Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[RubyRainbows]

Garden Path... your persistance paid off!! How has your pregnancy been going so far? It is wonderful to hear that a woman you know from another forum gave birth to a beautiful & healthy donor baby! I cant wait for your little bean to arrive! Do you know what you are having? Do you have names picked out? If you don't mind me asking, have you told your friends and family that you used a donor?

Did you say you know of a lesbian online TTC forum... can i have the name of it?

BTW - sorry for the frantic post this morning! I just NEVER expected to check the tank this morning and find our little vials half defrosted! Even though i technically knew that could happen... they were safe & sound and frosty cold when i "tucked them in" last night before bed! Lol. At any rate... the only thing i can do is stay positive and hope for the best this cycle! Swim spermy swim!!

 

[Redfraggle]

Garden Path, because he has trouble ejaculating during intercourse, but not when masturbating. Weird, I know. I have found a couple of cases like that in this forum though.

:wave: Hello! We are doing the same and for the same reasons. Its a lot more common a problem then people first think!

Just wanted to wish you lots of luck. Hope you get your BFP soon.

 

[Edensmum]

Hi Tammy I'm sorry for all the headaches this frozen stuff is causing you! It's not over till it's over and despite the chaos there is no reason not to sit and wait hopefully for a BFP!

I would really recommend having a look for a 'fresh' donor, it'll save you a fortune and it's great to get more information and pictures before you pick the guy. I joined up with 2 sites, it won't let me post the links but if you go to the very popular search engine rhyming with poodle... and type in co-parenting.

There is a subscription fee of about £25 and that gives you 6 months profile viewing and messaging. You also get e-mails from the first one detailing new members based on your search criteria. Of course there are a few odd ones on there, but there also seem to be a lot of genuine ones.

I did second insemination for this cycle today, so now will just be counting down the next 2 weeks with fingers and toes crossed. It's Edens birthday next Thursday so we are spending the week at my parents. It will be nice to relax a bit and have some yummy meals cooked for me.

Kirsty -x-

 

[enrisa]

Good luck Tammy! Do the insemination and relax, there´s nothing else you can do now. You did your best!!

Welcome and good luck Edensmum

x

 

[RubyRainbows]

Thanks Edensmum for the info... i will do a "poodle" search... lol. I have my fingers crossed for you too! We have both started the loooong two week wait on the same day!! Keep us posted!

 

[snagglepat]

Oh Tammy, that must have been so upsetting, finding your precious vials partially defrosted! I will keep my fingers crossed for you that it will still work for you.

My timings have all been messed up too. I've no idea why. I thought we'd timed things quite well. I normally ovulate on around day 20 of a 34-ish day cycle. When I got a positive OPK on day 19 along with fertile mucus we inseminated that night, just aftre midnight in the end as our donor was late getting to us so officially on CD20. I then continued to get fertile mucus for days and I didn't feel myself ovulate at all, which I normally do. Then, on CD 24 I started to feel twinges like I was going to ov the next day! Way too late. I contacted our lovely donor who came and donated again so we inseminated again on CD25. I twinged the whole day but never felt the pop, so I've no idea if I ovulated once, twice or at all, or when. The fertile mucus has now stopped, so it is just a matter of waiting now. But waiting until when? Agh!

And I now have slightly tender breasts and mild period type cramps, neither of which is normal for me since having my daughter, but I used to get them premenstrually before. I'm of course reading all kinds of things into them when I'm sure they're probably psychosomatic. I'd forgotten how much this TTC stuff drives you bonkers...

Anyway, enough rambling from me. The best of luck to all of us!

Gina. x

 

[bek74]

Good Luck Tammy, I hope you get your BFP

 

[RubyRainbows]

Thanks girls!! Gina -- still having all those wonderful symptoms?? Only 5 more days until testing! Are you planning to test early?? Can't wait to hear... fingers crossed for great news!!

 

[snagglepat]

Hi Tammy,

I'm still getting the period-like cramps, but my boobs are seeming much more normal now. It's five days to testing by our original dates, but given everything got so messed up and we didn't do the second insemination until four days after that I have no idea when would be the best test time. I'm just going to hold out as long as possible. I was an early tester in the past so it might not be too much longer- I got my BFP two days before OTD last time. I've been beating my instincts by peeing immediately after I get up so that the temptation is gone. At this stage, testing with anything other than first-thing-pee wouldn't be much use.

I felt positive it had worked a day or two ago. Now I'm not so sure. Only time will tell...

How are the rest of you holding up?

Gina.x

 

[snagglepat]

Hi guys, how is everyone doing?

I gave in and tested this morning - a BFN, which is what I'd suspected. The symptoms had begun to drop off quite a bit which left me thinking that even if things had started out well they hadn't continued that way. Having said that the cramps are back with a vengeance now, so who knows. It's 12dpo the first time I might have ovulated, which is when I got a BFP last time. However, it's only 8/9 dpo the second time, and the second insem, so there's still time I guess. I'm not feeling particularly hopeful any more though.

How are the rest of you faring?

Gina. x

 

[Tegans Mama]

Hey Gina.
Sorry about the BFN! I hope its just too early

I'm on CD10 now. Our donor stopped reply to any attempts at communication earlier this month (he confirmed he would be donating for us, got tested etc, and then just stopped replying.) so we'd decided we were waiting until after Christmas to start looking for another donor.
Well yesterday he sent us an email, apologised etc and is too BUSY to donate this month but I'm just not sure how I feel about it now, this is the second time in one month that he's messed us around. He just seems a bit unreliable..
I dunno.. guess I'm just feeling a bit down about it all!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Gina! Sorry to hear about the maybe your second insem worked and you're just too early to test positive yet! When i got preggo with my son the first test was neg and then several days later i got my ! So you never know! I wasn't keeping track in any way of dates, as that pregnancy was a complete surprise, so i'm not sure when i got my bfp last time...... but this time i don't plan to test until after is late. I am fearful that evil witch is gonna get me soon as i'm having some AF symptoms - PMS, moodiness, craving chocolate, breaking out! Still trying to remain hopeful though!

hr - That sucks about your donor, what a flake! He doesn't sound very relaible! So sorry to hear! I hope you guys find a donor who is a perfect match very soon!

 

[enrisa]

Hi girls. I insem on CD 13 and 14, and I ov on CD 14 according to FF. It´s CD 17 today Saturday.

It seems all good, good timing, but it doesn´t mean I´m gonna get preg. I´m not obsessed this cycle though. I have lots to do at work, so have no time to think much about ttc at all.

Good luck Tammy. H.r, see how it goes with your donor before looking for another one.

x

 

[RubyRainbows]

Enrisa -- Sometimes it happens when you least expect it! Glad you are keeping busy... i hope you are surprised by a wonderful bfp!

I was going to test this morning even tho i am only 8 DPO but my pregnancy test was MIA. I am debating if i should buy a box tomorrow or just wait to see if the ugly shows her face!! I have been having some AF symptoms... my face is breaking out, feeling a bit crampy, and craving/eating way too much chocolate!!!!!!! Still keeping my fingers crossed, though!

 

[Tegans Mama]

He's totally flaking on us.
OH got a message on facebook from him a few days ago, apparently he didn't check his email or his mobile phone (we text & called) for a week. And conveniently, he is busy when we need him this month.
OH is so angry I'm pretty sure she has just decided we are going to find someone else.

Enrisa, I really hope this is your month.

 

[enrisa]

hr, he doesn´t seem very serious about it, start looking for sb else x

 

[enrisa]

Hi girls!

just a question: How many mililiters are the syringes you use? I was just thinking that mine is small (1 ml I think). I have to refil it 3 or 4 times for every sample. It´s narrow but long. I have a more capable one, but it´s thicker and a bit shorter.

I guess the longer the better, right? As it gets close to the cervix.

xxx

 

[snagglepat]

Hi Enrisa,

We use 5ml syringes. They are quite short (maybe 7cm or so) but then my cervix is quite low, even more so since giving birth. We used to use a 10ml before running out and happening to get 5ml ones the next time we ordered a bulk load (from ebay - we used a fresh one each time). It was a 5ml we used the month we got pregnant last time.

We have been advised to get as little air mixed in as possible which I imagine must be harder when having to repeat the process with a smaller syringe.

Hr, so sorry you've had to give up on your donor, but I guess it's better you learn how unreliable he can be now than further down the line. It's a load of hassle you didn't want or need though. I'm sorry you're having to go through it. Any idea where you'll look for another donor?

So Tammy, did you buy some more tests? How are you feeling?

We've held off testing again, though I was sorely tempted this morning. I'm feeling pretty nauseous today, but in fairness that could be stress related as we've had a lot going on in the last week. My other symptoms are all less now though, so I'm still expecting AF to arrive in another few days. We've agreed to test again on Thursday if AF hasn't arrived, so only a day and a half to get through till then...

Good luck to all,

Gina. x

 

[Edensmum]

5ml used here.

This may sound daft but I felt a bit phobic about pushing it in too far as obviously the syringe ends in a point. I know it's not sharp, but it wouldn't be great to jab my cervic with the tip. The tip itself is about 1cm maybe 2? so I found that when I have inseminated I've been cautious not to put too much syringe in. Sorry if that's tmi? Just wondered if anyone else has considered this.

I inseminate myself so am not confident in using a speculum. Also in regard to air bubbles I've found it a bit hit/miss. The second attempt I didn't leave it sitting as I was worried the first time round the sample got cold and started to die. Thus the product was more watery and more difficult to syringe without getting bubbles.

The turkey baster concept is sooooo simple. Who would have thought there were so many more factors to the process. BTW I haven't tested yet, am not getting any pg symptoms but also no af symptoms. So going to wait in limbo till Saturday, maybe Sunday at a push. AF if due Sunday, stay away witch! and ditto for others due to test.

Kirsty -x-

 

[Edensmum]

5ml used here.

This may sound daft but I felt a bit phobic about pushing it in too far as obviously the syringe ends in a point. I know it's not sharp, but it wouldn't be great to jab my cervic with the tip. The tip itself is about 1cm maybe 2? so I found that when I have inseminated I've been cautious not to put too much syringe in. Sorry if that's tmi? Just wondered if anyone else has considered this.

I inseminate myself so am not confident in using a speculum. Also in regard to air bubbles I've found it a bit hit/miss. The second attempt I didn't leave it sitting as I was worried the first time round the sample got cold and started to die. Thus the product was more watery and more difficult to syringe without getting bubbles.

The turkey baster concept is sooooo simple. Who would have thought there were so many more factors to the process. BTW I haven't tested yet, am not getting any pg symptoms but also no af symptoms. So going to wait in limbo till Saturday, maybe Sunday at a push. AF if due Sunday, stay away witch! and ditto for others due to test.

Kirsty -x-