Christmas...

[wishuwerehere]

If your FOB has regular visitation, how are you sorting out Christmas?
I want to finish organising where I'm going to be/what's going on at Christmas but I'm not sure how to sort it all with FOB...
So, are you just carrying on with what you do normally (eg. for me that would be one afternoon a week at his house) or doing something a bit different? Are they seeing your LO for Christmas eve/day/boxing day?

 

[TattiesMum]

I always, always, always had my 3 on Christmas Day ... FOB could have them any other day but not that one.

Selfish? Well maybe - but I figured that I got all the bad days during the year so I was entitled to that one special day Anything else was, quite simply, never mentioned as an option.

BTW I LOVE Issy's picture in your Avatar - it always makes me smile

 

[pinkie77]

I always, always, always had my 3 on Christmas Day ... FOB could have them any other day but not that one.

Selfish? Well maybe - but I figured that I got all the bad days during the year so I was entitled to that one special day Anything else was, quite simply, never mentioned as an option.

BTW I LOVE Issy's picture in your Avatar - it always makes me smile

I'm the same, and for the same reason. My children spend boxing day with their dad and his family, and then he has them for new year. Haven't got a clue what's happening this year though as he's gone into a sulk since I found out I was pregnant and barely seen his kids (although they still have plenty of contact with the rest of his family, thank goodness for grandparents!) And our two girls don't want to go away with him for NY this year either cos they don't want to be away if their sister is a bit early - but seeing as he won't talk to me or his family I can't sort it out

Sorry, that probably didn't help much

 

[KiansMummy]

ive no idea yet what we will be doing, FOB only sees kian once or twice a week at the most always at my house, hes very awkward and hard work so i doubt he will want to see him on christmas day but if it was up to me id let him see him boxxing day or xmas eve, xx

 

[wishuwerehere]

Thanks everyone.
To be honest I always organise FOBs sorry arse into doing stuff so i wasn't even going to offer him to see her on Christmas day. I'll probably suggest she goes to see his family one day in Christmas week then they can take her out one day the week after Christmas...
And then I've got her birthday in January to sort out lol.
Thanks tattiesmum, I love it too, always cheers me up

 

[Kate&Lucas]

FOB won't be seeing Lucas on Christmas Day, (we have our meal booked and planned already so it wouldn't be possible if he tried). Christmas Eve is also a bit of a tradition in our family to be at home (even when I didn't live here), so I'm hoping he doesn't jump in then, but we'll have to discuss it.
Boxing Day, I'm not bothered aslong as he can come pick us up. He's not seeing Lucas on his own yet.

 

[isil]

My son is supposed to stay at his Dad's fri and sat nights. However, for christmas/birthdays and stuff I refuse. I'll have him christmas eve, then I'll take him over to his Dad's on christmas day late afternoon. Like it or lump it lol. I do quite want him to see him for some of christmas because I think it's nice for him.

 

[lal]

My son is supposed to stay at his Dad's fri and sat nights. However, for christmas/birthdays and stuff I refuse. I'll have him christmas eve, then I'll take him over to his Dad's on christmas day late afternoon. Like it or lump it lol. I do quite want him to see him for some of christmas because I think it's nice for him.

I plan on handling this the same, I will pick what times of special days I want but will allow his father to have him the remainder so he will get to see extended family and such.

 

[Tracy76]

My older children are lucky I suppose, they get two christmases every year. One year I have them christmas eve and christmas day, and I take them to their dad's house after dinner christmas evening. Then they wake up boxing day to Santa coming again to daddy's house, and they do their dinner that day too. The next year we just switch it up, and he has them christmas eve and day and drops them off with me christmas evening, where Santa then comes to mommy's house boxing day. The first year they were at their dad's christmas morning was kinda hard on me, but my children LOVE the arrangements and two christmases!!

 

[~RedLily~]

FOB wont be seeing LO christmas day. It's my nieces birthday as well and christmas has always been important to us whereas he has always been very anti christmas until this year so he can see her another day.

 

[Rhi_Rhi1]

Fob might have little one for a few hours in the morning.. but thats it.. i know it sounds selfish but me and my oh care for him all year round so why should he get him on all the good days ! x

 

[lou_w34]

Fob might have little one for a few hours in the morning.. but thats it.. i know it sounds selfish but me and my oh care for him all year round so why should he get him on all the good days ! x

I agree with you Its what i would do if my LO saw her dad, luckily i dont have to worry about this though.

xx

 

[luckdragon]

he will be completly sacked off for the whole lot!!! i'm off to my mums