Considering at-home insemination with donor sperm...?

[Tegans Mama]

Things are a little different over here in the UK with regards to parenting and people's judgement on our sexuality and life choices.. We have only ever openly heard someone say something when I was pregnant with Tegan (and we found out she was disabled) and even then it wasn't direct, it was more a case of the doctor asking who Hayley was... I can't imagine going through some of the things you guys seem to have experienced

 

[Tegans Mama]

I'm done girls, 6th loss, it's all in my journal

Oh God Liz... No Why is life so bloody unfair xxx

 

[topazicatzbet]

I'm done girls, 6th loss, it's all in my journal

i ve replied in your journal

 

[tenleys306]

i am so sorry for your lose please dont give up. i know what your feeling my oh had that happen to her. I am now the one trying and if it would be any help i am always free to chat with about anything even if you would want to yell i totally understand...

 

[mommies1and2]

Luna I am incredibly sorry to hear that you've miscarried. I read your journal and am amazed at your strength and tenacity. I agree with many of the other posters...there is clearly a need for some testing to find out what the issue is. It's unconscionable that the medical community would not recognize the need for this...if nothing else to give you some answers and some understanding of what has happened.

 

[cranberry]

Oh no luna i am so sorry for your loss and all the other losses you've experienced.

i hope you'll be able to find some reason why it is happening.

sorry my dear

 

[LunaBean]

Luna I am incredibly sorry to hear that you've miscarried. I read your journal and am amazed at your strength and tenacity. I agree with many of the other posters...there is clearly a need for some testing to find out what the issue is. It's unconscionable that the medical community would not recognize the need for this...if nothing else to give you some answers and some understanding of what has happened.

I had tests done 6 weeks ago, get the results on Tuesday at hospital, it has to be something that can be fixed, I couldnt be this unlucky!

 

[Tegans Mama]

I really hope it can be fixed Luna. xxx

 

[EpdTTC]

I'm so sorry Lizzie. This has got to stop soon! Certainly there has to be something that can be done. I hope you get some answers on Tuesday. Thinking of you hun. Sending love and hugs.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Oh no Lizzie. I'm so sorry.

 

[babymakestwo]

So sorry to hear your news Luna *hug*

 

[RubyRainbows]

In regards to the lady at the doctor's office -- She truly didn't seem to be passing judgement... just seemed completely baffled. Does she live under a rock?? I didn't say anything or show any anger... although she really does need more education. Love the idea of providing them with a book and/or some information!!!!!!!! I also hated that she kept asking about his "father" in front of him. It's already something he has been asking about & something we are addressing with him. Oh well. Ignorance still exists. I guess as a two mommy family we will unknowingly help certain people to realize that families come in "all shapes & sizes" so to speak. Aside from her, most people have been wonderful...!

Our "1st choice" donor said he is unavailable this month bc he is going out of town for a week for Thanksgiving. My first thought was "why didn't he tell us this in advance?" But i guess in all fairness, i did tell him we would probably need him at the beginning of December... not knowing OHs cycle would be so short. We have made plans with donor #2 instead. This has made me very happy with our choice to have two donors... one as back-up.

 

[tenleys306]

Tammy-I already see a maternal fetal medicine doc because I am high risk with the previous miscarriages, the blood clotting disorder and my "advanced maternal age" (gag). The scan they did was a level 2 scan-they called it an anatomy scan and it was pretty detailed, they looked at and measured all of the organs etc. I don't think he plans on scanning me again for about 6 weeks. My next appointment is in 3 weeks. I'm just trying to stay calm and remind myself of the good stuff and the fact that the odds are in my favor. It's hard but I'm hoping that as more time passes that it will get a little easier.

i am ov today so we are going for ttc#1. i am very excited and nervous at the same time i don't want to get my hopes up but it's very hard not to ... ill keep you posted thank you for all your help so far i like having a buddy on here i can talk to about all this.

 

[RubyRainbows]

Good luck Tenleys -- FX'ed!

 

[LunaBean]

Good luck this month/next month everyone.. think I'm gona have a break from TTC for awhile

 

[RubyRainbows]

Thinking of you, Lizzie... How are you feeling? Please keep us posted on your test results. I'm gonna check out your journal, too...

 

[tenleys306]

Thank you.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Thankyou Lizzie. I really hope your break isn't too long and that the doctors have good answers for you on Tuesday xx

 

[Tegans Mama]

I am 1-2dpo now, 1 day post insem.. I bought two cheap tests this afternoon whilst we were out because I just couldn't resist but I am not testing early this month.. I'll wait until the day AF is due and test if she doesn't come that morning!

 

[tenleys306]

Donor just left we used the soft cup method today now it's just sit and wait time uhh. i don't know what is more stressful waiting to try or waiting to find out if it worked...