Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[BrandiCanucks]

Digitals take a lot longer to pick up hcg than line tests do

 

[kerrycharla]

Digitals take a lot longer to pick up hcg than line tests do

Fingers crossed... It was darker this evening than it was this morning...

 

[kerrycharla]

So called the doctors today and they said that they will only do a urine sample and it will be the same as what ours show... Thought they would see her thats why we waited till now, now we arent going to be able to take FMU until monday, Grr lol

 

[mirandala]

Kerry- The digital tests have less hcg sensitivity... so that just takes time. If you are in the US you can use requestatest.com and order your own blood hcg test if you can't wait.

 

[RubyRainbows]

AF arrived. So frustrated. I want a baby so bad... I just wanna cry! I feel like giving up. Ugh. Trying to stay positive.... but it's been so many years of disappointment.

 

[CWB86]

I'm new to this and currently on the 2ww with our second donor attempt this year. The first we had just one insemination and I think it was possibly to late.
This time we had 3 1 day before positive opk and two within so fingers crossed

 

[kerrycharla]

Sorry to hear that Ruby

fingers crossed CWB86!

We are still so confused.. after our what we thought was AF we had 8 full days of BFP's which were getting marginally darker, the OPK's were super dark too - darker than the control line. Now 8 days later the HPT line is practically invisible but the lines on the OPK are still dark...

We took a FMU sample to the doctors on Monday (when the lines where showing practically invisible) and they said I will take up to 5 days as they are backlogged due to the easter break . SO CONFUSED and other half has so many symptoms - achey boobs, achey tummy, achey back, tiredness, frequent urination!

I just want to know now so we can get on!!!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Kerry - any news?

Welcome CWB! Sounds like perfect timing!

 

[BellaBaby2]

Hi Everyone,

I just want to say what an inspiration all of you are! I searched for this particular type of forum as I have a lot of questions - and found myself reading pages and pages that dated all the way back from 2009! Some of you the same writers!

My wife and I have been married for almost three years now. We have a 6 year old that I had before my wife and I met through "the old fashioned" way when I was 18 years old.

My wife and I have finally decided that it is time to start planning our next baby together. We have done a lot of research regarding cryobanks - we feel that getting frozen sperm is the way to go for us and having an at home insemination would make us both feel the most comfortable. Additionally, I would be the one getting pregnant.

I have so many questions - First, how did you pick your bank? Was it a decision that your doctor helped with?

Ovulation! Gah! I have started to track. I am going to count and chart my temperature as well. But, are there any other go to methods? How many months should you chart before trying? I have read some say just one month with a successful pregnancy - others have charted for 12 months before trying. Also, should I change my diet and start vitamins before - as I have read that sugar should be removed from diet beforehand.

I know there are probably a million forums out there - and I can search for the information, but I would really like to reach out to others going through a similar process/life experience right now - today, in the moment. I know that this may be a long process and the both of us would need support.

Thank you in advance!

B

 

[Eidson23]

Welcome Bella! Feel free to look through my journals (in my sig). I have an 8 year old son from a previous relationship (at 18 as well) and my wife just gave birth to our first child together 12 days ago! We used a known donor for financial reasons so I don't have a lot of input on choosing a cryobank. If you have any questions you can PM me anytime good luck!

 

[BellaBaby2]

Eidson - your journals are so exciting! I am so ready. We at first thought about a known donor, and we have been waiting for the right one to enter into our lives - and it just isn't happening. So, hence why we have explored cryobanks and will probably try that first. Unfortunately, it is a lot more expensive. So, we will have one shot this year and if it happens, then it was meant to be. If all goes as planned, we will officially try during my August cycle. This gives me a couple more months to continue counting, taking temps, and using ovulation tests to get the best possible date!

I am really looking forward to hearing stories to better educate my soul on how challenging, yet rewarding this process can be.

B

 

[Mafi419]

Hi Bella we got pregnant on our first try using frozen sperm. Maybe my journal can help you: https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/ttc...thod-home.html

Feel free to send me a pm if you have any queries - I'll try to help you the best way I can good luck

 

[mirandala]

Hi Bella!

For picking the sperm bank I did not have any help from medical professionals. Choicmoms provided a lot of really excellent info on the various banks (google choice moms - i know you are a couple and aren't choosing to be single parents, but that is a community also using sperm banks a lot and there has been a lot of research done into the differences between the various sperm banks). Where are you based? If based in the UK, all of the banks are somewhat equivalent because of the strict regulations around sperm donation. In the States, the regulations are not as established and each bank is able to set their own limits with regards to the amount of families that can be produced per donor. Banks offer different information about the donors- some you can get voice recordings and (I think) even video.
My decision was ultimately made based on my desire for a super ethical sperm bank with low family limits, so I went with The Sperm Bank of California who are a nonprofit. A con: because they have such low family limits, they have fewer donors available. I realllly like knowing that my child won't have many dozen half siblings, though, and the Sperm Bank of Ca has a ten family limit. They are also local to me, so that makes it a lot easier as I don't have to fret about shipping costs.

Ultimately, you need to figure out what your priorities are and find a bank that fits.

 

[kerrycharla]

Just an update.

Wife got results from bloods - the hormone is too low for her to be pregnant so shes had a miscarriage.

Sad times, but at least we know she is fertile!

 

[laurac1988]

So sorry Kerry x

 

[Mom2Madison]

Hi Bella!

For picking the sperm bank I did not have any help from medical professionals. Choicmoms provided a lot of really excellent info on the various banks (google choice moms - i know you are a couple and aren't choosing to be single parents, but that is a community also using sperm banks a lot and there has been a lot of research done into the differences between the various sperm banks). Where are you based? If based in the UK, all of the banks are somewhat equivalent because of the strict regulations around sperm donation. In the States, the regulations are not as established and each bank is able to set their own limits with regards to the amount of families that can be produced per donor. Banks offer different information about the donors- some you can get voice recordings and (I think) even video.
My decision was ultimately made based on my desire for a super ethical sperm bank with low family limits, so I went with The Sperm Bank of California who are a nonprofit. A con: because they have such low family limits, they have fewer donors available. I realllly like knowing that my child won't have many dozen half siblings, though, and the Sperm Bank of Ca has a ten family limit. They are also local to me, so that makes it a lot easier as I don't have to fret about shipping costs.

Ultimately, you need to figure out what your priorities are and find a bank that fits.

Mirandala--

Just wanted to introduce myself. I'm a single mom by choice. I chose my sperm from the Sperm Bank of CA. I got pregnant on my first IUI. My daughter is now 15 months . I'm now pregnant with my second baby. I got pregnant the 1st round of IVF. Had my 2nd follow up with my RE today for an ultrasound. Everything is going perfectly. I am in contact with another single mother who used the same sperm donor. It's been really great! If you have any questions, feel free to ask me. I wouldn't change anything for the world

 

[mirandala]

I'm so sorry to hear that Kerry.

MomtoMadison- thank you so much!! I don't know any other single mothers who have used sperm banks/tsbc. I am so glad to hear you are having such a positive experience with it and have connected with the other mother too. Congrats on your little one!

 

[Fonkey]

Hi sm1x09x, I can see that this thread is extremly old but I have some questions for you and was wondering if you could tell me how to contact you bette. If you still rea these posts. Thanks.

 

[Fonkey]

Hi, I know there are lots of ways to do home insemination and there is a lo in the internet, but I was wondering if anybody of you could recommend any procedures and products to use before. I have found the perfect donor and I like to start the process as soon as I can. I am happy for every advice you can give me.

Thanks ladies....

 

[Pinkorblue11]

Thinking of you, Ruby.