Hi ladies!
How do you deal with unwanted advice?
Recently GIL has been demanding us on how to raise our child even infront of guests. Telling us we HAVE to give him water NOW, even though we have explained over and over that we will not and why not (unless LO is constipated).
Recently FIl has emailed us about which languages we HAVE to teach our child, and to NOT teach him x language. We come from a multicultural place, where it is common for kids to be able to speak at least two or tree languages fluently. And he told me NOT to use my own maternal language and that we definitely should not start with that.
GIL repeats it certainly 5 times at each visit, and it becomes worse, i.e. she doesn't just boss us around about water but other things. I speak up, but she doesn't stop and doesn't listen.
Prior to that FIL told us which convertible seat to use, which we must use, and is perfect for HIS grandchild. Ater we already told him we chose one after weeks of research. Ater that we kindly told him we appreciated his input but still want the one we chose. And then he said, well your problem then, I was going to buy him x carseat, but since you both think you know better so now eat the price. Wow! We already were going to purchase it ourselves, but really?
Wow! I want to know how is the least disrespectful way of telling them we do not need them telling us how to raise our child nor do we want their constant nwanted advice. I want to keep the peace, but I don't know if it is worth my sanity. I really want to tell them that if they do not stop and respect us as parents, they will not be seeing us or their grandchild. Sorry but it cannot be healthy for him to see others disrespect his parents like that once he can understand.
How do you deal with unwanted advice?
Recently GIL has been demanding us on how to raise our child even infront of guests. Telling us we HAVE to give him water NOW, even though we have explained over and over that we will not and why not (unless LO is constipated).
Recently FIl has emailed us about which languages we HAVE to teach our child, and to NOT teach him x language. We come from a multicultural place, where it is common for kids to be able to speak at least two or tree languages fluently. And he told me NOT to use my own maternal language and that we definitely should not start with that.
GIL repeats it certainly 5 times at each visit, and it becomes worse, i.e. she doesn't just boss us around about water but other things. I speak up, but she doesn't stop and doesn't listen.
Prior to that FIL told us which convertible seat to use, which we must use, and is perfect for HIS grandchild. Ater we already told him we chose one after weeks of research. Ater that we kindly told him we appreciated his input but still want the one we chose. And then he said, well your problem then, I was going to buy him x carseat, but since you both think you know better so now eat the price. Wow! We already were going to purchase it ourselves, but really?
Wow! I want to know how is the least disrespectful way of telling them we do not need them telling us how to raise our child nor do we want their constant nwanted advice. I want to keep the peace, but I don't know if it is worth my sanity. I really want to tell them that if they do not stop and respect us as parents, they will not be seeing us or their grandchild. Sorry but it cannot be healthy for him to see others disrespect his parents like that once he can understand.