Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[LunaBean]

If you join tinypic.com you can upload them for free, then it gives you the url for the pic and you post it in here!!!

I'm still terrified...everything seems ok tho!!

 

[rainbow mummy]

if youve had 3 mc in 6 months though surely your doctor would refer you to find out why its happening??
someone i know have to take aspirin to help?? worth going as could be something simple thatse easily solved.
i went o my doctors when i had been trying for 5 monthds and just lied saying id been trying for 12 months with jems dad and wasnt sure i was ovulating so they sent me for bloods!
it confirmed i ovulated but if i hadnt ovulated there would have been no point trying for another 7 months to be told this and think what a waste of time!
id only do this again if i thought wasnt ovulated as it can be matter of time!!

have you considered a protection spell?? may help

i have 4 day till af but pretty certain it will show which is horrid waiiting for!

 

[LunaBean]

I didnt have 3 miscarriages, I had two now I'm pregnant again. I've already been to the doctors, it's just one of thoese things. I'm already taking aspirin and numerous other things, it just seems to be bad luck. I've already had a protection spell cast after the first one, didn't work tho.

Trippy, get some pix up!!!

 

[EpdTTC]

Hi gals...my tww began yesterday! Ugghhh! I am 2 dpo today. Ultrasound on Sunday morning verified I ovulated so I am hoping that it was soon enough after my IUI on Saturday morning to do the trick. I guess my Friday morning IUI was kinda wasted, which sucks. I wish Dr's would listen to us more sometimes. Although my Dr swears that washed sperm can live longer than 12-24 hours! Who knows, he has been doing this for a very long time and with lots of success so maybe he knows more than what I find online I did also do a vaginal (at home, intracervical) insemination on Sunday morning for back up and used Preseed (since I was on Clomid this month) and put in an Instead cup afterward. You're right Em, better to cover all my bases. Fingers crossed.

Lizzy...I think this is your sticky bean!!!

Trippy: I hope the next week flies by and you can get back to trying! Although, I know that sometimes the week after AF is a nice break from things...drink a glass of wine for me!

MommyTammy: You are strong for waiting...I think I would have gone against Dr's orders and did my own thing! But maybe the meds and waiting will work wonders.

 

[EpdTTC]

Hi gals...my tww began yesterday! Ugghhh! I am 2 dpo today. Ultrasound on Sunday morning verified I ovulated so I am hoping that it was soon enough after my IUI on Saturday morning to do the trick. I guess my Friday morning IUI was kinda wasted, which sucks. I wish Dr's would listen to us more sometimes. Although my Dr swears that washed sperm can live longer than 12-24 hours! Who knows, he has been doing this for a very long time and with lots of success so maybe he knows more than what I find online I did also do a vaginal (at home, intracervical) insemination on Sunday morning for back up and used Preseed (since I was on Clomid this month) and put in an Instead cup afterward. You're right Em, better to cover all my bases. Fingers crossed.

Lizzy...I think this is your sticky bean!!!

Trippy: I hope the next week flies by and you can get back to trying! Although, I know that sometimes the week after AF is a nice break from things...drink a glass of wine for me!

MommyTammy: You are strong for waiting...I think I would have gone against Dr's orders and did my own thing! But maybe the meds and waiting will work wonders.

 

[RainbowMum]

Em, I don't really remember but are you bringing your donor along to the clinic for IUI?

How much are they charging you for a second IUI in the same cycle? The one I'm looking at charges $2700 for a stimulated IUI using donor sperm, $1250 for a second IUI in the same cycle.
Meds and initial consultations not included *ouch*

 

[EpdTTC]

Hey Rainbow Mum, I know your post was directed at Em, but I thought I would chime in too. Granted, the initial blood work and tests, and ultrasounds cost more, but for just the IUI procedure itself, my Dr charges $225. An hcg trigger shot is $85, and I pay a co-pay of $20 every time I go for blood work or an ultrasound. (lord knows what this will really cost me after I get the bill and my insurance has paid their part!). Clomid is inexpensive-costs me about $9 per cycle for the generic, but I know that injectibles can cost a lot more, like $1500.

 

[RainbowMum]

^^ Haha, actually it was directed at you, think I got all the usernames mixed up *oops*

My aim is to save up £5000(~$7500) until the start of 2011 when we're going to start TTC. So that should pay for 2 stimulated cycles/almost 3 non stimulated ones.

 

[Nimyra]

Erin, I think you are lucky you aren't working with some huge fertility clinic 'cause I think your costs are below average -- definitely for the ultrasound monitoring it is way more in this area. I hope this is your lucky cycle!!! It sounds like the Saturday IUI and Sunday at home inseminations were well timed though!

I also am thinking this is going to be Lizzie's sticky bean. **baby dust to everyone!**

I started feeling baby movements a few days ago - it's pretty wild. Another week + 1 day until my anatomy scan.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Erin-- Thanks, but i have to admit i'm feeling a bit impatient. I finally got up the guts to ask someone i know about being a possible donor. It's the guy i mentioned, an old friend from way back (actually an ex-bf and ironically we are both gay now... go figure!). I emailed him several days ago......... and dead silence. No response from him. So, it's not looking promising!

Looks like i will have to wait until June for the IUI..... and i can only afford one shot at it.

Plus i doubt my insulin level is coming down with all this darn easter candy i've been eating! I had lost 5 lbs but now gained 2 lbs back!!!!!

Lizzie & Sarah -- Congrats on your 's -- soooo happy for both of you!!!!!!!

 

[Nimyra]

MommyTammy, give it another few days - maybe he is thinking it over. Hope you get good news.

 

[EpdTTC]

Mommy Tammy-I'm with Em, it's a big decision, maybe he is thinking it through. It took my donor a little while to get back in touch with me.

Em-You are right. I think the fertility clinic that I use it reasonably priced...although, I do have a feeling that after my insurance pays what they are willing to pay that I am going to be in a little bit of shock with what I am going to owe for all of the ultrasounds and blood work...I'm guessing well over $1000...but that is for a lot of ultrasounds and a lot of blood work! They will let me pay it a little at a time which is nice.n I am so excited for you to learn the sex of your baby! That is so exciting!!Please keep me posted.

As far as the question someone posed about how many donations to get from a donor, I would suggest two or three if you can (although even more would be great if you have a very willing donor). Three is really ideal so that you can shoot for the day before ovulation, the day of, and the day after. If you can only get two, I would suggest the day before and the day of. If you can only get one, I would probably say the day before ovulation or at least a few hours before. Hope that helps.

 

[rainbow mummy]

hi girls
i agree give your donor time hun hes obviously thinking about pros and cons and may come back with questions for you.

well af due tomorrow and although not had usual overwhelming signs for it coming i feel periody. this will be me entering my 7th month trying with a donor
hoping it will happen soon as not sure how much longer this can take.

wow at the costs girls im so glad i dont have to pay all that. im with a 'friend' so only have to pay his travel expenses otheriwse its about £600 for one go here!

i agree about the week before ovulation is a nice break from worrying if af coming and youve got over shock of af turning up again. this next month im gunna try red clover earlier as well as epo. im also gunna try get more exercise and not over indulge just because its easter this weekend. also i may try not worry too much about lying down for 30 mins etc and just rely on cap and staying stress free!!

my problem is not enough to do in my days!! well not anything thats distracting enough!! takes a lot to make me forget about babies!!

 

[RubyRainbows]

Rainbow Mummy -- Takes alot to get my mind off babies too... lol... every piece of paper in my house has baby names written on it... even junk mail, & my notes from meetings at work...! Ha!

 

[rainbow mummy]

ha me too hun
af got me day early!! gutted in 7th month now not sure how to keep distracted from it all but desparately need to be or it'll never happen!!
so badly want jem to have a sibling and feel a failure for him not having that

 

[EpdTTC]

Sorry the got you rainbow mummy. I am in my fifth month of ttc and although that is not that long in the grand scheme of things, I do hear you when you talk about feeling like it is never going to happen.

It is so hard to focus on anything else when one is ttc. For example, I am in my office right now...have plenty of things I could be doing, papers I could be grading, lesson plans I could be writing...etc...but I'd rather be on here and obsess with my gals! Ha!

Was thinking today about IVF...granted I don't necessarily think I need it, at least I hope not anyway, but I got to thinking, how many months will I keep trying before exploring other options? Is there financial assistance for IVF, lord knows I can't afford it out of pocket up front. I'd even consider egg donation to offset some of the costs but the sad part is, at 34, I doubt they'd want my eggs I'm not getting any younger, and I don't want my donor to get tired of this and give up on me. Fingers crossed this is my month. I am 4 dpo right now! I'm not sure which is harder the first or second week of the tww. hmph!

Hope everyone has a lovely day...the weather is beautiful in northwest Ohio today, going to be 80 on Friday. woohoo!
EPD

 

[Nimyra]

Erin, You should just start that article about the psychology of TTC -- then you can obsess while also doing your work! I'm thinking about writing a personal essay about my ventures in the crazy world of free online sperm donors. I should do this now while the experience is still fresh.

It's good to have a back-up plan and be clear on how long you are willing to try at-home or IUI before moving on. I had it in my mind that'd I'd try for a year at-home before moving on to the next step, but at 28 I had several years still to spare. It might take a while to save up the money so having a baby fund in progress is such a good idea.

Hope everyone gets good news soon. How are you hanging in there, Lizzie?

 

[Trippymama]

Great idea about the article! You have enough feedback on here to write a book. And, I think most women who are going through this are dealing with a great deal of junk... internally and externally. Well, I'm on day 9 today... about another week and a half and then I'll be back in the seat again. Hope you all are doing well. Hug and love to Lizze.

 

[EpdTTC]

Em,
You are so right...and you know, I think that a qualitative study, an in-depth ethnography of the stories of women who are ttc would be amazing!!! I think that what we are all going through is such an odd, exciting, interesting, heart-breaking, wonderful, horrible process that our voices deserve to be heard. I will really have to give this some thought. I have met so many awesome fellow ttc'ers that I think a lot of women would be willing to share their experiences. It is actually kind of exciting to think about, but then again, I'm a nerd like that.

 

[EpdTTC]

And...you totally should write the piece about the crazy world of free online sperm donors. I have a feeling it would be both informative and comical.