Kind of a rant just a warning! So me and my husband have talked all along about finding out the gender at our 20 week scan. At the beginning of the pregnancy my husband said if it were up to him he probablly would want to wait, but he knows how bad we are at being patient and he admitted that he probablly would end up wanting to know anyways. I was honest right away and said basically 'we're finding out deal with it' and he never argued about it at all. We have done nothing but talk about how excited we are to find out the gender, and he hasn't even let me buy clothes until we can buy for a boy or a girl. Anyways, I guess he has been secretly talking to people with kids, and a couple of days ago he told me a couple of women were 'shocked' that he said he was finding out, and that they never did, and they can't believe he would ruin the biggest surprise in life etc etc etc. and it really seemed to upset him and change his mind! He was going on and on and on about how I should really rethink it, and he doesnt want to find out and totally guilting me by saying 'well it's your choice but I think it's a TERRIBLE idea' OMFG! My scan is in less than a bloody week! I have literally picked out outfits, a crib, paint, bedding etc etc etc that I am going to buy the day I have my scan! I felt like he punched me in the gut, I was so upset that he would drop a bomb like that so close to the time of finding out. I told him that if he felt so strongly right from the start I would have respected his right as a father and would have been able to get over wanting to know (I would have had months to accept it rather than going on this whole time thinking June 13th is the big day!). Do you guys think I really should reconsider, or can I just squash this because it's so last minute. I feel really guilty now that I am ruining such a huge life milestone, but I feel like he is ruining a huge life milestone for me if I give in. I really am torn. I think he will be happy if we find out, and I don't think he will resent me, but who knows? I really would love some advice ladies. PS he totally refuses to let me find out and keep it from him, I already tried that! I just don't understand what the difference is whether we are surpised in a week or in a few months, we have to date, never even been able to wait until xmas morning to open gifts, why would we start now!!!!!