[Closed] Per Ardua Ad Astra

[cutieq]

May 2013 for me with my 1st BFP in Feb of this year. DH mentioned that while looking for anniversary cards they all mentioned being great parents or growing our family and it made him sad.

I do have high hopes, I swear I do! My gut says it's going to happen for us eventually but when we least expect it. Not when I'm tracking and stalking it to death, but I don't know how to "not try"

 

[Tui]

Not any more honey. You have a very sticky pumpkin in there now. So pleased for you x

 

[cutieq]

yea Kenna! You waited 4 years and now look at you.. you're 4 weeks

 

[Tui]

I'd love to be more relaxed about it but I don't have time. Like you say, how? If I wasn't temping or doing opks I'd be constantly trying to guess when to bd and looking at the calendar. Wouldn't work.

 

[cutieq]

I'd love to be more relaxed about it but I don't have time. Like you say, how? If I wasn't temping or doing opks I'd be constantly trying to guess when to bd and looking at the calendar. Wouldn't work.

I agree and we've seen just as many women get BFPS from temps, opks, etc so I'm a-ok with it. I think I've gotten relaxed by default out of pure exhaustion. Going to sound weird, but I almost feel like now I know the recipe for getting pregnant for the most part, but haven't figured out why they don't want to hang around.

 

[Wishing1010]

May 2013 for me with my 1st BFP in Feb of this year. DH mentioned that while looking for anniversary cards they all mentioned being great parents or growing our family and it made him sad.

I do have high hopes, I swear I do! My gut says it's going to happen for us eventually but when we least expect it. Not when I'm tracking and stalking it to death, but I don't know how to "not try"

It's hard to not try, your mind will tell you that if you don't try, you might miss it (If it's anything like my mind!).

 

[kwynia]

I'll be coming up on my first mc due date in early Dec. It's hard to look back at the past 8 months and see all those wishful days after ovulating and then all those devastated heartbroken days after a loss or AF. But even though looking back is painful, I still only feel hope looking forward. Hugs and love to all you ladies!

♡ ♡ ​

 

[cutieq]

We're all so different but so alike. I wish we had something more in common...like a favorite color instead of heartbreak. What a great day it'll be when we're all bumping bellys together.

 

[laurac1988]

I'm on a bit on an "i don't care" thing at the moment. I'm doing OPKs as obviously we have to, but nothing else. Just one donation a month and getting on with our lives. This might take a long time, but as long as we use every egg, we know we're giving it the best chance of becoming our rainbow

 

[cutieq]

Good for you Laura! We BD pretty regularly so I can normally be a little more relaxed around this time and with O and have some fun, but once I O, it's always stressful for me but I vow not to test before 12DPO this cycle so hopefully I can relax.

 

[Squig34]

Good news about the specialist, Bug!

to all of you with due dates or should-have-been birthdays around now.

 

[Bug222]

thanks ladies!
im cd 9.. been taking opks since cd 6.. they were darker on cd6 than they are now.. def nowhere near pos then but almost no second line now. i have been getting a positive around cd 11/12 the last few cycles so I guess i will see in a few days... but I am having the usual breast tenderness I have just after ov normally now.. with how screwed up my cycles have been lately I guess it isn't completely crazy to think I have already ov'd... now the question is when to go for my bloodwork. For most people it is usually cd 21... but I don't always make it to cd 21...

 

[cutieq]

Bug I might just schedule it and get in there when you can. I went a little earlier than most (5dpo instead of 7)and they still did the bloodwork

 

[Lynny77]

Tui I know exactly what you mean about time and not having the luxury to take cycles off. That's why i was so upset this month when we didn't get a good bd in before O. Usually we're doing it every day my fertile week.

Bugg so happy you're moving forward!

To everyone who's having due date come up big hugs to you. It sucks!

I've been ttc since August 2012. Ah seeing that is depressing itself. Wishing you're my inspiration!

And I'm cd30 today. My last 2 cycles post mc have been super long- 40 and 36, but prior to mc they were usually about 32 day cycles. Hoping as each month goes by they'll get shorter and back to normal. Not sure when I o'd since my new opk's gave me positives starting at cd15 and I didn't get a positive on my older opk's. Just waiting it out and hoping af starts sooner than later so I can do my surgery next saturday!

 

[cutieq]

I hate hoping for AF Lynny but if you want it, you got it!

 

[Lynny77]

Ha Cutie! Part of me is still like well maybe a magic sperm hung around for 4 days despite the all the fluid thrown in me from the hysteroscopy. But this month won't be as devastating as last month where we gave it everything we had while on holiday and it would have been so perfect- urgh!

 

[cutieq]

This is my final cycle of the year because they're so long. Come on BFP!!!!

 

[cutieq]

Now I've gone and confused myself. Randomly peed on a digital OPK and got a solid smiley. No way I'm O'ing right now. I hope I don't have a screwy cycle on my hands.

 

[Tui]

Oh that's confusing. Have you got some ic opks to compare with?

 

[cutieq]

Oh that's confusing. Have you got some ic opks to compare with?

No either it's faulty but I've never fault a faulty one in all 9 months I've used it. Or perhaps I'm gearing up to O in next 2-3 days and the epo moved me up? I swear I just stop spotting like 2 days ago from AF. Just gonna try to keep a steady bd and see what happens. Temps will tell me in a day or two.

Tui, it seems like every cycle we have similar issues!