mommyhopeful2
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It has come to my attention that DH has become very depressed at our lack of results in the past year. Honestly I have as well, but I am trying to work through it and just remind myself that it will happen when it is meant to. I approached him a few days ago but he says he just "isn't in the mood" because he's so down about us still not being pregnant.
I dont know what to do. Even the last couple of months, the only time hes willing to DTD is if I have a positive opk. It's like it's becoming a chore for him and the only reason to DTD is to produce children. Although that would be a bonus for me as well, I miss the closeness and the connection.
I have tried discussing it with him, but it seems like a moot point, he will cuddle with me. He'll promise, saying things "we'll wake up early" or "once ds is asleep", and he wont stick to it.
I have tried talking to him, tried buying some new lingerie to try to entice him, even bought some toys and special lubes to try to spice things up and interest him and nothing is working. He has become consumed by the fact that we havnt conceived.
How do I remind him that DTD isn't just about making a baby, but also about us as a couple? Any advice is appreciated.
I dont know what to do. Even the last couple of months, the only time hes willing to DTD is if I have a positive opk. It's like it's becoming a chore for him and the only reason to DTD is to produce children. Although that would be a bonus for me as well, I miss the closeness and the connection.
I have tried discussing it with him, but it seems like a moot point, he will cuddle with me. He'll promise, saying things "we'll wake up early" or "once ds is asleep", and he wont stick to it.
I have tried talking to him, tried buying some new lingerie to try to entice him, even bought some toys and special lubes to try to spice things up and interest him and nothing is working. He has become consumed by the fact that we havnt conceived.
How do I remind him that DTD isn't just about making a baby, but also about us as a couple? Any advice is appreciated.