Devastated after scan Update page 5

[immie]

I am so sorry, this brings tears to my eyes. Life is so cruel. There's nothing I can say, but I truly feel for you

 

[Serenyx]

I am so sorry to hear this Thinking of you and your OH at this incredibly sad time *hugs*

 

[Kristle]

Massive hugs to you

 

[kazine]

So sorry xxxxxx

 

[Leinzlove]

I'm so sorry! This breaks my heart. No one should have to go through this loss.

 

[CastawayBride]

So sorry.....

 

[Jinga]

I'm so sorry you are going through this

 

[heidi87814]

I am so sorry to hear this, hon. You were in my prayers last night and I'll be keeping you in my prayers tonight. My thoughts are with you and your family. I can't imagine what you're going through.

 

[littlelegs91]

So so sorry Hun xx

 

[AP]

I'm so sorry

 

[whigfield]

I'm so, so sorry.

 

[Alydh48]

I'm so so sorry to hear you sad news. X

 

[baboo]

I'm so so sorry! Thinking of you all!xxx

 

[GillandJamie]

so sorry to hear this, thinking of you xx

 

[Pixiedust22]

I am so, so sorry to read this hon, my thoughts and prayers are with you. Did you have a name for him yet? x

Yes, his name is Oscar.

 

[Kezzybear]

Oh I'm so sorry xxxxxxx

 

[Mr. Dust]

Thank you all for your messages of support and condolence. I would like to clarify what happened to us during this period. I have enclosed it in a 'spoiler' to allow people to choose to read it or not.

Spoiler

We went for a routine 20 week scan on Friday, 30th May 2014.

At this scan we was informed that it was a boy (we asked to be informed) however something was wrong.

Oscar was diagnosed with Spina Bifida Myelomeningocele and we was referred to another hospital who had better equipment and a deeper scan ultrasound machine thing.

We had this scan on Monday, 2nd June 2014.

The scan confirmed the diagnosis of Spina Bifida Myelomeningocele however noted that the fluid on his brain was largely disproportionate to his spina bifida (SB Myelomeningocele causes fluid on the brain but the amount of fluid was too much for the amount of SB he had).

The fluid in his brain had increased over the weekend.

We was informed that in the "highly unlikely" case he would achieve pre GCSE ("high school") level of intelligence, and it was "highly likely" he would be completely mentally R-etarded. It was also likely he would not survive full term, and if he did, he would be so heavily brain damaged he would not know to breathe when he was born.

Furthermore, it was likely he would be paralysed from the waist down and completely incontinent.


This was the professional opinion of two separate consultants.


Therefore, we had no real option but to terminate the pregnancy at this stage.

As parents you have to do what is right for your child and it is our strong believe that this is the right thing to do for Oscar.


Therefore, tomorrow, Wednesday 4th June 2014, 'Pixiedust' will be induced and go into labour to deliver our darling little Prince Oscar.

Please pray for him, please pray for us, and for now I personally bid you farewell. We will be back in TTC when the time is right.


Thank you once again for your messages and support over the last 21 weeks.


'Mr. Dust'

 

[george83]

I wish there was something any of us could do to help you, your partner and precious little Oscar. Hopefully you'll find the love and support you need from those around you and if you feel up to it the loss forums on this website.

Thinking of you all x x.

 

[katherinegrey]

I am so, so sorry for your sad news.

 

[Boozlebub]

I'm so sorry to hear this news. Thoughts are with you all. Xx