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[lisaf]

Must be something in the air... I am so irritated with my DH right now. I let him sleep in an extra 30 minutes this morning, yes, he went out and (with much handholding-help from me) he primed a few of our cabinet doors. That apparently exhausted him so much he eventually went to lie down.. ALL without watching Daniel even once for me.

What did I do? Started laundry, fixed the toilet leak, folded laundry, put it away, all WHILE watching Daniel, put Daniel down for a nap - 30 minutes of crying from him etc.

So he gets up from lying down, takes Daniel for 2 minutes, then has to go spend 20 minutes in the bathroom. Comes out and wants to go make himself a cup of coffee....

What is it with MEN?!! grrrr
I feel like a horrible mother because I need a break from Daniel after spending such a short time with him. I feel like I should have never had kids, that i'm not cut out for it

 

[lisaf]

Oh, and the dimple thing CAN be a sign of it.. but dimple with a hairy patch is a bigger indicator. And still thats just a sign of a possible problem, no guarantee that there will be anything noticable. And even if there are problems, they tend to be minor ones anyway. It was totally freaky to hear it at first, but we're much calmer about it now.

 

[Onelildream]

Suz and Lou- I'm a bit concerned about what y'all think CIO is? Maybe I have a different idea of it and I think CIO is different than what y'all think? I just hear you all talk about it like I'm killing my child or am a horrible mother but I don't see anything wrong with it... So we must have different ideas on what it really is??? Please tell me what u think I am doing to my child...

 

[SBB]

Lisa we all need a break sometimes, sometimes even if we've only been looking after them for a short time... Don't beat yourself up!!

Chell... Perhaps we shouldn't have talked about CIO here... We all have different opinions and I don't want to cause an argument. What I think they are: CIO is leaving your baby to cry him/herself to sleep, and CC is leaving them 5 mins, then 7 mins, then 10 mins etc and longer each time. If you want to know my opinion on why I don't agree with it I will say, but seriously I don't want to argue about it

X x x

 

[babyloulou]

Same here Chell- sorry we shouldn't have brought it up on here! You only have to look in the Baby Club section to see the massive debates the two opposing camps have about it and the last thing we want is for it to be like that in here! I know it's a lot more popular in the US than here (although some still do it here too) I certainly don't think you're a horrible mother or that you're hurting the kids. I personally wouldn't do it after researching it but some of my RL friends do

 

[babyloulou]

Lisa- you're not a horrible mother! It must be so hard to juggle work and looking after Daniel

 

[babyloulou]

Been to buy Ben some winter stuff and he needed size 12-18 months boots! He's only just turned 8 months! How can his feet be THAT big!!!

 

[SBB]

Whoa! The ILs bought S some tshirts the other day, they fit fine, but not for long - they're size 18-24 months

I haven't tried S with any shoes for ages!

x x x

 

[Onelildream]

I guess it's hard to hear tone on here... But I wasn't trying to sound angry! Sorry! I was just wondering why it was divorce worthy if someone let their baby cry! Lou pretty much told me I did CIO and so that's what I've always thought I've done. But I have never let Connor cry more than like 5 minutes! So I'm pretty sure I don't do CIO if that's means letting them cry from 7pm to 7am or something! I always wake up with Connor as many times as he wants to get up in the night! I do believe that sometimes a good cry is needed tho when there is nothing else they are responding to, but really that has only happened once since Connor was even born. Truthfully though, this little guy is totally obsessed over and pampered. I thought CIO was just letting them cry when they need to instead of sticking a pacifier in their mouth. That's why I was seriously wondering what CIO meant to you guys. I really wasn't tying to fight, it was an honest question.

 

[Onelildream]

And I thought CIO meant if they are crying, pick them up and let them cry. I think it's just a term I've always used like "oh, poor baby, it's ok, cry it out" but I don't think I fall under the true terms "cry it out"

My philosophy is that a happy baby doesn't have anything to cry about. Crying comes when something is wrong.

 

[babyloulou]

Only leaving them for a few minutes is more Controlled Crying than CIO Chell. Did I say you did CIO? I can't remember that!!

 

[babyloulou]

And I don't think Suz meant that divorce would be on the cards because CIO is so bad- she just meant if one of us wouldn't leave the baby to cry and wanted to put up with the sleepless nights but the other one didn't want to- it would be a hard thing to compromise on x

 

[SBB]

Yeh that's what I meant Lou!

Chell I think that CIO is more leaving the baby, ie letting him cry in his cot without even picking him up... I have read about some people letting their baby cry for hours, and also asking what happens when their baby gets so worked up they are sick

CC is picking up and putting back down for a while even if he's still crying. And stretching the amount of time they cry for each time.

I agree they only cry when something is wrong, even if that something is just that they want a cuddle! That's why I don't agree with just leaving a baby crying in it's cot.

If you pick Connor up when he cries then I'm not sure you fall under either of those anyway! A crying baby being held is a totally different thing to a crying baby left alone in the dark...

x x x

 

[Onelildream]

Well I think I don't do either. Haha. I put him down when he is sleeping and never. Ever leave him to cry for hours!!! I feel so much better now. Thank you for clarifying. I was really confused!

 

[SBB]

Glad thats sorted - and no arguments! ok let's find something else we can argue about instead

X x x

 

[lisaf]

Daniel whines a lot, we don't pick him up for that.

I will admit that yesterday when I wrote about being burned out.. .Daniel started crying/fussing (not hysterical, just complaining).. while DH was still in the bathroom and I let him do it. I was just so tired of trying to keep him entertained/happy every second and I wanted DH to hurry up in there and come help me.

On a cute note, last night as we were heading to bed, we hear Daniel just chatting quietly to himself so freakin cute, lol.
DH had to go in to turn off his fan and then of course he started crying and had to be fed, lol.

 

[SBB]

Aw cute Lisa! Sammuel giggled at himself for 10 mins today, he could see his reflection in th plug thing in the bath - so cute!!!

X x x

 

[babyloulou]

Ben was laughing for ages today at a pack of kitchen rolls in the trolley at Tesco!!

 

[Onelildream]

I love that they think of everyday things being funny!

Haha, Suz. Whatcha wanna argue about?!

Um... Can I make my own hemp inserts? Are they just covered with microfiber?

 

[laura6914]

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