Christian ladies TTC, we can encourage one another.

[kelkel82]

Sarah, that is SO exciting! I can't believe this could all go down NEXT WEEK! The wait is nearly over!

Speaking of waiting... here I am still waiting for my miscarriage symptoms to appear. It's been 8 weeks since LMP but 2 and 1/2 weeks since my doc suspects the baby stopped developing. What gives?! I am very against having a D&C (unless there is a real risk of infection or some other medical complication) but it's getting tough to wait, especially when my body still clearly feels pregnant. (I guess this is normal in the case of miscarriage and not necessarily an indication of a healthy baby.) Anyway, I think I might wait one more week (I have a HUGE work event this Friday which will keep me nice and busy) and then demand another ultrasound before asking about D&C. So, I guess this is basically what they call a "missed miscarriage." Does anyone have any advice on "expectant management" aka "waiting around for your miscarriage to start."

 

[kelkel82]

After our second ultrasound yesterday at 7w, it seems there is no doubt about my impending miscarriage. I just can't wrap my mind around it. We thought this was the answer to our prayers, and the prayers of dozens of friends and family members. My body is still pregnant but this little one stopped growing btwn 5 and 6 weeks. It probably never had a heartbeat. Now I'm just waiting to actually have the miscarriage. Every time I go to use the bathroom I take a tampon with me, but nothing has started yet. I just want to get this over with.
Depending on when things get moving, we'll have to wait for one full cycle before trying again. I'm guessing that will put our next opportunity sometime in mid/late April, assuming I ovulate right away. We wouldn't do another IUI right away because we leave for Europe on May 2nd. So, maybe June? I feel like this year is already slipping through my fingers.
Feeling pretty low today.

You are in my prayers. I've been where you are so I know a little bit of what you're going through. I pray that God's peace be with you. During my miscarriage, my doctor told me no tampons whatsoever because of risk of infection. Please double check with your doctor before you use them.

Thanks, HG. Neither of the docs I saw in the last 3 weeks mentioned anything about avoiding tampons. Thanks a lot, doctors. I asked my boss, who has had 2 miscarriages (and 3 healthy kids) and she agreed with you and told me to go buy some pads. Ugh. Insult to injury. I haven't used those things since, ever!

 

[beckysprayer]

my computer died, but I've been reading along on my phone and praying and rejoicing and crying for all of you along the way! I just hate posting from my phone so rarely do it, but I want y'all to know my prayers are always here even when I don't post.

Sarah, that is SO exciting! I can't believe this could all go down NEXT WEEK! The wait is nearly over!

Speaking of waiting... here I am still waiting for my miscarriage symptoms to appear. It's been 8 weeks since LMP but 2 and 1/2 weeks since my doc suspects the baby stopped developing. What gives?! I am very against having a D&C (unless there is a real risk of infection or some other medical complication) but it's getting tough to wait, especially when my body still clearly feels pregnant. (I guess this is normal in the case of miscarriage and not necessarily an indication of a healthy baby.) Anyway, I think I might wait one more week (I have a HUGE work event this Friday which will keep me nice and busy) and then demand another ultrasound before asking about D&C. So, I guess this is basically what they call a "missed miscarriage." Does anyone have any advice on "expectant management" aka "waiting around for your miscarriage to start."

Kelley I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and have been praying for you this whole time! The waiting is the worst part! I had a missed miscarriage in August and it took just over 3 weeks for the miscarriage to actually begin. When it began, I had dark brown spotting for three days, then cramps and the heavy bleeding started. I've heard high amounts of vitamin c (like 2,000iu), red raspberry leaf tea, and exercise help start the process, but none of that worked for me! My doctor said you won't start miscarrying until your hormone levels dip low enough that your body knows it is no longer pregnant, so it can take some time. I'm praying your start the actually miscarriage process soon to avoid a D&C.

Yes, no tampons. And buy the heavy duty pads, because when it is first happening you bleed A LOT! It can be quite painful too, so try to prepare for that. Some people have the miscarriage happen all at once and it is quite painful but over quickly while others have a slower process that isn't painful but the bleeding takes longer. No one warned me about the amount of blood or how painful it can be so I seriously thought I was dying at one point (don't laugh, I'm a wimp!). I was a little farther along than you when I miscarried so hopefully you won't have as much pain or bleeding as I did.

Oh, and keep taking your prenatals so your body will an iron supplement to help counterbalance the loss during bleeding.

I had another ultrasound this morning and the doctor said my uterine lining was 13, which is almost doubled what they like to see...which is great because that is where the embryos will be making their home. She said I was an over achiever and would give me 2 gold stars in my chart because it looks fantastic

My follicles are still developing and are not quite ready to be retrieved yet. Doctor now believes the egg retrieval will be on Tuesday or Wednesday, which means embryo transfer on Friday or Saturday.

I will get the blood work results later today and that's when I will know when my next ultrasound appt will be.

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend

I'm so excited for you! This process sounds to have been nothing but easy and joyous and a great way to share your testimony to the doctors! Still praying for you and I can't wait to hear more good news

 

[Godsjewel]

Then the LORD said to Moses, "Behold, I will rain bread from heaven for you; and the people shall go out and gather a day's portion every day, that I may test them, whether or not they will walk in My instruction.

“On the sixth day, when they prepare what they bring in, it will be twice as much as they gather daily."
Exodus 16:4-5

He humbled you and let you be hungry, and fed you with manna which you did not know, nor did your father know, that he might make you understand that man does not live by bread alone, but man lives by everything that proceeds out of the mouth of the LORD.
Deuteronomy 8:3

Can you imagine hundreds of thousands of people all griping at the same time about being hungry, and looking to you to do something about it? This was the dilemma Moses faced as he led the children of Israel out of bondage in Egypt. God had provided them a deliverer, yet they somehow assumed He’d let them starve in the desert. Moses told them that once again, God would provide.

Every day, God sent enough manna for every person. He instructed them to gather just enough to meet the needs for the people in their tent. If they gathered too much, mysteriously there was nothing left over. Likewise, if they did not get a sufficient amount for all, somehow God made sure each person was fed and full. They were instructed to leave nothing until morning, as God would provide again the next day. Would they trust Him to do what He said He would do? On the sixth day, God instructed His people to gather enough for two days--remember that the Sabbath was to be kept holy and no work was to be done on this day. This went on week after week, six days a week. If God’s instructions were not followed, and the people left the manna on the ground until morning, it would rot and would become worm-infested. God meant what He said!

God knew that His people had to learn to be dependent on Him and Him alone. Remember, there were no Wal-Marts in the middle of the desert! They had to depend on Him for their food everyday. There was simply no way they could depend on their own means to provide for their needs. They didn’t stay in one place long enough to raise livestock or a garden, and even if they would have laid down roots for a while, they were in the desert. They had to do things God’s way. If they strayed from His instruction, they met the consequences--worm loaf! God humbled them and kept them dependent on Him.

Have you ever compared your journey through infertility to the Israelites’ journey through the desert? You feel like you’re wandering around and around in circles, and it seems like it’s been at least 40 years. You simply cannot figure out what is going on, where you’re going, and how you’re going to get there. Sometimes friends don’t understand your struggle. Your spouse even does or says something wrong. The doctors fail to find an accurate diagnosis for your infertility. Eventually, you’ll realize you simply must depend on God.

God provided the Israelites with just what they needed just when they needed it. He didn’t give them a month’s supply of manna at a time. No. He gave them just what they needed for the day and just for the people in their tent. When someone gathered too little, He took up the slack. Too much? There were still no leftovers. God humbled them by showing them they couldn’t do for themselves, and blessed them with His provision.

God will do the same for you. He will provide just what you need just when you need it. Never too much. Never too little. You must stay dependent on Him. As brilliant as doctors are and as amazing as medicine is, you cannot become dependent on science. Believe it or not, science does not explain everything. They can’t know everything. Doctors can join egg and sperm, but they cannot give life. Only God is the Giver of Life. You must depend on the Great Physician to bring life to your womb.

But do you realize what a great place you are in when you are totally dependent on God and His plan for your life? The reason? He is 100% dependable! He will never leave you. He will never forsake you. He will never fail you. He’ll always provide just what you need, just when you need it. Not too little. Not too much. He’ll help you make the right decisions at the right time. He’ll touch your body and your mind when you need that touch.

You must keep your end of the bargain. You must stay dependent on Him, and follow His instruction. He’ll always do His part!

You can depend on God even in the desert of infertility.

-Beth Forbus

 

[HisGrace]

Kelley, I had a missed miscarriage as well. It was diagnosed at 5 weeks after my lmp. It was confirmed at 6 weeks after my lmp but I still held out hope and for that reason, I opted to wait on my body instead of having a d&c. At around 8 & 1/2 weeks post lmp, I had a bleed that I thought was the start of things but nothing came of it. Then at one day short of 10 weeks post lmp, I woke up and saw that it was happening. As Becky said, get the heaviest pads you can find and be prepared for the pain. I don't want to scare you, but for me it helped to know what was coming. If you can, take off sometime from work to emotionally heal. And look for peace with God. I was mad at Him in the beginning. I didnt understand why after trying for a year He would let me get pregnant only for it to end like that. After I admitted my anger, and cried it out, I felt His peace surround me.

I am praying for you, my sister. Please let me know if you need anything.

 

[QueenKingfish]

Kelley, Prayers for you for this season of your life to be over with quickly!

Becky, it's good to "see" you! And even more glad to see your little ticker baby getting bigger!

Sarah, I AM SO EXCITED FOR YOU!!!! Praying for you, DH and soon-to-be big sis!

 

[Mattsgirl]

I don't post on here much but I do try and read when I can. But Sarah I just wanted to say how happy I am for you. You can really see the hand of God working through this whole process =. Even giving you the opportunity to share the wonderful things HE'S done for you with one of your Dr.'s is incredible. I truly can't wait to hear about your BFP that He has in store for you (Hopefully in the next couple weeks)

Praying for you and all the other ladies on here consistently.

Thanks sweetheart

Yes, God has and is continuing to do great things during this time. I think I shock the Lab techs, Docs, assistants and coordinators when I go into the office all full of joy. God has blessed me with this journey and I want to shine His light wherever I go.

I'm amazed at how good I feel during this. The doctors constantly ask me if I'm feeling ok and tell me they have a support group if I need help...I tell them I'm doing wonderful and that God has blessed me with a great support group of friends and family

Yes, I would love more than anything to come back on here in a couple of weeks to announce my BFP. This all still seems so unreal to me.

Enough about me...How are you doing? Things going well with your pregnancy?

Things are going really really well. I was blessed enough not to get morning sickness that badly and it only lasted for a short while. Felt the baby move a little, but only when sitting all squished and holding very still for like an hour I can feel little flutters. But very thankful for that. It is truly an amazing feeling. Lastly we find out on Wednesday if we're having a boy or girl (if baby behaves and let us see) God has truly blessed this pregnancy so far and has made it very easy with no problems.Makes me feel a little guilty because I know some people have a really hard time with sickness and spotting and all that but its good so I don't have to miss work.
Please keep us in your prayers though because I really want to be able to quit my job in like June or July and just be home with the baby full time. But we don't know if we could afford that.

 

[Mattsgirl]

Kelley I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I can't imagine what your going through. I personally think you did the right thing trying not to have the D&C. My sister had a missed miscarriage at the end of December and chose to have the D&C instead of waiting it out because she thought she would be able to move on emotionally faster. But the doctor didn't do a very good job and she ended up having to have another one in the beginning of February. And is just now able to start the moving on process emotionally.

I pray that God makes this go quickly and it doesn't drag on. And that he surrounds you and your DH with His undying Love and peace.

 

[Godsjewel]

I don't post on here much but I do try and read when I can. But Sarah I just wanted to say how happy I am for you. You can really see the hand of God working through this whole process =. Even giving you the opportunity to share the wonderful things HE'S done for you with one of your Dr.'s is incredible. I truly can't wait to hear about your BFP that He has in store for you (Hopefully in the next couple weeks)

Praying for you and all the other ladies on here consistently.

Thanks sweetheart

Yes, God has and is continuing to do great things during this time. I think I shock the Lab techs, Docs, assistants and coordinators when I go into the office all full of joy. God has blessed me with this journey and I want to shine His light wherever I go.

I'm amazed at how good I feel during this. The doctors constantly ask me if I'm feeling ok and tell me they have a support group if I need help...I tell them I'm doing wonderful and that God has blessed me with a great support group of friends and family

Yes, I would love more than anything to come back on here in a couple of weeks to announce my BFP. This all still seems so unreal to me.

Enough about me...How are you doing? Things going well with your pregnancy?

Things are going really really well. I was blessed enough not to get morning sickness that badly and it only lasted for a short while. Felt the baby move a little, but only when sitting all squished and holding very still for like an hour I can feel little flutters. But very thankful for that. It is truly an amazing feeling. Lastly we find out on Wednesday if we're having a boy or girl (if baby behaves and let us see) God has truly blessed this pregnancy so far and has made it very easy with no problems.Makes me feel a little guilty because I know some people have a really hard time with sickness and spotting and all that but its good so I don't have to miss work.
Please keep us in your prayers though because I really want to be able to quit my job in like June or July and just be home with the baby full time. But we don't know if we could afford that.

Yay! that's great news to hear. I bet its unbelievable when you start to feel the baby move. Do you think you know what you're having? What do people around you think the baby is going to be?

I hope it will work out to where you can stay home with your child and if it doesn't work out that way, maybe part time? I pray God's perfect will be done in your life

Thanks for stopping by, can't wait to hear what you're having.

 

[Godsjewel]

I have never had so much blood work and ultrasounds in my life...guess it's preparing me for pregnancy

They took another look at my follicles and I have 11 that are the perfect size to start my egg retrieval. My husband gets to inject me with the trigger shot tonight at 11:10pm. I know, weird time...but I need to do it 36hrs prior to my scheduled egg retrieval appt on Wednesday at 10:10
My embryo transfer is on Saturday, which is awesome...that means I don't have to take another day off of work

Thankfully I'm feeling good, my tummy is all black and blue from the bruising and still a little tender, but that's pretty much it. I've been super blessed with not having a lot of the side effects others get. With all of these hormones running through my body, I thought I was gonna go crazy ...but I've pretty much remained my sanity.

My IVF coordinator called and gave me all the times for the trigger shot and egg retrieval and wished be the best, then an hour or two later, I got a call from my financial coordinator telling me she noticed that I was on the calendar for egg retrieval on Wed and she wants to stop by and see me and had everything crossed for me

I'm so blessed with such an awesome IVF clinic, everyone is so nice and caring. I can't wait to bring my baby there to show her/him off.

You are all still in my prayers and I pray nothing but the best for you all.

 

[ProfWife]

Sarah - I get all excited every time I see an update! Praying for the next 36 hours to go smoothly for retrieval! :-D

 

[Godsjewel]

Sarah - I get all excited every time I see an update! Praying for the next 36 hours to go smoothly for retrieval! :-D

Thanks so much, that means a lot

 

[QueenKingfish]

Sarah, SATURDAY?!?!? How excited are you?! Oh gosh, even my heart is racing for you! God is SO GOOD! Shows all of us that patience and persistence pays off! You are a shining example of God NEVER leaving our sides!

 

[Mattsgirl]

I don't post on here much but I do try and read when I can. But Sarah I just wanted to say how happy I am for you. You can really see the hand of God working through this whole process =. Even giving you the opportunity to share the wonderful things HE'S done for you with one of your Dr.'s is incredible. I truly can't wait to hear about your BFP that He has in store for you (Hopefully in the next couple weeks)

Praying for you and all the other ladies on here consistently.

Thanks sweetheart

Yes, God has and is continuing to do great things during this time. I think I shock the Lab techs, Docs, assistants and coordinators when I go into the office all full of joy. God has blessed me with this journey and I want to shine His light wherever I go.

I'm amazed at how good I feel during this. The doctors constantly ask me if I'm feeling ok and tell me they have a support group if I need help...I tell them I'm doing wonderful and that God has blessed me with a great support group of friends and family

Yes, I would love more than anything to come back on here in a couple of weeks to announce my BFP. This all still seems so unreal to me.

Enough about me...How are you doing? Things going well with your pregnancy?

Things are going really really well. I was blessed enough not to get morning sickness that badly and it only lasted for a short while. Felt the baby move a little, but only when sitting all squished and holding very still for like an hour I can feel little flutters. But very thankful for that. It is truly an amazing feeling. Lastly we find out on Wednesday if we're having a boy or girl (if baby behaves and let us see) God has truly blessed this pregnancy so far and has made it very easy with no problems.Makes me feel a little guilty because I know some people have a really hard time with sickness and spotting and all that but its good so I don't have to miss work.
Please keep us in your prayers though because I really want to be able to quit my job in like June or July and just be home with the baby full time. But we don't know if we could afford that.

Yay! that's great news to hear. I bet its unbelievable when you start to feel the baby move. Do you think you know what you're having? What do people around you think the baby is going to be?

I hope it will work out to where you can stay home with your child and if it doesn't work out that way, maybe part time? I pray God's perfect will be done in your life

Thanks for stopping by, can't wait to hear what you're having.

It is pretty awesome the few times I've gotten to feel it. Dh can tell when I do because I'm sitting perfectly still looking straight out and smiling from ear to ear. I'm sure I look ridiculous but I can't help it.
Well at first I was convinced it was a boy but that was because DH just keeps calling it a boy. But then my mom and grandma had dreams it was a girl so I thought maybe it could be a girl. Then my dad had a dream that it was a boy so I got really confused. And my dreams have been split 50/50. So I stopped trying to guess. A little part of me wants a girl because hubby would be adorable with a little girl but we honestly don't care either way.

Sarah I'm so excited for you. I'm gonna be praying harder than ever before.

 

[Godsjewel]

Sarah, SATURDAY?!?!? How excited are you?! Oh gosh, even my heart is racing for you! God is SO GOOD! Shows all of us that patience and persistence pays off! You are a shining example of God NEVER leaving our sides!

I'm super excited...lol!

You are right, God is so good! I don't know if I could of made this journey without Him. You know how amazing God is?!? In my 4th year of ttc, He knew I was struggling more than ever with being infertile and led me to this site. I've been so blessed to see God's hand move in the lives of women all over the world and to be thought of and prayed for by all is AWESOME!

 

[Godsjewel]

Thank you Lord for these precious women, please continue to guard their hearts and guide them in the path you want them to take. Help them to use their testimony to bless others. Thank you for working behind the scenes, even when we don't feel like anything is going on. Thank you for the blessings in our lives that we already have. Help us all to start preparing for the babies that will be coming into our lives through adoption, fostering or naturally. We praise you and give you all the glory...in your precious name I pray...AMEN!

 

[Godsjewel]

It is pretty awesome the few times I've gotten to feel it. Dh can tell when I do because I'm sitting perfectly still looking straight out and smiling from ear to ear. I'm sure I look ridiculous but I can't help it.
Well at first I was convinced it was a boy but that was because DH just keeps calling it a boy. But then my mom and grandma had dreams it was a girl so I thought maybe it could be a girl. Then my dad had a dream that it was a boy so I got really confused. And my dreams have been split 50/50. So I stopped trying to guess. A little part of me wants a girl because hubby would be adorable with a little girl but we honestly don't care either way.

Sarah I'm so excited for you. I'm gonna be praying harder than ever before.

I sure am looking forward to one day knowing what you are feeling. I wouldn't be surprised if it was a little girl, it seems like 95% of the babies that are from this thread have been girls. When Is your due date?

Thank you for your prayers hun, they're greatly appreciated

 

[Godsjewel]

I went to bed last night around 8:30pm and had to set my alarm clock to wake up at 11:05pm to start prepping for hubby to do the trigger injection on my backside.

I mixed the medication and had it all ready to go. They said it's less painful if you lie on your stomach with your feet turned in, that way your butt muscle is nice and relaxed. Hubby wiped down the injection site with an alcohol swab and went for it Thankfully it wasn't bad at all. The needle is pretty big, so I was a little nervous. I felt it a little bit and that's only because he didn't use the suggested dart like motion. He said he was scared of hurting me.

Today I finally get a break from injections Hubby will be taking an antibiotic tonight to make sure there isn't any bacteria in his semen collection.

I took tomorrow off of work for the egg retrieval, so I think tonight I will rent a movie and try to relax before my nerves get the best of me. We have to be at the IVF clinic at 9am and retrieval will be at 10:10am.

Today's prayer request...

Please pray that I'm able to relax and get the rest I need. Also, if you can pray for the Doctors and pretty much the whole procedure, from start to finish.

Thank you

 

[No Doubt]

GJ, I'm so excited for you! Things are moving along quickly. I can't wait to see the outcome. Lol about hubbs not wanting to hurt you, poor thing. But it's over now and you are guys are so close!

 

[SuperwomanTTC]

Today's prayer request...

Please pray that I'm able to relax and get the rest I need. Also, if you can pray for the Doctors and pretty much the whole procedure, from start to finish.

Thank you

I'm going to be running around work like crazy with excitement on Wednesday afternoon(for me)/morning(you for) because you will be on my mind and in my prayers.

Thank you Lord for blessing our sister Sarah thus far with her IVF process. Thank you for making provisions, blessing her with Your favor, and being with her every step of the way. Thank you for creating her, Your jewel, and blessing us with her presence on this forum. Lord, as Sarah prepares for her appointment on Wednesday, we come to You praying for peace, relaxation, rest, and serenity. Lord we pray for everyone in her IVF medical facility; bless them with positive attitudes and guide the hands of the medical staff that will work with our dear sister. Lord you can do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we ask or think. I ask that you bless Sarah and her family so that we have to say GOD DID THIS! AMEN!