Crying constantly

[special_kala]

Hi - maybe baby isn't getting enough boob juice so it might be worth expressing into a bottle to see if your producing enough. He could be starving and that's why he's crying. is baby gaining enough weight?

Also as someone else said it couldbe reflux - my baby has it too and cries alot until we got a thickener for his formula.

The first 6 weeks are a nightmare with constant feeding too but hang in there. My baby is 8 wks now and feeds every 3.5 hrs approx and longer at night (4.5 hrs) so it does get slightly easier.

what yiu can pump isnt necessarily reflective of how much milk you have

 

[MrsPoodle]

Callie was like this - turned out she had reflux... Go to the doc, see if it's that. xx

 

[Lauki]

Blimey, i didnt expect all the pointing of fingers!! i wont bother quoting the comments that have upset me here as its obvious which comments would have.
As for picking him up, WE DO!! all day every day. We co slept from the day we got back from hospital as he wouldnt settle alone.
In the past few days though he still cries in our bed, no matter where he is.
We literally hold him all day between the 2 of us as if we put him down he cries.
So please do not suggest we just leave him to cry for hours as we dont.
I am hardly eating so my priority isnt 'having a meal with hubby' as someone put it, but i have to eat as i am breastfeeding!! I am not hungry due to being sick with worry about why he cries so i have to force myself to eat.
I am feeding max every 2 hours or before if he demands it. His weight gain was very good at last so there isnt an issue with my milk, if anything it comes out too quick so i have to slow the flow to stop him being sick and coughing.
It is true that the older generation say to leave them cry for a bit, which i find hard to deal with.
If co-sleeping would comfort him now and we could do it SAFELY i would do it. Perhaps someone could advise on a safe way to do this? ... instead of making me feel like a bad mom.
As i say, at present even when we pick him up he still cries, so whatever we do he is crying.
I always make sure he has a clean nappy and is fed, winded, not to warm or cold etc to eliminate the obvious but still he cries.

I'm sure no one meant to upset you .
What I used to do with Sophie is offer her a feed everytime she'd cry. 9/10 times she was actually hungry! Their tummies are so tiny, Sophie couldn't ever go that long without a feed unless she had clusterfed for 5-6 hours at night, then she'd go down for maybe 3 hours sleep!
Just try offering a feed! I wouldn't be surprised if he's just hungry! They'll grow out of the feeding this often quite quickly! I always find that if Soph cries and no matter what I do nothing will calm her down then she's just hungry. Even if she's just had a feed 1.5 hours ago (even now she's 3 months old).

As for Co-sleeping. I do it sometimes. I dress up warm so I don't need the covers and don't risk covering Soph. Then I have Sophie sleeps next to me, not in the middle (men don't have the same mother instinct!). My arm is then above her head and my legs curled up under her. I have a bedguard so she can't roll of the bed and make sure she doesn't get too warm (as my bodyheat warms her up extra). I only sleep like this when she's having a growthspurt or is impossible to settle or wakes up every 1/2 hour to hour. Then I can just leave the boob out and she can suckle and feed whenever she wants and at least I get some sleep!

If you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask . It's hard as a first time mummy with all these people 'forcing' their views and advice on you!

Anyhow! Quite often the boob is the answer !

 

[firsttimer80]

Hi - maybe baby isn't getting enough boob juice so it might be worth expressing into a bottle to see if your producing enough. He could be starving and that's why he's crying. is baby gaining enough weight?

Also as someone else said it couldbe reflux - my baby has it too and cries alot until we got a thickener for his formula.

The first 6 weeks are a nightmare with constant feeding too but hang in there. My baby is 8 wks now and feeds every 3.5 hrs approx and longer at night (4.5 hrs) so it does get slightly easier.

Hi, yes he gained 160g at the last weigh from last tuesday to friday. He will be weighed again tomorrow but so far there are no issues with weight gain.
I have thought about reflux so i have elivated his moses basket a little so he isnt completely flat, just incase.

 

[blinkybaby]

Are you swaddling as well? x

 

[firsttimer80]

Blimey, i didnt expect all the pointing of fingers!! i wont bother quoting the comments that have upset me here as its obvious which comments would have.
As for picking him up, WE DO!! all day every day. We co slept from the day we got back from hospital as he wouldnt settle alone.
In the past few days though he still cries in our bed, no matter where he is.
We literally hold him all day between the 2 of us as if we put him down he cries.
So please do not suggest we just leave him to cry for hours as we dont.
I am hardly eating so my priority isnt 'having a meal with hubby' as someone put it, but i have to eat as i am breastfeeding!! I am not hungry due to being sick with worry about why he cries so i have to force myself to eat.
I am feeding max every 2 hours or before if he demands it. His weight gain was very good at last so there isnt an issue with my milk, if anything it comes out too quick so i have to slow the flow to stop him being sick and coughing.
It is true that the older generation say to leave them cry for a bit, which i find hard to deal with.
If co-sleeping would comfort him now and we could do it SAFELY i would do it. Perhaps someone could advise on a safe way to do this? ... instead of making me feel like a bad mom.
As i say, at present even when we pick him up he still cries, so whatever we do he is crying.
I always make sure he has a clean nappy and is fed, winded, not to warm or cold etc to eliminate the obvious but still he cries.

I'm sure no one meant to upset you .
What I used to do with Sophie is offer her a feed everytime she'd cry. 9/10 times she was actually hungry! Their tummies are so tiny, Sophie couldn't ever go that long without a feed unless she had clusterfed for 5-6 hours at night, then she'd go down for maybe 3 hours sleep!
Just try offering a feed! I wouldn't be surprised if he's just hungry! They'll grow out of the feeding this often quite quickly! I always find that if Soph cries and no matter what I do nothing will calm her down then she's just hungry. Even if she's just had a feed 1.5 hours ago (even now she's 3 months old).

As for Co-sleeping. I do it sometimes. I dress up warm so I don't need the covers and don't risk covering Soph. Then I have Sophie sleeps next to me, not in the middle (men don't have the same mother instinct!). My arm is then above her head and my legs curled up under her. I have a bedguard so she can't roll of the bed and make sure she doesn't get too warm (as my bodyheat warms her up extra). I only sleep like this when she's having a growthspurt or is impossible to settle or wakes up every 1/2 hour to hour. Then I can just leave the boob out and she can suckle and feed whenever she wants and at least I get some sleep!

If you have any more questions, don't hesitate to ask . It's hard as a first time mummy with all these people 'forcing' their views and advice on you!

Anyhow! Quite often the boob is the answer !

Thanks for your comment, what you are saying could well be true.
I was concerned with feeding too often as i read that it can cause colic due to them having not digesting the last feed. So i havent been able to win as i am scared to feed him too often but also dont want to leave it too long!!
I will bare this in mind tomorrow if he seems to want it sooner than 1.5 hours.
He normally starts eating his hands and rooting so i know when he wants more.

Where do you get the bedguards from? I might try that as the hubby goes back to work next week so i will need to co-sleep for sure again so he can get some kip. Im not bothered about my sleep as i will have all day to catch up when and if he naps. (which atm he hardly naps all day)

 

[firsttimer80]

Are you swaddling as well? x

Yes we are swaddling now, i bought a swaddle pod.
Been trying everything

 

[special_kala]

i got mine from argos but there are usually loads on ebay.

i always thought if in doubt boob it. if he doesnt want it he will close his mouth. Breastmilk is very easy for them to digest.

 

[sapphire1]

If you've done all the basics, then it might be pain related. Holly literally screamed all the time - it was silent reflux. Maybe have a word with your HV. In our case keeping her elevated didn't help - only meds did. Sorry if you were upset by the posts. x x

 

[Lauki]

Don't forget that suckling is also comforting. If he's full, he'll just suckle for comfort which in turn is good for your supply! Like I said, sometimes Sophie used to feed from 7 or 8pm till 2am solidly! It's all just a stage and now she's in bed and fast asleep by 7.15pm for several hours! Damn it was hard those first few weeks and there's been lots of tears but now she's sleeping longer stretches at night and feeds slightly less during the day it's so much better! She never suffered from colic or anything, even with feeding so often! I didn't even know that babies could get this from feeding too often, I always thought if they were full they would just comfort suck! Just give it a go and see if it makes him a happier baby! You'll notice soon enough if he'll suffer from wind and then you can always opt to use a bit of Infacol before feeds? I used that in the beginning and it helped her ! Now she doesn't need it anymore.

I got my bedguard from ASDA actually, but you can find them anywhere on Amazon and such if you don't mind online shopping!

Don't be afraid to let him fall asleep on the boob during the day. He badly needs his sleep (about 16-18 hours a day) and he'll probably get extremely grumpy if he doesn't nap! In the beginning I used to do whatever it took to get Sophie to sleep, including nursing. Don't worry about bad habits, you can help your LO sleep independently when he's a little bit older.

I hope things are a bit sunnier for you tomorrow!

 

[firsttimer80]

Don't forget that suckling is also comforting. If he's full, he'll just suckle for comfort which in turn is good for your supply! Like I said, sometimes Sophie used to feed from 7 or 8pm till 2am solidly! It's all just a stage and now she's in bed and fast asleep by 7.15pm for several hours! Damn it was hard those first few weeks and there's been lots of tears but now she's sleeping longer stretches at night and feeds slightly less during the day it's so much better! She never suffered from colic or anything, even with feeding so often! I didn't even know that babies could get this from feeding too often, I always thought if they were full they would just comfort suck! Just give it a go and see if it makes him a happier baby! You'll notice soon enough if he'll suffer from wind and then you can always opt to use a bit of Infacol before feeds? I used that in the beginning and it helped her ! Now she doesn't need it anymore.

I got my bedguard from ASDA actually, but you can find them anywhere on Amazon and such if you don't mind online shopping!

Don't be afraid to let him fall asleep on the boob during the day. He badly needs his sleep (about 16-18 hours a day) and he'll probably get extremely grumpy if he doesn't nap! In the beginning I used to do whatever it took to get Sophie to sleep, including nursing. Don't worry about bad habits, you can help your LO sleep independently when he's a little bit older.

I hope things are a bit sunnier for you tomorrow!

Thanks, we have started on Infacol today actually. Just to see if it helps.
He loves the taste of it!! ha ha
He does fall asleep on the breast and normally i do just leave him there as long as he wants. But sometimes i have winded him which has woke him as im scared of him getting trapped wind!!
But maybe i will just leave him sleep and wind him later, like you say, he is grumpy from lack of sleep for sure.

Im going now to look up bed guards!! I will be buying one tomorrow!

 

[Lilysmum17]

I feel awful now, i never meant anything in negative way, of course u need to eat ! I've reread what i put and it did come across a bit funny, really didn't mean it sometimes just the expectation to be able to sit and actually eat is impossible with a newborn and to grab what u can when you can is more what i meant, so i'm sorry, and giving him constant holding comfort etc, it just wasn't clear from original post wether he was still crying when having this or only crying when being put down, hope the infacol helps x,

 

[stardust599]

I agree with what the others are saying. I have been through severe reflux and colic with my LO and I honestly don't think that's what it is hun. You would know if it was, my LO screamed like nothing you've ever heard before, no amount of rocking/shushing/boob/bottle etc. would get her through it. You would know if your LO was in extreme pain like that.

Have a good of "high needs" baby. I would just offer cuddles and the boob every time your LO cries, co-sleep if you have to to save your sanity. Give it until 6 or 7 weeks when feeding settles down before you try to work on his sleep and naps xx

 

[clare83_2000]

I know how you feel about the sleeping my baby never ever slept no one could believe he was awake so much. He would cry all the time too even if holding him he had to be bounced was so exhausting. We have spent so much time at the doctors and now we have an appointment the hv organised to try and get referred to a peasdatrician and the last 4 days he has become happy still not sleeping in the day but only Wakes once in the night. We have been trying to get him referred since 2 weeks old now is 11 weeks so not sure whether to go as worried he will change back tomorrow if I don't!

 

[Lauki]

I have a baby that will not go to sleep on her own. Even if I do catch her and put her down at the right amount of tired, she just will not close her eyes.
I sort of have to 'force' her sometimes and I feel really bad, but she wakes up happy and then we have a couple of hours of cry-free playtime. I have to cradle her, so she can't look around and most of the time she protests and cries of whinges for a couple of minutes but she sleeps so much better now then when I would just let her do and stay up.
We're working on the No Cry Sleep Solution and it's hard work and takes a long time, but its worth it. At night in the dark shes actually able to fall asleep in her moses basket now and she has never been able to do that! There's hope, believe me!

 

[MrsPoodle]

Just thought might he have trapped wind as well? I was told bf babies don't need to be winded, which isn't true, plus C had tongue tie so wasn't sucking properly so she ended up with terrible trapped wind too.