Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[Tegans Mama]

OH had the lap, she is ok-ish. They did let me on the ward with her which was better than we thought it would be.

CONGRATS mommies1&2!!!!

 

[LunaBean]

Thats great Lea..they were awful to me!! Did they find anything, or will they just tell her doctor?

 

[Tegans Mama]

She doesn't have endo, but she does have quite bad PCOS instead. They said it would be difficult for her to get pregnant if she wanted to (luckily she doesn't) and they won't treat it unless she has less than 3 periods a year. She's gone 8.5 weeks since her last once (hers was 2 weeks before mine which was 6.5 weeks ago today).

 

[cranberry]

hey ladies, i met with the doctor today and my iui is scheduled for later this month.

but i also got my first positive on my opk test today so i am going to do a home insemination with my donor today.

i am hoping for the best and that i won't need the clinic.

 

[mommies1and2]

Thanks everyone! Of course I will stick around, I'm glad ya'll want me too! Plus I am excited to see when you all get your good news too! FX'd and lots of prego

Luna, right after ovulation for the next three days I was exhausted and actually thought I was coming down with a cold. By 4 DPO my breasts were tender and 5 DPO I started getting cramps and spotting. (I just stopped spotting today at 11 DPO but am still having some twinges and cramps.) My low back started to hurt about 7 DPO and I had intermittent sensitivity to smell and a few headaches. About 8 DPO I started to have a bit of an unsettled tummy (like a gassy, burpy feeling) that kind of came and went.
And I think the pic of my test is attached...I am not a techie gal so if it didn't work you'll have to give me instructions!

Lea, glad to hear all went well with the lap!

Snagglepat, I am sending happy thoughts across the pond...I didn't know you were a doula...very cool. I already have mine picked out! Should I give her my due date after I hit my first trimester or let her know now?

 

[Tegans Mama]

We have our doula picked out. I've spoken to her already and I'm not even pregnant yet If she is popular I would probably talk to her soon. some doulas are in high demand!

 

[cranberry]

don't know how i missed this earlier . comgrats mommies1and2

I know we aren't suppposed to post it here but WE'RE PREGNANT! We just did our test this morning, two of them, and both confirmed !!! We are over the moon! Fingers crossed there are more to come shortly and I will have lots of bump buddies!

 

[LunaBean]

Thanks Mommies1&2!!!! I love ur test pic!!

I'm cramping and have a sicky stomach today too..and I'm soo tired,so hope it's good news in a few days!!

We don't do doulas over here, Id quite like one tho! I might look one up!!

 

[Nimyra]

Unfortunately my doula wasn't very good. Still better having someone there than no one, but would have vastly preferred having my OH or even just a good friend. I ended up feeling a bit bullied by mine. (mis-communication and whatnot)

 

[LunaBean]

Think my OH will just go in with me, tho she's squeamish, so I may end up by myself! lol

 

[Tegans Mama]

Hayley was there with me when Tegan was born but I am really rooting for a homebirth next time and it would be really helpful to another person around. The woman we are considering (which really means we are definitely going to use if she is available lol) is a member on here (not sure if I'm allowed to namedrop though... ) who we both know well enough to know the names of kids and partners etc, and friends on FB. I don't think I could use a stranger though, not at all! I just know I'm much more likely to get my HB if I have a doula because there won't be as much pressure on OH.

 

[LunaBean]

Im not allowed a home birth cus I'll be high risk cuza my epilepsy

 

[Tegans Mama]

Its not really a case of being allowed or not though hun, they will recommended you don't have one but they can't say "sorry but if you give birth at home you'll be alone" I'll be high risk also because I had a section with Tegan but as long as I'm healthy the risk of complications is pretty low and we're a five minute drive from the hospital

 

[LunaBean]

Theres a hosp 3 mins drive from us, but Ive to be under my consultant at a hosp 1.5 hour drive away! Damn thing

 

[Tegans Mama]

Bummer That really sucks!! How are the facilities at the hospital you'll be at? I am hoping for either a homebirth or our local hospital (which has pretty good facilities, they refurbed it this month and it's now very natural birth friendly.. My sister just had her first there on sept 18th) and NOT under any circumstances the hospital I had Tegan at.. but probably just because I want everything to be the exact opposite of what I had when Tiggy was born!

 

[LunaBean]

Its a pretty crap hospital..theres a brilliant one 40 mins aay thats just had the maternity wing totally reburbished...but the one Ive to go to in Belfast is a specialist baby one!

Was your hospital terrible?

 

[Tegans Mama]

Oh no not at all, but it was all very very medicalised because of Tegan's SB. I spent quite a lot of time there, and I didn't really enjoy it - I was in labour 18 hours and had a section and I never saw Tegan until she was 3 days old because they transferred her to the children's hospital. I tried to pump but the MW's were pretty shite with support about that. It is really far from home as well, and I just want my next birth to be 'normal' - I want to have a baby and walk out the day after , with a baby!

 

[LunaBean]

I guess you would want the total opposite then!! Try and have a home birth for defs!!

 

[Tegans Mama]

Hayley keeps saying she doesn't want one, but she also keeps dropping little hints that should does

Anyway how are the tests going? I've gotta buy some OPK's tomorrow. Donor is in France from 15-18th and I'm really not sure when I'm gonna O but I think it'll be about the 15th.. Should I get him to come over before he goes away or after?

 

[LunaBean]

Probably before he goes away! Someone on here (I forget who) had their donor up 4 days before they ov'd and they still got pregnant!

Tests are giving me nasty lil evaps!!