Clomid Club Graduate Buddies

[Onelildream]

Jess- We love you so much. I have a very strong opinion on working hard to save your marriage, and I think counseling is a great start. However, I know that it takes both of you to be on the same page to make things work and to mend the relationship. Sometimes compromises are hard to negotiate, but physical intimacy is needed to nurture a relationship. Both parties need to feel loved and appreciated through physical manifestation. I firmly believe that. I know I am not much of a sex person, but I still initiate it atleast 3 times a week. After we do I feel so much closer (emotionally) to my husband. I'm not saying that is the answer for you two, because you are kind of passed that point of comfortably initiating love making, but it is definitely something that needs to be worked up to again. Even if it doesn't end in the act of sex, physical closeness can help remind yourselves how much you love each other. Even just a hug. I am so sorry, Sweetheart. I have faith you guys can get through this together. There was a time in my early marriage when I truly wanted to leave my husband. I guess I just went through a phase, but we worked through it and are now closer than ever. You can do that too. Esp with the fact that he is actually showing he wants to save your marriage by taking counseling.

Love you, Sweetie.

 

[Onelildream]

Congrats, Laura! Can't wait to hear all about it and see baby Chloe! hugs!

 

[lisaf]

Can't wait for pics Laura!

 

[SBB]

Yay Laura can't wait! X x x

 

[babyloulou]

Jess- has Joe got a very low sex drive? Does he DIY much? Use porn, etc...? Is he replacing your sex life with DIYing? Or is he not sexual at all?

 

[Peach Blossom]

He has feelings for someone else. He was with her tonight.ni begged him to come home and I think he is... My world is crashing down around me...

 

[babyloulou]

Oh Jess I'm so sorry! I was so hoping there wasn't going to be anyone else involved!

*******!!!

 

[SBB]

Oh god Jess I'm so sorry. What an arsehole.

I don't know what to say

I hope he hasn't done anything, if it's just feelings perhaps you can still work through it.

X x x

 

[Peach Blossom]

I don't know what to do.... I can't make him love me... I can't cope with this... Really I don't think I can cope... I'm already shaking uncontrollably....

 

[Euronova]

oh I am so sorry... i did cross my mind... what an ass of him and what sort of bitch would try to seduce a married man with a young family, that's just preying on someone at the most vulnerable time... that's horrible... hang in there, when he realises that bitch is no better than you and you will have moved on, he will be the one to regret spoiling it for you both.
I am so sorry for you.... be strong... if you can't do it for yourself try and think you need to be strong for your lovely daughter

 

[SBB]

Jess you CAN cope... I promise you can. It will be ok you have your beautiful girl and you will get through this. Just don't expect to be ok now. You are allowed to be a mess

X x x

 

[babyloulou]

Jess- Lili needs you honey. He's the one who's ruining his own life here. I'm so so sorry

 

[babyloulou]

Jess- if you ever need anywhere to run away to we have two spare rooms here. I mean that- you and Lili are always welcome xxx

 

[lisaf]

aw Jess, I'm so sorry
Like Suz said, you're allowed to be a mess now, but you have a beautiful little girl and you WILL have better days to come,

ETA - I want to hit him with a stick... a really sharp spiky stick Its just so wrong to do this to your partner

 

[SBB]

Jess how's it going?

X x x

 

[babyloulou]

You ok Jess?? Xx

 

[Peach Blossom]

He's agreed to do counselling as soon as possible and to try and work it out. But he doesn't know what the outcome will be. He's supposed to be working with this woman. I found emails from him saying that he 'needed to go away with her'. He says it's not what it looks like, but how can it not be? I'm so distraught. I really don't know what to do.

 

[lisaf]

you don't have to decide what to do right now, being in limbo is probably more painful, but you really don't have to make a choice today about what to do about it.
Have you called around for counselors yet?

 

[SBB]

Try and get some sleep and see how you feel tomorrow, you don't need to make any decisions right away.

So sorry you're having to go through this, I hate to think of you so distressed

We love you

X x x

 

[babyloulou]

What did he say it was like? How has he explained her?

Xx