sweetysangel8
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Kind of a rant but would really like some feedback. A bit of background first. We don't really speak to or get along with DHs brother and his wife. Basically it's more so just tolerating each other during family events. We never talk outside of family dinners. Even then if DH tries to contact his brother, his brother will never call back.
For our birth announcement, we told our parents and grandparents in person and then posted a mass announcement on Facebook. DHs father didn't keep his mouth shut and told DHs brother before we did the mass announcement. His wife the piece of work she is decided to chew us out during thanksgiving because we didn't directly tell them and they had to hear it thru the grapevine. We didn't tell many people directly and based on how they treat us, why on earth does she feel so entitled? DHs brother hates kids and seemed almost disgusted when we said he would be an uncle. So it seems to be only her that was mad. She's the type that always has to have the attention on her and usually only snarky and fake comments come out of her mouth.
But naturally, this is making me rethink how i want to do everything else (the gender reveal, the baby shower, the birth). Originally we were going to announce stuff in the same manner and do a coed shower. Now I feel like I only want to keep the gender a secret and do a girls only shower since I know his wife won't come then. I do not want her to be around the baby and DH agrees. She will only see the baby during family events which is just about 6 times a year. So if she expects we need to extend her open arms just because she will be the baby's aunt she is sadly mistaken. If you don't treat us with respect why on earth would you think we need to respect you? Yes DHs father wasn't suppose to spill the beans but to actually chew us out because you believe you should of found out differently? No one else was butt hurt over the way we announced. If they were actually involoved in our lives then it would of been a different story but they are not.
For our birth announcement, we told our parents and grandparents in person and then posted a mass announcement on Facebook. DHs father didn't keep his mouth shut and told DHs brother before we did the mass announcement. His wife the piece of work she is decided to chew us out during thanksgiving because we didn't directly tell them and they had to hear it thru the grapevine. We didn't tell many people directly and based on how they treat us, why on earth does she feel so entitled? DHs brother hates kids and seemed almost disgusted when we said he would be an uncle. So it seems to be only her that was mad. She's the type that always has to have the attention on her and usually only snarky and fake comments come out of her mouth.
But naturally, this is making me rethink how i want to do everything else (the gender reveal, the baby shower, the birth). Originally we were going to announce stuff in the same manner and do a coed shower. Now I feel like I only want to keep the gender a secret and do a girls only shower since I know his wife won't come then. I do not want her to be around the baby and DH agrees. She will only see the baby during family events which is just about 6 times a year. So if she expects we need to extend her open arms just because she will be the baby's aunt she is sadly mistaken. If you don't treat us with respect why on earth would you think we need to respect you? Yes DHs father wasn't suppose to spill the beans but to actually chew us out because you believe you should of found out differently? No one else was butt hurt over the way we announced. If they were actually involoved in our lives then it would of been a different story but they are not.