DD and DS were HOmebirths - not so sure for no 3?

[Torianna]

I had 2 fantastic home births,the first lasting 4 hours from first pain and then the next taking 3 hours total too. Text book deliveries, both before my due date. I loved the experience.

Now number 3 is on the way, the thought of a home birth is making me anxious - my mw said it might be now I'm a little older (wiser?!) I'm more cautious (I was 24 with my first, 26 with my second and only 29 now).

It's like I feel I've been too lucky previously and I should go to hospital in case my luck has run out, but then equally there isn't likely to be a lot of time to get to the hosp 15 miles away.

Please share your thoughts and experiences girls x

 

[DolceBella]

I can understand why you feel anxious. I had an amazing delivery last time, and sometimes I think "Can I really get that lucky again??" I posted a thread in this section not too long ago about how I was feeling. I got great advice about relaxing into it and trusting your body to do the job it was designed to do. I got out my old hypno birthing book and started reviewing some daily affirmations. It's helped a lot.

 

[Torianna]

I think if someone else asked my opinion on it, I'd say they were being daft and like you say, to trust our bodies. We're marvellous beings after all!

 

[DolceBella]

Put your mind and heart in the right place, and the rest will follow!

 

[Feronia]

Also consider that if you had two positive birthing experiences, you're much more likely to have a third positive experience!

 

[fides]

I felt the same way early on this pregnancy - had 2 fantastic home births and wondered if I truly could have a 3rd. Found out at 17 weeks that there are two babies in there, so no home birth for me. Even though I'm terrified of a hospital birth, I've come to terms with it a bit and realize that a year from now, it won't matter how the birth went or where it took place, if that makes sense?

Anyway, I hope you do get your 3rd home birth, but even if you don't, there's still going to be an amazing precious baby to hold at the end.

 

[Geo2]

Going to hospital stressed me out and I believe it slowed down my labour so this time I'm staying put at home. Its your decision, well done on your last 2 home births!

 

[NDH]

It could be that your intuition is telling you that there's a reason that this birth will be better in a hospital. but I do also think its normal to experience apprehension around birth, no matter how many times youve done it.