is hard for us. We are working toward getting him insurance so we can hopefully solve this issue. Today has been especially hard because I just found out that my cousin who just got married in June is 2 months pregnant. I really am happy for them but envy keeps attempting to overcome my emotions. Everytime a friend or family member announces a pregnancy it hits me like a rock. I know that we will have a baby in The LORD'S time and not my own but it is so difficult to remember that when each month passes and I'm not even sure that we are making love enough to have a shot. Have any of you felt this way? I really wanted to chat with other Christian women about this. Anyone know of any good passages to share? Thank you so much for taking the time to read this..

 

[Godsjewel]

Hello Ladies. I am so glad I found this thread as I have been dealing with feelings of jealousy through this ttc #1 stage of my life. I am 26 years old. My husband and I have been ttc since January. After receiving the good bill of women's health my gyno told me in December that she guessed I would be pregnant in no time! Even though I know that GOD is the ultimate decision maker in this I got so excited and took her words to heart. I ran right to CVS and bought an ovulation kit and prenatals. The O kit kind of freaked out my hubby so I didn't use it after the first month. I have been tracking naturally ever since. As each month passes I continue to feel despair. Some months are better than others.
Currently, DH is having some male problems that are keeping us out of the bedroom except for once or twice a month. This in itself is hard for us. We are working toward getting him insurance so we can hopefully solve this issue. Today has been especially hard because I just found out that my cousin who just got married in June is 2 months pregnant. I really am happy for them but envy keeps attempting to overcome my emotions. Everytime a friend or family member announces a pregnancy it hits me like a rock. I know that we will have a baby in The LORD'S time and not my own but it is so difficult to remember that when each month passes and I'm not even sure that we are making love enough to have a shot. Have any of you felt this way? I really wanted to chat with other Christian women about this. Anyone know of any good passages to share? Thank you so much for taking the time to read this..

First of all…Welcome!!!

I know you didn’t find this thread by chance, I know God has a special plan and purpose for your life and I look forward to sharing this journey with you.

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

TTC has definitely been the hardest journey in my life. I grew up thinking I was going to get married, buy a house with a white picket fence and have children, a boy and a girl…never in my mind did I question if I could have children or not. What heartache when month after month, year after year goes by and you have yet to see a positive on that pregnancy test. Then all of a sudden everyone and their mom is pregnant. It’s a very hard journey to be on, but I can say for myself…if it wasn’t for having Jesus in my life, I wouldn’t be able to do it. I’m only human and have temper tantrums and rants to God about why it’s taking so long and why does this or that person get to have children and I don’t, but His timing is perfect. I know you will read that a lot in this thread about God’s timing, but it’s the truth. We just need to keep Him the main focus and with that He brings such peace that is indescribable.

I’m sorry to hear your hubby is having problems and I pray that God will touch Him with His healing power and that everything will work the way He intended it to.

I was listening to Joyce Meyer this morning and she was talking about being thankful. Being thankful isn’t always about thanking God for what you have, but also when you see someone else get what you want, to also thank God for them and their blessing. I know that after many years of ttc God has done a real work in me…before I would look at pregnant women and say she is so lucky and feel hurt and sadness in my heart…now I look at them and say a quick prayer for them and their pregnancy.

I will leave you with my favorite verse.

And we know, all things work together for good to those who love God and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28

 

[No Doubt]

I'm so sorry hisgrace. I'll be praying for you and your hubbs. I can only imagine how that feels, but you seem to be dealing with it well. God is definately in control and has his hands on you!

God's Jewel. I've heard that about the stress of fertility being equivalent to the stress of cancer patients and I can believe it. I pray that none of us ever get to that point of despair and for those of us who have that we never see that place again.

 

[HisGrace]

Hello Ladies. I am so glad I found this thread as I have been dealing with feelings of jealousy through this ttc #1 stage of my life. I am 26 years old. My husband and I have been ttc since January. After receiving the good bill of women's health my gyno told me in December that she guessed I would be pregnant in no time! Even though I know that GOD is the ultimate decision maker in this I got so excited and took her words to heart. I ran right to CVS and bought an ovulation kit and prenatals. The O kit kind of freaked out my hubby so I didn't use it after the first month. I have been tracking naturally ever since. As each month passes I continue to feel despair. Some months are better than others.
Currently, DH is having some male problems that are keeping us out of the bedroom except for once or twice a month. This in itself is hard for us. We are working toward getting him insurance so we can hopefully solve this issue. Today has been especially hard because I just found out that my cousin who just got married in June is 2 months pregnant. I really am happy for them but envy keeps attempting to overcome my emotions. Everytime a friend or family member announces a pregnancy it hits me like a rock. I know that we will have a baby in The LORD'S time and not my own but it is so difficult to remember that when each month passes and I'm not even sure that we are making love enough to have a shot. Have any of you felt this way? I really wanted to chat with other Christian women about this. Anyone know of any good passages to share? Thank you so much for taking the time to read this..

Hi hun. We all know what you're going through. That's one of the greatest things about this thread. Sometimes it is easy to forget that God is with us in all of this, and this thread is always a good reminder. As for the envy, I can completely relate. The thing that helped me was the realization that God didn't take my children and give them to someone else. He just blessed them before He blessed me. I know that sounds silly, but I was literally treating the pregnant women and the women with newborns as if they were carrying/holding my children. I'm not saying this is how you see those women. I'm just saying to pray about it and ask the Holy Spirit for clarity on how to deal with the enviousness. He will show you what will get you through it just like He showed me.

 

[Mummy_2_One]

Here is proof that God is still in the healing business...


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HZDOVyQtep4&feature=relmfu

Thank you for this Sarah! Ladies, if you have a moment, watch the second part as well, which for me appeared to click on in the top left-hand corner of the movie screen once the first part finished playing. xx

 

[fletch_W]

hi ladies i hope you dont mind me joining you? Mummy2one messaged me and encouraged me to come and join you all.

so ill tell you my story. I am 23 yrs old my husband is 32. we have been trying for children since we got married back in may 2010. so well over 2 years. In march this year we got our first bfp which couldnt have come at a better time with my family going through some pretty awful stuff, and a week and a half later we lost the baby through a miscarriage at almost 7 weeks. I managed to keep all faith that God was going to provide when His time was right and completely put my trust in Him to provide, but then i joined this website and all of a sudden i am overwhelmed with jealousy at all the ladies who try and fall straight away. Since march i have suffered 2 chemical pregnancies, on just last week and it really took it out of me. I am so deeply depressed right now that i hate everything and everyone around me. My hubby is being super sweet and sensitive towards me but he is really irritating me. I know that i need to surrender myself to God but right now it is so hard for me to do that whilst im hating the world for whats happened to me over the last 6 months.

I guess i just wanted to ask you ladies to pray for me and maybe offer some advice/guidance and help me to fall on my knees again and back in love with Jesus. Im not blaming him but im getting to the point where im telling Him that he could give me a break lol. which im sure im not the only one guilty of but i really want to be able to take my mind off ttc until after christmas and focus on what he wants to do with me. i want to know what my true calling is and not what i want it to be (a mother).

sorry i have rambled and ranted. but i know my feelings wont be alien to many of you.

God bless you all and praise God that we are able to come online and have a thread like this and not be attacked for speaking freely.

 

[Godsjewel]

I sure needed to read this today...

He Almost Missed His Miracle

But Naaman went away angry and said, "I thought that he would surely come out to me and stand and call on the name of the LORD his God, wave his hand over the spot and cure me of my leprosy. 12 Are not Abana and Pharpar, the rivers of Damascus, better than any of the waters of Israel? Couldn't I wash in them and be cleansed?" So he turned and went off in a rage.
2 Kings 5:11-12

War hero. Highly respected. Valiant soldier. Disgusting leper.

Naaman was all of these. Life certainly did not turn out the way he had expected. He had fought battles for the king and had won. Townspeople taught their children to be like Naaman--strong and brave. Until the day his skin began peeling off like scales. The laurels denoting the victories of battle would hide the sores only so long before it became painfully apparent that Naaman was a leper. Unclean. Defeated. Diseased.

But there was hope! A prophet of God was found who could call on the Almighty for help. Naaman gathered his chariots and finest horses and in a display worthy of the national hero he was, he made a grand display for Elisha. Surely the prophet would be impressed. It was doubtful that any other leper had ever gone to such lengths to grab his attention. Even the Lord would have to smile.

Imagine Naaman’s surprise when Elisha didn’t even crack the door of his home, sending instead a common servant with a simple message: Go wash in the Jordan River. You’ll be cleansed.

Naaman’s rage was as impressive as his military record. This prophet wouldn’t even come outside? Scripture records his fury. “Naaman went away angry and said, ‘I thought that he would surely come out to me and stand and call on the name of the LORD his God, wave his hand over the spot and cure me of my leprosy.’...So he turned and went off in a rage.” Elisha’s answer wasn’t what Naaman was expecting. He almost missed his miracle.

Thanks to the level head and bravery of a few good servants, Naaman was reminded that if he had been asked to do something huge, he would have followed Elisha’s directions. Naaman released his pride, did as the prophet told him to do, and he was cured of his horrible disease.

Naaman almost missed his miracle because God, through the prophet Elisha, did not work the way he expected Him to. Naaman expected a huge display of emotion, yelling and arm waving. Instead, he was told to bathe in filthy water. When God’s plan didn’t line up with how Naaman had imagined it, he got mad and stormed off. He was ready to give up on God’s plan because it didn’t make sense. Can you imagine how thankful he was for those friends who convinced him to trust God one more time?

Has God’s plan for your life ever seemed out of line with the dreams you envisioned? How many times have you repeated Naaman’s words “But I thought…” Infertility is never part of the life story we pen for ourselves, but it certainly is part of God’s master plan for so many. When God doesn’t work the way you expect Him to, how do you respond? Are you ready to walk off, give up on Him and miss your miracle? Do you trust Him to do something unexpected and dunk down in filthy waters just because He said to?

Don’t give up on God’s plan for your family. Even if right now His plan seems as murky as the muddy waters of the Jordan River, find some way to trust Him again. Maybe His plan will unfold a little differently than you thought it would, but when it comes to pass, you’ll be so grateful for His divine workings in your life.

Trust God even when His plans don’t make sense. And don’t miss your miracle.

-Beth Forbus

 

[fletch_W]

WOW. thank you so much for this. Was like a slap in the face in a good way. Does this mean I should keep trying but not.obsessing? How do I find a balance? Xx

 

[Godsjewel]

hi ladies i hope you dont mind me joining you? Mummy2one messaged me and encouraged me to come and join you all.

so ill tell you my story. I am 23 yrs old my husband is 32. we have been trying for children since we got married back in may 2010. so well over 2 years. In march this year we got our first bfp which couldnt have come at a better time with my family going through some pretty awful stuff, and a week and a half later we lost the baby through a miscarriage at almost 7 weeks. I managed to keep all faith that God was going to provide when His time was right and completely put my trust in Him to provide, but then i joined this website and all of a sudden i am overwhelmed with jealousy at all the ladies who try and fall straight away. Since march i have suffered 2 chemical pregnancies, on just last week and it really took it out of me. I am so deeply depressed right now that i hate everything and everyone around me. My hubby is being super sweet and sensitive towards me but he is really irritating me. I know that i need to surrender myself to God but right now it is so hard for me to do that whilst im hating the world for whats happened to me over the last 6 months.

I guess i just wanted to ask you ladies to pray for me and maybe offer some advice/guidance and help me to fall on my knees again and back in love with Jesus. Im not blaming him but im getting to the point where im telling Him that he could give me a break lol. which im sure im not the only one guilty of but i really want to be able to take my mind off ttc until after christmas and focus on what he wants to do with me. i want to know what my true calling is and not what i want it to be (a mother).

sorry i have rambled and ranted. but i know my feelings wont be alien to many of you.

God bless you all and praise God that we are able to come online and have a thread like this and not be attacked for speaking freely.

Hi sweetheart Welcome! my name is Sarah and I'm glad you felt comfortable with us to share your feelings.

This is one tough journey we are on and God is the only one who sees the awesome outcome of it. I have been struggling with ttc for 5 years and have never fallen pregnant, so I don't know how it feels to lose an angel and I'm very sorry you had to go through it. I know there are some women on here that have had miscarriages and can definitely tell you how God has brought them peace through that difficult time. It breaks my heart each time I hear about it and pray that even through it, God will work it all out for good.

Take this waiting time to build a closer relationship with God, seek His face, continually acknowledge Him throughout your day...once you do this, you will find such peace in knowing He is in control.

I will keep you in my prayers

 

[fletch_W]

Thank you. Iv suffered with depression since I was younger and for the last 4 years have been sleeping as little as 4 hrs a night. So today I decided to get a herbal sleeping aid to help me get back into a routine and get a good nights sleep. I was told that my lack of sleep can worsen my depression and have a massive effect on ttc and fertility.

What you posted before you replied to me is what I just heard on ucb radio (I have it on whilst tidying up) and he said the word for today is the world is only where we are, we live in / for Jesus. Trust in Him and forget about what you think you're on earth for. Listen and He will guide..

So I think a break from obsessing is needed.

 

[Godsjewel]

WOW. thank you so much for this. Was like a slap in the face in a good way. Does this mean I should keep trying but not.obsessing? How do I find a balance? Xx

What works for me is just taking it one day at a time. Each morning thank the Lord for what He has already blessed you with and ask Him for strength to make it through another day.

He loves when we completely put our faith and trust in Him by speaking His word over our life. Thank Him for His perfect timing and for the child that will soon be growing perfectly in your belly.

We are only human with deep emotions and desires for wanting a child and will come across those days were the tears won't stop flowing, but God is there reaching out His loving arms to hold you and let you know He has nothing but good in store for you.

 

[HisGrace]

Welcome fletch. I know all too well how you feel. I've been angry with God. I've walked away and I've questioned Him. But through it all, I have only felt true peace when I sought Him. His word says if we draw near to Him, He would draw near to us. There is comfort in Him. True peace. I know it's hard because you want someone to be angry at, but I had to learn that's no way to live. The peace feels so much better. I'll be praying for you. Please feel free to pm me if you need anything.

 

[fletch_W]

thanks His Grace.

Im not so much angry about the mc anymore as i made me peace with God about it but its the two losses since that im struggling with. But i will find my peace. Focusing on Him is my one goal these next few months and learning more about Him and falling in love with Him over again.

Hopefully with my new frame of mind, ill be able to get into a routine of waking early and starting my day with my 365 day bible readings and prayer.

 

[HisGrace]

You'll get there then. All we have to do is seek Him.

 

[dredpa04]

GodsJewel, thank you so much for your kind words and reminders from God's Word. You and this thread are a blessing to everyone I will be praying for you as you continue your ttc journey. I am doing remarkably better than yesterday. I sat and had a long talk with The Lord last night and also took the time to listen. I feel a huge emotional weight has been lifted and replaced with all of the other things in my life that God is working on. My husband and I are beginning to lead our church's youth group here in a couple weeks and we are really looking forward to it. I am going to focus on just doing what we need to each month for the ttc issue and leave everything else to HIM I hope you are having a blessed day!

 

[dredpa04]

HisGrace, thank you so much for taking the time to read and respond to me. Your post really hit home with me about looking at pregnant women as if they are carrying my baby. I was never quite able to put my emotions into words and that hit the nail right on the head. Thank you. As I told GodsGrace, I am feeling so much better today. I am taking my hubby out for a nice dinner tonight. No baby talk, no stress, just him and I enjoying each other's company and celebrating our wonderful marriage...Just because! you are a blessing to everyone here and I am very thankful for your words. God bless you!

 

[HisGrace]

Could you all please pray for my husband. Today he found out he's being laid off. It feels like we keep getting smacked around here but I know God is with us.