Clomid Buddies (moved to LTTTC board)

[Ask4joy]

Thank you so much Belle and Nita. It really does help to have each other for support. And to know that what I'm feeling is "normal" given the circumstances. DH and I had a good talk today and want to stop "trying so hard" for a couple months and just focus on us. I feel like I reached my breaking point and need to take care of myself. I'm not going to temp or use OPKs this month. Although I did add some new vitamins/supplements to the mix. We have both been taking a multivitamin and coq10 for a few months (but I realized it was the wrong kind...ubiquinone instead of ubiquinol). We got the new ones in the mail today. Also added fish oil for both of us and evening primrose oil for me. I think you are only supposed to take it until O so I'll have to estimate since I won't be tracking. Also taking vitex and trying the myo-inositol again.

 

[BelleNuit]

Nita that's a very scary realization, needing surgery I wish we could all just get pregnant easily like the rest of the world.

Ask I think taking it easy for a couple months is a great idea. OPKs and temping are enough to make anyone crazy after awhile. It sounds like we are on many of the same supplements. I hope they work for us, or at the very least make treatment more likely to be successful for us!

At this moment I just feel like it's never going to happen, and I hope I'm wrong because I feel too young to be infertile

 

[Nita2806]

Ask, not doing OPKs has changed things for me, I know Ill probably never get a positive reading anyways. And I know I will only know about O when I do the bloodtest. I really think taking a break is a very good idea, just the thought of infertility drains me completely.

Belle, I feel the same... My doctor mentioned that if the Drilling doesnt work she will send me to a fertility specialist were we will need to look at IVF.

I got an sms this morning that I need to pay in a little bit for the surgery, however the surgery is still costing me less than one months supply of Clomid/vitamins.

 

[Norelisa]

Hubby is going to UK and France early next month, so I have started the online search of what he should bring home to me Will buy wellman +pregnancare, and red raspberry leaf tea..

Otherwise, seems like I am 5 dpo. We have a very lively but supersweet fosterkitten visiting this weekend, her name is Wasabi and she is 5 weeks old..

 

[ttc126]

Norelisa, your foster kitty sounds adorable!!!!!
I'm totally with you all on feeling overwhelmed and done "trying".... we took a break last cycle. I realized my entire 2016 I was either ttc or mc. Nita I was very upset about approaching the one year mark. I more was dreading it but actually passing it wasn't as awful as I imagined. So many hurdles for us all. Getting pregnant, staying pregnant..... ugh I'm just not sure how crazy I'm willing to get. My dh is against IVF and is back and forth on iui. I realize I'm in a different boat than some of you as I do have two living children. I just never imagined the journey it would be to have more. I envisioned a big family but I'm not sure if I'll be able to have any more at all. And after all the losses back to back I'm not sure I have it in me to get pregnant more than one last try.

 

[rickyandlucy]

So another failed cycle comes to an end. This one hurt more than ever.

That was my fourth round of clomid. I am getting sick of doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. DH wants me to find a different doctor. What do you guys think? What should our next step be? I know that technically we can do up to 6 rounds of clomid. But our doc never checked out my husband, she's not monitoring me or anything. The clomid is pointless if something is wrong right?

 

[Nita2806]

Nore, the kitty sounds so adorable, hope you have much fun with him/her

Ttc, I am so sorry to hear that you dh is not in favour of IUI and IVF

Lucy, if you feel your doctor isnt doing enough, maybe it is better to change? Or you can ask your doctor to test dh and be monitored? In my situation I wont change doctors, we walked a long path and I dont want to start from scratch with another doctor.

Afm-completely forgot about ttc today, DH and I went on a 7hour hike to go look at a crator. I can definately recommend a day out to forgot everything.

 

[ttc126]

So another failed cycle comes to an end. This one hurt more than ever.

That was my fourth round of clomid. I am getting sick of doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. DH wants me to find a different doctor. What do you guys think? What should our next step be? I know that technically we can do up to 6 rounds of clomid. But our doc never checked out my husband, she's not monitoring me or anything. The clomid is pointless if something is wrong right?

I can tell you how my RE does things. First he did an hsg and hysteroscopy on me to see if tubes are open and uterus is healthy. We didn't have my husband tested because we have 2 kids and have been pregnant 6 times. But if we want at any time he will test dh sperm. He did one cycle of us just ttc but no meds. Then since I was ovulating on my own but had low progesterone we did 4 cycles of luteal phase Prometrium. He monitored my cycles with ultrasound and blood tests. Then I took a cycle off the prometrium because the side effects were tough on me. I went back and told him I didn't want to keep doing it especially since it wasn't working. Well he decided to put me on 100mg of clomid. This is my first cycle. I won't be monitored unless I don't get a surge by day 16. I get 3 cycles total before he wants to move on to injectables and IUI. I like that he understands I'm so tired of messing around. If it were me, I'd really want a different doctor. I feel like my RE moves quickly on to the next thing. If you don't want to find another doc, could you ask yours to monitor you with ultrasound for a cycle?

 

[BelleNuit]

Lucy at the very least I think you should have an HSG and your DH should be tested. An SA really isn't that big of a deal! After that the next step might be to try femara or move on to IUI. If you want the option to try clomid and IUI (rather than injectibles and IUI which increases risk of multiples) then you shouldn't do anymore clomid cycles now

TTC I'm sorry you are struggling. I know secondary infertility must be difficult. The same desires are there that aren't being fulfilled but you probably get less support exactly because you already have 2 kids. I think your question about how far you want to go with this is a fair one. I don't have any kids and I know I'm willing to go a long ways to try to have 1. But I honestly don't think I would have the heart to try for a second if we got lucky enough to have one, and I know my DH would prefer to only have 1 so that would be an easy decision for us. I would so love to have just 1 baby.

 

[Nita2806]

So there we have it, I did a CB HPT and its negative on 13dpo. Wish me luck, I am going to try and talk to my parents in law about the surgery, today.

 

[Ask4joy]

Aw hugs to you, Nita! I know that no matter what we all keep that shred of hope alive every month. Sending you lots of positive energy. You've got this!

 

[Nita2806]

Well, doesnt seem like the parent telling part is happening today, DH is in denial and feels we need to wait a bit...ugh, so annoying, just because he doesnt want to deal with his dad, not like waiting a month is going to make the issue dissapear. I really need his support on this, and currently it feels like im alone in this. Everytime I bring up the surgery he either walks away or change the subject. Next he is most likely going to tell me I need to stop nagging about it, I will, as soon as he accepts it.

On the possive side, I made some cocktails, and I can drink them with a clear concience. Maybe if I add more vodka into dh's cocktail he will talk to me

 

[BelleNuit]

Oh Nita, I'm sorry. It's taken my DH a long time to start to realize that this isn't just going to happen for us the easy way. Hell it took me a long time too! I hope your DH will come around and realize that there is no shame in needing fertility treatments. Do you have a date for your surgery set?

 

[Nita2806]

It will either be 28 February or 7 March, my doctor only operate on Tuesdays and the surgery has to be done in the first 2 weeks of my cycle. If I am correct then I shoukd start to spot from Tuesday and be done with AF by Sunday.

He is actually talking about it now

 

[ttc126]

Nita it's so hard! I don't know your whole back story but my hubby wanted to tell next to no one anything about our struggles or even seeing an RE. It's shameful for them I think even though it's no ones fault. He also prefers not to discuss things. lol I kinda just talk his ear off anyway. I hope your inlaws do not give you a hard time. Judgy family and friends make everything harder. Fingers crossed you can get in to surgery the 28th!

 

[Nita2806]

Thanks so much ttc for the kind words. DH admitted to being in denial and he dont want our parents to know about my infertility, YET he tells everyone else, all his friends now, he even keeps them updated with ALL the detail. But, I told him to man up and face this, I cant do this alone. He agreed to a 'braai' with his family Tuesday, and dinner with my parents Wednesday. No turning around now as the plans have been made. Its going to be extremely hard, but its going to be a relieve that we dont have to hide it from them anymore.

 

[BelleNuit]

Oh boy. I took my first dose of femara last night and this morning I am experiencing some really awful nausea. Like awful awful. I hope this is just a one off thing and not a side effect I will have to live with for the next 5 days. Anyone else experience severe nausea?

 

[BelleNuit]

Ugh and I'm also really dizzy, my head feels like it's swimming I hope I'm just dehydrated or something

 

[Nita2806]

Oh no Belle, those symptoms are SE of FE lots of women complain about nausea on FE (that I have seen), I really hope it gets better.

 

[BelleNuit]

Thanks Nita, I hope so too. So far it only seems to be a problem when I eat. The rest of the time it's okay. Oh the things we do.