Cycle 8 and never BFP :(

[mangoberry]

haha only if they knew how difficult it is to be relaxed, when AF shows every damn month!

 

[KatO79]

haha only if they knew how difficult it is to be relaxed, when AF shows every damn month!

Exactly They are just so clueless. I just hate it when people tell me "just relax and it'll happen" I'm sure they're going to think it silly we're going for assisted conception, that I'd have been pregnant long ago if I just relaxed Well I was very relaxed the first 4-5 cycles so by that logic, I should've gotten pregnant during one of them The cycle I had my chemical (#7), I was very stressed out because my CBFM was coming with confusing results and I had strange CM changes until I dropped the FertileCM pills so I was stressed out to the max - yet got pregnant, it just didn't stick

DH and I are just going to be NTNP until we get our referral in October. Think I'll hold off until we get the referral before saying anything. Maybe even not until we have been to the first appointment at the clinic. Don't know if I should mention DH's less than stellar SA results so they know we do have at least one fertility issue

 

[lola33]

Hi girls ! I'm out, af arrived :/
C9 now.. I have to call the doctor for more tests, he told me to wait til september. I already had an ultra sound, it showed eggs and everything was fine. I have fibroid but the doctor seemed to say it wasn't a problem. We'll see what's next.
I hope everyone is ok?

 

[MolGold]

Oh no Lola damn witch!

 

[jjbubbles28]

bummer, i hope your tests at least give some answers.

 

[Lirpa11]

Hi again ladies, I've now been on the pill for 17 days. On day 21 I am going back for an US to see how the cyst looks and whether I can stop Bcp and go back TTC. I hate Bcp! I went off it over a year ago to TTC, and yet 13 months later here we are argh.

Add to the fact that so many people we know are expecting and either 1) unsure of how it happened as they weren't trying or 2) were together a few months and wham a baby on the way...

I just don't know what to do beginning to wonder if it will even happen. How's everyone else xx

 

[jjbubbles28]

I agree how hard it is to see everyone with Kids. I work with a 21 year old that has 2
I wish I could just "see" if it was worth it or if i am wasting my time ...

 

[KatO79]

Yeah my major problem is seeing pregnant women Also women with strollers bother me. And seeing baby clothes. I know logically that maybe some of those pregnant women had a tougher time getting pregnant and may have even had assisted conception but it still stings It keeps reminding me of what I'm having such a hard time of achieving. I think if we were TTCing #2 or #3 it'd be much easier to handle but since I'm TTCing #1 it gets me a bit down.

Will, BTW, be going in for bloodwork on Wednesday. Our GP will be getting me checked for Hepatitis B+C, rubella and HIV. DH will be going in 1 week later for Hepatitis B+C and HIV. Our GP might get my TSH checked but I'm not sure, will be asking him. Doubt he'll be checking progesterone as I'll be 2 DPO when he takes the blood so he'll probably be leaving that up to the clinic He didn't mention anything about which CD I should be going in so I just took the first available day and time he had. Hoping he can get that needle in without it hurting too much My experience is most doctors are bad at it and most nurses do it in a pretty painless way. Even had one doctor 13-14 years ago that had to try like 3 times before getting it right and it hurt like crazy each time

 

[Duffy fan 13]

Hi, I have been reading these boards for a few months now but this my first post. I am 33 - soon to be 34, DH is 36 going on 37, both our Birthdays are in October..
I came off BCP last October and we started (sort of) trying in Jan, I say sort of because my DH didn't have much of a clue as to the timing of BDing and seemed to think just a couple of times each week was sufficient! But after we got over that with me using OPK's and checking CM we have been much better.
So far I've charted 8 cycles, I average 25 days, with Ov around day 16, so I have a short luteal phase.
It is a huge struggle to keep going month after month, I had no idea before starting to TTC how slim the chances were if everything is normal, let alone if there are issues (which I think I may have PCOS).
It's very disheartening to think each month you may have a chance and then just see AF time and time again.
I've been taking all sorts of vitamins and supplements (gradually adding more as the months go by) and DH is now taking a few.
I also am affected by seeing the myriad of pregnant women and babies as well as commercials and TV programs that all seem to have them in! I also have a niece who is almost one, finding out my SIL was pregnant before we even started trying (and I had been wanting to start since 2012) was hard and although she is the most gorgeous little girl ever it still pulls at my heart each time we see her or even think about her.
Sorry for the long post, it's good to know others feel the same.
I'm sorry people seem to think it's as easy for everyone as it was for them, if only they knew the heartache!

 

[lola33]

hi duffy and welcome !
It's nice to talk around here, you'll see ! Did you see a doctor, or are you taking vitamins? some make luteal phase longer, it worked for me.
My doctor says the average is 1 year trying.. so maybe we're just impatient?

 

[Duffy fan 13]

Hi, thanks for the welcome! No I haven't seen a doctor yet, I have self diagnosed really, but I have excess body hair as well as short luteal phase so it seems likely. I have some time off work next month so will make an appointment then. I think I need to be diagnosed separate from TTC issues so I probably won't stress that we are TTC. I did try B6 for a couple of months but didn't want to take it long term as it can damage nerves. I think I may try inositol as this can help with insulin resistance.
I'm trying not to be impatient, I am 100 times more patient than DH!! But I had no idea the chances were low and even that it can take up to a year anyway! Wish I had done more reading up!

 

[KatO79]

My doctor says the average is 1 year trying.. so maybe we're just impatient?

I've heard most conceive within 1 year but haven't heard that that's the average My DH's little brother's girlfriend said that with her friend (think she said her friend was about 26-27), it took 1½ years but there were also some months where they were on a break and weren't able to try at all. Something about living in different cities for some months while they were studying

Crazy, it seems like almost everyone I know got pregnant within the first 3-4 months. Even my (half) sister got pregnant with #1 when she was 36, it took 2-3 months. She only had a problem with #2 when she started trying at around age 40 and needed clomid to conceive after trying for 2 years on her own I think I only know of 2 couples who needed assisted conception (IUI/IVF) and couldn't conceive within 1 year: my brother and his wife (she was 41 when they started and 45-46 when she got pregnant through assisted conception) plus friends of DH's that also had issues and needed assisted conception. Both couples ended up with daughters.

 

[Duffy fan 13]

I agree, it seems most people I know didn't have problems or it just happened without them trying. Maybe people just don't talk about their problems much? It doesn't help that I don't have many close female friends, only one relative (my SIL) and work with mainly men!

 

[lola33]

yeah I know both kind.. both my best friends got pregnant very fast and had girls. On the other hand, I know two couple who have been trying for longer than that and still nothing. Lots of people are getting pregnant around me too..
I'm currently in my O window, so fingers are crossed..
I hope you're all ok? which cycle day are you? who's testing soon?

 

[KatO79]

I'm 7 dpo today.

Won't be testing until AF is late (she's due CD27) as I don't want to see a Not feeling too positive about this cycle but we'll see. I think during my chemical I first started really feeling pregnant around 9/10 dpo.

DH is going in for his blood test tomorrow and he's going to ask our GP which clinic he'll be referring us to

 

[Duffy fan 13]

CD12 today, should ovulate Thursday or Friday. I doubt we'll get much BDing in though as it will be a busy week. Next month though we have over a week off work and we have a few days before I should ovulate!
I totally understand waiting until after AF is due, in all these cycles I only tested once and that was before I was temping and checking CM. My cycle was 31 days and before that they averaged 26 so I thought it was likely, turned out to be a BFN.

 

[lola33]

fingers are crossed for you ! I just started my TWW here...

 

[Oasis717]

Cycle 8 for us with two chemicals in the last 6 months good luck everyone xx

 

[Duffy fan 13]

Thanks lola33, hope the TWW passes quickly!
Welcome Oasis717, so sorry to hear about your losses. I hope the next one sticks x x

 

[alison22]

My husband and I tried for a year before I saw a specialist. I was put on clomid and after the one year of naturally trying and 8months of being on a medication that was supposed to help me get pregnant and wasn't I was ready to throw in the towel. I'm not doing this to put you down, I'm writing to give you hope. My doc upped the med to 100mg and we finally are now 5weeks pregnant.


Sometimes it takes time. A little faith, a little hope, and a whole lot of patience. But just when you least expect it, it happens.


I wish you all the best.

My advice is to stop worrying and know and trust that it will happen.