Debate - Choosing sex of children?

[smokey]

I could possibly understand it in a case of say you have several of one gender already and would realy like one of the other.
My uncle had 6 boys befor they gave up, they realy wanted a girl (not instead of their boys but as an addition) and kept trying but for some reason boys are dominant in our family, im only the 2nd girl born in 5 generations yet theres at least 83 boys.
Im a little torn between wanting to have one of each and the though of if I did it and had a girl would I always be wondering and looking at her thinking you could have been a boy if nature had taken its course and I think thats alot to have to come to terms with.
A childs whole world, exsistance, life could be different on a parents one choice like that, dont think I or any human realy deserves that kind of power.

 

[PeanutBean]

Smokey, but you are a girl so your babies' genders will be dependent on your partner and not your own line. More of an issue with your male siblings or cousins I think though with all those babies clearly there are no actual fertility issues!

 

[ShanandBoc]

Yes, especially in a lot of Asian countries, boys are more welcome...

Correct me if im wrong but isnt there a high abortion rate for female babies in some asian countries and they dont continue on the family name like boys do?

I even remember in the news once about baby girls being left to die in the street becaise they werent boys?

Like i said correct me if im wrong, but if thats the truth that is appaling.

I think it should be left up to chance tbh......would cause too many problems imo.

 

[Dopeyjopey]

It actually varies with asian countries. After so many years of boys being preferred there is a shortage of girls so the payment made to a daughter's family gets higher so more people start wanting girls. It's a constant cycle of supple and demand. Makes it sound a bit like a business to me

 

[ShanandBoc]

^ thats so wrong

These are human beings!! Not puppies!

 

[PeanutBean]

Women have always been business for men. Sigh.

 

[smokey]

Smokey, but you are a girl so your babies' genders will be dependent on your partner and not your own line. More of an issue with your male siblings or cousins I think though with all those babies clearly there are no actual fertility issues!

No theres no fertility issue just a lack of girls

 

[PeanutBean]

My brother is like that, they've had 5 boys. My sister is on her 3rd boy (2 dads though). We're still waiting to see what mine will be! Long wait!

 

[Dopeyjopey]

Albert was the first boy of his generation in my family. My nan kept saying if i had a girl she'd stuff her back in! My Dad was the only boy, as was my brother so it's all resting on him to have a boy to carry on the family name. Unless i never get married, but Albert has a double-barrelled surname.

I don't think anyone would have been genuinely disappointed if i had a girl, i wouldn't have known what to do though, she'd have been a tomboy!