I think your OH shouldn't be looking at it as "oh, how unfair" considering you just had a
baby. Your body has undergone a massive and traumatic feat. On top of that, if you're breastfeeding, then your body is still going through a huge adjustment. My own body has changed so much in it's inner workings since I got pregnant and had LO. My hair is lifeless, suddenly my clear skin is breaking out all over the place, going to bathroom is still a scary process at times, bending down makes my tits hurt, my back is shot (I had a curvature in my spine and the pregnancy made it worse, OH would have to carry me around when I seized up) and I'm left with a frankenstein vajayay.
It's NORMAL to have a low sex drive during this time. In fact, a lot of people don't go back to their usual sex life until after the first year! Honestly when I see girls asking if they can get down to business
before the 6 week follow up, it blows my mind. If my OH had been pestering me the entire time for sex, I would have had to have a serious word with him.
That being said, it can be confusing for our OHs as well. I'm sure neither of us expected there to be a "drought" after the birth. I certainly didn't (especially since during the pregnancy I was horny all the time) in fact I remember while I was pregnant we discussed in excitement how my 6 week follow up fell on OH's birthday and how much crazy sex we would get up to then. Bah! :rolls: Not only did I not have the drive to do it, just thinking about having an orgasm gave me a strange feeling of guilt (I'll attribute that to being in permanent mummy mode!)
I think you need to sit down with your OH and have a frank conversation. Let him know that you are still attracted to him, that it's normal to feel like this after having a baby and those sexy feelings
will come back, but until they do he needs to not push the issue so hard. My OH never pushed me, but he did secretly wonder if I just didn't find him attractive anymore.
After sitting down and opening up to him our relationship has reached a level of intimacy far greater than what we had before. He's more concerned now with giving me a break from the stresses of parenting and making sure I'm happy than having sex 24/7 and in turn I've started to enjoy sex (and everything that comes with it) and slowly but surely we are getting back into it. Until then, OH has a large enough porn collection to keep him happy