Cycle 1 day 1. Who's with me? *update* It's a girl! Congrats baby_bray!!!

[colta]

Hope it's IB for you Twinkie!!

I've just noticed a little bit of pink spotting (very very faint)... so I'm beginning to wonder if AF might be around the corner.
I've extremely disappointed and to be honest, kind of flabbergasted. I never thought that it would take this long (I know it hasn't actually been long, but it feels that way), to get a BFP when I got it the first time last time... makes no sense, it's not like we did/didn't do anything different.

Ah well, I guess we'll see what the morning brings.

 

[Twinkie210]

Well still spotting this morning I am really doubting the IB theory. I guess we will see what happens over the next few days.

 

[colta]

Spotting continues for me and has picked up a bit... light pink and barely there, but enough for me to know that AF is on her way... I always spot before AF arrives (usually the day before), so I can pretty much guarantee that I'm out.



I just don't understand what we're doing wrong? We got pregnant so quickly last time and I guess it was a bit foolish of me to think it would happen the same way again... ah well, on to another cycle I suppose.

 

[mailcmm]

Oh girls I am sorry. I know it's frustrating. We all want this so badly. And I think it's a safe bet to say we want it more then the girls ttc that haven't had a loss. Mainly because we were so close only to have it ripped away. Hang in there. You will catch that egg. In the mean time get to the drs and see if there is anything preventing that.

 

[mailcmm]

I am never going to first trimester again! What a horrible scary evil place. I am too worried as it is without reading stuff over there.

 

[moter98]

well, 9-10dpo and bfn this morning. i think i'm out this month. just biding my time to be able to call the dr.

 

[BERDC99]

I am never going to first trimester again! What a horrible scary evil place. I am too worried as it is without reading stuff over there.

I know I scare myself every time I look in there. All you see is negative stuff, and it makes you think of everything that could go wrong. I try to only read the psoitive stories but they are far and few between. I think it is just better to share stories here between us girls and not read those horrible stories.

Last night I had some cramps on my left side and I was scared to death cause of it. I think it was just from the vaginal ultrasound I had yesterday and where they have o press so hard to find my left ovary. I kept telling myself that it was normal, but it is so hard to convince your self of that.

 

[BERDC99]

Spotting continues for me and has picked up a bit... light pink and barely there, but enough for me to know that AF is on her way... I always spot before AF arrives (usually the day before), so I can pretty much guarantee that I'm out.



I just don't understand what we're doing wrong? We got pregnant so quickly last time and I guess it was a bit foolish of me to think it would happen the same way again... ah well, on to another cycle I suppose.

I dont think it is anything that you guys are doing wrong. I found this and thought you might like to read.

There is about a 15-25% chance of becoming pregnant in each ovulatory cycle: But you need to do everything right and you shouldn't have any medical issues and his sperm count should be fine.

Approximately 40% of couples who are starting out TTC will conceive during the first three months of trying, and about 70% of couples TTC will conceive during the first six months.

Up to 85% of couples will conceive within the first year of TTC. Your ability to conceive in any given cycle falls after age 30.

 

[moter98]

ok. i just found this.

Average number of months to conception, by age:

* early 20s: 4-5 months
* late 20s: 5-7 months
* early 30s: 7-10 months
* late 30s: 10-12 months

that actually makes me feel better. i'm just hitting the 7 month window so maybe it isn't all that unusual at my age to not have conceived yet. i am 32.

 

[Twinkie210]

ok. i just found this.

Average number of months to conception, by age:

* early 20s: 4-5 months
* late 20s: 5-7 months
* early 30s: 7-10 months
* late 30s: 10-12 months

that actually makes me feel better. i'm just hitting the 7 month window so maybe it isn't all that unusual at my age to not have conceived yet. i am 32.

I just turned 29, it took us 5 cycles to conceive the last pregnancy and I think my next cycle will be number 5 after my MC...

 

[Twinkie210]

My friend that just got pregnant with #2 is 32 and she took a year to conceive her current pregnancy...

 

[colta]

ok. i just found this.

Average number of months to conception, by age:

* early 20s: 4-5 months
* late 20s: 5-7 months
* early 30s: 7-10 months
* late 30s: 10-12 months

I'm hoping the 4-5 month mark holds true for me too... I'm only 22 right now and DH is only 24.

 

[moter98]

this makes much more sense to me now! it doesn't have to mean there is something wrong with us. it can just take longer the older we are. this is silly, but that little article gave me my hope back! you are still in the normal conception range for age too.

 

[mailcmm]

Berdc... I am sure the cramping is normal. I have so many different kinds of cramps. I am scared too but try telling myself it's normal. Worst pain luckily has been my back. Today I have a pulling on my right side. It's like a stitch in my side. Nausea is horrible but I welcome it since I know it means everything is ok. Oh and I feel like my uterus is gonna fall out. I have constant pressure. Today I am more tired then usual too. Overall I feel good. Just pangs and twinges and n occasional cramp. Just scares the hell out of me.

 

[moter98]

My friend that just got pregnant with #2 is 32 and she took a year to conceive her current pregnancy...

did she ever get tested, or just keep trying on her own?

 

[mailcmm]

I am so glad you found that info Moter. Hopefully we will start to see some more bfps!

 

[Twinkie210]

My friend that just got pregnant with #2 is 32 and she took a year to conceive her current pregnancy...

did she ever get tested, or just keep trying on her own?

She doesn't really talk about that kind of stuff, but as far as I know she just kept trying on her own. The month she got pregnant, her and her husband were thinking about stopping TTC for a few months. She may not be the best example though because she is really underweight, so I imagine she may have trouble TTC anyway...

 

[moter98]

oh, well i think i will ask for bloodwork. it can't hurt to know. i'm not getting any younger!

my SIL, the one who announced her pregnancy on xmas. well, she may not be now. she had a bfp then all bfn, just like what happened to me this week! she's going in today to get bloodwork. can you all say a little prayer for her? they have to do assisted conception. hoping she's got her #2 cooking already.

 

[mailcmm]

oh, well i think i will ask for bloodwork. it can't hurt to know. i'm not getting any younger!

my SIL, the one who announced her pregnancy on xmas. well, she may not be now. she had a bfp then all bfn, just like what happened to me this week! she's going in today to get bloodwork. can you all say a little prayer for her? they have to do assisted conception. hoping she's got her #2 cooking already.

How sad. I will say a prayer for her. I hope everything turns out ok.

 

[Twinkie210]

That is heartbreaking! I know a girl who would get a positive test at home and go to the Dr.s and her tests would be negative or inconclusive (like a level of 6). This happened multiple times, so I don't think it was due to evaps.