californiamom
Desperately wanting #2
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Hi ladies. I've been thinking a lot and I've made the decision to NOT have another m/c. I know ... wishful thinking. Anything is possible but I am going to do everything in my power to get a nice, sticky BFP. I want to be holding my new baby by this time next year ... or at least be approaching my due date. Who's with me?
The doctors are not taking me seriously because (1.) I have only had two, not three, miscarriages. (2.) I already have a child with the same partner. (3.) I'm not 35 yet.
So ... I am taking this into my own hands. I've researched a lot and this is my game plan.
- Already called the DR this morning and demanded that they test me for whatever they would test me for if I had already had the third miscarriage. I go in next week.
- Making changes to OH's sperm quality/quantity/motility. I got some great information from Mayo Clinic. It says to allow 60-72 days to see an improvement but you need to make sure OH does not engage in tobacco/elicit drugs, limits or stops alcohol consumption, takes a multivitamin that contains both folic acid and zinc, avoids hot tubs/steam rooms/laptop on his lap, etc. He also needs to ejaculate daily (contrary to most studies that suggest waiting 48-72 hours before having "baby sex.")
- Both OH and I are not overweight but we're both going on a diet. You can't be too healthy.
- Avoid using over-the-counter lubricants and/or saliva as a lubricant. We only use Preseed.
- I'm taking Prenatals, Vitamin B6 and baby aspirin.
Here's the Mayo Clinic article on Healthy Sperm if anyone is interested: https://www.mayoclinic.com/health/fertility/MC00023
That's my action plan to get my BFP. We've started to make these changes and we'll wait two cycles for my body to recover and for his sperm to improve (hopefully) and we'll start trying at the end of June. The second that I get my BFP, I am calling my doctor and demanding that they check my HCG and Progesterone. I can't just sit back and wait. And, although I'd love to and I've thought about, trying again this cycle ... I need to know that I've tried to find the problem first.
Anyone want to buddy up?
The doctors are not taking me seriously because (1.) I have only had two, not three, miscarriages. (2.) I already have a child with the same partner. (3.) I'm not 35 yet.
So ... I am taking this into my own hands. I've researched a lot and this is my game plan.
- Already called the DR this morning and demanded that they test me for whatever they would test me for if I had already had the third miscarriage. I go in next week.
- Making changes to OH's sperm quality/quantity/motility. I got some great information from Mayo Clinic. It says to allow 60-72 days to see an improvement but you need to make sure OH does not engage in tobacco/elicit drugs, limits or stops alcohol consumption, takes a multivitamin that contains both folic acid and zinc, avoids hot tubs/steam rooms/laptop on his lap, etc. He also needs to ejaculate daily (contrary to most studies that suggest waiting 48-72 hours before having "baby sex.")
- Both OH and I are not overweight but we're both going on a diet. You can't be too healthy.
- Avoid using over-the-counter lubricants and/or saliva as a lubricant. We only use Preseed.
- I'm taking Prenatals, Vitamin B6 and baby aspirin.
Here's the Mayo Clinic article on Healthy Sperm if anyone is interested: https://www.mayoclinic.com/health/fertility/MC00023
That's my action plan to get my BFP. We've started to make these changes and we'll wait two cycles for my body to recover and for his sperm to improve (hopefully) and we'll start trying at the end of June. The second that I get my BFP, I am calling my doctor and demanding that they check my HCG and Progesterone. I can't just sit back and wait. And, although I'd love to and I've thought about, trying again this cycle ... I need to know that I've tried to find the problem first.
Anyone want to buddy up?