Did you get spanked and do you plan to spank your child?

[Helabela]

il use tips i have got off watching super nanny!! lol!!

I used to get smacked a lot. I dont remember ever being that naughty though. Think it was my mums was of just shutting us up i dont want to be a 'smacker' but i already loose my temper and shout i think a stirn look does the trick and i hope that will be all we will need

 

[gemabee]

i don't believe that smackin ur kids only teaches them that violence is ok... i was smacked as a child... a lot! i've never started a physical fight with anyone... or been violent in any way. i knew if i was gettin smacked then i'd done somethin really really bad - me nd my mum are best friends - so gettin the occassional smack didn't give me a negative relationship with my mum... or leave me with any emotional scars.
i'd like to say i'll never smack finn... but he's 3 weeks old nd gorgeous so ofcourse i'd never want to smack him... come back to me in a few years time nd only then can i answer the question.

 

[princessellie]

i don't believe that smackin ur kids only teaches them that violence is ok... i was smacked as a child... a lot! i've never started a physical fight with anyone... or been violent in any way. i knew if i was gettin smacked then i'd done somethin really really bad - me nd my mum are best friends - so gettin the occassional smack didn't give me a negative relationship with my mum... or leave me with any emotional scars.
i'd like to say i'll never smack finn... but he's 3 weeks old nd gorgeous so ofcourse i'd never want to smack him... come back to me in a few years time nd only then can i answer the question.

exactly!

 

[I_AM_LIVID]

i don't believe that smackin ur kids only teaches them that violence is ok... i was smacked as a child... a lot! i've never started a physical fight with anyone... or been violent in any way. i knew if i was gettin smacked then i'd done somethin really really bad - me nd my mum are best friends - so gettin the occassional smack didn't give me a negative relationship with my mum... or leave me with any emotional scars.
i'd like to say i'll never smack finn... but he's 3 weeks old nd gorgeous so ofcourse i'd never want to smack him... come back to me in a few years time nd only then can i answer the question.

True, it is too early to say. The truth is, I don't think I have it in me to spank, but ask me in a couple of years time and I might have a different answer for you. Kids can push one to the limit, especially when what they are doing is potentially harmful and can lead to death and all you want to do is protect them, yet they don't listen when you talk.

 

[RinnaRoo]

I plan on spanking as a last resort.
I was spanked a couple of times as a child, but thats cause I was a nut. I did get warnings, and things taken away. I dont recall a time out. I respected my parents, and we all got along, and spent lots of time with each other. We had family dinners, and just went out to have fun.
I had a storybook child hood, and I plan to do my best to give the same to my son.
At the same time, I want him to know that I am the boss. Period.

 

[loverguts]

I only recall getting a smack twice when i was younger and they both really hurt, they were for things i hadnt even done (my brother was a little shit!) and they were obviously damaging enough to have stayed as memories in my brain from a time when i dont remember much else from that age!! Usually i was just sent for 'time out' in another room.
Im pretty certain ill never smack my LO or even give him a little tap. Im sure there are much better ways to tell a child off without having to physically hurt them!
I HATE seeing a screaming child in the street getting a smack, it makes me feel so soooo sorry for them!

 

[AppleBlossom]

Remember, to those of you who said you or someone you know was beaten as a child and it still affects them, we're talking about the odd smack here. Not a daily ritual of beatings with slippers and the like. Whole different story and I don't think anyone on here would dream of doing that to their LO. I have smacked Grace on occassion and she isn't deathly afraid of me

 

[bathbabe]

my dad used to smack me alot. I dont remember being naughty tho, and my mum says i was the perfect child until i turnt 18 then i was the devil. He used to hit me really hard, to the point that even now i would concider it abuse even tho we now have a good relationship. In turn i would then hit my brother, and we didnt get on till i left home at 18. I dont remember my mum hitting me but im sure she did and i remember her slapping me across the face full force a few times. I cant remember what i did to deserve it all. I also then turnt to drugs and drink to block it out. I hated my dad, i dont want my child to hate me so i will do my very very very best not to smack. Not only will it upset my child but i will be so so disapointed in myself

 

[Seity]

Yes, I was spanked and yes, I plan to spank my child.

 

[SKATERBUN]

No and No, I cant believe this is still a consideration in this day and age to me its just a loss of control, a tap, a slap whatever its all agression in my eyes and the child is passive and vunerable...what is a child to understand from aggression?? that they will see fit to do it themselves to other children, to their aggressor, no I wont condone it there is other ways to teach a child. I always say this everytime this topic comes up on the boards, its the tone of voice thats always the trick in teaching a child. I had school teachers who only had to speak in a particular way and i was never naughty again.

 

[AppleBlossom]

No and No, I cant believe this is still a consideration in this day and age to me its just a loss of control, a tap, a slap whatever its all agression in my eyes and the child is passive and vunerable...what is a child to understand from aggression?? that they will see fit to do it themselves to other children, to their aggressor, no I wont condone it there is other ways to teach a child. I always say this everytime this topic comes up on the boards, its the tone of voice thats always the trick in teaching a child. I had school teachers who only had to speak in a particular way and i was never naughty again.

*sigh* Guess I'm just an aggressive bully then eh. Just going around smacking for the sake of it...

 

[leelee]

Yes, I was spanked and yes, I plan to spank my child.

Is it because you were spanked Seity, or because you feel it is an appropriate form of discipline?

 

[Raggydoll]

My parents used to smack me. I can remember being truely terrified of getting smacked and I was quite a well behaved child! My mum is tiny but she had quite a smack on her. I feel sad saying tha because my mum is lovely but it did scare me. I won't smack Kate because of this.

That being said I agree smacking children does not teach children to be Violent. I'm not at all violent. I used to work in a nightclub and hated it when the customers got into fights again it used to scare me.

 

[Raggydoll]

^^^ I sound like a wet blanket now.

 

[letia659]

Yes and yes

 

[SKATERBUN]

Arguement time , I'm outta here. my opinion ok sorry you can go ahead and do what you like Im just not that sort of person

 

[Raggydoll]

No and No, I cant believe this is still a consideration in this day and age to me its just a loss of control, a tap, a slap whatever its all agression in my eyes and the child is passive and vunerable...what is a child to understand from aggression?? that they will see fit to do it themselves to other children, to their aggressor, no I wont condone it there is other ways to teach a child. I always say this everytime this topic comes up on the boards, its the tone of voice thats always the trick in teaching a child. I had school teachers who only had to speak in a particular way and i was never naughty again.

*sigh* Guess I'm just an aggressive bully then eh. Just going around smacking for the sake of it...

Absolutely no way!

Would be interesting to see if our POV changes when we have toddlers. It's hard to equate when all you have is a tiny baby

 

[AppleBlossom]

No and No, I cant believe this is still a consideration in this day and age to me its just a loss of control, a tap, a slap whatever its all agression in my eyes and the child is passive and vunerable...what is a child to understand from aggression?? that they will see fit to do it themselves to other children, to their aggressor, no I wont condone it there is other ways to teach a child. I always say this everytime this topic comes up on the boards, its the tone of voice thats always the trick in teaching a child. I had school teachers who only had to speak in a particular way and i was never naughty again.

*sigh* Guess I'm just an aggressive bully then eh. Just going around smacking for the sake of it...

Absolutely no way!

Would be interesting to see if our POV changes when we have toddlers. It's hard to equate when all you have is a tiny baby

Thank you, I don't really believe that I HAVE got a toddler. She's 2 and a half. And I can honestly say, I always said from day one I would never lay a finger on her, not even a tap. I also said I would never give her chocolate and a lot of other things but they have also fallen by the wayside. It's very different when you have a small baby who can't answer back or be completely defiant. I would be willing to put money on about 60% of the people saying they will never smack ever will do at some point in the future

 

[ouchwithNo.2]

No and No, I cant believe this is still a consideration in this day and age to me its just a loss of control, a tap, a slap whatever its all agression in my eyes and the child is passive and vunerable...what is a child to understand from aggression?? that they will see fit to do it themselves to other children, to their aggressor, no I wont condone it there is other ways to teach a child. I always say this everytime this topic comes up on the boards, its the tone of voice thats always the trick in teaching a child. I had school teachers who only had to speak in a particular way and i was never naughty again.

*sigh* Guess I'm just an aggressive bully then eh. Just going around smacking for the sake of it...

Absolutely no way!

Would be interesting to see if our POV changes when we have toddlers. It's hard to equate when all you have is a tiny baby

very true indeed....they say the terrible two's, well, they are easy... so are the three's.... then you get the f*****g awful fours and then the fives
when they hit school they learn all sorts to take you to the edge.

 

[Seity]

Yes, I was spanked and yes, I plan to spank my child.

Is it because you were spanked Seity, or because you feel it is an appropriate form of discipline?

Both. I love and respect my parents and don't feel that I was spanked unnecessarily and I feel like it was a very effective form of discipline. They used more than just the one form of discipline depending on the situation.