LouOscar01
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So yesterday was a disaster!!! OH and I got in a big discussion about the future and how every date we had set was my decision and that he was just going along with it because he loved me. We had a huuuuuuuuuuuuge discussion about it....I mostly just cried. The original plan was to get married in May and TTC in May. We have just bought our first place together and have been living together and my Mum's for the past 2 years. The place we have bought is run down and we are going to do a lot of work to it before moving in. This will take a lot of time and money and we were both feeling nervous about the costs involved and the timescale.
He has said that he doesn't like there being a 'date' that we decide to TTC on. He would rather decide he wants a baby and then we TTC, rather than me being desperate for a baby and him hoping that he will be ready by the time our TTC date arrives.
Basically he's getting cold feet about everything.
So we are waiting until January 2015 (that's the date I've set....but I am not telling him!!!!). This will give us more time in our house, more time to get it ready, more money saved, an extra years pay rise (hopefully) and more time for him to grow up.
I do think it is a much more sensible date, but oh my word it hurts so much. Im so fearful of not being able to get pregnant and that waiting for another YEAR AND 2 MONTHS will have just been a year and 2 months wasted trying. I most likely have polycystic ovaries and have a family history of infertility. I just wish I could be pregnant now and just not give birth until he is ready for it!!!!!
He has said that he doesn't like there being a 'date' that we decide to TTC on. He would rather decide he wants a baby and then we TTC, rather than me being desperate for a baby and him hoping that he will be ready by the time our TTC date arrives.
Basically he's getting cold feet about everything.
So we are waiting until January 2015 (that's the date I've set....but I am not telling him!!!!). This will give us more time in our house, more time to get it ready, more money saved, an extra years pay rise (hopefully) and more time for him to grow up.
I do think it is a much more sensible date, but oh my word it hurts so much. Im so fearful of not being able to get pregnant and that waiting for another YEAR AND 2 MONTHS will have just been a year and 2 months wasted trying. I most likely have polycystic ovaries and have a family history of infertility. I just wish I could be pregnant now and just not give birth until he is ready for it!!!!!