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Jess, Sweetheart, big hugs honey. What a friggin &$@! to have feelings for someone else! He's so lucky there's an ocean dividing us... That is NOT right! He would get a friggin earful from me; I swear! Nothing worse than unfaithfulness. Even if they haven't "done" anything, he is cheating already. I don't know what else to say. That makes me freakin LIVID. I am so sorry, Hun. You def have a reason to be in pieces. Like the girls said, you are Lili's mommy. You mean everything to her. Hang in there. Life might be crazy for a bit; we are here to support you with any decision you make. Love you, Jess! :hugs:
 
Jess we are here for u. I am sorry Joe is being this way. I hope counseling will help - and I hope he really tries to work thru this and comes to his senses, if u want him to. Did u and your sister discuss this alot in HK? What does she say about it?

Chell play words!
 
Jess how are you feeling today? What are you doing? Do you have to work?

X x x
 
Morning ladies,

Laura- any pics?? how are you feeling?

Jess - I still can't get over this... what a *&$%%! I know you prob feel completely lost and desperate for him to come back to you but at some point you will have to think about it the other way. When you feel rejected you always feel like you want to run after the person. But from what I have read so far (sorry if i don't really know enough to speak)... do you really want to stay with a man that has not been helping you more with your child? Do you really want to trust again someone that has been stupid enough to pour his problems onto another woman instead of going to one of his friends? I think there is a reason he has chosen this co-worker, and she is not female for no reason.
It is very easy when you are in a relationship and you have responsibilities and arguments to find it attractive to be with someone else who is not nagging you or telling you off.
What he prob doesn't realise is that if he fast forward 4 years down the line with that girl or ANY other one... he will be in the exact same boat!! that's life! and that's being a mature person! You have to face to your issues, not seek solace in relationships that are so superficial there is no problems.
You can tell him, he won't have it any better with anyone else... it will only be temporary... he will never be able to survive as much as you both did with anyone else, and when he is an old git on his own still thinking he is a stud, he will regret bitterly.
 
Hi guys, sorry not to be on earlier, I've been busy with Lili.

He said that he enjoys working with her and that's why he wants to go away with her, not to "be with her and not his wife". I don't think I believe him. The trust has been crushed and I don't have any faith in him. Oh and she's married. I know her email address and I found her FB page... I know that if I contact her though, Joe will be pushed to her more. He's promised me that he won't have any contact with her over the weekend. But he's due to go on at least 4 trips with her over the next 6 months.... I've begged him not to do the job, but he says he can't turn down the work. I begged him to take us with him, but he said it wasn't practical...

He's gone to Edinburgh. I asked him to go so that he could be with his friend and talk things through with him. He is a great guy. On the surface you think that he is a complete cock, but actually he is the most honourable friend I know. He adores his wife and kids and I just hope that joe will see that and want to have that.

He is the other half of me. He makes me complete and only he can do that. I can't be without him... I just can't..

I'm so devastated. All I wanted was for him to tell me I was being silly and that he loved me. I never expected this to happen.... We are booked in for counselling on Wednesday evening. Its his birthday on Tuesday....

Thank you all for all of your support and love. I dont know where I'd be without you all. It means a lot to me. :hug:

Where are the photos of Chloe?! Xx
 
Jess do u want us to keep talking about it, I mean do u need a change of subject? Otherwise I was wondering why is the trust broken - he didn't do anything w her? He said she is just a co worker right? You know he likes her more huh? I am sorry this is happening/ what does yr sister say?
 
:( Speaking from experience, Jess... I was in a 5 year relationship and had NO IDEA my significant other was cheating. I am not saying he is, but I am saying BE CAREFUL. You have every right to not trust him right now.
 
Jess when is the first trip with this woman? Try not to focus all your attention on him going away with her and deal with other stuff first.

What is he being like? Is he sorry? Upset?

So sad he is doing this :cry:

X x x
 
He said he has feelings for her. I just feel that my trust in him and his love has been trashed by him allowing himself to feel that way. I just don't feel I can trust him...

It's helping talking about it, to be honest, but I don't want to hijack the thread! :hugs: xx
 
I don't know when the next trip is. He's already been to hong long with her twice.

He's being pretty unresponsive to be honest. Quiet and withdrawn. He cries when I cry, but only because he doesnt like to see me upset. He has said that he wants to try and work things out and we are going to counselling next week. We'll see then where the land lies.

He said I love him too much... How can you love someone too much?
 
Jess- I'm just going to ask the questions I'd be asking myself as I know you'd want us to be honest....

Has he said shes got any feelings for him?

You say he is now saying he just likes working with her and doesn't actually want to be with her- but didn't you say he met up with her last night? How did that come about?

What were the rest of the emails like between them? Were they innocent enough in tone for you to believe him that you read his comment the wrong way?

If he was cheating on you do you think he would be honest and tell you? Trust your intuition- do you think he's lying or not?

:hugs: :hugs: Xxxx
 
He says he has feelings for her. He says that the emails looked worse than they are. That he wants to go away with her because he enjoys her company not to sleep with her. I just don't know if I believe him.

I don't think he'd man up enough to tell me if he were sleeping with her. I just don't know. :cry:
 
I'm sorry Jess but if he wouldn't cancel those upcoming trips then I wouldn't believe him at all :-( He should absolutely cancel going anywhere with her if you two have got any chance of working things out! If he won't then I think he's already with her :-(

(I'm sorry sweetheart- just being honest :cry: )
 
Jess I know u totally love him and have history with him but isn't this changing your opinion to him?
 
I agree with Suz, I think even if I would be devastated and feel vulnerable, I would not be able to hide my anger.
I think I would be upset that I would have lost the person I loved, because someone that would have feelings for another women when I just had his baby would not be the type of person I want in my life or anywhere near my kids.
Are you not angry at him? I think if you keep yourself in the week position, like you are the one being dumped.. then it is going to make him flee even more... it's not very appealing....
and if it is even going to work, he is going to have to prove to you that he is committed... you can't make it too easy on him or it's never going to be enough to ease your mind....
This is such a horrible situation... what sort of Job does he do? I would definitely either go with him on the travels or not let him go with her!
 
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