Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[genesismarie]

Hi Genesis Marie, I'm praying for you that you will trust God no matter what. In Jesus, He has covered all our wrongdoings. He doesn't look at them in judgment no more when we accept Jesus as our Master and Rescuer. So, flee from the devil's accusations by using God's Word.
May Jesus be your strength and Help through this. I pray this for all of us as we all deal with our hurts in this ttc journey.
Much love to all my sisters on here. How is everyone? It seems like the thread just keeps getting quieter? Perhaps it;s because of Christmas coming up? Hope you're all doing okay.

thank you so much i been doing alot of soul searching and spending alot of QT with the lord.that is really getting me through just staying as close as i possibly can to the lord. hes really working on me at the moment but thank you for your words and prayers

 

[Godsjewel]

Hi Genesis Marie, I'm praying for you that you will trust God no matter what. In Jesus, He has covered all our wrongdoings. He doesn't look at them in judgment no more when we accept Jesus as our Master and Rescuer. So, flee from the devil's accusations by using God's Word.
May Jesus be your strength and Help through this. I pray this for all of us as we all deal with our hurts in this ttc journey.
Much love to all my sisters on here. How is everyone? It seems like the thread just keeps getting quieter? Perhaps it;s because of Christmas coming up? Hope you're all doing okay.

thank you so much i been doing alot of soul searching and spending alot of QT with the lord.that is really getting me through just staying as close as i possibly can to the lord. hes really working on me at the moment but thank you for your words and prayers

I totally agree with me222!

God sees what you've been through and doesn't hold anything against you. He loves you so much and in due time, your blessings will come...not a moment too soon or a moment too late.

 

[Godsjewel]

Hi Genesis Marie, I'm praying for you that you will trust God no matter what. In Jesus, He has covered all our wrongdoings. He doesn't look at them in judgment no more when we accept Jesus as our Master and Rescuer. So, flee from the devil's accusations by using God's Word.
May Jesus be your strength and Help through this. I pray this for all of us as we all deal with our hurts in this ttc journey.
Much love to all my sisters on here. How is everyone? It seems like the thread just keeps getting quieter? Perhaps it;s because of Christmas coming up? Hope you're all doing okay.

AMEN SIS!!!

I know, I check this site everyday and it's not like it used to be. I know some ladies are having a hard time and have chosen not to log in because they hurt and are frustrated by the ttc process.

I'm doing really good! God has really given me a peace that I can't explain. Sometimes it scares me because I think maybe God is taking the desire away, but then there are those days when I know the desire is still there.

How are you?

 

[Godsjewel]

Gardening Tips for the Heart
Weeding Out Anger

Anger is a difficult emotion to deal with in our journey through infertility, and it must be weeded out of the garden of your heart or it will burn your entire garden down. It can start out as a spark but it can grow to a raging forest fire. A coworker may think she’s being supportive when she says “Just relax, honey! It’ll happen!” All she’s done is prove she just doesn’t get it. A flicker of anger flashes in your heart. You go through your day at work, but every moment is focused on getting the results of your latest round of blood work. When you call your husband to tell him what the doctor said, you realize your husband didn’t even remember that you had blood drawn. That spark just grew into a flame. You’re so furious by the time you both get home from work that you don’t even want to look at him. Your anger is growing more and more by the moment. You feel like your head is literally going to explode.

What does the Bible say about anger? Is it a sin? Certainly not. We know that for several reasons, not the least of which is that Scripture records multiples instances of the anger of God and also at least two situations during Jesus’ time on earth in which He became angry. Ephesians 4:26 says Be angry, and yet do not sin; We know anger is not a sin. So if anger is not a sin, why does it have to be dealt with? If the Bible says anger is not a sin, why can’t you just rant and rave every time someone makes you angry with an insensitive remark about your infertility?

Because the Bible also says anger can lead to sin, and that the person of great anger will pay a penalty (Proverbs 19:19). Your heavenly Father doesn’t want you being consumed by the flames of your anger so He’s given you a fire extinguisher in His Word. It’s found in Psalm 37:8:

Cease from anger, forsake wrath.

Sounds simple enough, right? How do you just “cease” from anger and “forsake” wrath? Let’s look at the original meanings of the words to see if we can gain some insight. The original Hebrew word translated “forsake” in Psalm 37:8 is azab, meaning “to put distance between in a spiritual or intellectual sense”. The original Hebrew word translated as “wrath” is chemah, meaning “ wrath, heat, rage or anger. Denotes strong emotional state. Often associated with jealousy.” Doesn’t that describe what it feels like when infertility induced anger rears its ugly head? It seems like David, the writer of Psalm 37, really understood what it feels like to be angry.

Imagine your anger being a raging fire. The chemah of wrath, heat, rage and anger is blazing up at your feet. A flame of hurt shoots up as someone else announces a pregnancy. The heat of jealousy burns hot as you receive another invitation to another baby shower. Anger builds with every crackle of the flame. What do you do?

According to the instruction given in Psalm 37:8, we must make a conscious decision to intellectually and spiritually put a distance between ourselves and our anger. We have to give the hurtful situations to God and let Him heal the hurts. “God, intellectually, I know my co-worker was trying to support me, even though she said the wrong thing. I’m not going to let anger destroy me.” “God, I know my husband cares about our infertility. I choose to forgive his mistake and not let this anger cause a problem we don’t need.” Isn’t it interesting that Scripture doesn’t instruct us to try to resolve these type situations with an “emotional fire extinguisher”? Could it be because our faith and our feelings don’t always agree? Choose to put distance between yourself and your anger in a spiritual or intellectual sense, because your emotions may not be so willing to comply.

God loves you, friend! He put fire extinguishers throughout His Word to help you deal with the fires of anger. Is it easy to deal with? Not even a little bit! But if anger is a problem you are struggling with as you journey through infertility, commit the struggle to the Lord. He will help you extinguish its flames in your heart.

-Beth Forbus

 

[me222]

Hi Genesis Marie, I'm praying for you that you will trust God no matter what. In Jesus, He has covered all our wrongdoings. He doesn't look at them in judgment no more when we accept Jesus as our Master and Rescuer. So, flee from the devil's accusations by using God's Word.
May Jesus be your strength and Help through this. I pray this for all of us as we all deal with our hurts in this ttc journey.
Much love to all my sisters on here. How is everyone? It seems like the thread just keeps getting quieter? Perhaps it;s because of Christmas coming up? Hope you're all doing okay.

AMEN SIS!!!

I know, I check this site everyday and it's not like it used to be. I know some ladies are having a hard time and have chosen not to log in because they hurt and are frustrated by the ttc process.

I'm doing really good! God has really given me a peace that I can't explain. Sometimes it scares me because I think maybe God is taking the desire away, but then there are those days when I know the desire is still there.

How are you?

Yeah, I thought it was getting really quiet. I used to not be on so much- but am finding I need this thread more and more as I struggle as each month goes by...22 months now, I think. Which isn't long compared to others, but it still hurts.
I used to get on here about every 3 weeks or so and there was always so much to catch up on..but now, people are no longer getting on. I hope they're okay and will be praying for comfort and guidance and provision for each one. I want to stick together as sisters in the Lord so we can walk this difficult road together in prayer and support of each other. But, I do understand that it can be too much to get on the Baby and Bump site and even just see the word "baby.."

Praise God He's given you such a peace! May his perfect will be done. How's your lovely daughter going? And, work?

I'm going okay. Another Friday melt-down of stressing about the future, my health, ttc, and work. I need to keep surrendering to Jesus and know, truly know in my heart that yes, He is Sovereign, and yes, He loves me.
I'm coming closer to telling my closest friend about this journey my dh and I are on. I just want prayer from friends for help and provision from God. I don't think it's right to travel this road alone, so to speak. I shouldn't hide my hurts no more...but, it's so difficult to tell friends because I don't want them to worry all the time that they may hurt me by talkig about their children, pregnancies, etc. How'd you go about telling your friends and family about your struggles? I esp. don't want to tell my Mum as she will worry for me and start thinking it's genetic and is her fault or something...

Anyway, enough of my rambling. What has God been teaching each one of you on here?

 

[BRK06]

Hi ladies! I hope you all are well!
Genesis Marie, I am praying for you Sweetie! I know this is so hard... I don't believe for a minute that our Father feels you don't deserve a baby because of your past! (I've struggled with this line of thinking also) He's a God of love and second chances. We've given our lives and hearts to Him, now we just wait patiently for the blessings He has to give. Not always an easy thing, but worth it in the end!

As for me, well, we've had 2 members of our extended family go Home to our Lord this week. It's been sort of crazy trying to get flights for funerals and all that. Please keep us in prayer!

I'm so glad to have you ladies! Even when I'm absent and when the thread is quiet, I remember you in prayer! How is everyone else doing?

 

[BRK06]

Hi Genesis Marie, I'm praying for you that you will trust God no matter what. In Jesus, He has covered all our wrongdoings. He doesn't look at them in judgment no more when we accept Jesus as our Master and Rescuer. So, flee from the devil's accusations by using God's Word.
May Jesus be your strength and Help through this. I pray this for all of us as we all deal with our hurts in this ttc journey.
Much love to all my sisters on here. How is everyone? It seems like the thread just keeps getting quieter? Perhaps it;s because of Christmas coming up? Hope you're all doing okay.

AMEN SIS!!!

I know, I check this site everyday and it's not like it used to be. I know some ladies are having a hard time and have chosen not to log in because they hurt and are frustrated by the ttc process.

I'm doing really good! God has really given me a peace that I can't explain. Sometimes it scares me because I think maybe God is taking the desire away, but then there are those days when I know the desire is still there.

How are you?

Yeah, I thought it was getting really quiet. I used to not be on so much- but am finding I need this thread more and more as I struggle as each month goes by...22 months now, I think. Which isn't long compared to others, but it still hurts.
I used to get on here about every 3 weeks or so and there was always so much to catch up on..but now, people are no longer getting on. I hope they're okay and will be praying for comfort and guidance and provision for each one. I want to stick together as sisters in the Lord so we can walk this difficult road together in prayer and support of each other. But, I do understand that it can be too much to get on the Baby and Bump site and even just see the word "baby.."

Praise God He's given you such a peace! May his perfect will be done. How's your lovely daughter going? And, work?

I'm going okay. Another Friday melt-down of stressing about the future, my health, ttc, and work. I need to keep surrendering to Jesus and know, truly know in my heart that yes, He is Sovereign, and yes, He loves me.
I'm coming closer to telling my closest friend about this journey my dh and I are on. I just want prayer from friends for help and provision from God. I don't think it's right to travel this road alone, so to speak. I shouldn't hide my hurts no more...but, it's so difficult to tell friends because I don't want them to worry all the time that they may hurt me by talkig about their children, pregnancies, etc. How'd you go about telling your friends and family about your struggles? I esp. don't want to tell my Mum as she will worry for me and start thinking it's genetic and is her fault or something...

Anyway, enough of my rambling. What has God been teaching each one of you on here?

We haven't told a bunch of people either... I've talked about this with my little sister (we talk about EVERYTHING), my cousin that went through her own infertility struggle and my cousin that lives here after she found out about my miscarriage (poor girl... I thought I had scared her off after my impromptu "meltdown-unload" session! She took it like a champ though! )
I felt bad dumping this on people because you're right, it can make things weird sometimes! It does help to have people to talk to, though, so if you think she can handle it, go for it! Plus, we always have each other on here too

 

[BRK06]

Overflowing with thankfulness to our Lord who holds me close to His heart! He's got us no matter the storms in life

This song is stuck in my head today:

You Lift Me Up- The Afters

You lift me up with your love (x3)
You lift me up

Waiting for the sunrise
Waiting for the day
Waiting for a sign
That I'm where You want me to be

You know my heart is heavy
And the hurt is deep
But when I feel like giving up
You're reminding me
That we all fall down sometimes
But when I hit the ground

(Chorus)
You lift me up when I am weak
Your arms wrap around me
Your love catches me
So I'm letting go
You lift me up when I can't see
Your heart is all that I need
Your love carries me
So I'm letting go

You lift me up with your love (x3)
You lift me up

I know I'm not perfect
I know I make mistakes
I know that I have let you down
But You love me the same

And when I'm surrounded
When I lose my way
When I'm crying out and falling down
You are here to

Chorus

I can see the dawn is breaking
I am feeling overtaken with Your love
With Your love
I don't know what I can offer
In this moment I surrender to Your love
To your love

You lift me up when I am weak
Your arms wrap around me
Your love catches me so I'm letting go

Chorus

I can see the dawn is breaking
I am feeling overtaken with Your love, with Your love

You lift me up with Your love (x3)
You lift me up

 

[beckysprayer]

Praying for all of you lovely ladies! I've been busy, but haven been reading on my phone during my spare time and praying for y'all along the way.

 

[Shellvz]

Appreciate your prayers and advice...

My husband and I are facing a difficult decision. We have our appointment with FS on Monday 11th December to discover the cause of DH infertility (azoospermia). We need to know if he is making sperm but there is a blockage or if there are just no sperm at all.

Medically, there are procedures where the Dr will use a needle (somewhat randomly it seems) on both testes to see if there are any sperm within. If there are they can 'clean' the sperm through a spinning machine and freeze them for IUI or IVF at a later date.

It is quite expensive, painful, uncomfortable, invasive and not guaranteed of success.

Our decision is whether to go ahead with this medical option to ttc or to give up and just leave it in the hands of God. After last nights discussion we are thinking of not going down the medical path. I just don't want to make this decision blindly.

My fear is that by deciding not to pursue medical assistance we are deciding not to have children. I know that God can do the miraculous and heal my husband but will He?

 

[BRK06]

Praying for all of you lovely ladies! I've been busy, but haven been reading on my phone during my spare time and praying for y'all along the way.

Good to hear from you Hon!
Praying that you are well!

 

[Heather11]

Just checking in with all of you lovely ladies!

Nothing really new going on here! I am awaiting my period so I can be sent off to the lab for a slew of tests sure to make me feel like a lab rat!

How is everybody else?!

 

[Godsjewel]

Gardening Tips for the Heart
Depression

When you gaze at the garden of your heart, what do you see? Do you brightly colored blooms? Do you see a trellis with beautiful flowering vines? Perhaps your hurting heart hosts a “Charlie Brown Christmas Tree”.

In the Christmas classic that many of us grew up on before there were 24 hour cartoon channels, Charlie Brown chooses the lone, remaining Christmas tree from the lot that is so sad and pitiful it cannot even hold up under the weight of one ornament. Eventually, Linus wraps his blanket around the base of the tree, the kids decorate it and the little tree begins to flourish because of the love shown by Charlie Brown and company. Has the weight of infertility caused your sad heart to bend and nearly break, much like the weight of the ornament on the branches of the pitiful, little tree?

Tears are a constant companion to the woman who carries the weight of infertility on her shoulders. They seem to show up at the most inconvenient times. You’re a professional who has her career on track, yet you’re fighting back tears in a business meeting because you’ve just started another period. An ornament weighing down your little tree. You try to maintain relationships with friends you’ve loved for years, but had to make up an excuse to leave the last dinner party you attended because another friend announced her pregnancy. You cried all the way home while the rest of your peers celebrated. Another heavy ornament weighing down your sad, little tree.

Do you feel as if you are the only one who cries so? Rest assured that yours are not solitary tears! Infertility is a difficult journey to travel and most of us travel it with tears. We even see this recorded in God’s Word:

"Hannah, why do you weep and why do you not eat and why is your heart sad?...
1 Samuel 1:8

There is good reason to believe that Hannah was not merely sad, but that she was depressed. She cried much, she refused to eat, and her struggle continued for years. Her heart hurt so badly over not being able to conceive a baby. This wasn’t merely an inconvenience or something that irritated her. This was a true grief, a life changing sorrow. When she was accused by the priest of being drunk, she told him she was pouring out her heart to the Lord out of her great anguish and grief. Can you relate to any of Hannah’s feeling of depression and sorrow?

There are a few things to take note of here. Notice that even when Hannah’s husband didn’t know what to do for her, (Am I not better to you than ten sons? 1 Samuel 1:8), and people around her didn’t understand why she was so upset just because she couldn’t get pregnant (Eli thought she was drunk...1 Samuel 1:13), God understood her sorrow and remembered her (The LORD remembered her... 1 Samuel 1:19). God never condemned her for her sadness. He never told her to “relax” or to get over it. He never got angry at her because she wasn’t being grateful for all the good things she already had in her life. He never even told her she should just adopt. 2 Corinthians 7:6 says He is God, who comforts the depressed.

If infertility has caused your heart to feel depressed, let God comfort you today. Let His love wrap around you like Linus’ blanket. Let His love transform you and heal the hurt of your heart. There is no doubt that the hurt of infertility is legitimate. It is a real hurt. God’s comfort is a real comfort. He understands the hurt of your heart when you cannot even find the words to describe how deep the pain goes, or why it hurts when you see an empty high chair in a restaurant. He is the God of all comfort. He can even comfort the hurt that infertility brings. Let Him comfort the sadness in your heart today.

-Beth Forbus

 

[Godsjewel]

Appreciate your prayers and advice...

My husband and I are facing a difficult decision. We have our appointment with FS on Monday 11th December to discover the cause of DH infertility (azoospermia). We need to know if he is making sperm but there is a blockage or if there are just no sperm at all.

Medically, there are procedures where the Dr will use a needle (somewhat randomly it seems) on both testes to see if there are any sperm within. If there are they can 'clean' the sperm through a spinning machine and freeze them for IUI or IVF at a later date.

It is quite expensive, painful, uncomfortable, invasive and not guaranteed of success.

Our decision is whether to go ahead with this medical option to ttc or to give up and just leave it in the hands of God. After last nights discussion we are thinking of not going down the medical path. I just don't want to make this decision blindly.

My fear is that by deciding not to pursue medical assistance we are deciding not to have children. I know that God can do the miraculous and heal my husband but will He?

Will definitely keep you in prayer

I know it's hard to go back and forth whether or not to go through procedures and fertility treatment, it's something you want to go to God in prayer with your hubby. I believe God will lead you both down the path He has for you.

As for me, my husband and I both feel at peace with no longer seeing a fertility specialist, no more meds, ultrasounds, blood work or ovulation testing. We have completely left it all in the hands of our Heavenly Father.

 

[No Doubt]

Shell I completely understand your fear Jun and when we made that decision I was scared too. I talked with the hubby and said I had been feeling like I was just suppose to let it all go and do nothing and he said he had been feeling the same way. So we did, well he did the first month, not me, lol, but I did after that. Even though the docs wanted to keep me on meds keep monitoring me and even went so far as to give me an ivf packet cause according to them that's what it would take, I just couldn't. You have to be having this feeling to not get assistance from somewhere. And just fall back on what you said...your God works miracles. The very fact that we are all here is honestly a miracle considering that we have seen first hand just how difficult it can be, let that encourage you. I fell pregnant just a few months after I let it all go and I truly believe that God was telling me to get out of the way. Maybe this is His way of telling you to let Him work. Only you and your hubby can make that decision, but I will say, you can't say that you know God can heal your hubbs and then say but will He. Be bold in what you claim. If God is a healer and you know that, then know that He WILL heal your hubbs. I believe it for you. I know it's hard with everything you've been through, and it seems like it may never happen, but that's how God works. He wants you to know that all you need is Him. He's the best doctor you two will ever have. Talk with your hubby some more and see what you two decide, but whatever you believe, believe it and speak it with boldness. Praying for you!

 

[BRK06]

Appreciate your prayers and advice...

My husband and I are facing a difficult decision. We have our appointment with FS on Monday 11th December to discover the cause of DH infertility (azoospermia). We need to know if he is making sperm but there is a blockage or if there are just no sperm at all.

Medically, there are procedures where the Dr will use a needle (somewhat randomly it seems) on both testes to see if there are any sperm within. If there are they can 'clean' the sperm through a spinning machine and freeze them for IUI or IVF at a later date.

It is quite expensive, painful, uncomfortable, invasive and not guaranteed of success.

Our decision is whether to go ahead with this medical option to ttc or to give up and just leave it in the hands of God. After last nights discussion we are thinking of not going down the medical path. I just don't want to make this decision blindly.

My fear is that by deciding not to pursue medical assistance we are deciding not to have children. I know that God can do the miraculous and heal my husband but will He?

Hi sweetie, I'm very sorry to hear of your difficulties. I struggled with the thought of TTC medically for a long time (2 years or so) because I was afraid it would seem to God that I was trying to take His job into my hands. Finally, it was made clear to me that no matter which method we decide to go with, God is the Creator and Giver of life! He is still very much in control of what works and what doesn't.

I will be praying for wisdom on your decision and healing for your husband!

 

[BRK06]

Just checking in with all of you lovely ladies!

Nothing really new going on here! I am awaiting my period so I can be sent off to the lab for a slew of tests sure to make me feel like a lab rat!

How is everybody else?!

I'll be thinking of you! Let us know what you find out

 

[Heather11]

Just checking in with all of you lovely ladies!

Nothing really new going on here! I am awaiting my period so I can be sent off to the lab for a slew of tests sure to make me feel like a lab rat!

How is everybody else?!

I'll be thinking of you! Let us know what you find out

Awww thanks! I hope we find out something! I cannot believe we have been trying for over a year now! This time last year I was planning ways to tell my parent's I was pregnant! Had no idea it would take so long!

 

[BRK06]

Just checking in with all of you lovely ladies!

Nothing really new going on here! I am awaiting my period so I can be sent off to the lab for a slew of tests sure to make me feel like a lab rat!

How is everybody else?!

I'll be thinking of you! Let us know what you find out

Awww thanks! I hope we find out something! I cannot believe we have been trying for over a year now! This time last year I was planning ways to tell my parent's I was pregnant! Had no idea it would take so long!

I hear you there! I think I have a "tell everybody" scenario for every holiday by now... "If it's Christmas, I'll do this, if it's near Easter, I'll do that."

 

[Heather11]

Just checking in with all of you lovely ladies!

Nothing really new going on here! I am awaiting my period so I can be sent off to the lab for a slew of tests sure to make me feel like a lab rat!

How is everybody else?!

I'll be thinking of you! Let us know what you find out

Awww thanks! I hope we find out something! I cannot believe we have been trying for over a year now! This time last year I was planning ways to tell my parent's I was pregnant! Had no idea it would take so long!

I hear you there! I think I have a "tell everybody" scenario for every holiday by now... "If it's Christmas, I'll do this, if it's near Easter, I'll do that."

I know it is crazy! I never would have thought it would take us this long! Make me think of all those times back in the day I was so worried I might accidentally get pregnant! lol