Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Sassy_TTC]

Lol round, that's hilarious about maddy! How is she with him generally?
I'm actually doing "okay" most days, it's easier than I thought it would be, poppy still naps twice per day so I get time with just Zac and vice versa. I have 1 BAD day about every 10-14 days where I just cry because I get so stressed but on the whole it's all going well. Both kids sleep brilliantly so I'm very thankful for that.

Hearty- vicky talks a lot of sense. Working part time rather than getting a new more demanding job is the way forward, being a mum is the hardest job in the world without adding a "real" demanding job to that!!

Jenny - how you feeling now??

When does big brother end?????maybe then NATO will return!!

 

[Allie84]

Hey everyone,

Hearty, it sounds like you're doing everything possible! I just really feel for you with milk issues because I've had my fair share. Whatever you can give her is great....that's what I always tell myself. My final BFing tips for the day are a few things I did to get more milk: I would constantly unlatch and relatch Alistair because he was a lazy latcher and I still constantly 'milk' my own boobs while feeding and find it really gets more milk out (squeeze your boobs). As she gets tired, maybe switch back and forth between breasts to keep waking her up (unless you're wanting her to sleep). Nursing her in just her diaper might keep her more awake as well.

Vicky, you really deserve an olympic medal of your own for all of your work with Hero's sleeping! I'm glad she's finally sleeping well.

Sassy, you also really do deserve a medal for all of the work you do! Glad Zac's nap training is going well. You are a routine queen and it's amazing!

Jenny, just a few more weeks to go.

Round, LOL at Maddy trying to BF. Hilarious. Good to hear from you. Hope you're having a good summer!

AFM, I had a family reunion this weekend and it was pretty fun. It was nice to get away. We're still not really sure what to do about the house situation but I'm doing my best to make it home. The bugs just went away? Every night about 5 or so make their way to the ceiling but the 100 I counted the first night disapeared. Very confusing!

Alistair is 9 months today and doing so well. He's just the best baby! Hearty, I'm not sure what he weighs as he hasn't been weighed since his 6 month appt. He was pretty small then and he has another appt in a few weeks where he will get weighed again. I 'm a little nervous as people say he's skinny. But he's doing well developmentally and is a really happy, jovial baby. He started clapping and it's adorable. When I step out of the room and step back in he will clap for me. LOL. He's scooting but not crawling yet, though he gets around really quickly on his tummy.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Happy 9 months alistair. He's doing brilliantly and always looks so happy and content in your photos.xx

 

[jenny25]

Hey guys I'm ok I'm having a lot of lower back pain tonight probably the way he is lying I'm just chilling out watching tv Paul's working xxx

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Put your feet up avd enjoy the peace.xx

 

[LucyJ]

Hearty I didnt get that much sleep I was definitelty sleep deprived and it was hard going I would cry alot and wonder how Id make it through another day but I just did steve was great especially at weekends hed take Benjamin while I slept. I'd have great days then really tough days. I was nervous with co-sleeping so we didnt do it the sense he was in bed with us but he would quite often sleep on me I didnt really sleep but eventually worked a way where I was kind of comfy propped up on pillows and would dose. If I got him down during the day I would sleep. Proping his mattress up helped with the reflux. I kept a feeding diary and I looked back over it this week and I honestly dont know how I did it. I think you definitely take into account that she was early when we had Benjamin weighed we had to age correct which I guess you had to do and his jabs were delayed slightly to take that into account having said that he met all his milestones bang on some earlier in fact

Allie he'll put weight on its only once Benjamin hit about 9/10 months that he started to get a little chubby hes not that chunky but he was so skinny he seems it to us hes got little chubby legs which I love. I saw your pics on fb and he is gorgeous. Happy 9 months Alistair

Sassy I think celebrity bb is about to begin so not sure if we will get Nato back or not.

Vicky hows the new place hope you are having a great time at the beach.

Jen put your feet up and relax hun.

Afm: Im a bit gutted as we've lost out on a house we've not been looking long but have decided its time to move on we need a bigger place as we want another baby and Ive decided to register as a childminder but to do that we need a downstairs toilet. We say a lovely house would of been a great family home we arranged a second viewing but then someone else saw it and put an offer in which has been accepted I was gutted and kicking myself for not putting an offer in I was trying to be very practical and not let me heart race away from me Just hope theres an even better house out there for us. Ive also been back to the drs as Im getting some awful periods type pains I was doubled up yesterday felt sick and faint in fact thought I was going to pass out in the middle of a shop managed to make it home thankfully Benjamin had a long nap so I was able to curl up with a hot water bottle it was horrendous saw the nurse today and she has arranged an appointment for me with a dr not next week but the week after she thinks I need to get checked out. I wonder whether its to do with having a c-section. Its been better today still sore but manageable it was very tender when the nurse felt my tummy. Steve and I have also decided to start trying again bit scary but we know we want another baby and have no idea how long it will take so Im going to go back on all the vits folic etc and talk to my dr about it. Going to catch up with journals.

 

[Sparkly]

Hi All :wave:

Just a quick update from me, I had my RMC test results the other day, and I tested + for Lupus Anticoagulant so need heparin and baby aspirin after my next BFP, also I need high dose folic acid. It's good to have some answers but feels a little sad at the same time IYKWIM.

xxx

 

[Round2]

Sparkly, I'm so glad you got some answers. But it's so sad what it took to find out the problem. I hope your next BFP and rainbow baby are just around the corner.

 

[Sparkly]

Thanks round...I forgot to post that I'm also insulin resistant too, and am on metformin for that!

 

[vickyd]

Sparkly I beleive that when we arm ourselves with knowledge we our one step closer to ralising our goal. When i was diagnosed with MTHFR i was happy and sad at the same time. I quickly realised that knowing what was wrong and how to fix it could only work in my favour.

AFM, supposed to be on holiday but have a really bad case of tonsilitis...I havent had this since i was 15!!! It sucks so much, fever, cant swallow and all this in really bad heat.

 

[Sparkly]

Thanks Vicky I totally agree.

Hope you're feeling better soon love. My DS had it last month and it took 2 lots of antibiotics to shift it!!

 

[Allie84]

Hey girls,

Lucy, omg congrats on TTC again!! Have you started already? I think it will be lovely to stay home and be a childminder! Another Disco girl moving house, huh? Sorry you lost out on the one you liked; I hope you find another one you like really soon. Does this mean you're not going to go back to teaching for awhile?

Sparkly, I'm so glad you got some answers but I'm sure it feels wierd at the same time. As Vicky said, knowledge is a good thing. The treatment sounds pretty doable. How are you feeling? So I saw your son is going to the same uni I studied abroad at! Yeah!!! Does he know which college he's in yet? I was in Furness but then moved to County (to live in an on campus apt with Alex). I loved both.

Vicky, I'm so sorry you're sick! Are you all moved in? What a holiday!

AFM, I started grad school today. Yikes! I don't know if I mentioned it but I got a fully funded assistantship. I am getting my Master's paid for but I'm working 20 hours a week with the education office on a social studies project with the school district.

Alistair starts daycare tomorrow. 20 hours at the on campus daycare. I'm nervous!

 

[Sparkly]

Hey Allie

I think he's applied for Cartmel and Lonsdale, he should find out soon which one he got into. I didn't know that you'd studied at Lancaster! My youngest brother did too, so Ben has been used to visiting the uni from a young age, it was his first choice and he gained a scholarship so we are amazingly proud of him. It looks like a good uni and a safe looking city, I went to boarding school not far from it so I know the area. Exciting that you are going back to studying too, good luck with it hun. I'm sure Alistair will be fine at daycare, xx

 

[heart tree]

Hi girls, I'm reading, but having trouble finding time to type. Sparkly, great to see you here. I hope this is the answer to all the heartache.

Lucy, Happy Birthday! I can't believe you are back on the TTC wagon. I'm sorry to hear about your bleeding. I hope it all gets sorted. I can't wait to hear about your next journey.

Allie, that's amazing about getting grad school paid for. I'm in a huge amount of debt from my school. It sucks! The sound of daycare terrifies me. And I was a preschool teacher! I hate the thought of leaving her with strangers. I hope you get through the day.

Vicky, feeling any better? Did I ever thank you for telling me what your mom said about the bracelet? It was very sweet. I'm still sad I never got it though. How is the new place?

Jen I can't wait to hear about Kieren being born on Thursday!!

Hi Sass, Amber, Sugar, Dazed, Megg, Nato. I saw Nato was camping on her FB page. Looked like fun.

Still kind of struggling here. I've done everything possible to help my milk supply. I think I have a decent supply as I pump 2 ounces at each pump usually. It could be more, but clearly I have something in there. The problem is, I don't think she gets much of it. I've tried just BF her and she's still starving afterwards. I've done everything you suggested Allie. I'm working with a lactation consultant. The only other options I see are taking meds to help my supply and/or getting her tongue tie clipped. The med I want to take isn't available in the US unless I have a prescription. But it isn't FDA approved so most docs won't write one. It's Domperidone and it is an over the counter med in the UK. Most lactation consultants in the US advocate for it's use. I'm pissed that I can't get it here. The only reason it isn't approved by the FDA is because it is also used in large doses for gastrointestinal issues. It was given in large doses intravenously and caused some seizures and heart attacks in older people. But for lactating women, it is given in very small doses with no side effects. The drug that is FDA approved here has a severe side effect of massive depression. Just what a hormonal, postpartum woman with milk supply issues needs! No thanks.

We have sort of figured out sleeping though. She slept with me in bed last night and I found a position that seems safe to me. She's on her side and her head is in the bend in my arm where my elbow is. It keeps her close to me, but her face isn't pressed up against my chest. It also seems to help with her reflux. I also bought an amazing swing which she is in right now. It's the reason I'm writing this. I FINALLY am able to put her down! Small steps.

Can't remember what else I wanted to write. Hope everyone is doing well.

 

[Allie84]

Sparkly, I'd be so proud of Ben too! He's going to have an amazing time and a scholarship will be great. I forget that in England you have to pay for college because in Scotland it's free for Scottish people.

Hearty, 2 oz at a time is nothing to scoff at. It's close to what I generally pumped unless I was pumping after a missed feeding. You are doing great. What a shame about the meds! Ugh. You've gotta love the FDA. Btw I like the way you co-sleep....it's how I used to do it, and actually napped with Alistair like that today, except he is on his back. I have only ever co-slept like that when it was daylight, but it did help me feel much safer. Is Tim relegated to the couch?

I cried when I dropped of Alistair at daycare, OMG, it was so much harder than I thought! He was watched by my friend for 10 hours a week earlier this summer but this seemed so much more REAL. He's going to the on-campus daycare and it's kind of impersonal. They have all of these random college girls watching all of the kids in one room and his name is taped to his back. But, they are licensed and it's a nice and safe facility. I guess I just have to get used to it, because Alistair loved it.

When I showed up he had blood crusted on his nose and they said he woke up with a bloddy nose? He's NEVER had a bloody nose, I wonder what that could have been?

It was hard to be away from him for that long, though. I feel like such a mom (I guess because I am) because I just wanted to talk him all day and kept thinking about him. I will always cherish the 9 months I got to be home with him.

 

[jenny25]

Thanks Amanda xxx

This time tomorrow I will at the hospital eeek I'm so nervous my stomache is doing wash machine circles but i can't wait too meet my little boy I can't believe it's taken 4 years for this day xxx

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Good luck tomorrow, will be thinking of you.

Ahh allie, I can't imagine how hard it was dropping alistair off, I'm starting uni next year and may have to put the kids in daycare once a week and I'm already dreading it. You must remember that your doing all this for him though?!
Maybe one of the other kids accidentally banged his nose? Kids can be so clumsy!

Amanda- yay glad the swing is giving you a free 5 minutes! I wish I had some bf advice, you're definately doing great as I'd have given up long ago!

Hi to everyone else.xx

 

[Sparkly]

Amanda - You're doing an amazing job, it really can't be easy. Like Sassy said I would have given up a long time ago on the BF well done to you hun and thank god for that swing

Allie - The tuition fees at Lancaster are now £9,000 a year I wish we were Scottish, it's unfair that just less than 2 hours drive north he could study for free. I'm glad Alistair enjoyed the daycare, it is always harder for us Mothers when our little ones move on, I am dreading the end of next month coming around and my baby boy moving out

Jennie - I'm so excited for you chicka, tomorrow you will be holding your precious rainbow boy in your arms, don't forget lots of piccies. Good luck xxx

Hi Sass x

 

[hoping:)]

I just typed a long post and lost it here is the short version...

Lucy- I'm so excited for #2

Sparkly- finding something is bitter sweet but at least now you have a plan. I felt the same when we discovered I had MTHFR. FX your get your rainbow baby asap!

Allie- well done on going to grad school and even better that it is paid for I hear you on the the whole day care issue. We leave Penny with a trusted friend who owns day cares all over the country but only personally watches close friends and family member's kids. that may change though because she is preggo with #4

Jenny- how exciting!!! I will be thinking of you

Hearty- your are doing amazingly well especially with having BF issues. I was the same and only produced 2 oz when pumping. I hope you find something that helps stimulate your milk. Well done on finding a sleep solution I never thought I would co-sleep but it worked for us and I really enjoyed it.

I hope all the Disco girls who have moved house are enjoying their new location

 

[SMFirst]

Jenny - excited your baby will be born soon!! (if not already as I type!) hope it's easy on you!

Allie - that's unfortunate your boy had a sketchy nose bleed.. upsetting - hope it doesn't happen again..

Lucy - good luck on the TTC

Hearty - sorry for the BF struggles.. In Canada they still clip tied tongues (but that doesn't necessarily solve BF issues as a friend of mine found out). Hope your lactation consultant is helpful.

I am about to finalize daycare for Adam (he won't go til February though) and filling out the reg. forms is tough I can't imagine how the first day will go! We'll have lots of time to get him used to going though..