Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[Tegans Mama]

We posted our ad in Adult personals. x

 

[mechanica]

Thanks all, i haven't heard from him since and tbh i am a bit disappointed in him but only because i thought i 'knew' what kind of guy he was and clearly i didn't know at all

I tested this morning on the opk and the second line is tapering off now, so i think i must have missed my surge yesterday . I'm just going to be honest with my donor and ask him if he wants to come anyway (since i should be ovulating later today) and if so i'll pick him up from the station after work. It means having to find a babysitter between now and then though! I am in the process of weaning my daughter (she is nearly 3! i never expected to breastfeed this long!) so hopefully i'll get a BFP soon.

Thanks for all the support, i really appreciate it.

 

[topazicatzbet]

mechanica

i hate guys like that, another girl who used my donor had a horrible experience with a previous donor he wanted to film her inseminating and she was so desparate for a baby she did it. thankgod she then found my donor

so glad you have found another donor

 

[LunaBean]

Mechanica thats an awful way for your donor to react! Fool!!! You're right not to use him, I hope it works this month with the other guy you found! I had a similar experience, Id been talking to a guy for ages, on MSN, on the phone, emailing etc, and was supposed to meet him at the hotel the day we saw Mika in Belfast..I text him just before we left saying we wouldn;'t be long, and he replied saying he'd only help us if 'one of you gets your feet out and helps me'..turned out he had a foot fetish! He might have said at the start, he seemed so nice the whole time and said he 100% knew we wouldn't be helping him out etc.So that month was wasted. Men are ridiculous sometimes.

Well still no darker opks for me, I think my pee's broken lol. Tho in saying that, I had a month I didnt get a positive opk, just lines for 2 weeks, and still managed to get pregnant

Here's this months pic...

https://i54.tinypic.com/30wpod4.jpg

and the month I winged it and got pregnant...

I had the insemination on CD15 I think...

https://i41.tinypic.com/2epk8lx.jpg

 

[kezza78]

Hi ladies,

No luck here this month!! Af arrived spot on time yesterday morning. On to the next cycle for us. Really hoping this is our month. xx

 

[EpdTTC]

Mechanica-Your first donor sounds like a manipulative creeper. I can't help but wonder if this was his plan all along-to build a relationship with you, earn your trust, and hope to eventually talk you into having sex. I think that men who donate do so because they genuinely want to help, not because they are looking for something to be in it for them or looking to get laid. I am glad that despite your vulnerability and desperately wanting a baby that you found the strength to say no to him. If I were you I would not have any further contact with this guy at all, even further AI. He obviously cannot be trusted. I'm very sorry to hear of all that you have been through. Hang in there-it'll happen.

 

[mommies1and2]

Mechanica - Hearing that you've decided to use another donor is great. Someone who tries to manipulate you into having sex with them is clearly not the kind of person you want to have a baby with! Way to stand up for yourself!

Ruby - Great news you were able to work out something with the hotel...good luck!

Reading over so many of your experiences with donors makes me extra glad to have the one we do. He and his wife have been friends of ours for years and never wanted to have kids. When they heard we were talking seriously about having a baby they volunteered to help us. This was our first try so my timing hasn't been the best but they've both been great! We did six inseminations this month and no one complained about the inconvenience.

Now we are in the two week wait...which is kind of a relief, frankly! It's nice to know I've done all I can do this month.

 

[LunaBean]

Mechanica..get the donor up anyways, you usually ovulate 24-36 hours after your surge, so it'd be fine!!!

I also posted our ad in adult personals..you'll probably find that the genuine people who reply probably searched vivastreet by area to see what ads came up..one of ours searched our town because he was looking for a dog..another was looking for a bed!

 

[LunaBean]

Oh..and my donor can't make it tonight, he's coming at 10am tomro instead, even better for me!!!!

 

[RainbowMum]

I am halfway to my £5000 baby fund target which we'll be using for IUI next year Hopefully by August I will have reached target...

Lizzie I'm sad you decided not to go to the Fertility show. I got the ok from my girlfriend to go[meaning I'm not spending the afternoon and evening with her as I'll be travelling to see her after the show]
She said I'd probably regret not going.
Two overseas clinics I'd be interested in using are exhibiting so it will be good to have a chance to ask them questions

 

[LunaBean]

I have my tickets already, but I was chatting to OH and she said I'd probably panic myself by going, cus I dont know if I even have a problem yet, I dont get my test results until the 16th Nov..so figured I'd wait until I get them back..incase I dont even have a problem at all and it's just bad luck! There's nothing else I can personally do to help myself stay pregnant..and I'd only end up scouring all the stalls etc ad working myself up at the cost of IVF/IUI etc..because I know I can 'get' pregnant, so dont actually need help from fertility clinics that way!

I can always go next year if I need to! If you're still going, I can post you my ticket if you want!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Sorry AF got you, Kezza

Thanks mommies1and2! FX'ed! 6 insems! Yippee!

 

[day_dreamer]

Just googled the other person who replied and found this:

"I'm a 40yr old male looking for a lady who will breast feed me and anything else which they will do.
I am clean discrete and repsectfull.
If you are interested please mail me and tell me what you would be happy to do.
Thanks."

Oh dear - looks like this might be a loooooooooooong process

Anybody know of a good donor in the West Country-ish region?

 

[LunaBean]

Vivastreet dont have actual profiles tho, just names, so that mightnt be him! I just tried googling the name of our donor, and it gave some random guy who takes pictures from Manchester!

 

[day_dreamer]

True, but the postcode areas they'd posted in was the exact same one as ours, and neithehr of them common names that you'd just think up off the top of your head lol.

 

[EpdTTC]

Day dreamer-so sorry you are running into the dodgy type. Keep at it. Maybe consider joining a donor website that requires a nominal fee to be paid. This might help reduce the number of non-serious replies.

Sorry about AF Kezza! Hope next month is it.

Mommies1and2-Your donor sounds great. I too, was lucky enough to find a guy in my professional/social circle who is very wonderful. When I read about all that some of these ladies here go through it makes me all the more grateful!

TegansMom-Did I miss something??? I didn't know you were pregnant!

 

[LunaBean]

Stay clear then! lol

 

[LunaBean]

Thought you girls might like this, clomid quints!!!

Two Ladies Six Babies

 

[topazicatzbet]

wow they are gonna have their hands full.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Day dreamer-so sorry you are running into the dodgy type. Keep at it. Maybe consider joining a donor website that requires a nominal fee to be paid. This might help reduce the number of non-serious replies.

Sorry about AF Kezza! Hope next month is it.

Mommies1and2-Your donor sounds great. I too, was lucky enough to find a guy in my professional/social circle who is very wonderful. When I read about all that some of these ladies here go through it makes me all the more grateful!

TegansMom-Did I miss something??? I didn't know you were pregnant!

I forgot to announce it on here.. but yes, I am pregnant roughly 5 weeks ish give or take a few days either way. Not exactly sure when I ovulated but obviously it was at the right time I didn't do OPK's this month (was going to do them next month, this month was the warm up)