Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

I guess doing it sooner rather than later would be best, this is the one who's in his 20's is it not? Or the older one? We're using a new one who's 47, compared to the 24 year old, so I do have some worry there with regards to motility etc, but like someone else said, guys can be fertile until they're in their 70's!!! So I'm trying not to worry too much!
 
Yep, the one who is 37 is the one we are using and are praying it works with him. Love that man....
 
:juggle:Okay, so if I ovulated early, which was my worry this month, I should see the nasty AF tomorrow. I'm not feeling crampy yet, so I'm crossing my fingers. My donor wants me to be preggo so badly that it just adds some extra stress. But, that's okay. I guess I'd rather him be sending good vibes than not. The back up donor, who is much younger, lied to me about something very small recently. I know this is going to sound insane but it makes me not want to use him in the case that the current donor doesn't work. I'm big on trust, and it may have just been immaturity on his part, but it was involving my son, and it just rubbed me the wrong way.

How is everyone else today? :juggle:
 
I'm hoping now AF-symptoms is a good sign, Trippy! :) I think I'd feel the same way if I caught my donor lying about something. Lying is a huge no-no for me. It makes me crazy.

Are you planning on testing early?
 
Trippy that sucks about your donor lying, even about something small. Lying drives me nuts! Keeping my fingers crossed for you -- and Lizzie -- I'm hoping March is a lucky month for both of you!

I hate having to wait until June for my IUI & that's only *IF* my insulin level is acceptable for my doctor by then. Grrr....

I really should try to find a donor..... but, i can't get up the nerve to ask anyone. I just can't bare the thought of asking a friend........ plus then asking him to get STD tested & stuff......

I know a lesbian couple who mentioned a few months ago that they wanted a baby -- & bam! She is now like 9 weeks pregnant! And the baby's father is their friend's husband!

I can't even get up the nerve to ask my single, gay, male friend who i've known since we were 12 years old!!!!!
 
Mommy Tammy-

I'll be sending you courageous brainwaves to get up the nerve to seek out your donor. It really is the way to go. My partner Pam and I were so worried about asking people too. We were shocked that multiple people said they would. You don't really have to ask either. I would suggest you sharing with your gay friend that you are considering trying to find a donor and that you want it to be someone you can trust and someone you care about. See what he says and take it from there. I'm lucky that our current donor is so awesome... it was the younger, back up donor that lied. We were worried about his age (18) anyway, so I don't necessarily think he's a bad guy, just young and immature. Who didn't lie at 18, ya know?

Another thing about getting a donor is that you should not throw anyone out. The guy that we kept saying would be our "dream father" we just tossed out and didn't even ask for the first few months because we just thought he would say no. He's a Principal of a large school district near us, and his partner is this gorgeous furniture designer and they own this million dollar Bed and Breakfast. We just thought... no way, they'd never do it. They are out of our league. Well, one night we were having some drinks with them, and we said, "Well, we are down to two people who have volunteered to be our donor, but neither are perfect. Oh well." They both were like, "Why didn't you ask us?" I laughed thinking they were joking. We told them they were our #1 choice but we never thought they would do it with their jobs and busy lives... they travel all the time. But, now they are doing it. And, hopefully, I'll have that connection to them always. We wanted someone who would be there and know the child and spend time with him/her during vacations, summers, etc. but who would still let us be the primary parents. One of my biggest fears now is that something is going to go wrong and we'll have to use someone else. We've really developed a love for the guy now... not in a romantic way but in a family way. Everything changed when we started trying to get pregnant together. It's been very cool.

Anyway, I know that's a long, rambling story but my point is Tammy.... go for it. You have to make it happen. You can do it!

:flower: Trippy
 
Well Em, I'm not going to test for awhile. When I tested last month and it was a big NO, I was just sad. I'm going to just keep going about life and see what happens. If I didn't ovulate early, which was the fear this last month, I will see AF in 5-6 days. My periods are not exactly 35 days each month, so if I don't see AF in two weeks then I might test. I just feel so normal... no tender breasts or anything else, so I don't know. However, if I were preggo, it would only be about a week now... so, I don't know. What are the first signs you had? When did they happen? I can't wait to be pregnant! It will be the best thing that ever happened to me.
 
Trippy,

i honestly had no idea I was pregnant. My husband started wondering a day or two before we tested because he thought I looked extra attractive, but really I had no idea. I think the first sign was that I was a bit tired a day or two before testing - but a bit tired isn't exactly a strong signal, you know?

Probably just relaxing and waiting to see if AF shows is a good plan. I of course never had that much self-restraint.

Mommy Tammy, I am so tempted to tell you to go contact the donor I used (who lives in PA) but he is probably moving in a month or so, so it's probably pointless. Maybe that's weird, he was just such a great guy about all of this. It was hard for me to get up the nerve to ask people I knew, but I did and got a few maybes. One thought is to consider people you know who aren't necessarily local - the travel is hard but its still cheaper than IUI. That just might widen the options for known donors. It's also my personal opinion that gay men are less put out by requests for STD testing than straight men... its' a cultural thing. :)

Best of luck to everyone!
 
No signs of AF so far... so at least I know that I didn't ovulate early. Wahooooo.... even if I don't get the BFP it's exciting to know that on month two I figured things out. Ta-ta....


Oh, Lizzie, how are you?
 
Thanks for the encouragement girls!! I talked w my mom about it today. My plan is to go ahead with the one IUI attempt in June, since i already have the money saved & started the process with the fertility doctor! If i don't get preggo, then i will ask my friend. I think i will just say, "Hey do you know anyone who would be interested in helping?" And explain my story... that way the ball is in his court, & if he wants to help he will offer & if he doesn't i wont feel embarassed bc i never directly asked him. He lives locally but we haven't seen each other in years -- but we are FB friends.

Trippy -- your donor sounds perfect!!! I hope you get that :bfp: this month! Glad to hear you Ov'ed on schedule! Sounds promising! As far as early symptoms -- for me the first sign was that smells started bothering me. Like -- i was in target one day & some ladies perfume made my stomach queasy. And i started to get nausea here & there. My first test was neg (a few days before AF) and then my 2nd test was positive a week later.

Lizzie -- how are things?
 
Hey girls :) I'm ok, been feeling sicky the past few days, but only 7dpo! Could just be a bug, but nothing I eat tastes nice :s We'll know this time next week! Im also so so tired, Ive no energy to do anything! We're both off work today, so might take he dog to the beach!
 
Hey Ladies! So Lizzie - How are you today? I still haven't seen AF, and I'm am nauseous at random times all of a sudden. I'm either coming down with something or preggo. My breasts aren't sore though, and I've had lower back pain. I'm wondering if it's just AF kicking me in the gut this month. Regardless, I'm just happy to know that I inseminated at the right times, because it ticks me off to think about wasting all of that time and effort to shuffle my own kids around if I was three days later than my egg. So, that's that. I have a writing retreat coming up this next weekend, and one of my donor's friends is attending with me. He has no clue that the donor is doing this, and he's a drinker... most writers are. So, it will be really interesting to see how I'm going to get out of drinks every night with the crew if I still haven't seen AF, and if I do see AF today or tomorrow then I will at least be able to kick up my heels and get in the hot tub with some wine over the weekend. Right now my tummy is saying NO FLIPPING WAY though. Yes, I'm rambling. I love reading your posts, so keep them coming. Did everyone have a good weekend?
 
well, if you just like seeing posts - I'll give an off topic update. My OH left about a month ago for training/deployment. :cry: I spent most of the first 3 weeks being a wreck off and on. As of about Wednesday last week, something has shifted and I'm feeling better - more grounded, stable, less despairing. I'm still a bit lonely, but I feel more like I am going to be able to handle it, and not lose my mind.

John's ex-wife is now talking to me, which is amazing, and making it a lot easier and less stressful to get my step kids up for visits. They were here this weekend and we had a really nice time. They are 15 and 17 and we have a good relationship.

I also think I've found a birth doula to be my labor and delivery support person (since John probably won't be back in time).

So, yeah, all good news and I'm just going to keep hanging in there.
 
Thats great about the doula! Not so great about ur OH :(

Ive tested already, BFN :( I'm only 9dpo to, so didnt expect anything! Still feeling 'off', but think its all in my head lol. Walked 8 miles yesterday now I have a really painful hip!!!

Trippy, say you're on a course of anti-biotics, so you cant drink! Thats always my get out lol. Im soo impatient this month!
 
Em- I remember being in a serious long distance relationship... nothing like having your hubby away while your preggo, but I remember it seeming awful. At least you have all of us to chat with. I'm so envious that you are preggo... happy for you, but it seems like when you are trying that everyone around you is pregnant and that is happened so easily for them. I know I'm only on my second month, but this process can drive you crazy. I know all of u understands. Off to teach another class. Hugs....
 
Ok ladies...we have progress!! Just did 2 IC's, one OPK and one pregnancy test and LOOK!!! Green is OPK and blue is preg test..ahhhhh!! :wacko: I'm only 9dpo, surely it's wrong?! How am I gona wait 2 days to test again?! I've felt like crap all day, really sicky, and almost fainted in the post office queue, and been running to the loo all day! Screen tilting is needed, and they are both clearer in real life! It'll prob turn out to be a chemical knowing my luck, but Ive never had so many symptoms!!

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Lizzie,

That sure looks like a faint line on the blue test... can you get a higher quality early pregnancy test and try again??

Are you on anything this cycle to help keep your progesterone levels up just in case? Acupuncture and herbs can help too.

Hoping for good news!
 
I'm gona take a different test tomro!!! I have progesterone cream, duno what the doctor would say tho! lol
 
Hey Lizzie-
We're all dying to have an update. Still no Aunt Flo for me. I'm so hopeful, but I don't want to test. I'm scared. Ugh. I'm just trying to relax. I really don't have any symptoms so maybe a no here. I have had a little nausea, but that's it. Oh well. This can make a girl crazy, heh?
Hugs to you all, Trippy
 

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