Dating

[BigZai]

I am terrified of dating. I dont know how or when to introduce someone to lo. I dont want to get involved and have him in los lifE and have a guy leave us again. I dont want lo to get attached to anyone who might turn out to be a jerk later on.
How do you date while being a mother? Where do you meet people? How do you get over the fear of just ending up with someone lime your ex?

 

[Jinty]

I don't think im over it yet! I've been single for... just over 2 years i think? Rather than not being over it its more of the fact that i can't be bothered to deal with it. I don't think any relationship is 'perfect' and i don't have the time or effort to be bothered to compromise mine or LO's life. I'm happy on my own at the moment I was with FOB since i was 15 and im now nearly 22. Not a good impression of guys as my first bf turned out to be jerk. You'll be ready in time. x

 

[Terukki]

I don't think im over it yet! I've been single for... just over 2 years i think? Rather than not being over it its more of the fact that i can't be bothered to deal with it. I don't think any relationship is 'perfect' and i don't have the time or effort to be bothered to compromise mine or LO's life. I'm happy on my own at the moment I was with FOB since i was 15 and im now nearly 22. Not a good impression of guys as my first bf turned out to be jerk. You'll be ready in time. x

Oh that was the same for me too. My FOB was the first for everything and he was my first "love" but I do agree with you I don't think dating will be anything I will be doing any time soon. Have to get use to the whole mom thing first.

 

[Terukki]

I am terrified of dating. I dont know how or when to introduce someone to lo. I dont want to get involved and have him in los lifE and have a guy leave us again. I dont want lo to get attached to anyone who might turn out to be a jerk later on.
How do you date while being a mother? Where do you meet people? How do you get over the fear of just ending up with someone lime your ex?

Just do what you think it is best for your lo and do what you feel is right. I think about how some day I will want to date again but I'm afraid they might end up just like FOB but I do know what to look for now. I will never let anyone ever control my life again. Just don't stress about dating until you feel ready.

 

[AmberS]

I know how you feel, I just recently got with a guy who just had identicle twin girls 2 weeks ago. It's hectic and theres a lot of space right now, but i'm just taking it easy. It's nice to be with someone who's in the same situation that you are.

 

[teal]

Really it's just when you feel ready. I did start seeing someone when my son was 10 months old but I finished with him when it was clear he wasn't going to understand that I couldn't drop everything whenever he wanted to see me, talk to me etc. My son will always come first. xx

 

[Laura2919]

It is hard to meet someone with the same understanding. My kids always come first. At the moment I am happy doing what I am doing.
One day you will meet someone and you will think ah this just works and you wont think too much about the rest.

 

[angelpkj]

just don't worry about it-it'll all just come and happen
could be through a friend or a night out you never know or perhaps join a dating site put yourself out there?

I finished it with my bf the other day
i have so much going on in my life-in my head in regards to me going court and FOB that its making me abit stressed and down sometimes-and bf just didnt "get it"

only saw him twice a week so just thought whats the point anyway

the fact that your other half might turn out like fob-it doesnt bother me really
i kinda expect them too in the end
however
i've been there done that and im a million times stronger as a person and in a way im grateful for it,i love my new found "i dont need a man or to count on anyone else" attitude

so if i did meet someone
and the same thing happened again i would be 100% prepared to know how to deal and cope with it
but i do think if i ever got pregnant again the question would be-am i prepared to bring up another baby alone or not
right now i live in a 2 bedroom house and want to give my LO the best life possible
another baby would mess all that up so right now its not an option-if i had a 3 bed house and more money i would deffo do it all again for another baby

 

[johnmackwan]

going on dating is best nowadays

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just don't worry about it-it'll all just come and happen
could be through a friend or a night out you never know or perhaps join a dating site put yourself out there?

I finished it with my bf the other day
i have so much going on in my life-in my head in regards to me going court and FOB that its making me abit stressed and down sometimes-and bf just didnt "get it"

only saw him twice a week so just thought whats the point anyway

the fact that your other half might turn out like fob-it doesnt bother me really
i kinda expect them too in the end
however
i've been there done that and im a million times stronger as a person and in a way im grateful for it,i love my new found "i dont need a man or to count on anyone else" attitude

so if i did meet someone
and the same thing happened again i would be 100% prepared to know how to deal and cope with it
but i do think if i ever got pregnant again the question would be-am i prepared to bring up another baby alone or not
right now i live in a 2 bedroom house and want to give my LO the best life possible
another baby would mess all that up so right now its not an option-if i had a 3 bed house and more money i would deffo do it all again for another baby

 

[Dream.dream]

i didnt let my OH meet my son until wed been dating almost 6 months.

i didnt want people going in and out of his life all the time when he was so young. and even after that until we lived together he only saw him maybe 2 times a week.
now that weve been living together hes basically my sons parent

dating can be good, it help you get out and do somehting for yourself