Dealing with jealousy

[DaniJean]

Ladies, thank you all so much for your words of support!

It's frustrating every time I hear about someone new being PG, especially those times when it was easy or wasn't planned, but being a member on B&B has helped me realize what I GREAT and supportive community of people I have to "vent" to!

I keep reminding myself that there are so many reasons to be positive and just keep my chin up and although sometimes it's hard it's nice to get on the internet and feel such an outpouring of good juju!

Thanks for all of your responses girls! It's so true, it will happen for all of us we just have to keep at it!

And I will keep the Ben and Jerry's close at hand!!!

 

[Praying4O]

OMG SERIOUSLY, when my older sister had her baby i wanted to punch her in the face...she RUBBED it in too! we got pregnant last yr around july and it didnt work out...and then my sister was pregnant and RUBBED IT IN omg it was awful...i hated it...

 

[MrsFX]

You are clearly not alone. We started ttc after another friend abd I always prayed 'please let them concieve first' well they did abd they are due at Christmas and I didn't feel any jealousy until we hit 12 months trying and seeing them pregnant and loosing things in common.

3 of my other friends are ttc and I'm sure they will be sharing good news with us soon. That will be hard because I've had a year on them. 2 colleagues have conceived without even trying!!! That is just annoying.

Strangely I'm more jealous of celebs who seem to get preggers whenever they want! Crazy hey!?

I think doing things that u can't when pregnant and making the most of this time in your life helps get over the jealousy.

 

[U347464]

Yeah. It is extremely hard. I know at least 10 couples that got married over one year after we did who all have babies now. We been married almost 2 years, so some of these couples are barely scratching the one year mark but already have babies. Some of them are even on to their second pregnancy. One cousin of mine got pregnant on her honeymoon. And here we are, almost 2yrs married and still no baby! Granted, we were preventing in the first year. But it has been an uneventful second year. Seems I am the only one I know in real life struggling to get pregnant. One couple whose wedding I went to this past December just had their baby girl yesterday. Their wedding day was our one year anniversary of being married. But here they with a baby now, and here we are still trying. Why? I hadnt gone on FB in a while and logged on to see someone's page. Was happy to find out that she had gotten married and even before I could catch my breath on that one, she already had a pregnancy announcement.

I've received about 3 birth announcements this week and 3 pregnancy announcements last week. ***Sigh*** There is this receptionist at my job who got married at the END November. By January, I heard whispers that she had just found out that she was pregnant. If I had to do it again, I would have been TTC earlier. Maybe even before we got married. In the few months leading up to the wedding. Rather, we were preventing in the first year.

Yeah, I hear you. WHoever said that you never know what a couple is going through behind closed doors. This process has taught me that people are such liars! "Oh, we are OK with one. Two will be too many for us." "Oh, we are not trying yet! We will start trying next year." Then they come back, "Oops! We are so shocked! What a Surprise. We are pregnant." "That was so unexpected." We are so surprised. Yeah, right. You have been actively TTC behind closed doors and saying something else on the outside. U dont owe me any explanations, but stop lying already.


It is 4:38AM here, I cant sleep. All I can think of is TTC.

I cant even bear to hear abt the next celeb wh o is pregnant and I say , good for you, Beyonce! Sick of hearing about your pregnancy already. I bet you will be having twins like Celine Dion, Mariah Carey, Sarah Jessica Parker, JenniferLopez and every other celeb who wants multiples with the sexes all picked out.

 

[DaniJean]

I know girls, it's such a bummer! I am trying to remind myself that you never know what people are going through behind closed doors. I think we are all more hypersensitive about it too because it's what we want SOOO badly. Baby dust for all! Let's get those BFPs!!! Then people can be jealous of us!

 

[HisGrace]

I know exactly what you're going through. Once of my clients recently announced his wife was expecting and one of my co-workers responded by telling him she was expecting too. This may sound cliche, but what's helped me is praying for her and her baby. After praying for them, I get excited for them. It's their second child and they got pregnant this time without even trying (or at least she told me they wouldn't start trying until Aug/Sept). Last week she got upset because she found out she was having a boy when she really wanted a girl. I got upset with her (of course she didn't know that) and felt like she was being ungrateful, but again I just prayed for her that she would see her son for the beautiful blessing that he is. The jealousy doesn't stay away forever, but that's what I do when I'm experiencing it.