Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[Nikki SA]

I reached the end of AF today. Ovulation is coming and I should be over the moon but instead I'm feeling nothing at all. I do not see myself getting all excited again just for nothing to happen AGAIN.

Maybe we should just stop trying and give it a rest. If it happens it happens and if it dont it just dont. That would be difficult though but TTC is taking over my life and all of my thoughts. I do not know what to think anymore!!

I overslept today making me late for work. There was no time to sit down and start my day as usual. DH and me usually read the bible together and pray but this morning he had to get up at 4:30 and he did the reading on his own. I get to bed to late at night spending to much time browsing the internet after I took care of my family with dinner ect.

I am just feeling negative!

 

[BRK06]

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[Heather11]

With Christmas getting closer I have to say that with the latest TTC set back I have not really been in the mood for any type of Christmas celebration. Between the parties and the gifts and all of the hustle and bustle it really just turned me off. I have just been so down lately.

One of the things I do in my spare time is "adopt" deployed soldiers. I send them letters, cards, and care packages for support. I was putting together my care package for my soldier this afternoon and as I was putting together and it started to put me back into the holiday spirit. Upon reflection I feel it is because putting together the care package to send overseas is an act of the true Christmas spirit and celebration of life and love before it became all about presents and material things.

Somethings this season get so busy and we need to take a step back and remember the real reason we are celebrating Christmas.

 

[uwa_amanda]

With Christmas getting closer I have to say that with the latest TTC set back I have not really been in the mood for any type of Christmas celebration. Between the parties and the gifts and all of the hustle and bustle it really just turned me off. I have just been so down lately.

One of the things I do in my spare time is "adopt" deployed soldiers. I send them letters, cards, and care packages for support. I was putting together my care package for my soldier this afternoon and as I was putting together and it started to put me back into the holiday spirit. Upon reflection I feel it is because putting together the care package to send overseas is an act of the true Christmas spirit and celebration of life and love before it became all about presents and material things.

Somethings this season get so busy and we need to take a step back and remember the real reason we are celebrating Christmas.

I know how you feel. I called one of the biggest fertility centers in my state today to schedule an appointment to do further testing to see if they may can pinpoint what is wrong with me. They seemed all ready to talk to me and all before they asked me who my insurance was through. I told them who it was through and her response was a real quick, "We don't take your insurance." That was like a kick in my gut. I was hoping so hard that I would be able to see one of the top fertility specialists in my area and got shot down quickly. My husband said that we could just find another doctor that takes our insurance. My response was, "Yeah...in Tennessee or Georgia."

I've been pretty down about everything today. I almost want to say I have hit rock bottom. In my frustration today, I said some things that I know our Father would not be proud of and I feel so terrible. I know our Father is forgiving and knows our struggle but I reached a point today where I just wanted to give up. I came home from work and just went to bed and sobbed my eyes out. I am tired of this. I want my life back so bad. I need all the prayers I can get.

I don't post much on here but I just know that you ladies know what to say so I don't feel horrible and to make me feel better about my situation. You don't know how much I appreciate you.

 

[LoveandSeven]

To all my fellow beautiful Christian ladies on this thread,

I'm not really sure how to ask this question and I don't wish to offend anybody. I'm 25 and engaged to my soul mate. We've been together for close to three years and have always wanted to build a family together and decided 6 months ago to start trying to do so.

My question to you is, do you believe that we are having a hard time conceiving, due to the fact that we are doing it while still unwed?

 

[Godsjewel]

With Christmas getting closer I have to say that with the latest TTC set back I have not really been in the mood for any type of Christmas celebration. Between the parties and the gifts and all of the hustle and bustle it really just turned me off. I have just been so down lately.

One of the things I do in my spare time is "adopt" deployed soldiers. I send them letters, cards, and care packages for support. I was putting together my care package for my soldier this afternoon and as I was putting together and it started to put me back into the holiday spirit. Upon reflection I feel it is because putting together the care package to send overseas is an act of the true Christmas spirit and celebration of life and love before it became all about presents and material things.

Somethings this season get so busy and we need to take a step back and remember the real reason we are celebrating Christmas.

You are amazing! I'm sure the soldiers are very blessed by your giving heart. Jesus is the reason for the season and you are definitely doing something that He cares deeply about. It always seems that in helping others, your heart tends to soften and you start to feel better

 

[Godsjewel]

With Christmas getting closer I have to say that with the latest TTC set back I have not really been in the mood for any type of Christmas celebration. Between the parties and the gifts and all of the hustle and bustle it really just turned me off. I have just been so down lately.

One of the things I do in my spare time is "adopt" deployed soldiers. I send them letters, cards, and care packages for support. I was putting together my care package for my soldier this afternoon and as I was putting together and it started to put me back into the holiday spirit. Upon reflection I feel it is because putting together the care package to send overseas is an act of the true Christmas spirit and celebration of life and love before it became all about presents and material things.

Somethings this season get so busy and we need to take a step back and remember the real reason we are celebrating Christmas.

I know how you feel. I called one of the biggest fertility centers in my state today to schedule an appointment to do further testing to see if they may can pinpoint what is wrong with me. They seemed all ready to talk to me and all before they asked me who my insurance was through. I told them who it was through and her response was a real quick, "We don't take your insurance." That was like a kick in my gut. I was hoping so hard that I would be able to see one of the top fertility specialists in my area and got shot down quickly. My husband said that we could just find another doctor that takes our insurance. My response was, "Yeah...in Tennessee or Georgia."

I've been pretty down about everything today. I almost want to say I have hit rock bottom. In my frustration today, I said some things that I know our Father would not be proud of and I feel so terrible. I know our Father is forgiving and knows our struggle but I reached a point today where I just wanted to give up. I came home from work and just went to bed and sobbed my eyes out. I am tired of this. I want my life back so bad. I need all the prayers I can get.

I don't post much on here but I just know that you ladies know what to say so I don't feel horrible and to make me feel better about my situation. You don't know how much I appreciate you.

Big hugs to you sweetie

We both have been on this journey for awhile now and have gone through so many ups and downs, but thankful we serve a mighty God who is faithful and never lets us down.

My insurance covered 50% of fertility testing, IUI's and medication, but didn't cover IVF. Just recently we were blessed with my husbands health benefits which cover 90% of 3 rounds of IVF. You never know what God has for you around the corner. My last FS told me that IVF would be my next option and hubby and I were very saddened by that news since we couldn't afford it.

I know your desire for a child is strong, keep the faith because in due time you will reap a harvest if you don't grow weary. All in God's timing

 

[No Doubt]

Loveandseven, of this were true there would not be a bunch of babies made out of wedlock everyday and everyone that was married would be pregnant just looking at each other. Its very possible ita not happening right now because God knows the plans be has for you and knows that right now a baby does not fit the scenario. I had to look at my own life in this regard and I think about the fact that we were living in a small duplex and that while we both worked financially a baby would have been an added strain. Within time we bought a house, both were moved into higher paying positions. I had lost 60lbs and we both were much healthier...basically everything fell into place and I was pregnant. I lost my virginity at 16 and was sexually active all the way up until my marriage. Am I jot supposed to be a mother because of this? No, God is a forgiving God, so don't think this is some sort of punishment. Also they say a healthy couple can take up to a year, sometimes longer, to conceive. I know we want it when we want it, hut we have to be patient. Hope this helps!

 

[No Doubt]

Adopting a soldier sounds like a wonderful idea. I don't support the war, but I do support our troops and I would love to do something like that. How did you find out about it?

 

[Nikki SA]

Loveandseven, of this were true there would not be a bunch of babies made out of wedlock everyday and everyone that was married would be pregnant just looking at each other. Its very possible ita not happening right now because God knows the plans be has for you and knows that right now a baby does not fit the scenario. I had to look at my own life in this regard and I think about the fact that we were living in a small duplex and that while we both worked financially a baby would have been an added strain. Within time we bought a house, both were moved into higher paying positions. I had lost 60lbs and we both were much healthier...basically everything fell into place and I was pregnant. I lost my virginity at 16 and was sexually active all the way up until my marriage. Am I jot supposed to be a mother because of this? No, God is a forgiving God, so don't think this is some sort of punishment. Also they say a healthy couple can take up to a year, sometimes longer, to conceive. I know we want it when we want it, hut we have to be patient. Hope this helps!

Wise Words, thank you No Doubt!!

 

[Godsjewel]

Love

Infertility can do a lot of things. It can test a marriage and can strain relationships with friends who are already parents. It can make us question everything we’ve ever held to be true about our relationship with God. However, there are some things infertility can never do. It can never change God’s powerful, ever present, unwavering love for us.

God is love. Not only does He love us with a love more magnificent, more mind-blowing, more indescribable than our finite human minds can possibly begin to comprehend, but God IS love. It is the very essence of who He is. It’s not just something that He does because He chooses to do so, and can opt not to do anymore. He IS love. We love because He IS love and He has given us the ability to love each other.

God can never love us more than He does this moment. He can never love us less. Even when we feel like we fail Him in fantastic ways, He loves us just as much as He does when we throw our heads back and sing His praises to the top of our lungs. Why? Because He IS love. Every fiber of His holy being loves. When we cry out in anger to Him that we cannot understand why He would give us such a burning desire for a baby and wrap it in a blanket of endometriosis, He still loves. Even on the days our periods start and we can’t find it in our hearts to talk to Him, He loves us still. His love for us remains constant when our diagnoses are uncertain or our decisions as to how far we really want to take our treatment changes by the day. His love for you is constant. His love for you is pure. His love for you is strong enough to sustain you through a struggle as great as infertility or miscarriage.

I pray you are reminded of God’s love for you every day of this Christmas season. May you be reminded of a love so powerful that diety wrapped Himself in human frailty in order to build a relationship with us. May each carol you hear become your own personal love song from God Emmanuel straight to your heart. As you gather with family or friends, may you be constantly reminded of a love so strong that nothing can separate you from the love God has for you. Not death, not life. Not infertility or loss. His love is with you every moment of this holiday season. Through every season of your life--even through infertility.

35 Who shall ever separate us from Christ's love? Shall suffering and affliction and tribulation? Or calamity and distress? Or persecution or hunger or destitution or peril or sword?...

38 For I am persuaded beyond doubt (am sure) that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities, nor things impending and threatening nor things to come, nor powers,

39 Nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:35, 38-39

-Beth Forbus

 

[uwa_amanda]

Love

Infertility can do a lot of things. It can test a marriage and can strain relationships with friends who are already parents. It can make us question everything we’ve ever held to be true about our relationship with God. However, there are some things infertility can never do. It can never change God’s powerful, ever present, unwavering love for us.

God is love. Not only does He love us with a love more magnificent, more mind-blowing, more indescribable than our finite human minds can possibly begin to comprehend, but God IS love. It is the very essence of who He is. It’s not just something that He does because He chooses to do so, and can opt not to do anymore. He IS love. We love because He IS love and He has given us the ability to love each other.

God can never love us more than He does this moment. He can never love us less. Even when we feel like we fail Him in fantastic ways, He loves us just as much as He does when we throw our heads back and sing His praises to the top of our lungs. Why? Because He IS love. Every fiber of His holy being loves. When we cry out in anger to Him that we cannot understand why He would give us such a burning desire for a baby and wrap it in a blanket of endometriosis, He still loves. Even on the days our periods start and we can’t find it in our hearts to talk to Him, He loves us still. His love for us remains constant when our diagnoses are uncertain or our decisions as to how far we really want to take our treatment changes by the day. His love for you is constant. His love for you is pure. His love for you is strong enough to sustain you through a struggle as great as infertility or miscarriage.

I pray you are reminded of God’s love for you every day of this Christmas season. May you be reminded of a love so powerful that diety wrapped Himself in human frailty in order to build a relationship with us. May each carol you hear become your own personal love song from God Emmanuel straight to your heart. As you gather with family or friends, may you be constantly reminded of a love so strong that nothing can separate you from the love God has for you. Not death, not life. Not infertility or loss. His love is with you every moment of this holiday season. Through every season of your life--even through infertility.

35 Who shall ever separate us from Christ's love? Shall suffering and affliction and tribulation? Or calamity and distress? Or persecution or hunger or destitution or peril or sword?...

38 For I am persuaded beyond doubt (am sure) that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities, nor things impending and threatening nor things to come, nor powers,

39 Nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation will be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.

Romans 8:35, 38-39

-Beth Forbus

Thank you Sarah. I really needed that today...especially after yesterday.

 

[LoveandSeven]

Loveandseven, of this were true there would not be a bunch of babies made out of wedlock everyday and everyone that was married would be pregnant just looking at each other. Its very possible ita not happening right now because God knows the plans be has for you and knows that right now a baby does not fit the scenario. I had to look at my own life in this regard and I think about the fact that we were living in a small duplex and that while we both worked financially a baby would have been an added strain. Within time we bought a house, both were moved into higher paying positions. I had lost 60lbs and we both were much healthier...basically everything fell into place and I was pregnant. I lost my virginity at 16 and was sexually active all the way up until my marriage. Am I jot supposed to be a mother because of this? No, God is a forgiving God, so don't think this is some sort of punishment. Also they say a healthy couple can take up to a year, sometimes longer, to conceive. I know we want it when we want it, hut we have to be patient. Hope this helps!

Thank you NoDoubt. That was everything I needed to hear and more.

 

[Heather11]

With Christmas getting closer I have to say that with the latest TTC set back I have not really been in the mood for any type of Christmas celebration. Between the parties and the gifts and all of the hustle and bustle it really just turned me off. I have just been so down lately.

One of the things I do in my spare time is "adopt" deployed soldiers. I send them letters, cards, and care packages for support. I was putting together my care package for my soldier this afternoon and as I was putting together and it started to put me back into the holiday spirit. Upon reflection I feel it is because putting together the care package to send overseas is an act of the true Christmas spirit and celebration of life and love before it became all about presents and material things.

Somethings this season get so busy and we need to take a step back and remember the real reason we are celebrating Christmas.

I know how you feel. I called one of the biggest fertility centers in my state today to schedule an appointment to do further testing to see if they may can pinpoint what is wrong with me. They seemed all ready to talk to me and all before they asked me who my insurance was through. I told them who it was through and her response was a real quick, "We don't take your insurance." That was like a kick in my gut. I was hoping so hard that I would be able to see one of the top fertility specialists in my area and got shot down quickly. My husband said that we could just find another doctor that takes our insurance. My response was, "Yeah...in Tennessee or Georgia."

I've been pretty down about everything today. I almost want to say I have hit rock bottom. In my frustration today, I said some things that I know our Father would not be proud of and I feel so terrible. I know our Father is forgiving and knows our struggle but I reached a point today where I just wanted to give up. I came home from work and just went to bed and sobbed my eyes out. I am tired of this. I want my life back so bad. I need all the prayers I can get.

I don't post much on here but I just know that you ladies know what to say so I don't feel horrible and to make me feel better about my situation. You don't know how much I appreciate you.

It is great to have a place to share our thoughts and frustrations!!!! I am here if you ever need to vent!

 

[Heather11]

With Christmas getting closer I have to say that with the latest TTC set back I have not really been in the mood for any type of Christmas celebration. Between the parties and the gifts and all of the hustle and bustle it really just turned me off. I have just been so down lately.

One of the things I do in my spare time is "adopt" deployed soldiers. I send them letters, cards, and care packages for support. I was putting together my care package for my soldier this afternoon and as I was putting together and it started to put me back into the holiday spirit. Upon reflection I feel it is because putting together the care package to send overseas is an act of the true Christmas spirit and celebration of life and love before it became all about presents and material things.

Somethings this season get so busy and we need to take a step back and remember the real reason we are celebrating Christmas.

You are amazing! I'm sure the soldiers are very blessed by your giving heart. Jesus is the reason for the season and you are definitely doing something that He cares deeply about. It always seems that in helping others, your heart tends to soften and you start to feel better

It is really true! I always feel the best when I am doing for others!!

 

[Heather11]

Adopting a soldier sounds like a wonderful idea. I don't support the war, but I do support our troops and I would love to do something like that. How did you find out about it?

I know what you mean! I don't always support the war or certain things, but I know these men and women are fighting for our safety and freedom here and I feel like it is a great to send my thanks, even if it is just a small thanks!

If you are interested you can visit www.adoptaplatoon.org that is the organization I use! They are a great organization.

 

[Shellvz]

With Christmas getting closer I have to say that with the latest TTC set back I have not really been in the mood for any type of Christmas celebration. Between the parties and the gifts and all of the hustle and bustle it really just turned me off. I have just been so down lately.

One of the things I do in my spare time is "adopt" deployed soldiers. I send them letters, cards, and care packages for support. I was putting together my care package for my soldier this afternoon and as I was putting together and it started to put me back into the holiday spirit. Upon reflection I feel it is because putting together the care package to send overseas is an act of the true Christmas spirit and celebration of life and love before it became all about presents and material things.

Somethings this season get so busy and we need to take a step back and remember the real reason we are celebrating Christmas.

I know how you feel. I called one of the biggest fertility centers in my state today to schedule an appointment to do further testing to see if they may can pinpoint what is wrong with me. They seemed all ready to talk to me and all before they asked me who my insurance was through. I told them who it was through and her response was a real quick, "We don't take your insurance." That was like a kick in my gut. I was hoping so hard that I would be able to see one of the top fertility specialists in my area and got shot down quickly. My husband said that we could just find another doctor that takes our insurance. My response was, "Yeah...in Tennessee or Georgia."

I've been pretty down about everything today. I almost want to say I have hit rock bottom. In my frustration today, I said some things that I know our Father would not be proud of and I feel so terrible. I know our Father is forgiving and knows our struggle but I reached a point today where I just wanted to give up. I came home from work and just went to bed and sobbed my eyes out. I am tired of this. I want my life back so bad. I need all the prayers I can get.

I don't post much on here but I just know that you ladies know what to say so I don't feel horrible and to make me feel better about my situation. You don't know how much I appreciate you.

I am sorry you are feeling so down right now. It is very difficult ttc long term.

God knows. He is never taken by surprise by anything - including our reactions. Take heart that you are not alone and God does have everything under control. We may not see it or agree with it but we can trust in God's goodness and faithfulness!

 

[stevens2010]

Hi ladies, it's been a long time since I posted in here.

Congratulations to the latest BFPs, I hope you have wonderful pregnancies, free from any complications.

As for me, I have finished Clomid. I didn't get a BFP and have instead been told by my consultant to lose weight and then I'll be referred on for IUI or IVF. I'm really praying that we'll get a BFP before then!

I don't have much going on right now so I guess I'll update as and when anything happens.

 

[Shellvz]

Discovered this morning that I am much more emotional than I thought.

Church Christmas items today and i cried through every kids item (starting with the baby & toddler group).

I couldn't stop the tears from flowing and just wanted to put my head down and howl.

Probably didn't help that today is the 17th anniversary of my mothers death.

Emotional day!

Tomorrow our appt with FS...

 

[DBZ34]

Congrats to the new BFPs!

I am so happy to hear that the Lord has blessed you with a new path to your LO, GJ. Three fresh IVFs almost completely covered by insurance! God is so good. I cried when I read it.

AFM- I've been waiting for December to come for quite some time. I don't know why, but I've been feeling like this month is going to a big one in terms of TTC. And not necessarily just for me. Maybe because this was our lucky month one year ago. It didn't end the way I would have liked, but I know everything happens for a reason. I just can't see it yet. But that's okay. I'm confident in the knowledge that the Lord is working in my life to bring me to the place he wants me to be. This year (and the next), I'm leaving it all in God's hands. I can't tell you how wonderful it is to feel that TTC weight lifted off my shoulders....and it feels a bit easier to just wait and see what will happen in the coming year.