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[BrandysBabies]

I dont have any advice for you but wanted to give you a big Just relax and take care of yourself today.

 

[Elanesse]

x

 

[mrsbeanbump]

Hiya ladies, bit of a strange question but has anyone else had any problems with ex-husbands. Mine has just been round and we got into such a full on argument i was shaking when he finally left. I'm so scared for the baby now. He's just a bully who uses mental cruelty as his constant weapon against me for ending the marriage, over two years ago. He doesn't know i'm pregnant. It sounds so pathetic but trying to live like this is driving me mad, just waiting for the divorce to come through. Just wish he would leave me alone. This is supposed to be such a happy time and he's ruining it for me. When me and mark decided to try for a baby i thought it'd take months and my divorce would have come through and that idiot would be well and truly out of our lives. Does anyone think an injunction would help? I'm not even sure how to get one. Might discuss it with the midwife when i see her.

Sorry to be such a moaner, i'm used to him making me feel like crap but i've got to think of my little bean now. Feel so guilty for letting him wind me up but enough is enough xxx

No experience in divorce, just wanted to send some hugs your way!! Sorry you have to deal with this and that it is bringing you down. Why is he coming round?? xx

 

[mrsbeanbump]

Hi girls, sorry ive not checked in recently. Megan, hope your daughter is ok, poor thing. Fab to see that 3+ Rose, im tempted to buy a digi myself. Ive been doing ic's since i had my first bfp. I just want a line that is as dark as the control line but it doesnt seem very forth coming! I've attached a photo so you can all see.

I went out last night to my friends house and she has her own bar and dancefloor so i was boogying away hoping the bean wasnt to bothered by my moves! It was quite funny being the only sober one, though i must admit i was a little jealous! Could have just gone for a nice glass of white wine! Still, id much rather have a baby! Got my brothers bday meal out tonight as well. Which reminds me, happy birthday to your daughter Rose. I know what you mean about wanting to stay in. I have a dreadful cough at the moment which is the left overs of a cold i got 2 weeks ago. Its doing my head in! Need a week of hibernation to get over it I think.

What are everybody elses plans for the weekend? X

and I thought I had poas issues!! (I've done 5 so far....)
Those are a lot of sticks you got there Leanne!! xx

 

[mrsbeanbump]

well just got back from a couple nights in a caravan in cleethorpes. I've been watching xfactor tonight and I'm sooo in love with the show...these new judges are fab!!

pregnancy seems surreal at the minute... too busy to stop and think about baby growing inside. we've not decided on names or anything close to it... well, I tell a lie!! I brought our 40,000 baby names book to the caravan with us and dh told me to pick a page number/line number and that would be the name for baby... and it turns out it is Jake! so we will see if that sticks around. With ds 1 we decided in hospital a couple days after birth!

xx

 

[moggi]

Hiya ladies, bit of a strange question but has anyone else had any problems with ex-husbands. Mine has just been round and we got into such a full on argument i was shaking when he finally left. I'm so scared for the baby now. He's just a bully who uses mental cruelty as his constant weapon against me for ending the marriage, over two years ago. He doesn't know i'm pregnant. It sounds so pathetic but trying to live like this is driving me mad, just waiting for the divorce to come through. Just wish he would leave me alone. This is supposed to be such a happy time and he's ruining it for me. When me and mark decided to try for a baby i thought it'd take months and my divorce would have come through and that idiot would be well and truly out of our lives. Does anyone think an injunction would help? I'm not even sure how to get one. Might discuss it with the midwife when i see her.

Sorry to be such a moaner, i'm used to him making me feel like crap but i've got to think of my little bean now. Feel so guilty for letting him wind me up but enough is enough xxx

Awww Rose, hope you are feeling better now hun.

I haven't been through it myself by my parents split up when I was about 12 and they were on and off for about 5 years so I've seen first hand how the mind tricks etc affected my mum. Divorce is a horrible time for anyone, especially if the person you are divorcing is a heartless idiot. You just need to concentrate on what it important right now and look to the future. When ever he begins to get you down, just think of how wonderful you will feel when you hold your new baby for the first time.

I've had a look online for you and it may be worth you reading this if you want to think about getting an injunction:

https://www.ehow.com/how_7238173_restraining-order-uk.html

xx

Awww thats such a lovely thought, i'll remember that in future. Thanks for the info too

I appear to have found an unlikely friend in my ex mother in law! Saw her today as she came round to see eldest daughter as it was her b'day yesterday. Told her everything, she said shes completely on my side and she knows what hes like. She even hugged me and i dont think shes done that in the 17 years ive known her lol. Didnt tell her about the baby but ironically found out that ex had been talking/slagging me off to our daughter (such a lovely man) saying i'd be having more kids next! Daughter didnt answer him. The mans a moron, hopefully his mom will tell him a few home truths, although he treats her like crap too.

 

[moggi]

No experience in divorce, just wanted to send some hugs your way!! Sorry you have to deal with this and that it is bringing you down. Why is he coming round?? xx

Thanks He still comes round to see his/our daughter and my eldest which he bought up as his own since she was 1. He used to just stay outside but gradually weedled his way in for coffee etc. When he's nice he's nice but when he's not he's vile. He weedled way in on a nice day, i stupidly fell for it. After today i told him i didnt think we should have anything to do with each other, now hes threatening to delay the divorce and attempt custody of our daughter when i re-marry. I think its all empty threats plus daughter is nearly 15 and said she doesnt want to live with him anyway. He's just being awkward. Feel a lot stronger against him tonight than earlier, wont let him get me down again xxx

 

[dt1234565]

Just ignore anything he says, easier said than done i know, and when hes having a rant imagine him with his dick stuck to his forehead, going on and on like the twat he is, just slip off into your own world and thoughts and let him banter away.

Who gives a dam about anything he says anyway? You dont? And custody is hilarious!!!

Just rise above it all, your better than him, he knows that, thats why he cant stand it.

So stick your fingers up at his attitude and laugh not in his face as that will wind him up, but laugh out loud in your mind that you are sorted and he is far from it!

xxxx

 

[meganOUFC]

You poor thing. You really don't neeed this right now! I would say u could do with a couple of days away.
It's goOd your daughter doesn't agree with him and at her age if it were to go to court she would stay with you. Also acess can take place via a contact centre so u dont even have to see him. he is clearly over stepping the Mark! I would get in contact with citizens advice or even a solicior.
My friend has had 10 years if trouble frOm her ex and they weren't even married!

Well I'm off to Weymouth for a few days. Need the relaxation!

 

[moggi]

Just ignore anything he says, easier said than done i know, and when hes having a rant imagine him with his dick stuck to his forehead, going on and on like the twat he is, just slip off into your own world and thoughts and let him banter away.

Who gives a dam about anything he says anyway? You dont? And custody is hilarious!!!

Just rise above it all, your better than him, he knows that, thats why he cant stand it.

So stick your fingers up at his attitude and laugh not in his face as that will wind him up, but laugh out loud in your mind that you are sorted and he is far from it!

xxxx

You're so right, he is a complete idiot and i'm probably partly to blame for the way he gets around me.

If he can't accept its over and move on that is not my problem is it?

He's a spoilt little boy in a 40yr olds body who can't get his own way so throws a strop lol.

 

[moggi]

You poor thing. You really don't neeed this right now! I would say u could do with a couple of days away.
It's goOd your daughter doesn't agree with him and at her age if it were to go to court she would stay with you. Also acess can take place via a contact centre so u dont even have to see him. he is clearly over stepping the Mark! I would get in contact with citizens advice or even a solicior.
My friend has had 10 years if trouble frOm her ex and they weren't even married!

Well I'm off to Weymouth for a few days. Need the relaxation!

A couple of days away sounds good to me, can I come to Weymouth with you? lol. Joking aside I really should inform the solictor he's acting up but I just don't want to delay the divorce anymore than it has been already. They've got a good advice centre at uni, I might use it.

Have a fab few days away hun

 

[moggi]

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for their supportive words

On a different note..................

I feel soooooooo sick today! Still haven't been sick but the nausea is getting more intense. I managed to escape it completely with my two girls but I was a hell of a lot younger then, not sure if that really has anything to do with it

Contacted my midwife earlier to arrange an appointment and waiting to hear back from her at the moment.

Hope everyones ok?

 

[minidancer]

Hiya ladies, bit of a strange question but has anyone else had any problems with ex-husbands. Mine has just been round and we got into such a full on argument i was shaking when he finally left. I'm so scared for the baby now. He's just a bully who uses mental cruelty as his constant weapon against me for ending the marriage, over two years ago. He doesn't know i'm pregnant. It sounds so pathetic but trying to live like this is driving me mad, just waiting for the divorce to come through. Just wish he would leave me alone. This is supposed to be such a happy time and he's ruining it for me. When me and mark decided to try for a baby i thought it'd take months and my divorce would have come through and that idiot would be well and truly out of our lives. Does anyone think an injunction would help? I'm not even sure how to get one. Might discuss it with the midwife when i see her.

Sorry to be such a moaner, i'm used to him making me feel like crap but i've got to think of my little bean now. Feel so guilty for letting him wind me up but enough is enough xxx

Aw hun so sorry you are having to go through this It sounds like jealousy to me. Just remember that just now is your time to enjoy your new life and the amazing little baby you are growing Just ignore all the crap he is saying to try and drag you down, I know it is easier said than done, but just keep in your mind about your new baby and how happy you will be when you have him/her in your arms.
xxxx

 

[minidancer]

How is everyone today? Did you have nice weekends?

Liz I hope you had a nice relaxing few days and Megan hope you enjoy your time away.

I have been sick twice today and feeling pretty nauseous. I don't mind though it reminds me that I am pregnant

 

[moggi]

Aw hun so sorry you are having to go through this It sounds like jealousy to me. Just remember that just now is your time to enjoy your new life and the amazing little baby you are growing Just ignore all the crap he is saying to try and drag you down, I know it is easier said than done, but just keep in your mind about your new baby and how happy you will be when you have him/her in your arms.
xxxx

Thank you Hun I think you're right, it is jealousy that I met someone else and i'm happy. Maybe if he did find out about the baby that'd tip him over the edge and he'd skulk off forever lol. We can but hope! xxx

 

[moggi]

I have been sick twice today and feeling pretty nauseous. I don't mind though it reminds me that I am pregnant

I know what you mean, it is nice in that respect. Mine seems relentless today, wonder if I'd feel better if I actually was sick?

Is anyone else really bloated at the moment? Can only get into one pair of my jeans now. Thank god for leggings lol. I'm out on placement for the first time in months next week and don't think my work trousers fit me?! Trying to find out who I see about maternity uniform at uni, feel a bit daft asking so early though Maybe I could get some of those waistband extender thingys, that'd help for a while wouldn't it?

 

[BrandysBabies]

I am feeling quite a few of our smileys today. Lol.

I am dizzy

Soooooo tired

Cry at the slightest thing.

I keep checking because it feels like is here. MAJOR CM! Lol!

A tad bit cranky

Eating everything (lowcarb) in sight

Very very pukey feeling

My boobs feel like giant rocks and hurt so so bad.

But mostly I am just extremely happy that I am still and going to have a !

 

[mrsbeanbump]

Well im feeling a bit nausious now too! But I think that is more to do with spending all day today at alton towers. Some rides said no preggo ladies but I figured it was ok, plus ive been so excited as have gone with work so if I didnt do the rides they would know something was up!!

So excited to get back home though, on the bus back now, wanted to check in with you lovely ladies!! Xx

 

[mrsbeanbump]

Omg! Baby now the size of an apple seed!!! Yay!!! X

 

[BrandysBabies]

Ugh! I just booked my first appt for Thursday 29th at 1:45pm! Ack! Now I am nervous!