Cycle 1 day 1. Who's with me? *update* It's a girl! Congrats baby_bray!!!

[colta]

So far, this cycle has been not so good... first DH got sick (and now has the flu) and then I came down with food poisoning and it's just oi vey.

So I'm not sure how this cycle is going to work out... I think I'm going to go get some OPK's and just BD around my O date, I think me and DH both are just too ick feeling to do much more than that.

 

[moter98]

you still have time, maybe you both will be feeling better soon. praying you two get well!

 

[colta]

you still have time, maybe you both will be feeling better soon. praying you two get well!

That's true... we're not too worried about it, we'd rather be healthy and trying instead of pushing ourselves and making ourselves sicker. Poor DH though, he's so upset about this cycle. He kept going on about how he had a good feeling and that he felt like he was ruining our chances because he was sick... he wasn't a munchkin just as much as I do and I know this is tearing him apart.

But we're going to try our best and what happens happens... I feel much more at ease with everything this cycle despite the fact that we may not be able to try like we wanted to... any chance is still a chance.
And thank you for praying!

 

[moter98]

it will happen for you! aww you have such a sweet dh. there is always next month if you are too sick.

 

[BERDC99]

I am 9 weeks today.

 

[moter98]

congrats berdc! do you have a baby bump yet? i'm curious to know how soon you show with a second pregnancy. i only a teeny tiny bump yet at 20 weeks with ds. i've heard you will show a lot sooner with #2

 

[mailcmm]

Congrats berdc... Hope you feel better colta.... And Moter I am already in maternity pants. I can't even stand wearing my jeggings. Anything on my stomach is shear torture but I am on number 3. My BFF told me about a week after she found out she was pregnant with number 3 her stomach muscles separated and her intestines filled the space til baby got bigger. Lol I am understanding what she meant. But I love my bloated little gas bump. Lol

 

[moter98]

Congrats berdc... Hope you feel better colta.... And Moter I am already in maternity pants. I can't even stand wearing my jeggings. Anything on my stomach is shear torture but I am on number 3. My BFF told me about a week after she found out she was pregnant with number 3 her stomach muscles separated and her intestines filled the space til baby got bigger. Lol I am understanding what she meant. But I love my bloated little gas bump. Lol

oh wow, mail! i was hoping to make it past 3 months before i show as i don't want to announce it until i'm past the first trimester. gotta get pregnant first though, lol!

 

[mailcmm]

With my second I started to show between 8-9 weeks. I could tell but no one else could. I know this is all bloating. I have lost 8 lbs, but my stomach is very tender. Below my belly button and my pelvic area. This pregnancy has been so different from my last 2.

 

[moter98]

oh wow, is it because you've been feeling sick?

 

[BERDC99]

I have a small bump. It is very hard when I press on my lower pelvic area. I have ordered me some maternity pants and tops but they havent came in yet. I have been wearing strectch pants because my normal pants are to tight. I dont plan to announce it on FB until after 13 weeks or at least till after my u/s. I am just so nervous about mentioning it to anyone other than my family and you girls.


I am just so scared to go back for my 12 week u/s because of horrible stories I have read over in the first trimester. Some say that they seen the HB at like 7 weeks and go back at 12 and there is no longer a hb. I just want it to hurry up and get here.

I did make my first baby purchases today at Walgreens. I got Nuk pacifiers, baby powder, and Destin all for like 3.00. I love to coupon. They were such great deals that I could not pass them up. I plan to buy a few things each week with my coupons that way I have a stock pile come August.\

 

[mailcmm]

That is smart. After our ultrasound next week I will start to stock up too. I will buy diapers 2 times a month. In various sizes. I coupon as well. But I like specific brands. Both of my kids are allergic to huggies so I use pampers. I love desitin ointment. My kids got diaper rash so easy. Very sensitive skin. I used it even when they didn't need it. I also love milacon drops. Great for gas. I still have a baby monitor. My mom is dying to start shopping but I won't let her. Lol

 

[mailcmm]

Motor... With my first two pregnancies I had no symptoms. I mean nothing. This one I have had nausea and vomiting and cramps. Sore boob, gas and I have been breaking out. Lol I think someone upstairs felt sorry for me with the first two as dad was a total ass. Now I am with a great guy and I get to make up for it. As for showing... My kids are only 14 months apart. So my dd was 5 month when I got pregnant with ds. My body hadn't healed yet. Granted I didn't gain a lot of weight so it wasn't bad to begin with. After my son I lost all the weight but didn't do anything to lose it. I am just lucky in the genes department. No stretch marks, a size 8 at 35 after 2 kids and no working out or dieting. I eat what I want when I want. I was a size 6 after ds. I am small and soft. Lol but I have never been a fan of being toned. As for my pouch they only reason I can think that it's there is bloating or twins. Lol. You can really see it unless you are looking for it but I can't button my jeans. It's way too uncomfortable.

 

[mailcmm]

Ok girls I need some off ttc/pregnancy advice. On Friday morning we found out my sil was cheating on my brother. My dad picked up the kids to get them out of the house and I have been watching them. My dilemma is that instead of my brother coming to pick up the kids they are both coming and invited themselves to dinner. My brother talked to me yesterday and hasn't decided to forgive her yet. Actually he is referring to her as the whore. How am I supposed to react? I mean I want to just knock her out. I won't. I don't believe in girls fighting. But I can't sit there and act like nothing happened. This is gonna be awful. How would y'all treat her if this was your brother? Is it bad to just not talk to her?

 

[moter98]

mail - you are so lucky! i work my butt off to stay the size i am. it's an everyday maintence, workout, eat right thing. if i have a day where i eat a lot, i have to watch what i eat for the next week to get back on track! DH is so skinny i feel like i can't be bigger than him. doesn't give me much wiggle room.
as for the sil. oh. my. gosh. that's quite a truckload to dump on you. i think that because your brother is bringing her and it still thinking of forgiving her, you should just be polite while they are there. i wouldn't freeze her out just yet. what if your brother forgives her and then you have to see her often. it would probably be best to let him figure this out first. i'm not saying be best friends with her, just try to be civil till it's sorted out.

 

[mailcmm]

That's what I did. I was polite. But didn't know what to say. Couldn't ask how their weekend was, or how work is (the guy works with her). Really upset because she jturned it around on my brother who now is kissing her ass and feeling like a huge shit. I told him that he could be more attentive but by no means is he to blame. If she was unhappy she could have talked to him or me or her parents. She didn't need to start a relationship with another man. My brother is a good husband and father but he tends to be a home body and get sidetracked on projects. She felt unappreciated. That being said he drives the kids to and from school, coaches little league, makes dinner and helps with chores. She is a social butterfly and is on 26 committees. It's insane. She is never home. Oh well. Not much I can do but be there for him. I just worry about him. He is devastated and will do anything to save his marriage. Even brushing this under a rug.

 

[mailcmm]

Another day... More nausea. It's awful waking up and wanting to vomit almost daily. Today is particularly severe. And I really didn't want to get up this am. I really shouldn't complain though. I know it could be much much worse. Lol how is everyone else today?

 

[moter98]

Remember that there will be an end to the nausea mail! As for sil, she took a small problem and just turned it into a huge problem. I believe once trust is broken you have a broken marriage. Sure it can be overcome but will take lots and lots of work. Why couldn't she just tell him she was feel unappreciated? Makes no sense to me. She has no right to turn it around on him and I could venture a guess she did that to "get out of trouble" so to speak. People that cheat are notorious for making the wronged person feel like the guilty party. Had a bf when I was very young that would do that.

 

[mailcmm]

My ex did that to me. I tried to tell him that this isn't his fault but he just doesn't want to loose her. She is going to continue to work with the guy. I just don't get it. Regardless of outcome though she is gonna remain in our lives. I know if I want a relationship with my brother I will have to mind my ps and qs. I really feel bad for the kids because her priorities are work, social life, marriage, then kids. My bro was at least with the kids in the evenings. Now he plans on going with her to all her meetings and parties. Where does that leave the kids. My niece is almost 3 and hasn't been started to potty train. My nephew is 8 and still in diapers at night. She believes when the kids are ready they will just go to the potty. I did tell my brother last night that her social commitments needed to come after their family, and to get that inorder first. He said that she feels they need to work on their marriage first, and part of that is him being with her at these functions. I don't get it. I am just baffled. Sad part is they have everything. Great jobs, house and cars are paid off. Loving families, beautiful kids. Just kills me.

 

[moter98]

Well guess what? She has a lot of work to do also. She should be making more time for family as well. My dh is also a social bee. I am a homebody. He stays home more, I go out more. By more I mean maybe 2-3 times a month when MIL takes DS or we can find a babysitter. When you have kids that's just the way it is. You can't be going out all the time and leaving someone else to raise your kid. Why does he have to do all the changing? Makes no sense to me. Family first everything else next.