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Hey ladies,

I will be going in on Wednesday to have the hysteroscopy done to remove the extra tissue that has formed in my uterus.

Please pray that all goes well and they get everything that needs to come out. I'm not sure how long I have to wait to start my next cycle, but I hope not too long after.

Thanks :hugs:
 
Praying for you Sarah! I can't wait to see what God has in store for you. I think about you when I look at my kids sometimes too. I think about how if things had happened in my timing or without the troubles and losses they would not be mine and I can't imagine that now (i know I would have loved any child, but I know these are extra special bc God needed them here at this time for something for His good). Then I think about when you have your lo how special they are going to be and a light to this world.
 
Godsjewel said:
Hey ladies,

I will be going in on Wednesday to have the hysteroscopy done to remove the extra tissue that has formed in my uterus.

Please pray that all goes well and they get everything that needs to come out. I'm not sure how long I have to wait to start my next cycle, but I hope not too long after.

Thanks :hugs:
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Will def be praying for you Sarah (: :hugs:
 
Awhile back I told you about a friend who went through IVF and got pregnant with twins, she even came on here and wrote a little bit about her story.

Her name is Lisa and today is the day she will be meeting her precious baby boys.

Here is the email she sent me last night...

"So after today's weekly dr visit we were surprised with the news that we will be meeting our baby boys this week. Tomorrow, actually! The specialist thinks that 36 weeks is a great milestone for twins but because Gabriel is growing more slowly he would rather not wait another week. So, he contacted my Ob's office and they basically called me a few hours later telling me that I should arrive at the hospital at noon tomorrow for a 3pm c-section. Now that it's officially here I am so ready for these next few hours to pass. It's still surreal, the whole thing... Pregnancy, twins, tomorrow, cesarian... But I'm so excited to meet my perfect little boys that God has blessed is with. "

Please say a prayer for her and her family, that they will be covered in peace and that all will be well.

Thanks :)
 
Jason walked the difficult journey of infertility alongside his wife. He knows what it feels like to watch her tears and feel helpless to make the hurt go away. Together they faced the ups and downs, the tears and frustrations, and finally, the joy of the birth of a daughter. Jason’s wife, Beth, is the founder of Sarah’s Laughter-Christian Support for Infertility & Child Loss.

I grew up in a time and place where the literature we read and the stories we celebrated were full of heroic men. Whether noble savages or erudite statesmen, they were men of action. Resolve. Clarity. They slew dragons; rescued princesses from tall towers; saved nations; displayed primal courage in war; and they never failed their women. They didn’t share their feelings; they didn’t cry; and they always seemed to know what to do.

Well, every guy (to varying degrees) thinks he’s one of those guys. Whether we climb a tall tree at four or buy a Harley at 40 or try to skydive at 80, we need to feel like we still got it. Unfortunately, few of us ever had it. There are way more George Constanza’s than George Clooney’s, and way more McFatties than McDreamies. Yet we feel the need to act like the guys we read about as kids: manly men with a proclivity to procreate. And when the realization comes that we are not heroes, that we don’t know what to do, and that we can’t fix whatever is broken, and we can’t heal the hurt in our women--it’s hard to accept. I find it deeply ironic that Jack London--author of Call of the Wild and other testaments to testosterone--was an overweight drug addict when he killed himself at age 40. Reality didn’t measure up.

For me, the feeling that I couldn’t fix the problem was worse than the infertility. I thought if I gave my wife just the right pep talk--with bullet-proof logic--I could heal her emotions. Wrong! It was emasculating. For some men, and I include myself in this group, nurturing and emphasizing feelings rather than action are emotionally exhausting. Combating emotion with logic is like hunting elk with a rod and reel. Please, for the love of God and everything holy, for Christ and the Apostles, let me face a dragon, or live in the forest with a band of merry men, but-dear God!-how do I talk to my wife if this drug, this surgery, this procedure doesn’t work?

So we hunt. We play golf. We play the hero in childish video games. It’s not that we’re all jerks--it’s just that reality isn’t measuring up. We don’t aspire to be bad husbands or be emotionally unavailable, we just hate not measuring up--so we find something to do that we’re good at so we can feel good about ourselves again. Yes, we’re selfish--but only because we bought the wrong set of tools for living.

So many guys are ruled by some sub-conscious variation of What Would John Wayne Do? Well, when we follow that paradigm we are doomed. What Would Jesus Do?, however, is better for us and better for our wives.

Jesus was a carpenter, so I imagine Him as a pretty strong guy with big hands. Yet he wept (John 11:35). He desired to nurture (Matthew 23:37). He also died for His bride, the Church. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. (Ephesians 5:25, 28).

The John Wayne Paradigm dooms us because its all about us. The Jesus Paradigm keeps it simple: love your wives. So men, let your wives feel loved. Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins (1 Peter 4:8). When our women feel loved, they are more motivated to cover our misguided machismo. And the next time your wife is falling apart over infertility, shut up and put your arm around her. And love her.


-Beth Forbus
 
I'm praying for you and your friend Sarah! I pray you have a successful procedure and a fast recovery! :hugs: and I pray that Lisa has the peace of the Lord with her, and the knowledge that He is rejoicing with her as she holds her two beautiful sons.

AFM, I've officially begun my first TWW since the MC. Everything this cycle feels different, except for the fear that permeates through every possibility. Thank you Sarah for your post yesterday about prayer. I have taken their experiences to heart and begun praying more specifically to the Lord and I am faithful that, regardless of what the doctors say, I will fall pregnant again. The Lord is our physician, and he has promised us children.
 
Dear Lord,

I want to take this time to thank you for being you. When I can't trace your hand, I can trace your heart for me; loving, caring and kind. Remind me of that in time of suffering and doubt. I also pray for each and every woman in this forum that is yearning for a child, that they will grow a deeper understanding of your ability to provide for their needs, always.

In Jesus' Name Amen.
 
A little update on us! My ear infection finally went away. It was probably the worst one that I have had in a long time! I am just now getting to where I can hear again.

DH and I went to Atlanta over the weekend. We left on Saturday morning and came back on Sunday. We didn't do that much. We just did a little shopping and hanging around in our hotel room. After working nearly 60(!) hours last week, I was still pretty wore out after the long week I had doing my work and being office supervisor on a holiday week. We stayed near the airport so on our way in, it was pretty fascinating to see the airplanes coming in and leaving the airport. I have never been near a major airport before so I was like a little child going, "Ohhh look at that one!" "Ohhh look over there...another one!" It was pretty amusing!

Sarah I hope your procedure goes smoothly! I am praying that your second IVF round results in your forever baby. :hugs: :flower:
 
I just got home from my procedure. Dr said there were a lot of polyps he had taken out. He said I'm still anemic and I need to increase my iron intake to bring my levels back up.

I have a post op appt next week and then we will talk about what will happen next.
 
Lots and lots of leafy greens! Take it easy! Glad you're home and able to rest for a bit now.
 
Glad everything went well. Beef is a good source of iron, but not too healthy if you eat it all the time. Spinich is good if you like salad. Take it easy and rest up!
 
No longer shall your name be called Abram,
But your name shall be Abraham;
For I have made you the father of a multitude of nations.
Genesis 17:5

You’ve really got a problem.

Whether you have battled infertility for many years or you have just now begun to suspect that it may take you longer than you hoped to have a baby, pregnancy delayed is a real problem. People around you will tell you to “just relax” or minimize your hurt by telling you how difficult their children are and how lucky you are. Most of the fertile world doesn’t have a clue as to how difficult a life colored by infertility really is. You are so tired of the constant struggle for fertility and sanity. When will this problem ever end?

Well friend, here’s the good news. Your problem is already solved.

Go look at the best known infertility story in the Bible, the tale of Sarah and Abraham. After years of waiting on God’s promise of a biological child, this godly couple still had no baby to hold, no child to love, no youth left in their bodies. I’ll bet they didn’t have a clue why God was making them wait. They probably didn’t understand why all their servants had tents full of babies, yet they remained childless. They knew what it felt like to weep through the long, lonely, quiet nights. What they didn’t know was that their infertility problem had already been solved.

Until the age of 99, Abraham was actually named Abram, and his wife’s name was Sarai. God promised them a child 24 years prior, but there was still no baby. However, their lives were about to make a dramatic shift. God interrupted Abram’s life and changed it forever. He reiterated His promise that He would give Abram and Sarai a son, no matter their age. (Did a hear a rousing ‘hallelujah!’ from some of you?) Not only did God remind Abram of His promise to give him a baby, He gave him a new name. No longer shall your name be called Abram, But your name shall be Abraham; For I have made you the father of a multitude of nations. God didn’t forget Sarai. He told Abraham that his old bride’s new name was Sarah, and that she would be the mother of kings. God changed everything about them--even their names!

There is one thing that I want you to notice today. It is found in the message God gave this godly--still infertile--couple: “For I have made you the father of a multitude of nations...” Notice anything? That’s right! God spoke in the past tense. He had already solved Abraham and Sarah’s infertility problem before they even knew their desire for a child would be delayed.

What does that speak to you in your current childlessness? God has already got your problem solved. He doesn’t scratch His holy head, wondering how in the world He’ll bring you through to the resolution of your infertility. God had your problem solved before you ever even drew your first breath. Remember that God lives in eternity, and we live in a world bound by time. He is not confined by the turning of calendar pages. You can rest in the assurance that just as He did for Sarah and Abraham, God has had your problem solved for you, before He ever walked with you to the realization that infertility would play a role in the life He lovingly designed for you.

-Beth Forbus
 
Dear heavenly Father,

I uplift my friend Sarah to you Jesus. You knew her timing in this life, the town in which she will grow up in, the man in which she will marry. And in this time, it is like every other, you know the outcome Lord Jesus.

So we give you our life, and place all it's events in your hands. We give you all the glory and all the recognition, and thank you for what we are about to see in Sarah's life.

Thankyou for being Lord, over our lives, who always, always comes through.

Amen

xxx
 
Having said this, he (Jesus) spit on the ground, made some mud...
John 9:6

“God knows how badly I want a baby. I know He wouldn’t put this desire in my heart unless He was going to give me a baby. He just wouldn’t do that to me!”

Have you ever heard anybody say that? Have you said that? When the realization begins to set in that having a baby is not going to be the easy, exciting and joyous journey that the fertile world enjoys, you begin to look for answers. You seek medical opinions, talk to your mom and fertile family members. You hang on to any half-way positive approach that anyone offers you. At the end of the day, you comfort yourself by deciding that God would never have placed a desire for a baby in your hearts if He were not going to give you one. You know God and you know how He works. He would never abandon you in this fight.

But then the disappointments begin to pile up. You thought you’d have a baby by Christmas. Now you just hope you can be pregnant by Christmas. Your next big birthday looms, and nothing about this milestone looks happy. But God knows you want a baby. He put that desire in your heart. The previous pronouncement of “I know God wouldn’t give me such a desire without giving me a baby,” now causes more hurt and confusion than comfort. What is the real deal, God? Are You toying with my emotions? Am I a pawn in some divine comedy?

May I direct you to a man who probably asked the same thing? We learn about him in the book of John. We don’t know his name or much about him, other than the fact that he had been blind since his birth. He had never seen the sunlight or the faces that went along with the voices that taunted him day by day. Without vision, he undoubtedly had a low standing in society, and spent his days begging alms from those who passed by. However, like so many others, his life changed dramatically when he had an encounter with the Savior.

Jesus passed by this pitiful, blind beggar one day, and after teaching his disciples a lesson they’d never forget, he turned to this man in the midst of his greatest need. Can you imagine what it must have been like to be the blind guy? He heard the men talking around him, wanting to know if he had sinned or if his parents’ sin was to blame for his constant darkness. Don’t you know he got tired of constant reasoning as to why he could not do what others take for granted? (Don’t you?) All of sudden, he heard one voice growing louder, indicating that someone was approaching him. Maybe that Man would be compassionate and throw down enough change to provide him a small meal tonight. Instead--can you believe it?--he heard the Man spit on the ground right in front of him!

Sightless eyes must have become more downcast as he expected more ridicule, more shame. He sat there wishing he was anybody else, and was anywhere else, when something dawned on him. The verbal lashing he expected never came! Instead, he could hear people around him murmuring. “What is He doing? Why is He playing in the mud?” Oh, if he could only see--just this once! What could possibly be happening?

With little explanation, Jesus reached down and took the mud created from His spit and began to rub it in the blind man’s eyes. For some reason, it didn’t feel like Jesus was belittling him, but it definitely was confusing. Wasn’t his life hard enough? Did Jesus have to smear mud in his eyes?

Jesus sent him to go wash in the pool of Siloam, and with no recorded argument and no further explanation from Jesus, the blind man left. I would love to have been standing on the banks of the pool when the man, blind from his mother’s womb, stood up and caught his first glimpse of God’s creation. What did he say? What did he look at? What was the expression on his face? What were his thoughts?

If I had been the blind guy, I think a part of me would have been a little confused. Remember that before he went and washed his face, there is no record of Jesus explaining His plan to him. He didn’t know that Jesus could spit in the dirt and bring healing to his eyes. Why would Jesus do this? Why didn’t He do things in a way that made more sense? He could have raised His hands to heaven and with a loud, booming voice declare His authority over disease and deformity and zap his eyes with sight. If He had to play in the mud, why didn’t Jesus tell him not to worry, that this holy spittle would recreate the damaged parts of his eyes and in a few minutes he would experience joy he had only imagined?

Could it be that Jesus doesn’t always work the way we expect Him to?

Jesus didn’t perform this man’s miracle in a way that made sense to human minds. If I saw somebody spit on the ground, scoop up a finger-full of mud and head for my face, I’d think he was crazy! Admit it! You would too! But what if this is the case in your infertility story?

You can’t possibly imagine how God could use infertility to bring something good to your life. Maybe infertility is just the mud God plays in to open your eyes to things you have never seen. No one else could have used spit soaked dust to bring sight to a blind man’s eyes that day. Only God. No one else could teach you the precious lessons learned in infertility’s classrooms. Only God. When God isn’t working the way you think He should, go outside and play in the mud!

One last thing about the blind guy. After Jesus gave him his sight, everybody around town knew that something miraculous had happened. He said he couldn’t explain it, he just knew Jesus healed his eyes and he could see. Follow his example. Let people know that your life has been irreversibly changed by the power of God. You might not be able to explain why God used infertility or why He allowed a miscarriage in your life. You just know that He did and that He brought you through it. And you know that even when His plan doesn’t make sense, you know He’s working. Even in mud puddles.

-Beth Forbus
 
Godsjewel said:
Awhile back I told you about a friend who went through IVF and got pregnant with twins, she even came on here and wrote a little bit about her story.

Her name is Lisa and today is the day she will be meeting her precious baby boys.

Here is the email she sent me last night...

"So after today's weekly dr visit we were surprised with the news that we will be meeting our baby boys this week. Tomorrow, actually! The specialist thinks that 36 weeks is a great milestone for twins but because Gabriel is growing more slowly he would rather not wait another week. So, he contacted my Ob's office and they basically called me a few hours later telling me that I should arrive at the hospital at noon tomorrow for a 3pm c-section. Now that it's officially here I am so ready for these next few hours to pass. It's still surreal, the whole thing... Pregnancy, twins, tomorrow, cesarian... But I'm so excited to meet my perfect little boys that God has blessed is with. "

Please say a prayer for her and her family, that they will be covered in peace and that all will be well.

Thanks :)
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Thank you for taking the time to pray for Lisa and her babies. I just got an email from her today and here are the boys stats...

Gabriel 4lb15oz , 17 3/4in , 3:42pm

Caleb 5lb13oz, 19 1/4in , 3:43pm

She will be discharged to go home tomorrow.

Please continue to pray for her family, that the Lord will give her peace and rest during this time of adjusting to having twin newborns at home.
 
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